Not All Business

Are you waking up at 3am and can't explain why? You're not alone — and it's not random.

This week on Not All Business, we welcome Kristie Steinbock, traditional Chinese medicine practitioner and acupuncturist with 35 years in practice. Since early 2026, Kristie has seen an unprecedented surge of clients arriving with the same complaint: anxiety and insomnia. Her take? It's collective fear — and our nervous systems are paying the price.

Kristie walks us through her three-step framework — Pause, Feel, Decide — for breaking the reactive cycle whether it's 3am or the middle of a meeting that's gone sideways. She also weighs in on screens, sleep aids, hormones, mushrooms, and why your body's messages are louder at night when the veil gets a little thinner.

Plus: my van life debut (91 sleep score, naked RV park I fled), an update on #PIP4PUP, and a surprisingly deep dive into noetic science courtesy of Dan Brown.

Key Takeaways:

• Why anxiety and insomnia are spiking — and what's actually driving it

• The Pause, Feel, Decide framework for nervous system reset

• What waking up at 3am really means (and how to stop panicking about it)

• Screen time, sleep aids, mushrooms, and the two-hour rule

• How busyness culture is making us sick — and what leaders can do about it

Please consider sharing this episode & subscribing to the show for more unfiltered conversations about leadership, growth, and the messy human side of business.

Follow Kristie:

• Kristie on Substack: Red Dragon Writes - https://reddragon.substack.com/

• Kristie's Podcast (Coming Soon): Red Dragon Speaks

Links & Mentions:

• Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker: https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144324

• Crafted Leadership — Nancy Kepner's leadership training company: https://craftedleadership.com/about/meet-nancy-kepner/

• #PIP4PUP: Follow Heather's fitness journey on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heathercooper.nab/

• Polymarket — prediction markets platform: https://polymarket.com

  
  

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Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

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What does "business casual" actually mean? Apparently, nobody knows — and that's only the beginning.

On this Casual Friday episode of Not All Business, Blakely and Heather tackle three of the messiest workplace questions out there:

• Is using dating apps to land job interviews genius or deeply creepy?

• What does "business casual" actually mean when you're a curvy woman in a world of inconsistent dress codes?

• How do you fire someone without losing sleep for three nights straight — or ending up in the ER with a panic attack?

They cap it off with a Rapid Fire round of Agree or Disagree — from two-week notices to salary transparency to office romances — and Blakely finally wins one.

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Links & Mentions:

• Bloomberg: "Tough Job Market Has People Using Dating Apps to Get Interviews" https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2025-12-29/tough-job-market-has-people-using-dating-apps-to-get-interviews-mjqzm1bo

• After School by Casey Lewis (Substack — Gen Z trends newsletter Blakely references) https://afterschool.substack.com/

• Call Her Daddy: Michelle Obama — "We Still Go High" (episode referenced in the dress code conversation) https://open.spotify.com/episode/0upwE3EgwAmK9RxqeJeMZp

• Dr. Bronner's 5-to-1 CEO Pay Ratio (mentioned by Clay during salary transparency discussion) https://www.drbronner.com/blogs/our-employees/progressive-business-practices

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Thank You to Our Sponsors:

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast by Eleisha Everett

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Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

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In the age of AI, authentic lived experience is your competitive advantage. This week on Not All Business, we welcome Julie Lancaster, CEO of Lancaster Leadership and author of Beyond Words: How Our Stories & Strategies Inspire Leadership Actions.

Julie breaks down why all motivation is actually self-motivation (and what leaders can do about it), how to tell stories that influence and connect without taking your audience hostage, and why seasoned professionals need to learn storytelling to transfer their institutional wisdom before they become layoff targets.

We cover the REST framework for storytelling, the concept of a story bank and "homework for life," reverse mentorship as a bridge between generations, and why relationships always come before strategy.

Plus: a deep dive into tanning bed culture, get unready with me confusion, and whether founders should quit when AI changes everything overnight.

Key Takeaways:

• Why the only motivation is self-motivation (and how to trigger it through relationships)

• The REST framework: Relate, Engage, keep it Short, Theme

• How to build a story bank using "homework for life"

• Why reverse mentorship helps bridge generational gaps

• The difference between dynamic conversation styles and turn-taking communication

• How to handle founder burnout in the age of rapid AI change

Please consider sharing this episode & subscribing to the show for more unfiltered conversations about leadership, growth, and the messy human side of business.

Follow Julie:

• Julie on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julielancaster/

• Website: https://www.lancasterleadership.com

• Book: Beyond Words: How Our Stories & Strategies Inspire Leadership Action

Links & Mentions:

• Robert Cialdini's work on influence

• Matthew Dicks' Story Worthy and "Homework for Life" technique

• The Intern movie (reverse mentorship reference) - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Intern_(2015_film)

• Jason Lemkin's post about founders quitting at $200M ARR - https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jasonmlemkin_watching-three-3-founder-ceos-at-200m-arr-activity-7426735400137846785-k7Ug?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAABFrwUBtAwmbXUMhea4ZFTIU8xhmsOG1Cc

• Theodore Roosevelt quote: "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care"

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Thank You to Our Sponsors:

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast by Eleisha Everett

• YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKI9-4ly78GOjDoAGsDAb6eIHIy2WbL&si=yjyU2AG3t3WQ3B6D

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Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

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Most businesses are throwing content into the wind and hoping something sticks. But what if your social media strategy is moving you sideways instead of forward?

This week on Not All Business, we welcome Eleisha Everett, social media strategist and host of Your Audience is Waiting. Eleisha breaks down why consistency beats virality, how to know if you're solving an execution problem or a strategy problem, and what to do when your CEO becomes the bottleneck to your brand's growth.

Key Takeaways:

• Why "going viral" is the wrong goal (and what to aim for instead)

• The three non-negotiables for social media success

• How to diagnose when content isn't working: execution vs. strategy

• Leading up: How to move a resistant CEO toward social media

• Why sales, marketing, and product need to be in the same room

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Follow Eleisha:

• Eleisha on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eleishaeve/

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast:

• YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKI9-4ly78GOjDoAGsDAb6eIHIy2WbL&si=yjyU2AG3t3WQ3B6D

• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5W4srWNqYNE1e4T71wvrMX?si=32effdf1c7e74af9

• Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-audience-is-waiting/id1818965302

Links & Mentions:

• PIP for PUP: Follow Heather's fitness journey on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heathercooper.nab/

• Episode 16 with Nicole Christensen: https://notall.biz/[episode-16-link] (Where the PIP for PUP challenge originated)

• Kathryn O'Day (mentioned VC): https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathrynoday/

• CBS Colorado: "Colorado Buffaloes athletics making waves on social media thanks to Deion Sanders" https://www.cbsnews.com/colorado/news/deion-sanders-social-media-impact-coach-colorado-buffaloes-athletics-making-waves/

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Thank You to Our Sponsors:

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast by Eleisha Everett

• YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKI9-4ly78GOjDoAGsDAb6eIHIy2WbL&si=yjyU2AG3t3WQ3B6D

• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5W4srWNqYNE1e4T71wvrMX?si=32effdf1c7e74af9

• Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-audience-is-waiting/id1818965302

Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

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Ever wonder why networking feels so... performative? That's because most people are doing it all wrong.

This week on Not All Business, we welcome Baily Hancock, connection strategist and founder of Overlap Collective. Baily explains why that "open to work" badge on LinkedIn might be repelling opportunities, why you should stop separating your personal and work lives, and how to walk into a networking event without wanting to immediately fake a bathroom emergency.

We also debut PIP for PUP — Heather's very public fitness journey rooted in presidential fitness test trauma (the childhood fitness assessment program that traumatized a generation).

Key Takeaways:

• Why "People Are Portals"

• The LinkedIn Mistake You're Making

• How to Work a Room Without Feeling Gross

• The One Question That Breaks the Ice Every Time

Please consider sharing this episode & subscribing to the show for more unfiltered conversations about leadership, growth, and the messy human side of business.

Follow Baily:

• Baily on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bailyhancock/

• Baily on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bailyhancock/

• Overlap Collective: https://www.overlapcollective.com/

Links & Mentions:

• Presidential Fitness Test: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/President%27s_Council_on_Physical_Fitness_and_Sports

• PIP for PUP: Follow Heather’s fitness journey on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heathercooper.nab/

• Episode 16 with Nicole Christensen: https://notall.biz/episodes/ep-16-building-culture-the-uncomfortable-dirty-work-that-actually-makes-it-stick (Where the PIP for PUP challenge originated)

• Episode 2 with Michelle Lando: https://notall.biz/episodes/ep-2-from-self-doubt-to-self-advocacy (How Baily and the hosts connected through Michelle's network)

Submit Your Sticky Situations & Workplace Dilemmas:

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Thank You to Our Sponsors:

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast by Eleisha Everett

• YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKI9-4ly78GOjDoAGsDAb6eIHIy2WbL&si=yjyU2AG3t3WQ3B6D

• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5W4srWNqYNE1e4T71wvrMX?si=32effdf1c7e74af9

• Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-audience-is-waiting/id1818965302

Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

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It's Casual Friday—which means we're answering the sticky situations and workplace dilemmas you're too afraid to ask about anywhere else.

Today we're tackling: the fart noise that wasn't actually a fart (but you're still thinking about it once a month), getting contradictory feedback and constantly talked over as the only woman on your leadership team, and what to do when your boss asks you to lie to a client.

Plus: Rapid fire "Finish the Sentence" where Heather and Blakely get competitive and reveal the biggest corporate lie.

We want to hear YOUR sticky situations! Submit your story to ⁠notall.biz⁠—your question could be featured in an upcoming episode.

Please consider sharing this episode & subscribing to the show for more unfiltered conversations about leadership, growth, and the messy human side of business.

Mentions:

• After School by Casey Lewis Substack - An examination of youth culture. Trend analysis and insights, 5x a week, with an emphasis on Gen Z and Gen Alpha consumers. (https://afterschool.substack.com/) 

• Bloomberg Article - “Tough Job Marketing Has People Using Dating Apps To Get Interviews” (https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2025-12-29/tough-job-market-has-people-using-dating-apps-to-get-interviews-mjqzm1bo) 

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Thank You to Our Sponsors:

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast by Eleisha Everett

• YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKI9-4ly78GOjDoAGsDAb6eIHIy2WbL&si=yjyU2AG3t3WQ3B6D

• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5W4srWNqYNE1e4T71wvrMX?si=32effdf1c7e74af9

• Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-audience-is-waiting/id1818965302

Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

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We hit the top 1% of podcasts! 🎉 To celebrate our 21st episode, we brought back our celebrity guest star Lynda Harvey to tackle your messiest workplace dilemmas.

Lynda has hundreds of thousands of followers across social media and hosts the podcast "In the Business of Humans." She's dedicated to helping people navigate their work landscape and make better choices so they're actually happy at work.

In this episode:

• Why "being visible" at your desk doesn't equal productivity

• How to handle a boss who gossips about your coworkers

• What to do when toxic behavior gets labeled as "management style"

• Your options when approved PTO gets revoked

• Plus: Clay's jury duty adventure, complete with Spider-Man screenings and vape confiscation drama.

  
  

Lynda breaks down why you have more power in these situations than you think—and gives you the exact scripts to use when things get uncomfortable at work.

Please consider sharing this episode & subscribing to the show for more unfiltered conversations about leadership, growth, and the messy human side of business.

Follow Lynda:

• Lynda Harvey: The Manager Guru - Teaching you how to lead, speak fluent corporate, and protect your peace at work, all without losing your edge

• TikTok: @lynda.leads

• Instagram: @lynda.leads

• Podcast: In the Business of Humans https://open.spotify.com/show/1iN4lTZnChMClWdaZWvSgs?si=31e89dd13e06411a

  
  

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Thank You to Our Sponsors:

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast by Eleisha Everett

• YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKI9-4ly78GOjDoAGsDAb6eIHIy2WbL&si=yjyU2AG3t3WQ3B6D

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• Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-audience-is-waiting/id1818965302

Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

Why do toxic leaders keep getting promoted when everyone knows they're toxic? And why do we treat being human at work like it's optional?

It’s the Heathers episode! Blakely and Heather Cooper sit down with Heather Conklin, CEO of Torch and former SVP and General Manager at Salesforce, to talk about why we only bring a fraction of ourselves to work—the polished, professional tip of the iceberg—while hiding everything else that makes us human. Heather introduces us to "fail salad," breaks down why toxic leaders keep getting promoted despite everyone knowing who they are, and breaks down why companies keep choosing results over humanity—even when it eventually catches up to them.

Key Takeaways:

• The Toxic Leader Paradox - Why companies keep promoting toxic leaders at the same rate as good ones (and what it signals to everyone else)

• The Iceberg Principle - Why understanding what's beneath the surface of who people are changes everything about how you lead

• "Fail Salad" - The monthly ritual that builds psychological safety and actually encourages innovation

• How to Balance Results and Humanity - Why "I care just as much about what you do as how you do it" is the leadership standard we need

• The Sonder Concept - Why remembering that everyone has a rich, complex story you don't understand makes you a better leader

• Why Soft Skills Aren't Soft - They're actually higher-order skills that determine whether your team thrives or just survives

Please consider sharing this episode & subscribing to the show for more unfiltered conversations about leadership, growth, and the messy human side of business.

Follow Heather:

• Connect with Heather on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heatherconklin/  

• Learn about Torch: https://torch.io

Mentions:

• MIT Sloan Toxic Culture Research: https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/toxic-culture-is-driving-the-great-resignation/

• Heathers (1989 Movie): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097493/ 

• Adam Grant & Sonder Concept: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adammgrant/ 

• Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ 

Submit Your Sticky Situations & Workplace Dilemmas:

• Write a note: https://notall.biz

• Leave a voice memo: https://notall.biz/home#situations

• Send an email: [email protected]

Thank You to Our Sponsors:

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast by Eleisha Everett

• YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKI9-4ly78GOjDoAGsDAb6eIHIy2WbL&si=yjyU2AG3t3WQ3B6D

• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5W4srWNqYNE1e4T71wvrMX?si=32effdf1c7e74af9

• Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-audience-is-waiting/id1818965302

Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

#Female CEOs, #Female CEO Podcast, #Female Executive, #Female Executive Podcast, #Women in Business, #Real Talk about Work, #Toxic Workplace, #Workplace Dilemmas, #Heather Cooper, #Blakely Graham, #Heather Conklin #Torch

Ever watch yourself repeat the same pattern and think, "Why can't I just stop?"

Here's why: You're focused on the wrong thing.

In this episode, Lindsey Ferris—therapist and former Microsoft exec—breaks down the 3 phases of awareness that actually change behavior, why the pause between trigger and reaction is everything, and how she escaped the golden handcuffs after 20 years as one of the few women in tech.

This isn't about willpower. It's about rewiring your automatic responses and reducing workplace dilemmas.

Key Takeaways:

• The 3 Phases of Awareness - Why most people get stuck at phase 1 and never make it to actual change

• The Pause That Changes Everything - How to insert new behavior between trigger and reaction

• Golden Handcuffs Reality Check - What it actually costs to stay in a job that's killing you

• Why Awareness > Willpower - The real reason behavior change fails (and what to do instead)

• Adult Parenting Yourself - How to teach yourself the patterns you never learned and start redefining success

  
  

If you've ever felt trapped by your own autopilot, this conversation will change how you think about change.

Please consider sharing this episode & subscribing to the show for more unfiltered conversations about leadership, growth mindset, workplace dilemmas and the messy human side of business.

Follow Lindsey:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindseyferrismft/

• Talk Heal Thrive: https://www.talkhealthrive.com/

• Brain Genome: https://braingenome.ai/ - Use code NOTALLBIZ for 20% off Brain Genome reports

• Book: How to Smell Your Own Shit Before Stepping Into It Again: https://a.co/d/1BXzPnM

Submit Your Sticky Situations & Workplace Dilemmas:

• Write a note: ⁠⁠https://notall.biz⁠⁠
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• Send an email: [email protected]

Thank You to Our Sponsors:

• Your Audience is Waiting podcast by Eleisha Everett
• YouTube: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKI9-4ly78GOjDoAGsDAb6eIHIy2WbL&si=yjyU2AG3t3WQ3B6D⁠⁠
• Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/5W4srWNqYNE1e4T71wvrMX?si=32effdf1c7e74af9⁠⁠
• Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-audience-is-waiting/id1818965302⁠⁠

Keep exploring the stories that power Not All Business. Every episode opens the door to fresh insights on what it really means to be a Female Executive or Female CEO, navigating the highs, lows, and unexpected turns of leadership. From real-world workplace dilemmas to candid conversations about breaking barriers, this podcast gives you the tools, inspiration, and perspective to thrive in your own career. So don’t stop here, dive into more episodes, learn from other women in business, and stay connected to the conversations shaping the future of work. Your next breakthrough might be just one episode away. Subscribe for more unfiltered conversations about the messy reality of leadership, professional growth strategies, and the real talk about work with new episodes every week.

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It's our Christmas episode! Instead of bringing you a guest, we're bringing you something different—a moment to pause, reflect, and share what we're leaving behind and bringing into the new year.

This week, Blakely, Heather, and Clay gather in Boulder, Colorado for a festive check-in. We follow up on Clay's infamous phone lockbox experiment from Thanksgiving (spoiler: it actually worked), reminisce about our favorite childhood Christmas presents (Wonder Woman Underoos, Game Boys, and Barbie Dream Houses), and get real about what we're each choosing to let go of and embrace in 2025.

Key Moments:

• The Phone Lockbox Follow-Up - Clay successfully pulled it off at Thanksgiving using our advice (mostly). Blakely's attempt? Not so much. Her kids made a TikTok roasting her for it.

• Childhood Christmas Magic - From Wonder Woman Underoos to right-sized Barbies to Game Boys, we share the gifts that made us feel like kids on Christmas morning

• What We're Leaving Behind - Blakely shares her journey with her inner critic (good monkey vs. bad monkey), Heather lets go of the need for external success, and Clay releases scarcity mindset

• What We're Bringing In - Self-love, soulful presence, and creative abundance are on deck for 2026

• The Monkey Situation - Just trust us on this one. But maybe don't Google it at work.

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