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There are a few things you need to be consciously aware of when using the law of attraction.  The Universal or Spiritual Laws have individual, collaborative and collective functions within the manifestation and creation process.  It’s important to note that whether the action of the law is collaborative or collective each law retains its individuality or specific function.  What I mean by this is a cardboard box will carry things, yet, it still remains a cardboard box.   Within the last two decades there has been an oversimplification of how the law of attraction works.  Somehow, it seems to have been relegated to the same status of abracadabra that we read about in the Middle Eastern folk tales called Arabian Nights.  Abracadabra, if taken at face value has mysterious powers and is part of a wonderful fairy tale.  However, the folk etymology associated with the phrase in Hebrew, suggests that abracadabra literally translates to "I will create as I speak" or in Aramaic "I create like the word." That’s some powerful stuff!  The law of attraction is no different.  Telling people they will get what they want using the LOA by repeat affirmations, thinking rich or skinny and or see what they want is ludicrous.  That’s like not telling people what the word abracadabra really means.

That law of attraction, LOA  is simply a magnetic force.   The function of this law is to bind or magnetize together other laws, that create a magnetic intentional force, that draws to you, that which you have chosen to experience in your life.Understanding the law of attraction and the role it plays within the Laws of Attraction is crucial to you manifesting health, wealth, money, abundance, love etc. 

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at the law of attraction.

Many people don’t realize that their ability to consciously manifest what they want in life is being hampered by their inability to receive and accept praise.  You know the “attaboy or attagirl,” that people give when you have accomplished something.   This underlying issue with the inability to do this for self is a serious one.  It has the atomic potential to undermine everything that you want, and wreck everything that you have.  The Universal Law of Acceptance speaks to the energy of whether you believe you are worthy and deserving of the thing you have asked the Universe to bring into creation for you.   You see, Attractioners, to the Universal Creator, acceptance or non-acceptance is still, acceptance.   Once again, you get to choose how you use the universal Law of Acceptance. 

There is an irony here, because, many people can give accolades and the highest of praise, but are self-conscious and downright uncomfortable receiving it.  And therefore, don’t want it, and articulate this in many ways.  As a result of this limited thinking many people derail in all aspects of life and are left wondering, “what the hell’s happening to me?”

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction in Action Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction in Action Coach as we look at the strategic and powerful role acceptance plays in our lives.

To everything in life there really is a season, including the starting and ending of relationships.  Our lives are built upon relationships not only with people, but with places and things too.   We never really think of ourselves as being in a working or active relationship with our homes, cars, pens, papers, food, plants or the location where we live.  More often than not, when people speak in terms of relationships they are speaking of a dynamic between two or more people.  It can also be a relationship with an institution that’s representative of an emotionally held ideal.  However, a relationship is all about how you relate to people, places and things.  Based on how you feel about something you are in a relationship with will determine the choices you make.   When you change how you feel about a person, place or thing, you set into motion The Universal Law of Disintegration. Once set into motion it cannot be stopped.   When change needs to take place, based on the change a of heart, the disintegration of that relationship held will happen.   It’s important not to confuse disintegration of a relationship with dissolution of a relationship. 

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at the Universal Law of Disintegration and relationships.

Is there a way to live a stress free life, when all around you it seems that there is nothing, but machiavellianism, mendaciousness, murder and mayhem?  Along with wars! Rumors of wars, social unrest and civil discord.  Man’s inhumanity to man and the list goes on and on.  By consciously choosing to live a drama free life, can you positively impact the world with your “happy” thoughts, righting many of the perceived injustices and imbalances?  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach, and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach, as we explore the possibility of your thoughts and the power they have to influence your world.  Check out

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People spend far too much time worrying about what other people will think of them, verses what they think about themselves.  As a result of this many people are living lives of quiet desperation, because they are dying to please others so that they will fit in.  They are saying yes, when they really mean no.  They are sucking it up, when they should be letting it rip.  All the time making choices based on what others will think. 

We spend an enormous amount of time throughout our lives trying to please other people, primarily, because we feel this action, even though it’s counter to what we want, will make our lives easier.  The ultimate goal of this behavior is to gain the approval of those we are seeking it from.  Approval in this instance, equates to acceptance, which means that someone has chosen to acknowledge you in a way that you need to be acknowledged.  And for a moment this makes you feel good about yourself, until you realize that you don’t even resonate with their core values.  

There is a danger with trying to please at the expense of self.  It slowly erodes at the fabric of who you are, until, you don’t remember you anymore.  You move from trying, to dying, because that’s what happens to your soul when you go through life trying to please others, so they will like you and accept you.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at what trying to please others can do to your life.

Prayer is consciously thanking The Universal Creator, the Grand Architect, The God Within or whomever your chosen deity is for your desired outcome, before it has manifested into your life.  That’s prayer in a nutshell.   It’s important to understand the structure of prayer and know the distinction between talking with God and praying to God.  Many people don’t understand this nuance and their prayers are structured incorrectly and as a result they feel that their prayers are left unanswered.  Their bodies remain unhealed, their finances remain in shambles, their relationships continue to be contentious and happiness is out of their grasp.   When people don’t receive what they want, they sigh deeply and say in reverent hushed tones that state eloquently that, “God wanted something different for me.”

Here’s the cold hard facts, that's simply not true and your prayers are always answered. 

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at the structure of prayer.

Has overthinking your next move left you in a state of I don’t know what to do paralysis?  Agonizing over figuring out if the next move is the right move has left many people opting to do nothing.  And that is downright painful.  We have been taught we must find a solution.  Not that there is always a solution, but, we must find the solution.  That nuance is huge.  In fact, it’s the difference between the solution being revealed to you and you trying to unearth it.  There is a simple process when using the Universal Laws to manifest what you are wanting and it doesn’t involve digging for anything.  It’s all about what is revealed to you to by taking inspired action.

When people speak of sacrifices that they have made in their lives for others, they are speaking in terms of what they have given up.  What they have done and what has happened to them as a result of this sacrifice. “I did this all for you so that you could have the experience that you wanted.”  The word sacrifice literally means to give something up or permit something to happen in order for someone to achieve a desired goal. Be under no illusion, no matter how heart wrenching, how disappointing, no matter how painful or soul destroying the sacrifice made, it was a choice.  It was a choice driven by a personal agenda that sacrificer had. They wanted a specific outcome and by giving up or doing _______ you fill in the blank, even when it was counterintuitive, they had their beady little eye on a prize. When the prize materialized, and or not, or people were not suitably grateful or chose to do something else, which flew in the face of the sacrifice etc.  Then the sacrificer regurgitates all that they have done, outlining each supposed selfless act in all its passionate detail in an attempt to bend others to their will. Or at the very least to emotionally blackmail them into feeling contrite and suitably apologetic for putting them through whatever it is they chose to go through. At the end of the day, sacrifice is all about your own personal agenda, nothing more, nothing less...so, don’t get ‘em twisted.  The next time you feel like you have fallen on your sword for someone and they weren’t suitably grateful, remember your sword didn’t stab you, you stabbed your sword.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expressions and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore sacrifice and what that means.

Upgrading your life can take many forms, and yet, the end result will always be a profound change within self.  The process of upgrading literally means that you have outgrown that which you currently have.  And more importantly, you have the conscious realization that it’s time for something new.  The new maybe similar, yet, it is something new.  Should you want to upgrade your life?  What if you love the life you are living and you don’t want anything to change?  How do I upgrade my life and what do I upgrade it to?  We’ll be exploring these questions and more in this week’s radio show/podcast. 

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expressions Expert , Healer and Law of Attraction Coach as we look at the importance of upgrading and ways in which to start the process.

For those of you on the journey of finding self, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know” is a cold hard fact.  In truth, it’s not who you know, it’s how you apply what you know, to experience the conscious manifestation of what you want for your life.  You can have all the knowledge in the world, yet if it is not applied in the right way, it’s just knowledge. It’s a little like faith without works or inspired action, is dead.   

The saying, “It’s not what you know, but it’s who you know” for many is a fact.  A vast majority of people from around the world are living their lives like this and don’t even realize it. And as a result, they continuously experience cyclic detriment.  Life’s good for a while and then kaboom they appear to be back to square one, left standing in the rubble wondering, “what the hell happened?” They are living a life that is one of total dependency and or inequitably interdependent on others for their success.    People have taken and cloaked themselves in this belief that someone can do, what they themselves feel they are unable to do for self, in order for them to realize their dreams.  It’s the preverbal hookup!

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and  Intrinsic Laws of Attraction In Action Coach and Olivia Lashley, Artist and Intrinsic Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we explore the benefit of who and what you know.