Knowing that our spouse loves, supports, and believes in us is one of the most crucial ingredients in our success in marriage and life. Let's talk about why we sometimes struggle to do it, how we can be better at it, and why it matters.

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It's the holiday season, so there's lots to do around the house. How do you stay sane, share the load, and support each other through the chaos? How do you do it any time?

All this and twenty-eight ounces of sour cream.

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Negative Reciprocity. What is it? Why do we do it? How can we stop it? We'll talk about all of that plus Todd's favorite James Brown song.

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In the early years, Jen used to call her dad to take care of things around the house instead of asking Todd to handle it. In this episode, they explore why. Sometimes, we fail to take the concerns of our spouse seriously because they aren’t a huge concern for us, but when we do that, it causes us to not feel cared for. This goes both ways-for the husband and the wife. They share how a little more communication can make a huge difference. And…Jen goes a little crazy with her color coded thanksgiving grocery list! Worth the listen! Send your questions, comments, and thoughts to [email protected]

Are you the expert when it comes to knowing your spouse? Do you pay attention to all the things that make them who they are?

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself." Philippians 2:3

Here are some questions you can ask each other to see how well you really know each other.

What were things you were surprised to learn about me when we got married?

List 5 or 6 characteristics that only you know because you are married to me.

1. What is your partner’s favorite book?

2. What is the one thing your partner would grab in a fire, besides a person?

3. What’s a phrase or word your partner uses too oFen?

4. What’s a quirky habit your partner has in the morning?

5. What is one item on your partner’s bucket list?

6. What’s a career your partner secretly wishes they had pursued?

7. What’s the most thoughJul giF your partner has given you?

8. If your partner could have any exotic pet, what would it be?

9. What is your partner’s weirdest fear?

10. What’s the best trip we’ve taken together?

11. What’s the worst travel mishap we’ve had as a couple?

12. What’s the most adventurous activity you’ve done together?

13. Who is the bePer driver between the two of you?

14. What is your partner’s pet peeve?

15. How do we usually resolve disagreements?

16. What is something your partner is always right about?

17. Who is the more social one in the rela

18. What is your partner’s proudest achievement?

19. What is your partner’s favorite giF you’ve goPen them?

20. What is the most played song on your partner’s playlist?

21. Who is more addicted to their phone?

22. What is the one item your partner refuses to throw away?

23. Who is the party animal?

24. Who is more likely to pull a prank?

25. Who is more likely to burst into laughter at inappropriate times?

Do we have your attention? What does all of this have to do with marriage? Let's find out!

What if marriage isn't primarily about making you happy but making you holy? How does that change our approach? What does it demand of us?

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Attending church together is one of the top indicators for success in marriage. Let’s talk about why that’s the case, what to do if you’re a spouse who goes alone, and how to talk about it as a couple.

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We all go through busy and stressful seasons. How can we stay connected when things are hectic? Let’s talk about it.

It can be really hard to want to share your vulnerable emotions with your spouse, especially if you think there is a chance they will go and share them with someone else. Todd and Jennifer talk about the importance of keeping those things between you, how not to gossip, how to leave space in the conversation to share your feelings, and how to share the emotional load and not carry it alone. And…guess what?! We have an email! Send us your thoughts, questions, suggestions for topics, and anything else you think we should know! Can’t wait to hear from you!

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What happens when you give your spouse the silent treatment? Why is it a bad idea, and how can we change it?