Content warning: This episode explores toxic relationships and violence.

Our hearts go out to Gabby Petito's parents and family, as well as to the victims of crimes that don't receive the media coverage they should. Tragic events trigger different experiences and emotions in us. Gabby's story (what we know of her story) sparked a conversation on our earliest relationships. Jealousy, controlling behaviors, and isolation from friends and family are all warning signs of a toxic relationship.  But it's easier to point fingers and presume things when you're not the one 'in the relationship.' Why are first relationships so charged with emotion with such highs & lows?  Naoness believes in continued compassion and kindness for the self, first and foremost, before chasing desires and expectations from others—no one can fill the void within for you but yourself. Be kind, love thy self, then love one another.

Naoness is here. Inspired by Pema Chödrön, an American Tibetan Buddhist, and her wisdom that "thoughts, emotions, moods, and memories come and they go, and basic nowness is always here."  Naoness is about 30+ years of friendship between two Asian American women in the present - as wives, working mothers, and feminists in our 40s.  We begin the conversation with introductions and how we arrived at this podcast as a celebration of the power of storytelling.  Join us as we open with Naoko's birthday month, chat about being at a crossroads, and chart our exploration of identity. We always end on a light note by sharing recipes because they are our expression of love, family, and connection with community.   

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"When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times" by Pema Chödrön