My Life My Choice

How many times did you hear this as a child from your parents, grandparents, teachers or siblings. or tell a child this as an adult, “don’t run with scissors in your hand.”   As kids, our guardians always instructed us not to run with glass, knives, sharp objects or scissors.  Why?  Because the potential to seriously injure self was a reality. 

As adults you are running with a different kind of sharp object, but no less lethal.  Your running with people who don’t give a damn about you and have passed their expiration date.   Your running behind people who love themselves more than you love you, and they are happily using you for their life’s process. Your running with learnt behaviors that are creating planned obsolescence in your life.  Your running with emotional blocks that compromise your personal growth and ability to see what you want. You are running on the fumes of other people’s ignorance, beliefs, ideologies and bull shit that has the same potential to hurt you, just as if you are running with broken glass, knives and scissors.

Stop RSVPing to crap that doesn’t even fertilize the mind.  Stop blaming him, her, them, Martians or whoever. It’s time to take a good hard look at you and the choices you have made that have brought you to this point, the point where you find yourself NOW.  It’s time to stand up for yourself taking responsibility, accountability and ownership, so that you can decide what you really want for your life.  Are you ready to stop the running with scissors?

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore what not running with scissors can do for your life.

Letting go of people, places and things, hurts, grudges and feuds is one of the greatest challenges you will ever face.  Why?  Because in some shape or form your needs, wants and desires have been minimized and then trampled into nothingness.  When you think you’re done, and over it, you fill in the blank, along comes a button pusher to check you, letting you know you are still firmly in its grasp.  So why can’t you just get over it?  Why can’t you let it go? The answer to that is simple; you are not done with the situation yet.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we take a candid look at why we are holding on to stuff we need to let go.

The law of Attraction is a magnetic force of intention, which is made up of many, many laws.  The Law of Abundance invokes plenteousness in extremes.  How do you attract into your life money, health, good relationships, fame and all the things that you want? Part I of the process involves having a clearer understand of the Laws and how you can use them.  And part II is understanding how to hold the “space” so that what you desire can come into form.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we take a deeper look into the law of attraction and manifesting abundance.

The word revision might have a tendency to conjure up thoughts of endless homework, looking at CliffsNotes or SparksNotes and or days and nights spent swotting for exams.  However, when used with the Laws of Attraction the art of revision will catapult your desired manifestation toward you.  When consciously revising situations and events that have occurred in your life, puts you in the unique position of being able to decode it, rewrite the script or at the very least not give it any more of your time or energy. 

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression & Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore ways to revise your life and the potential it has to support your conscious manifestation process.

Getting mental clarity for reasons you are making the decisions that you do can sometimes be supported by having the question “Why” answered.  Gaining the knowledge or knowing “why” has the ability to set you up in various ways, so that you can make a choice to move on or let go. Or it can hold you in bondage.  Knowing why, can provide understanding, which may or may not lead to clarity.  Just because you acknowledge something doesn’t mean you have true understanding of it.  In short “your why” can play a pivotal role in your choice making process.   

However, it’s been my experience that many people become stuck in their lives because they feel they MUST know the answer to the question “why” before they can make another decision.  Yet, I know that not to be true.  To move forward, regardless of whether you know the answer to why is a choice.  What is most important it’s knowing what you want to do next.  Finding the answer to “why” simply brings, and I use these terms loosely, validation, understanding, closure, more questions why and a vicious cycle of wanting to know and putting you right back where you started from.”  So, is there any real benefit to asking the question why?

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Oliva Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at the value of asking the question why.

Figuring out the message that your life’s situations are telling you, no matter how joyous or hurtful, is really a process of decoding.  For you, it will take practice not to continue to fall into a cycle of emotional highs and lows.  Your emotional roller coaster keeps your situations negatively or positively charged, which results in smoking mirrors, uncertainty and confusion.   And that can be a challenge when making choices in the best interest of self or making choices to manifest what you want.  You need objectivity!  Without objectivity it’s virtually impossible to decode your situation.  Your decoding process starts with being able to detach emotionally from your situation, yet remain involved enough to be connected.  As intrinsic coaches, we call this skill detached involvement. 

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert, and Laws of Attraction coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore the benefits of decoding your life’s situation.

In life there is always a price to pay.  The question is, ”Are you willing to pay that price for what you want?”  Many people when asked this question assume that payment is in the form of money.  Cold, hot, hard soft cash!  There is another form of currency and it’s called spiritual currency.  It represents the intangible energies that we trade  much like money represents the tangibles we trade in.  You don’t get something for nothing, even if it appears that way.  What are you willing to give to get what you want?  

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach as we take a deeper look at the phenomenon of the Universal Law of Exchange.

Is there such a thing as Divine Intervention and if so what is it, and, better yet, can I have some?  Divine intervention is usually ascribed to a miraculous happening.  Something that defies scientific explanation and logic.  Yet, when witnessed or experienced, we as humans may not understand the mechanics of Divine Intervention, but at an intrinsic level, we get it.  We know it to be true.  So, how do we go about consciously creating Divine Intervention or miracles in our lives?

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Life Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and artist as we discuss you and Divine Intervention.

At some stage, we will all arrive at this point in our lives.  It’s the point where we are literally crying out to the Universal Creator to “fix it!”  Or for the answer to the question, “What must I do next?”  Very few of us make it through life, without hitting our preverbal emotional “brick” wall, or, spiraling down into our self created abyss.  It matters not whether you believe in God or something greater than self.   You see, whether you are a believer, atheist or agnostic when we are crying out into the ethos for HELP; for guidance, comfort, solace and peace, we are all alike.  We are looking to the Universal Supply for our salvation, or our solution.  We are wanting God or your chosen deity to “Fix It!”  The irony with this is in order for you to receive any help, divine or otherwise, you must have an idea of what you want. Solution and salvation are one in the same they are both found within the question and the problem.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Artist as we explore the Universal Creators role in “fixing” our lives.

It’s important to choose the people who you allow into your life, wisely and with great care.  They have the potential to influence your choices, therefore, influencing how you live your life.  The people who you currently mix and mingle with mirror back aspects of your inner beliefs as to who you are.  This doesn’t apply to friends; it applies to everyone in your life, including your family and nearest and dearest.  Do you like what you see when you look at the people in your life?  Is the relationship symbiotic?  Are your life stories filled with dramatic parallels and similarities?  Is this the adhesive that holds the relationship together?  The people in your life can show you four things,

Where you’ve been.Where you are now.Where you don’t want to go.Where you can go.

What are the people in your life showing you?   

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice and Laws of Attraction Coach & Expert  and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach & Artist as we explore you and the people in your life.