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It's October, so we're telling horror stories. These aren't ghosts. They're the estate planning mistakes we see families make every day, and every one of them started with a good intention.
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In this episode, Tammi Caress walks through five common mistakes that haunt Oregon and Washington families:
If any of these sound like your plan, schedule a consultation at CaressLaw.estate
Chapters
00:00 Cold open
02:01 Why good intentions go wrong
03:29 Gifting your house to a child
06:39 Adding a child to your bank account
09:14 When a beneficiary designation beats your will
12:18 The "I love you" will and state estate tax
16:35 The unfunded trust
20:18 How to avoid these mistakes
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Disclaimer: This episode is for educational purposes only and is not legal or tax advice. Stories are composites and do not describe actual clients. Listening does not create an attorney-client relationship.
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Can you protect a new spouse and guarantee your kids from a first marriage still inherit? In this episode, Tammi breaks down the practical fixes for blended family estate planning — QTIP trusts, ILITs, premarital agreements, beneficiary audits, and choosing the right fiduciaries — plus why the hardest part usually isn't the paperwork, it's the conversation.
In This Episode You Will Learn
Estate Planning Resources for Blended Families
Understanding Blended Families: Navigating Estate Planning and Unique Challenges Podcast Pt 1
Understanding Blended Families: Navigating Estate Planning and Unique Challenges Podcast Pt 2
QTIP Trusts — What "qualified terminable interest property" Trust means, how it secures income/principal for a surviving spouse while preserving remainder for kids, marital deduction mechanics, can be set up pre-marriage
Life Insurance & ILITs — Using life insurance to equalize distributions between spouse and kids; ILIT structure to keep policy proceeds out of the taxable estate
Premarital/Postmarital Agreements — Reframed as inheritance protection, not distrust; waiving elective share; separating community vs. separate property (OR vs. WA)
Titling & Beneficiary Audits — Retirement accounts, joint bank accounts, why these pass outside the will/trust; triggers for review (divorce, remarriage, death, illness); real case example of ex-spouse remaining beneficiary
Choosing Fiduciaries — Why not to name spouse + adult child as co-fiduciaries; case for corporate/professional trustee in blended families
Having the Hard Conversations — Why documents alone aren't enough; timing conversations before crisis; family meeting vs. one-on-ones; what NOT to do (don't let kids weigh in on the plan, don't make promises, don't let reactions drive on-the-spot changes)
Warning — Warning against using general practitioners for estate planning; webinars, blog, website; review ask
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If you own a home and a retirement account in Oregon or Washington, your family may already owe estate taxes — even if you've never thought of yourself as wealthy. In this episode, Tammi breaks down Oregon's frozen $1 million exemption, Washington's rapidly shifting exemption and tax rate, why owning property in a state you don't live in can trigger taxes there too, and the planning tools (marital deduction, QTIP trusts, exemption trusts, gifting, and LLCs) that can meaningfully reduce or eliminate the bill. She also unpacks Washington's newer capital gains tax and the upcoming "millionaire's tax."
Key Definitions
The Two Numbers That Matter
Oregon
Washington (post 7/1/2026)
Exemption
$1,000,000 (unchanged since deaths after 1/1/2012)
$3,000,000 (frozen)
Top tax rate
16% (range 10–16%)
20%
Washington's exemption and rate have moved several times in the last two years: the top rate spiked to 35% for one year before dropping back to 20% and freezing the exemption at $3 million as of July 1, 2026. Estates of people who died before that date may fall under different numbers — the exemption and rate depend on date of death.
Key Takeaways / Action Items
Resources & Contact
Caress Law, PC is a boutique estate planning, probate, trust administration, and tax law firm serving clients in Oregon and Washington.
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Tammi Caress replays her guest appearance on the APM Success Podcast, where she and host Justin Harvey dig into what really happens to your family, your business, and the people you love when you're gone. The conversation covers why estate planning gets pushed to the bottom of the to-do list, how to choose the right people to carry out your wishes, and why waiting is almost always the most expensive decision a family can make.
Notable Quotes
"The most expensive administrations to settle in an estate is if you have a fiduciary who delays and doesn't act... it really drives the cost up in the estate."
"The biggest mistake I see is when they appoint someone just because of their birth order."
"If you want your kids to be friends after you're gone... a thoughtfully constructed estate plan that is concrete, communicated, and documented" is the best appeal you can make.
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Disclaimer
The information in this podcast and associated materials is for general informational purposes only and is not intended to replace or serve as a substitute for legal, tax, or estate planning advice. Consult a qualified professional before making decisions specific to your situation.
Many families delay handling estate matters after a loved one passes—understandably due to grief or uncertainty—but that delay can have real financial and legal consequences. In this episode, we walk through the top cost drivers that come from waiting too long and why getting started early (even in small steps) makes a big difference.
Outline
Speak to a professional to understand timelines and take the first steps:
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Links and Resources
Download What to do when a love one dies: https://caresslaw.estate/estate-planning-resources/estate-administration-probate-checklist/
Check our website for our free on demand and live webinars: https://caresslaw.estate/estate-planning-workshops/
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In this episode of Navigating Estate Planning with Caress Law, host Tammi Caress breaks down the sweeping updates to Washington State's estate and capital gains tax laws—set to take effect July 1, 2025. From a new $3 million estate tax exemption to rates climbing as high as 35%, plus a 9.9% tax on long-term capital gains over $1 million, these changes could have major implications for your wealth, your legacy, and your planning strategy.
Don't miss Tammi's expert insights on what it all means—and how to get ahead of it.
Highlights and Takeaways
Links and Resources Mentioned
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https://www.washingtonpolicy.org/publications/detail/governor-ferguson-signs-the-largest-tax-increase-in-washingtons-history-into-law
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In this episode of Navigating Estate Planning with Caress Law, host Tammi Caress discusses a critical and often overlooked detail in estate planning: the importance of naming your trust as an insured party on your homeowner's insurance policy.
Drawing from recent real-world events, including insurance complications following the Los Angeles County fires, Tammi highlights how failing to correctly list your trust can result in denied insurance claims and unnecessary financial loss and expands the conversation to include vehicles titled in the name of a trust.
Tune in to learn how small steps today can make a big difference in protecting your legacy tomorrow.
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In this episode of Navigating Estate Planning with Caress Law, Tammi Caress shares real-life horror stories of clients who neglected to put estate plans in place, leading to devastating consequences for their families. From unintended heirs to business failures and guardianship battles, these cautionary tales emphasize the importance of having a will, trust, healthcare directives, and tax-saving strategies to avoid legal chaos and financial losses.
Links and Resources
On Demand Webinar: Planning for Guardianship of Minors
7 Truths (and Truths) of Estate Planning
Podcasts: Episode 7 Oregon Estate Tax: What You Need To Know
Episode 20 When There's No Will: Understanding Intestate Succession
Episode 21 Untangling the Knot: Oregon's Spousal Elective Share
Episode 25 - 2026 Estate Tax Shake-Up: Protect Your Assets Now!
Episode 26 Understanding Blended Families Part 1
Episode 27 Understanding Blended Families Part 2
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In this episode we explore the powerful yet often overlooked strategy of the Annual Exclusion Gift. Whether you're looking to give meaningful financial gifts to your loved ones without triggering taxes or seeking ways to reduce your taxable estate, understanding the Annual Exclusion Gift is crucial.
We break down what this tax-free giving opportunity is, who can benefit from it, and how to maximize its potential.
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Related Podcast Episode Links:
Episode 8 - Cost Basis
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Episode 7 - Oregon Estate Tax
https://caresslaw.estate/episode-7-oregon-estate-tax/
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