7 days after Tisha B'Av we are expected to move beyond the pain of the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash but how can we move on in such a broken world? Though Chazal tell us that Tu B'Av is one of the most important days in the Jewish calendar, the message of Tu B'Av is often overlooked. Learn the deeper meaning of Tu B'Av and be consoled for all that we have lost. 

This shiur has generously been sponsored by Devorah Spiegelman as a general zchus for her and for all of Klal Yisrael. For only 18 dollars you can sponsor a shiur, a Q&A, a Dvar Torah or an event. Your small contributions go a long way towards helping us continue to do the great work we are doing at Nitzotzos. To sponsor please email us at [email protected] 

Question: I hear a lot about working on oneself- I often get inspired to "do something about it," sit down and do a little cheshbon hanefesh, but don't really know what to do after that. Can Rebbi give practical steps for how exactly to work on/change a Middah? E.g. self-control? I know it's probably an individualized process but in general, what should one do?

This shiur has been anonymously sponsored in the merit of Shalom Bayis in their home.  To sponsor a shiur, dvar Torah, a Q&A or an event please email us at [email protected]  

Question: What do you do if you thought your husband was more into learning/ valued learning more, and now does not take as much time and is more preoccupied in work and technology. How should I react? How can I encourage my husband to take more time out of his day to be involved with learning. I want my home to filled with Torah and Kedusha, and I want my children iyh to see us valuing Torah and the love of Torah.

 This shiur has been generously sponsored in the merit that Shulamis bas Rochel should be zocheh to siyata dishmaya in everything she does. To sponsor a shiur, dvar Torah, a Q&A or an event please email us at [email protected]  

Question: Is it possible to fully do teshuva without regretting what you did wrong? For example if you did something wrong but that helps you to appreciate why it was wrong now more than before you did the aveira. And you haven’t done the aveira since! How do we do complete teshuva ?

We are in so much pain. We have no idea how to express that pain. We need words to express our pain so we can truly feel it. Only then can we have hope.

On Tisha B'Av we learn the Torah of brokenness. The Torah of those who have not yet found Hashem in their Yiddishkeit. This is the Torah of Galus and it is appropriate for Tisha B'AV.

Tisha B'Av is a time when we mourn the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash but for so many of us it seems impossible to cry. We have never seen the Beis Hamikdash. We don't know what we are mourning for. What can we do to have one authentic tear? 

What is the inner essence of mourning? How do we make Tisha B'Av meaningful? How can we utilize Tisha B'Av to hasten the redemption and bring Mashiach?