Nicole & Kate Can Relate

In Episode 83 here on the podcast we talked about how we planned our girls trip to Tokyo, Japan! We shared how we chose the location, the hotel, the activities we wanted to do, and even how we set expectations beforehand (we were going to be living together after all!)

In this episode we’ll share a trip recap! We break down what went well, what we’d do differently next time, and how our trip went overall. 

Points Discussed in this Episode

• We score ourselves 1 - 10 on the location, the hotel, and the activities we planned 
• An overview of our time together, including our itinerary
• Our favorite stops
• Hosting our mastermind in person for the first time together!
• What we would do differently next time
• Our impressions of Japan

Mentioned in this episode: 

Mimaru Suites Nihombashi

Harajuku

teamLab Planets Tokyo

Yoyogi Park

Shibuya

Sin Den Salon

Stylist experience through AirBNB

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences from our girls trip to Tokyo, Japan!

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

There are any number of things, people, and situations that can put us in a negative state of mind. Knowing this, how do we get out of that negative state of mind?

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with how we identify when we’re in a negative state of mind, and the steps we take to get out of it.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The power of our minds and how we can choose our response - and the space we give ourselves before responding
• Covid, running a business, and managing a team 
• Derek Sivers 5 steps to get out of a negative state of mind
• You don’t have to always have an answer
• Having too many “inputs” and how notifications and overwhelm can subconsciously be putting you in a negative state of mind
• Taking a conscious pause
• Shifting your focus to something you’re really excited about right now

Mentioned in this episode: 

Hell Yeah or No by Derek Sivers

Episode on NKCR w/ Katie Krimitsos

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you get out of a negative state of mind?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Letting go - or “quitting” something - isn’t always easy, but it can absolutely help you expand and grow. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with letting go of things that are no longer serving us, or that we simply don’t enjoy as much as we used to.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What we believe about “quitting”
• Should you quit things you love? 
• Why quitting / letting go of things you feel like you “need” is a good idea
• Letting go of things you might be doing simply because you think you’re “supposed to”
• Not letting the sunk cost bias keep you attached to things you should quit or let go of
• The power of “thought experiments”!

Mentioned in this episode:

• Hell Yeah or No by Derek Sivers

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you know what to let go of?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Toxic positivity isn’t a term many people are familiar with - us included. First Michele introduced Nicole to the idea, and then Nicole introduced Kate to it. 

In this episode we’re removing all barriers to discuss how social pressures are preventing us from validating our own - and others - emotions, along with the toll it’s taking on our overall well being.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What is toxic positivity exactly? 
• All emotions are valid; to deny yourself certain emotions just makes things worse
• Intentional vulnerability and how empathy plays a huge role 
• Michele shares some examples of toxic positivity
• How social media plays a role
• How much of your personal life belongs in your online brand?
• The importance of self-empathy and being able to move through an emotion versus pushing it away
• Recognizing activities in your life or business that drain you

Mentioned in this episode: 

Deploy Empathy: A practical guide to interviewing customers

Geocod.io: Michele’s business

Software Social Podcast

Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes (article)

MJWHasen.com

Michele's Twitter

Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Michele Hansen on toxic positivity!

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We’re both ecstatic because we have a girls trip coming up - that we’re going on together! That’s right, friends… Nicole and Kate are jet-setting to Tokyo to meet up with our third mastermind member, Cass, for a week of relaxation, fun, business brainstorming, and exploring.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with planning this trip: the intention behind it, how we sorted out all the details, and so much more!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Setting the intention and having a vision for your trip 
• Being clear about what you want to get out of your trip
• Planning sessions and keeping track of ideas, places, and things you want to see (we love Google Sheets!) 
• Sharing your budget and getting on the same page about boundaries and what your routines are
• Delegating certain research points and holding one another accountable
• Determining milestone decisions to keep the planning moving 

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Nicole & Kate plan their trip to Tokyo, Japan

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We all experience change in our lives, but how we anticipate it, react to it, and adapt to it varies greatly.

In this episode we’ll share a discussion on the book Who Moved My Cheese?, a fable that follows the moves of 2 mice and 2 “littlepeople” as they make big life decisions in response to change.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• How do we instinctively react to change? 
• How our experiences impact our reaction to change as we get older or more mature
• Which character we relate to the most in the book
• Being able to help someone to the extent that they want to be helped
• What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
• When you change your beliefs, you change your actions, and therefore you change the way you behave

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Who Moved My Cheese? By Spencer Johnson

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share a book discussion on Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson.

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

What’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently? It’s probably not a question you ask yourself often - if ever. But your answer can be incredibly revealing of growth, a perspective shift, and more.

In this episode we’ll share a few things we’ve changed our minds about, and what these shifts in our beliefs have taught us.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• You’re wrong about everything; you’ll change your mind about everything
• How change leads to growth
• Beliefs and rewriting new truths
• Fitness tracking, the tooth fairy, regret, and vitamins!
• Contempt and learning how to disagree better

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck by Mark Manson
• The Power of Regret by Daniel H. Pink 
• Festival of Dangerous Ideas: Contempt is Corroding Democracy 
• Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Kara describes it like this: “You know the image of the duck in the pond, and the legs are flailing underwater madly, but the duck just looks like it’s sailing along no big deal?... That’s pretty much a summary of how I feel most of the time!”

In this episode Kara pulls back the curtain and shares very candidly what it was like to be the first of her friends to start a family, the defining moment when she knew she had to quit her 9-5 job, and how she managed to start her own business from scratch in the midst of it all.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Did Kara and John always know they wanted kids? 
• Kara’s timeline: meeting her husband, moving in together, getting married, starting a family, building multiple businesses
• Kara’s job situation and their plans as a family once their little girl, Stella, was born 
• How EVERYTHING changed once Stella was born, plus a defining moment that changed everything for Kara and her family
• Kara’s journey to discovering other ways to generate revenue outside of her 9-5 job
• Returning to work while side-hustling, leaving her job, finding out she was pregnant again, AND feeling like she had a million responsibilities all at once 
• Where Kara found support during a very difficult time
• How the heck Kara built a business (and then another) in the midst of her life completely changing
• How to have it all - anytime you want
• “We will be truly successful when we have all of the things that we need, and a lot of the things that we want.”

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Wedding Planning Podcast on Apple Podcasts
• WeddingPlanningPodcast.co
• Kara’s Vineyard Wedding on Etsy

If this convo brings up anything for you and you need further help, support, or guidance, check out these resources:

• Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia)
• Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36 (Australia)
• Headspace on 1 800 650 890 (USA)
• BetterHelp (USA)

Asking for help shows strength.

Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Kara Lamerato on having kids - and starting a business.

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Whether you love it or hate it, there’s no denying that goal setting works really well for a lot of people. But when’s the last time you actually took goal setting seriously and held yourself accountable to accomplishing your goal?

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with goal setting and talk about recent experiences we’ve each had with setting and accomplishing goals!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• 100 Day Goal Challenge on Kate's Take 
• Win the Year Mini-Course w/ Nicole & Omar!
• Biggest struggle when it comes to setting goals
• Why is goal setting so easy for some people but not for others?
• How big a role accountability plays in setting and accomplishing goals
• An exercise inspired by Warren Buffet: “The 25 Things” 
• A fun announcement about some upcoming travel we have planned together!

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: When’s the last time you took goal setting seriously?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Do you ever get to a point in the day where you simply can’t think straight? You’re being asked to make decisions and choices, but you just feel exhausted! Yep… that’s decision fatigue.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with decision fatigue and some of the ways we’ve learned to combat it.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What is decision fatigue? 
• How decision fatigue might show up in our everyday lives 
• Some helpful tips to combat decision fatigue, starting with awareness
• Setting expectations for ourselves - and others
• Setting up daily streaks to build momentum
• Asking yourself, “What’s my job today?”

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Atomic Habits by James Clear
• Free Time: Lose the Busy Work, Love Your Business by Jenny Blake
• Episode 72 with Angela Henderson on NKCR

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How is decision fatigue affecting your everyday life?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.