Neoteric Talks

Last week I hosted an event at my jungle sanctuary in Mexico, and the Marakames crystallized the energy of my home. It was a super powerful experience and an even crazier story! I share about it in this episode.  We also talk a lot about intention, purpose and what we want to leave behind. The importance of being intentional with all of our relationships. Hope you enjoy and may it leave you something to think about!

“Let’s commit to our freedom.” She proposed to him, smiling in satisfaction at her revelation. 

“Let’s commit to preserving our autonomy.”

Let’s commit to ourselves… together.” She attentively observed him as he digested her words...

Poetry, Love, and Freedom!

This week's episode is about my personal journey of discovering how important it is to maintain autonomy in relationships, and to redefine the defintions of what it means to relate to others. Hope you enjoy!

How many times you been naked with another?

Not in the literal sense of being physically undressed and in space with company, but in the spiritual sense of being fully exposed…

Naked, yet fully clothed…

Have you ever been?

Have you ever expressed your deepest fears, your most painful moments, your anxieties and feelings to someone else?

Have you ever allowed yourself to be completely seen, to be completely exposed and vulnerable with someone?

I think one of the reasons why so many of us feel like we are in this alone, Is because we don’t know how to be alone together. The irony is if we did, well, we wouldn’t feel so alone…

I’ve come to realize, many of us have never been naked with each other. 

We all walk around with this armor around our hearts, pretending like nothing phases us. Like we are impenetrable. Unbreakable, and ultimately, we become unrelatable. 

I used to think emotional vulnerability alluded to weakness, but then I realized in order do it, it seemed to require all of my strength and courage. 

To me, being emotional vulnerable is just about the scariest thing I have ever done.  

I backpacked South America when I was 18, hiked the most deserted part of the Appalachian trail when I was 19, moved across country alone when I was 20, back flipped out of a plane, moved to Mexico, have traveled around the world by myself, and yet, expressing my emotions, my childhood trauma, and my feelings to someone?? Shittttttt. That’s scary as fuck! But it’s also the most liberating, refreshing and rewarding way to connect with both ourselves and each other. And ultimately the MEDICINE that we are all needing and craving. 

When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we give permission for others to be too; and in that place, that place of rawness, of realness, of truth, of radical honesty and authenticity, that is where we can meet. Until then, everything else is merely a facade. A mask.

When we let down our armor, we make room for the most liberating and rewarding experience known to man. Love. Connection. Light. The reason why we are here in the first place 💡 

In this episode, we speak all this and more.

Also, for those of you interested in the HSV Healing Guide, go to my instagram @haileytay1or and click my link tree in my bio. You will find the link to Etsy.

Have a magikal week <3

If you want to know something about yourself, sit on your bed one night and say, "What's one thing I'm doing wrong, that I know I'm doing wrong? That I could fix. That I would fix". - Jordan Peterson

I asked myself "What is one thing that I am that is not productive or serving the fufillment or attainmnent of my goals. The answer was social media. I have taken this week off of social media and wow! I have realized how often I would just mindlessly pick it up and scroll.

When you ask yourself this question what comes up for you?

Robert Althuis’s life began as a fairy tale—successful career, amazing wife, tremendous wealth—until it all fell apart. His relentless pursuit of more had ruined his life.

The book Never Enoughitis chronicles Robert’s wild rise to success and cataclysmic fall, with all the painful details and mistakes of that journey laid bare. 

When I was in Miami earlier this year, God sent me an angel in the form of Robert Althuis.

After meeting Robert at a farmers market, I read his book Never Enoughitis. His words offered medicine for me when I was going through a very pivotal moment in my life. We began corresponding on instagram, and quickly became friends. 

Robert Althuis is the founder of The Whisperer, a mindfulness organization that provides coaching, strategies, tools, and techniques to help private clients and businesses find their why so they can become a force of good in the world. 

He was once an Ivy League-educated Fortune 100 corporate executive and later a successful real estate and private equity entrepreneur. Today, he resides in Coral Gables, Florida, and is an artist, photographer, avid yogi (RYT 200), CrossFitter, kite surfer, and an active dive volunteer and former board member of the Coral Restoration Foundation.

In this episode we discuss all things relationships, spirituality, the importance of radical honesty, and the of living your life guided by the compass of your heart. Robert shares what prompted him to write Never Enoughitis, and opens up about his new book coming out in the spring. 

You can follow Robert on Instagram: @robertalthuis or learn more about him and his offerings on his website: www.robertalthuis.com.

May this episode provoke us to think about what success personally means to us. Enjoy!

How can I add more value?

How can I be more conscious of the words I cast?

Today is a quick episode touching base and sharing some interesting thoughts for you to think about throughout your week.

May we collectively remember the power of our words and our thoughts. 

I went out to dinner the other night with a friend. She shared about her experience dating men. While explaining, the term toxic masculinity was brought up. So I asked her, "What about toxic femininity?" She paused and said “I don’t even know what that is.”  I responded “well, if we are going to talk about toxic traits that exist in men, we need to talk about toxic traits that exist in women.” 

In this episode, GiGi Hammond and I sit down to talk about it!

Gigi is a professional hair stylist, makeup artist, and image consultant. Gigi has been in a monogamous partnership with her husband for 12 years, and shares a personal story of how she realized she was mistreating, sexualizing and emotionally abusing men. She vulnerably and openly explains how she discovered she was treating men exactly how she didn’t want to be treated. We discuss the feminist movement, pseudomasculinity, relationships, polyamory and monogamy and the importance of radical honesty and holding our sisters accountable when they aren’t behaving productively.

If you enjoy this episode, please download, share with your friends and family and write a review.

All of your support helps with growing this show. Thank you all for the support and beautiful messages thus far! Stay tuned every Tuesday for a new episode of Neoteric Talks. 

Guest: @gigisbeautybar

Host: @haileytay1or

Show: @neoterictalks

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"We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the hateful words and actions of the bad people but for the appalling silence of the good people." - Dr. Martin Luther King. Jr.

What does it mean to be racist? Many of us, when we think of the word "racist" we think of a man in a pointed white hat and KKK outift holding a torch. We don't usually, however, think of a racist as a doctor, a school teacher or a doting mother taking her children to school. We classify a racist as a bad person, rather than a miseducated person, which consquently, perputates  oppression. Many caucasian individuals avoid having conversations about race because they are fearful to offend someone, or be called racist; they fear being socially stained as a bad person - so they stay silent.

"White people desperately want to believe that only the lonely. isolated 'whites only' club members are racist. This is why the word racist offends 'nice white people' so deeply. It challenges their self-identifcation as good people. Sadly, most white people are more worried about being called racist than about whether or not their actions are in fact racist or harmful." - Austin Channing Brown. 

In this episode, I share my personal experience with growing up in a town that was 96% white, and how I began to realize how much of a bubble I was in when I ventured off into the "real world". I discuss my experiences dating outside my race, ways I began to educate myself on white supremacy and how I learned that I could show up as an active ally for my brothers and sisters.

Ultimately, until all of humanity is free and treated equally, none of us are free. May we rise with our brothers and sisters of every culture, and begin to have consious dialogue that heals and awakens us from the illusion of separation and divison.

A demon is anything that obstructs the achievement of freedom. Demons then are ego beliefs - not scary, hairy beasts, but inner barriers that keep us from realizing the nature of reality. The difference between a god and a demon has to do with our reaction to them. Those who cause us pain, also teach us patience, whereas those who bring gifts can distract us from our spiritual paths. No one and no single situation has the power to derail us, that is unless we let it. The power rests within us. The spiritual path was to become intimate with her inner demons: those thoughts or beliefs that keep us from experiencing joy, bliss, and pure love. 

The darkness within us isn’t actually dark. It often feels threatening because some aspect of our intuition knows that when we face it, we will reclaim a part of our soul. We will heal. We will become more whole, and that ironically can be terrifying. 

We get so used to functioning with only one wing. We wonder, how can I fly now with two? Ill go too far, too high. Who will I become now that I am free? And who will I lose in the elevation of my soul?

Feed our demons not with fear, but with the knowledge the bringing it to life and into the light will set us free. 

Is there an ego belief that I am ready to see and release within me?

I see the light in my own darkness. I face my ego beliefs to feel free. 

In today's episode, we talk all things abundance, feeling worthy, and being open and receptive to the universe's offerings and blessings. May we tap into our greatness potential, and remove all limiting beliefs that prevent us from receiving every blessing the universe has for us. May we remember our power and our divinity and step into our most embodied self.

At the end of this episode I have gifted you all an abundance meditation for you to be reminded of your worth, your gifts and your power. Grab some headphones, find a quiet place where you can have some interrupted time to yourself, and listen to this guided activation. Feel the binural beats and delta waves penetrate through your temple as you receive these powerful light transmissions and affirmations.

If you enjoy this meditation, or have a specific request about any meditation (health, higher-self, intution, dreams etc) that you would like to receive on NT, feel free to message me or email at [email protected]. Thank you to all of you who have supported by sharing, downloading, writing reviews, and sending to your friends and family. Your support means the world. See you next Tuesday for another episode of Neoteric Talks!