It's hard not to want to find the reason for why so many bad things happen to us - especially when they all happen at the same time. If you're anything like me, you look for the common denominator in problems, and often, if those problems are my problems, then the common denominator is obvious.

And then comes the blame game.

And then the shame.

And then the self-hatred.

And then our reflection is an unpleasant one.

But if the person we spend the most time with in all of our lives is ourselves, do we really think that playing the blame game with the one and only person we spend all of that time with is productive and even healthy? And if not, how do we overcome the habit and the thought pattern of believing that the blame belongs to us and reason our way back to self-LOVE?

Sometimes, things that happen are not our fault. Sometimes they are. But sometimes, they are more than someone's fault - they can be a lesson, an additional, something that we come away from the problem as better individuals if we can take a pause long enough to see it that way.

So what do we do if we encounter another thing that makes us hate that person in the mirror even more? Pause. Ask her or him "What could this new situation be trying to teach me or give me or add to me?"

One step at a time, we will learn to love that person again and see all of the resilience and the perseverance through the hard times shine through, and that reflection will be a warm and welcome one.

No One's Home is a Creatives Club Media podcast hosted by Cicily, a business owner and fellow creative, determined to shed light on struggles in the professional world and offer encouragement and solutions to those struggles using her own personal experience and the experiences of her peers and fellow mentors. Her main goal is to help everyone with a goal and a dream understand that anything worth having takes time and effort to push towards, and it's okay to have pushback and setbacks. She wants all those who listen to know that their struggles are validated and seen, and that she is rooting for them to succeed in the very best that their lives can give them, and remind them that ultimately, if they are doing better than yesterday - in any shape and form - they are succeeding in life.

This podcast will discuss multiple issues, a few of which being mental and physical heath struggles, grief and loss, disappointment in life, feeling lost in oneself, and much more.

If you would like to submit a topic for discussion, you can contact Cicily using one of these methods:

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Welcome to the Creatives Club, and welcome to "No One's Home."

Change is good, right? Change is glamorous, change is adventurous, change is chic. Yeah, freaking, right.

Change is great until what you've always known yourself to be turns out to be a label that can be taken from you. Change is great until the person you're looking at in the mirror isn't the person you dreamed you would be 5 years ago. Change is great until you have to decide if you want to get-to-know this person without the possibility of her ever becoming what you thought she would be... or if you just want to get lost in the world of distractions and introduce yourself to others as "yeah, idk who I am, tbh."

I don't know who convinced us that change was this incredible thing that we all should sign up for, but whoever it was, I'd like to have a chat. It seems that every time I go through a major change in my life, my entire sense of reality and sense of self gets thrown out the window, and there I go jumping out the window chasing it. It is NOT FUN to feel like I don't know who I am without the things I can do and produce and create, but the fact of the matter is...

If who I've always thought I was can be taken from me, then maybe I was never that person at all.

And that process of self discovery when you're already about 30 years in, can be a bit overwhelming. So, I have the choice, do I just get lost in other realities that are already developed and tied together perfectly in the next romance novel I can get my hands on? Do I just tie my identity to pieces of characters in each Netflix show I watch, and when I don't have the answer to the next part of myself, I just click play on the next show to try and find the solution? Do I just quiet the questions by getting lost in the music, or the alcohol or the drugs? Do I just try to control what I DO know and make sure the number on the scale is always what I want?

I don't think that reality is as great as we make it out to be. Just coping with the not knowing is not enough for me anymore. If I don't know who I am without the dreams coming true, without the goals and achievements, without the baby in my arms, without the career of a lifetime, without the perfect body and hair and face, then I am going to find out who I am because maybe, just maybe, I am more than that.

Welcome to No One's Home. I am your host, Cicily. <3