No People Pleasing Zone

Energy Vampires seek out your energy to uplift their self-esteem, and they can show up anywhere. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole are often empaths and can find themselves prime targets for Energy Vampires. We don’t always realize that Energy Vampires exist – but they do – they are very real. Long-term relationships with Energy Vampires can cause chronic stress, which has real-world health consequences.  

In today’s show learn: 

That the 4 main characteristics of Energy Vampires are

·       Charisma

·       Always in some sort of drama

·       Need for the spotlight

·       Guilt trips, criticism, and ultimatums

How to address Energy Vampires from a place of radical self-love before imposing hard boundaries.

And put some techniques in our back pocket to diminish the outward flow of our energy.

Happy listening.


About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance.

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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What is “resilience”? When we take a look at the meaning of resilience in the context of physics, we begin to really tease out the nuance of what resilience is. So often when we talk about resilience, we are really talking about something else – survival. There is a significant difference between resilience and survival – and the two often get wrapped up into one. Survival techniques are what we develop down The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole, while resilience is a key to climbing out of The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole. So, it is worth knowing the difference. Resilience isn’t just something we need on an individual level. When we operate through the lens of survival rather than resilience in our systems, in our society, we lack the backbone which allows for change, development, and advancement. It can all start on an individual level – when we challenge ourselves to flex our resilience muscles.   

Meme credit: “Stop calling people resilient without calling out the systems that force them to be resilient or die” Dr. Dee Knight


About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance.

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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What if embracing the word ‘witch’ releases a kind of internal magic that changes lives? What if self-identifying as a witch could feel empowering? In this episode, we meet with Kirsty Dee and Isabel Lamar, a couple of modern-day witches, to explore how reclaiming the word ‘witch’ has changed everything. The word witch has been used as a slur, attaching stigma to, generally, women. In the past, and still, today in some parts of the world, being identified as a witch was, and is, deadly. Yet, there is a movement of reclamation occurring that brings an experience of empowerment. Three witches reflect on:

·       What it means to have reclaimed the word witch

·       The biggest challenges in the process of reclaiming witch

·       What the biggest surprise or ‘ah ha’ was

·       And, how standing in that reclamation looks, and how it reverberates outward in life.

Happy listening.

Resources Mentioned

●      Witch: Unleased. Untamed. Unapologetic. By Lisa Lister

●      Witches, Sluts, Feminists. By Kristen J. Sollee 

About the Guests:

Kirsty Dee

Healer, witch, wife, mother and self-love mentor. I work with women to help them up level all areas of their lives through my membership, soul sessions, and coaching packages. I'm all about seeing women step fully into their power aka living a life that is true to them, not a script society or their family has given them.

Links:

Website: http://kirstydee.com/

Podcast: https://kirstydee.buzzsprout.com/

Instagram: @kirstydeeshares

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KirstyDeeUTuber or https://www.facebook.com/groups/686120185427415

Isabel Lamar

I am Isabel I am a sexuality women's empowerment and embodiment coach. I support women experiencing Epic Pleasure Confidence and to fully thrive. In my work, I bring my background in somatic therapy, coaching, tantra, mindfulness, neuroscience.  But most importantly everything I have learned as an artist, as a lover, as a woman walking on this earth in her full power and giving it to you

Links: 

Website: https://www.isabel-lamar.com

Instagram: @Isabel__lamar

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/magneticw

Clubhouse: @Isabel_lamar

About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance.

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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Imagine shifting from a generic life to a life full of magic. Recently I spoke with Meghan Gilroy about moving from people pleasing to a life that flows by being tuned into intuition. Meghan, founder of the Fully Shining Women Wisdom School, views intuition as an antidote to people pleasing, where we start asking ourselves ‘what is true for me?’ and living the journey from outside to inside. 

Intuition is:  illogical, difficult to trust, and scary.

Together Meghan and I explore how to move through fears, giving space and breathing room to share ourselves with the world with excited nervousness. 

We explore how shifting from head to heart opens us up to letting the magic in. 

We acknowledge the importance of doing for ourselves before we can do for others.

We discuss the challenging times we live in, where many are feeling a growing sense that structures in the world are breaking down, loosening a masculine way of being. Which invites in the pioneers, the women who tap into their intuition. 

Meghan talks about charting a new course that taps into both ancient and new wisdom, and the need to do inner work while being in sisterhood. She shares with us her concept of an energetic web of individuals feeling each other while reflecting to each other what each might need. Providing what is needed to do the deeper work together.

Meghan believes it is our time right now

·       To tune into our intuition

·       To figure out how to trust and accept ourselves

·       To sync up with our soul gifts

·       To speak our truths.

It isn’t about being perfect. It isn’t about outward shining. Being a Fully Shining Woman is about being authentic and vulnerable leaders in our world.

Pop in those earbuds and let’s spend some time together. 

About the Guest:

Meghan Gilroy is the creator of the Fully Shining Women Wisdom School, a spiritual teacher and a nagual woman (shamanic healer) in the Toltec lineage of don Miguel Ruiz, author of the international best-seller The Four Agreements. 

After building several 7-figure businesses and working with women around the world online, on retreats and in women’s circles, she took a lot of deep breaths and a big leap of faith to follow her soul. 

Now she guides intuitive women leaders to create lives filled with purpose, magic, mystery and mastery in a true sisterhood of women supporting women.  Her vision is for Fully Shining Women Leading Our World to share our soul gifts and co-create a better future for ourselves, the next 7 generations and Mama Earth herself. 

She lives on a small ranch on the Western Slopes of Colorado in a blended family with a fantabulous husband of 3 kiddos, 2 ginormous puppies and 1 horse named Al. You can catch her outside in nature, doing sacred self-care & ceremony and finding her flow between home and work.

Personal Links:

http://sisters.fullyshiningwomen.com/

http://www.meghangilroy.com/

https://www.instagram.com/meghangilroy/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWDHWw98qTcwXZS2hhd-hEw

https://www.facebook.com/meghan.gilroy.1

https://www.facebook.com/meghangilroycoaching/

Resource Links: 

WE ARE THE ONES. Are You Ready? Global Activation, Personal Healing Journey & Open House: https://www.meghangilroy.com/we-are-the-ones-replay/ 

The Inner Critic is a judgmental inner voice that has us talking to ourselves in ways we would never talk to others. For women stuck down The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole, the Inner Critic points out our inadequacies, impacting self-esteem and self-worth. It creates a feeling of shame. It shows up in the form of 

·       Comparison

·       Personalization

·       Should statements

·       Labeling or generalizing

In this episode, we explore the evolutionary purpose of having an inner voice that makes us experience shame. Why its development was important to our survival within the family and the community. With this understanding, we discuss possible shifts in perspectives that can allow us to work with the Inner Critic to build our resilience muscles.

Shout out to What to Expect When You’re Expecting to be a Gen X Girl – for reminding me of the angst of finding my 2 best friend’s phones were busy. https://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/what-to-expect-when-youre-expecting-to-be-a-gen-x-girl


About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance.

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole is a place – a place where we behave a certain way. It is acceptable and expected that we behave in certain ways down The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole. And so, we do. 

In today’s episode, we explore why I’ve come to use this term rather than talking about People Pleasing behaviours. We get clear on what is meant by the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole to provide common context and understanding so that we are on the same page as we explore and discover behaviours found down The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole. 

Today we explore three common characteristics that might seem familiar to you.

·       The tendency to make yourself always available to others when they need help

·       The inability to say no

·       And the wearing of different personality masks when you are with different people

People-pleasing isn’t just about you, it is about cultures and societies that send messaging supporting these behaviours. It is about being stuck someplace where absurd and illogical behaviours are normalized. It is about The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole.


About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance.

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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People Pleasing is so entrenched in our culture that it has become part of the status quo. On many levels, the culture benefits from people-pleasing behaviours. When those of us stuck down what I call The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole, begin to heal ourselves and climb out of this way of being in the world, it is a rebellious act. 

It is a challenge to a way of being in the world that is based on DOing; doing what we believe other people need and expect from us. Removing ourselves from The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole shifts perspectives – we start living from a place of BEing – and the things we do in this world come from our BEingness. A culture that judges based on accomplishments is a culture structured on DOing rather than BEing.  

And that opens the door to change how we interact with others. It changes how we do relationships and community.

This episode is about articulating clarity on what the No People Pleasing Zone is all about, and claim the act of climbing out of The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole as an act of rebellion.

• A space where we dive into self-love and challenge even the most subtle aspects of self-hate normalized in our cultures.
• A space where we strive to respect and value our own opinions over the opinions of others
•  A space where we reconnect with ourselves, so we can nurture autonomy and sovereignty.
•  A space where we show up each week to explore perspectives, dance with possibilities; and be inspired and emboldened to Fearlessly Thrive in authentic innate worth. 

About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance.

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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There are all kinds of transitions points in life, some of which are akin to an abundant harvest. The Autumn Equinox acts as a mirror to these types of transitions, providing a map of what to expect so we can unstick blockages and make mindful decisions on actions and inactions.

In this episode of the No People Pleasing Zone, explore the three characteristics of the Autumn equinoxes. 

·       Abundance, celebration, thanksgiving 

·       Assessment – what is required and what isn’t 

·       Release – letting go of what isn’t required

And begin to ponder what it might mean, for you, metaphorically, to move from a period of dominant light to allowing darkness to be dominant for a while.

About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance.

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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It is time to stop muting your voice and your truth because you have something worthwhile to say. Returning to a social setting means returning to situations where it sometimes feels easier to stay silent and not rock the boat. But, a year and a half of not needing to control your voice may leave you desiring the ability to use your voice in the community to speak up for things you believe. In this episode, I’ll teach you the Adventurous Thrill technique so that you can stop struggling to find your voice and learn to speak your truth and stand behind your opinions.

About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance. 

Personal Links:

website: elizabethmartinchan.com instagram: elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5
Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now at reclaimingselfacceptance.com 

Thanks for listening!
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Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Or pop on over to Instagram and leave me a DM. 

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How we relate with ourselves is entirely dependent on our body image and how we feel in our bodies. Learning how to view our bodies without judgment, or at least with less judgment, can shift how we feel in our bodies. Ultimately impacting our sense of personal worthiness. Our guest today is Mitzie Gibson, a body-image advocate and empowerment photographer. In our interview, Mitzie discusses the importance of visibility in developing a relationship with self. Listen as Mitzie explores body shame, body positivity, and how to open the lens to playful self-discovery through photography. 

About the Guest:

Mitzie Gibson is a body-image advocate and empowerment photographer. She believes building healthy relationships starts with the Self, and deprogramming body shame is key for that process. It’s the quiet moments that do it for her, the ones of curiosity, vulnerability, and honesty; she creates tangible memories that tell a piece of your story. Mitzie Gibson photographs humans of all sizes, ages, body types and beyond…

With Covid 19 reopening, Mitzie is now traveling and doing in-person photoshoots.

Personal Links

Website: https://www.boldbodiescollective.com/

Patron: www.patreon.com/boldbodiescollective

Facebook: @boldbodies collective or www.facebook.com/groups/boldbodiescollective

IG @mitziegibson

About the Host:

Elizabeth Martin-Chan is an empowerment coach inspiring and emboldening women to lovingly embrace their gifts, passions, and innate worth. She believes that women everywhere can fearlessly thrive in their authenticity. Elizabeth helps women climb out of the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole so they can feel entitled to their needs and desires; excited to jump out of bed every morning; and confident in negotiating the path they walk. She is your accomplice in disrupting status quos, so you can reclaim self-acceptance. 

Personal Links:

website:elizabethmartinchan.com
instagram:elizabeth.martin.chan 

Resource Links

Grab your free copy of Adventure in Reclaiming Your Life: 5 Secrets Every People Pleasing Woman Should Know Now atreclaimingselfacceptance.com 

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