My Act Four

I guess I expected everyone would be happy for us when my husband announced that he was going to be retiring next month. Or maybe that they would at least pretend to be happy? I don’t know. But that has not been the case.

In this episode I talk through what I've learned about friendship.

When I rebooked my departure flight to Iowa, called my mother-in-law and canceled the week’s plans, there was also a whole lot of discomfort around the disruption. I mean so much! I felt nauseated in my body, and incredibly anxious. But I figured out how to flip that feeling, and I learned a lot from this visit about practicing being present.

This was supposed to be the episode where I talk about my Iowa trip. What I learned–some of it I’m still unpacking–and an update on my liver. But that’s going to have to wait until next week. Because our landlords have made us an offer to sell the condo to us, and I am shooketh.

Today I'm joined by Renee Spears. She shares how she moved from mortgage company owner to  spirit guide channeler and spiritual, life and business mentor at Abundology.com. I ask her what we should do when we don't know what's next. Spoiler alert: eat chocolate and do puzzles.

If you are someone who wants to live her best life and are looking for clarity, book a session with Renee. https://www.abundology.com/

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We all know people who can support us. And they want to support us. Some may be generalists, some specialists. Or it may just be someone who sees you. Who gets you. 

We know people. Create a list. Ask them for help. This group of people is your personal board.

I bring you up to date on all of the things. I also share your comments and suggestions, and reflect on what I’m feeling.

See my blog at MaryRarick.com for before and after photos of my eyes

My husband resigned from his job today. He’s retiring. And he’s only 58. No, we didn’t win the lottery. I talk about how we got here and answer some questions like, “How are you able to do this?”

Before I heard Cathie Black say, “Make difficult decisions sooner,” I had this idea that difficult decisions, “BIG decisions,” should be pondered, considered, weighing the pros and the cons. But upon further reflection I realized I was pretty good at making smart decisions quickly. Eventually, I realized that it’s not so much making a difficult decision, but my thoughts around it that had the potential to cause me pain.

No matter how uncomfortable I am now in this space of not knowing and being open to what’s next I comfort myself with the knowing that this is not as uncomfortable as I was when I was recovering from a broken ankle. 

And this time, unlike other times in my life, I’ve chosen discomfort. It’s my choice to stop sleep walking through life, to examine what’s important to me, and to choose what’s next.

A dozen years ago I learned that work isn't hard if I show up as myself and turn on my success patterns. I also identified what I want and was able to achieve it in a couple of years. And here I am again, asking myself, “What do I want now?”