Boundaries - so simple to say, yet so messy to live out. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda dive deep into the highs and lows of motherhood, illness, family dynamics, and the complicated art of boundary setting. From sick kids and shifting routines to navigating boundaries with toddlers, teens, and even extended family, this conversation gets real about how boundaries and self-care overlap, clash, and sometimes crumble.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How illness at home can throw boundaries out the window, and where new ones suddenly appear
• Why boundaries with kids of different ages can be tricky to balance
• The tension between self-care and parenting responsibilities (and why “just read a book” isn’t always that easy)
• How to separate your energy from your child’s big emotions
• Why boundary-setting is both a form of self-care and a setup for self-care
• The ongoing process of unlearning unhealthy boundaries while teaching healthier ones

Boundaries are rarely neat, but they are necessary. Whether it’s saying no to family expectations, holding space for a crying toddler, or giving yourself permission to step away and breathe, boundary-setting is both self-care in itself and the pathway toward it. Join Jill and Linda as they remind you that boundaries aren’t about perfection, they’re about protecting your peace, even when it feels messy.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

• 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at [email protected] and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
• 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
• 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Grief shows up in many forms: losing a loved one, saying goodbye to a pet, or even letting go of the expectations we once held for ourselves. In this heartfelt episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda open up about navigating loss, the messy emotions that come with it, and how self-care can offer grounding and grace in the middle of grief.

• Why grief isn’t limited to death, it can show up in everyday disappointments, changes, and unmet expectations.
• How kids process loss differently and the surprising ways they may find comfort.
• The balance between distraction as a coping tool and giving yourself space to feel.
• Practical self-care practices that help when emotions feel overwhelming (from popsicle-stick prompts to scripture to simply being in nature).
• The importance of lowering expectations and guarding your “melty” when grief hits hard.
• Why leaning on community matters and why sometimes “I’m here if you need me” isn’t enough.

Grief is never easy, but it doesn’t have to be something we navigate alone. Whether it’s a pet, a loved one, or even the small losses of everyday life, giving ourselves grace, space, and community support matters. We hope this conversation reminds you that self-care isn’t about moving on quickly, it’s about honoring the process, finding small ways to ground yourself, and letting others in when you need them most.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

• 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at [email protected] and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
• 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
• 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Play, connection, and the chaos of everyday parenting - this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care dives into how play can be both a lifeline and a stressor for moms. Jill and Linda share real stories of finding joy in messy moments, how intentional play shifts their energy, and why sometimes self-care looks like sitting on the floor with your kids (even when you’d rather not). From sibling squabbles to popsicle-stick self-care activities, they explore how to weave self-care into family life without losing themselves.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How highs and lows can help reframe both overwhelm and joy in motherhood.
• Why play is a surprising but powerful form of self-care for moms (and kids).
• Practical ways to use play to reset your family’s energy when chaos hits.
• When play works and when it totally backfires.
• Creative ideas for simple, low-energy play activities (like cars on your back or popsicle-stick self-care).
• How to navigate overstimulation when everyone wants your attention at once.
• The importance of shifting perspective so self-care doesn’t just become survival care.

Self-care doesn’t always mean time away, it often means stepping into the chaos with a different lens. Whether it’s pulling out a board game, painting flowerpots, or letting your child drive toy cars across your back, play can become an unexpected pathway to connection and care. And yes, sometimes it’s messy, interrupted, and imperfect, but that’s what makes it real.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

• 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at [email protected] and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
• 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
• 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

Sometimes self-care doesn’t go as planned. In this raw and relatable episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda open up about the frustration of interrupted routines, the heaviness of survival mode, and the disappointment that comes when carefully laid self-care intentions get derailed. From toilet training surprises to early-morning wake-ups, they share how boundaries, mindset shifts, and even tiny grounding moments can help moms move from discouragement back toward refreshment.

• Why self-care routines often fall apart during unpredictable parenting seasons
• How survival mode feels—and why setting boundaries matters more than ever
• The role of disappointment in motherhood, and how to process it without guilt
• Creative ways to weave in self-care when plans fall through (like barefoot grounding at church!)
• Why giving yourself permission to “abandon the week” can sometimes be the healthiest choice
• How small perspective shifts turn everyday moments into opportunities for care and connection

Disappointments will come, and survival mode is a season every mom knows. But self-care doesn’t have to disappear completely when life gets messy. By adjusting expectations, finding creative alternatives, and offering yourself compassion, you can still carve out space to breathe, reset, and reconnect. As Jill and Linda remind us—you don’t have to get it perfect, you just have to keep trying.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

• 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at [email protected] and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
• 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
• 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

From clingy kids to bedtime bear hugs that last twenty minutes, Jill and Linda get real about what it’s like to never be alone as a mom. This episode dives into the exhaustion of constant “mom, mom, mom” moments, the guilt that comes with needing space, and the messy balance between sacrifice and self-care. With stories of tired kids, sticky floors, and Alexa bedtime reminders, this is a reminder that self-care doesn’t always mean solo time, it can also be woven into everyday family life.

• The highs and lows of motherhood, from sweet milestones to total exhaustion
• Why being “always needed” can lead to resentment (and why that’s okay to admit)
• The struggle of bedtime routines when kids crave extra connection
• How small shifts - like shoe practice or Alexa reminders - can ease daily stress
• Why self-care doesn’t have to be solo, and how kids can be part of it
• Creative ways Jill and Linda are experimenting with self-care (hello, popsicle sticks!)
• The importance of reframing this stage of motherhood as a season, not forever

Motherhood often means you’re never truly alone, and that can feel both beautiful and overwhelming. The trick isn’t to chase perfection, but to find small ways to breathe, involve your kids in self-care, and remember this is just a season. You’re not alone in feeling pulled in every direction, we’re right there with you.

Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛

• 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at [email protected] and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
• 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
• 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

In this episode, Jill and Linda explore what supportive self-care really means—from those precious early morning moments before the kids wake up to the reality of lost support systems and changing boundaries. They get real about the struggle of finding time when one kid's up at 5:15 AM and another won't sleep until 11 PM, plus navigate the tricky terrain of asking for (and actually receiving) the support we desperately need but often minimize.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why Jill's new morning devotional space is changing her entire day
• The reality of family drama swimming in the background of self-care
• How Linda's little one singing "Incy Wincy Spider" on repeat became this week's unexpected joy
• Why supportive self-care isn't just about others—it's about how we set ourselves up for success
• The challenge of diverse sleep schedules destroying any chance at alone time
• How institutions (summer camps, daycare) sometimes become our only "village"
• Why we minimize the support we need, especially around self-care
• The tricky dance of setting boundaries with family while not abandoning them
• How catching up with cousins at the park (while pretending to be a giant pigeon) counts as supportive self-care
• The accountability gap—why asking "How are you?" rarely leads to "Did you take time for yourself?"

We might not have the support system we thought we had. We might be navigating new boundaries with aging parents or overwhelmed partners. We might be relying on kickboxing schedules and school drop-offs as our only breaks. This episode is your reminder that supportive self-care looks different for everyone—and sometimes it's just about creating that one tiny space downstairs where you can hide (until Declan finds you).

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

• 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at [email protected] and we'll send our favorite five simple ideas.
• 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
• 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into those “snapping” moments—when stress boils over, bedtime battles erupt, and even the sweetest “Where’s dinner?” can trigger a meltdown. From lack of sleep to messy houses and everything in between, they unpack the guilt, grace, and real-life self-care that comes after the snap. This isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being human, responding with honesty, and finding tiny ways to take care of ourselves even when the day goes completely sideways.

• What really happens when we hit our breaking point (and then snap)
• Why innocent questions from kids can trigger surprising reactions
• How Jill reframed “Declan & Mommy time” into labeled self-care
• The difference between snapping with shame vs. setting boundaries with love
• How bedtime can unravel even the calmest of days
• Self-care that actually works after an emotional spiral
• How our favorite 10 things list has become our self-care reset

We can have a great day and still snap at bedtime. We can love our kids and still need privacy. We can know better and still be human. This episode is your reminder that snapping doesn’t make you a bad mom—it makes you a real one. And while self-care won’t make every trigger disappear, it can help you catch your breath and try again tomorrow.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

•  📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at [email protected] and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.
• 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com
• 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

In this honest and raw conversation, Jill and Linda explore the uncomfortable tension between workaholism and self-care—especially when both home and work feel equally heavy. From vacation meltdowns and returning to the real world to the unrelenting nature of housework and the guilt of slowing down, this episode is a vulnerable look at what happens when life forces you to pause. Whether you’re drowning in laundry or deadlines, you’re not alone in the tug-of-war between productivity and presence.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• How vacation with kids is often more work than rest—and what happens when expectations don’t match reality.
• Why both Jill and Linda feel caught in cycles of over-functioning, even in different seasons of life.
• The emotional toll of trying to be the “perfect” mom, homemaker, and entrepreneur.
• How slowing down can be an act of sacred self-care—even if it doesn’t feel like it.
• Why guilt shows up when self-care isn’t productive (and how to challenge that).
• The difference between fulfilling work and obligatory labor—and how both impact our mental health.
• How breaking generational cycles of workaholism starts with awareness, grace, and a whole lot of trial and error.

This episode is a gentle but firm reminder that slowing down doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. Whether you're dealing with chaos, caregiving, or clutter, it’s okay to feel both grateful and overwhelmed. We’re not here to romanticize the mess—we’re here to muck through it with you. Join us as we give ourselves (and each other) permission to pause, breathe, and redefine what care really looks like. And if you’re stuck in the cycle of hustle, we’ve got a resource just for you in the show notes below.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

School holidays are here, which means the rhythms are off, the snacks are endless, and your alone time? Practically vanished. In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into the highs and lows of parenting through winter and summer breaks on opposite sides of the world. From mud tracks and mosquito bites to navigating messy family dynamics and trying to squeeze in five minutes of self-care, this conversation is all about honoring the chaos and the moments of joy. Whether you're juggling house mess, kid meltdowns, or trying to remember your own needs, this one’s for you.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• What summer/winter holidays look like in the U.S. vs. Australia (spoiler: they're very different).
• How Jill’s summer camp schedule is doubling as a self-care strategy.
• Linda’s muddy bike trails and the art of chasing freedom on two wheels.
• The real-life tension of needing a break… and not being able to take one.
• Why even the simplest errands can become mini adventures (with tangled yarn included).
• Small ways to reclaim self-care amid messy, plan-less days.
• The value of anchoring your week with just one consistent moment, like this podcast.

Self-care during school holidays? It might not look the same, feel the same, or even happen the way you planned but that doesn’t mean it’s not possible. Sometimes it’s a bike ride, a kickboxing class, or a podcast hour squeezed into a chaotic week. Whatever it looks like, we hope this episode reminds you that flexibility is a superpower… and you're not alone in the muck. Need a quick-start list of simple self-care ideas? Shoot us a message, we've got you.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Some days go exactly as planned… and then there are the other 364. In this episode, Jill and Linda dive into what happens when life throws the schedule out the window. From mosquito bite mysteries and lost office space to juggling kid chaos and barely-there self-care, this honest conversation explores how flexibility can sometimes be our superpower and other times, just another fast track to burnout.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why even your best-laid plans can implode with toddlers in tow.
• How flexibility can help build resilience and when it just stretches us too thin.
• The unexpected benefits of using visuals and structure with young kids.
• What "meeting your own needs" really means as a mom.
• Why routine matters for kids and grown-ups alike.
• How movement (like bike rides!) is sneaky self-care.
• Why sometimes you need four uninterrupted hours and that’s okay.

Motherhood is messy, unpredictable, and relentless and when your carefully crafted day falls apart, it can feel like your self-care does too. But even in the chaos, you have the right to meet your own needs. Maybe it’s four hours of alone time. Maybe it’s a quiet walk, or a frozen pizza dinner. The point is: your care matters too. So here’s your permission to reset, reprioritize, and remember that flexibility doesn’t mean self-neglect.

For a simple way to start with self-care, send them an email or connect with Jill on socials @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com.

Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!