Nathan's School of Thought

In this episode, Nathan reminisces about his idyllic farm life during his childhood. The narrative takes an emotional turn as he shares the traumatic story of the death of their pet dog while operating farm machinery. This event leads Nathan to discuss the delicate balance between shielding one’s loved ones from pain versus allowing them to learn from difficult experiences. He uses the example of Corrie Ten Boom, a famous Holocaust survivor, to enhance this point. Nathan closes the podcast by emphasizing the importance of love as a guiding force in processing, understanding and transcending past suffering.

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In this episode, we examine labels and how they can impact our identity. We'll explore the importance of reframing labels and understanding that we are not defined by them. I'll share some techniques for self-reflection and embracing the true, unique self beyond the false front created by labels.

Our memories are built on stories. Unfortunately, some of our stories are "anger stories," and in them is a very unhealthy share of negative emotion.

If you were unfairly treated by someone else, or bullied or abused--- if they did things that made you angry, if you felt ignored or oppressed in some way, and you tell that story and the anger is present in the story, guess what it does to the person who offended you? Nothing. It doesn't make them "un-offend" you. If they are still living, it's unlikely to make them run to you and say, "Hey, I just had a feeling I should apologize for bullying you in second grade. By the way, I don't remember who you are anymore, and I live in another state." If they're not living, you certainly can't change anything about their current state. You can't go back and say, "You need to make this 'un-happen.'. You made me really angry. You made me really sad. You made me feel unloved, rejected, ignored, mistreated"--- fill in the blanks. 

Harboring and telling "anger stories" is like reaching into a bag full of rattlesnakes. All of the poison gets injected into you as you retell the story. You replenish the poison, and you put the snake back in the bag--- this time a little fatter and a little more poisonous than it was the last time, and round and round and round it goes.

I'll help you change the stories.

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The world is full of people who will do great things when they feel like they're making a noticeable difference. We can talk about motivation until the cows come home, but nothing is a more predictable impetus for good than someone who feels like they matter. 

Whether you and I are close friends, casual acquaintances, or maybe I'm just a voice on a podcast, someone you've never met... that makes no difference to me at all. You matter to me. I want you to be successful. I want you to be happy. I want you to have whatever tools you need to make sure that your life is a good one and that you're able to give energy and love and encouragement to others.

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All of us deal with anxiety or fear of some kind, and to some amount, for some period of time. As I was studying for NLP certification, I came across this: "Based on metaphysical thinking, there is only one real emotion on the planet--- love. All negative emotions are derivatives of fear." part of my work then is to help people be rid of fear, whether via NLP, or just by being a friend. Our fears can range from what someone said to me recently: "I'm feeling a little out of control," to something as extreme as in the Bible: Job 2 verse 9: "Then said his wife unto him, doest thou still retain thine integrity? Curse God and die." He was really going through some stuff and she was done with it.  

Some of our fear takes the form of stage fright. Some is just regular old--- and I mean regular old, though it can be crippling--- anxiety. Some fear is well-founded and some is not. Most of it will put us in a state of fight or flight, and spending a lot of time there will destroy your body, your mind, and your relationships. 

Anxiety / fear of any kind, and excitement, are almost physiologically identical. As far as your body is concerned. They're the same thing. So what's the difference? What makes one shut us down and the other one get us all jazzed about what's about to come? The answer is all in your head, literally. 

Here are some things that will help you find excitement, in place of fear and anxiety.  

I can help you find excitement and hope for the future. Go to natewalkercoaching.com, click on the contacts page, and tell me how I might be of assistance. There are great things that you and I can do, and great tools that I have available to help you. 

Referenced article: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5149447/

When we try to solve problems of any kind, we usually start by trying to find a solution. When some asks what the problems is, we usually say, "I just need…," and describe the solution to a problem we haven't really articulated.

The real power is in finding the right problem. I this episode, I'll show you how to get it done. 

I can help you find the right problem, and the best solution. Go to natewalkercoaching.com, click on the contacts page, and tell me how I might be of assistance. There are great things that you and I can do, and great tools that I have available to help you. 

Finding truth requires effort, not a patronizing pat on the head. Anything virtuous, lovely, of good report, or praiseworthy leads us toward truth. The opposites of those lead to untruth, to lies. It is a lie that our purpose on earth is to just skip happily through a rainbow world, picking flowers and having food handed to us, while our bodies remain healthy and strong and our friends all praise every single thing that comes out of our mouth. That's not reality.  

It is truth to know that we are tested and tried by difficulty, trial, effort, faith, and perseverance. The most successful and happiest people you'll ever meet have experienced a lot of all of these. They give others the freedom to learn by similar experience, knowing that it is not their job to save them, but to love them, encourage them, and cheer for them when they go through difficulty of their own. If there is no absolute truth, then there is no absolute love. If there is no absolute love, there is no absolute answer. 

I can help you find truth,  confidence,  relief, and hope for the future. Go to natewalkercoaching.com, click on the contacts page, and tell me how I might be of assistance. There are great things that you and I can do, and great tools that I have available to help you. 

A couple of weeks ago we talked about the Sunk Cost fallacy. The more time and energy we put into a failing strategy, the more unwilling we are to give it up. That's the easiest definition.

Not long after that podcast aired, I got a question from a listener, who said something like, "yes, but how do you know? Where's the line and how do you decide? Couldn't staying the course actually be an act of courage?" 

Listen to find out, and to ensure a more successful future.

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