It’s a deep dive, y’all! Jen is writing a musical, Hayley has back pain, and both of them are ready to spill the tea. We got a listener q about “performative friends” — basically take friendship and make it fake as hell. We give you our research, definition, and some examples of where this manifests (hint: lots of Instagram stories). We also give you our best recommendations on how to handle this, if you have a friend who seems to just be performative. It’s rough out there but we can make it better!

Send in your friend questions to [email protected] and follow us on Twitter and Instagram @nofilterfriendz. Our theme song is written and performed by Emily Rooker and Nate Smith.

On a big week for the USA, Jen and Hayley are tackling a big question: can you be friends with people who disagree with you politically? Or... should you? We have a listener email asking this very point that the geminis attempt to answer with their personal experiences. But they wanted more perspective so they invited on Jonathan Rosenthal, passionate political academic and friend of the pod. Jonathan tells us about the friends he’s kept for years, even through political disagreements, and shares some wild stories of his more inflammatory interactions.

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Ah, weddings. Remember those? Jen and Hayley do. And, only a short year ago, they were partying it up in Baltimore at THE wedding of 2020 (we’re biased, tbh). To reminisce on old times, chat about how to plan (and replan) your wedding in a pandemic, picking bridesmaids, deciding who gets an invite, and spending MONEY, we brought our bestie Hannah Pereira onto the pod! Hannah helps us put the strife of scheduling the biggest day of your life around coronavirus into perspective while also finding time to laugh it off with friends.

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Let’s get one thing straight: the geminis love a bargain. Yes, Jen and Hayley spent more money on candles than they should have. They also checked out their Spotify Wrappeds for the year and had some shocking realizations (mostly that data is accurate). Listen to the friends answer a couple burning listener questions, too. One listener is making the transition from college life to adulthood and wants to know: can you keep your old friends? How do you do it long distance? Another listener may have hurt her friend by moving in with her ex... and maybe didn’t deliver the news so great. Friendships are complicated, y’all.

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Happy New Year, friends! Welcome to 2021. We did it. And, in honor, we have our second sister special featuring the Gregorios (Rachel and Amanda) and the McNutts (Chelsea and Alexis). We reflect on the year of 2020 and how it affected our plans, friendships, emotions, and everything else, tbh. How did we get through it? Unclear. But we’re looking ahead to 2021 and getting ready to get vaccinated.

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Merry Christmas, friends! This week, Jen and Hayley are joined by none other than their built in besties: their sisters. Join the trios as they embark on a mission to answer two listener q’s: one about dealing with family members that have different idealogies and one for when you’re getting to know your in-laws. How do we, as sisters, see these issues and what would we do?

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Jen and Hayley have a lot to say this episode so buckle up, friends. Between a COVID scare (she’s negative, y’all) and a dating podcast adventure, they’ve had a week! The ladies answer a question from a listener about friends who don’t put in the effort. Hayley took the question and ran with it, writing up the five types of disappointing friends she’s encountered the most. Listen to them outline these different types and deliberate over how to handle them.

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Jen sees an old friend, Hayley is sore, and both are thankful for social media. This week, the ladies chat about something many of us will face at some point: roommate issues. Specially, roommate issues because they keep having their significant other over... booooo. Listen to hear how Jen and Hayley would handle the situation (and maybe are currently handling it in their own homes!).

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Believe it or not, this is not an ad for Rapid7. This week, Jen and Hayley are with a very special guest! Or Ashkenazi started as Jen’s coworker, then casual lunch partner, then roommate, then best friend. We had her on to discuss making lifelong friends, learning from the people you love, growing together, keeping friends across the world, and how to cheat the higher education system (kind of). We hope you enjoy!

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Happy Thanksgiving, friends! This week, Jen and Hayley talk about going to the chiropractor, being scared of Black Friday shopping, and Thanksgiving traditions with friends. This year they’re thankful for the friends they’ve had since they were little; the people who, no matter how much time has passed, they can pick back up where they left off. Jen and Hayley also get into two very intense questions about childhood friends. First, what do you do when your bestie is suddenly a totally different person... and kind of a bad one? Second, how to tell your best friend that the guy they're marrying might be a very bad choice.... like maybe a compulsive liar? We get into it all.

Send in your friend questions to [email protected] and follow us on Twitter and Instagram @nofilterfriendz. Our theme song is written and performed by Emily Rooker and Nate Smith.