Not Bitter. Just Petty.

This season ending bonus episode is a formal introduction and invitation to the One Fierce Woman Conference Experience!  The conference is being held in Arlington, Virginia on May 20 and 21, 2022.  It is an in-person event to which I hope you will all travel. However there will be atickets available to watch all the good stuff virtually on-demand! Check out thte conference website at OneFierceWoman.com and spread the word!

This is the season ending episode for season 2.  It is one of those ones where I readily admit, It ain't the best episode. I held onto it for a couple of weeks. I'm so greived. I ramble. But I got it out.  It needed to come out of me.  Thanks for listening and bearing with me...even though this aint the best.

As Nameica, Kimberly, Angila and I were wrapping up we started discussing things we would change on our wedding days. Titus 2 states that the older women should teach the younger woman. Nameica, however, says she's not sure she wants to follow the women of the old as it relates to marriage.  Is it still a good idea to follow the old ways? Are the older women really helping us?

 

I asked Angela Curvey-Chukwu, Kimberly Cleveland, and Nameica Craig to join me for a Q&A session.  We were able to get a few questions in, but it really felt like a few friends talking! 

We covered... what I hoped to gain from sharing my story and doing this podcast.

Whether I believed in love or marriage anymore.

What advice I had for young women contemplating marriage, and more.

Nameica Craig can be found at NameicaSpeaks.com

KimberlyCleveland on IG here

Angila Curvey-Chukwu on FB here

 

My guest is mindset coach De Lacy Paisley.  We went all way 'round Gee's Bend in this conversation!  She was such a pleasure to talk to.  

In the first part of this interview, we discuss purpose and how we know we are in our purpose vs. serving in a role.  And how to change out mindset in order to help stay in that purpose.  We also talk a lot about labels.  Specifically, how there are so many labels attached to womanhood and we need to start RE-JEC-TING all'oem!

We discuss aggressive, angry, emotional, irrational, and difficult.   As De Lacy says at the bottom of the episode... that's just foolishness and fuckery!  Take a listen and don't forget to check out the conference at OneFierceWoman.com.  Can't wait to see you in May!

 

Reach De Lacy on IG at https://www.instagram.com/doponpurpose/?hl=en and DopOnPurpose.com

My guests are dedicated fathers, all around awesome guys...Haile and Hampton.  I am continuing to get the male perspective on the Richard Williams debate.  How do we appropriately address the issue of men who abandon, cheat, and destroy their children without stereotyping the entire group.

I think this is an episode to share with men in your life.  But also, as Hampton says during the episode, there is a lot of information married women need  to hear also. 

Listen, and as always, let me know your thoughts!  Follow me on IG @GoReeReeGo and @OneFierce Woman.  The conference is coming up... One Fierce Woman: By Word of HER Testimony. Are you ready??

Cisco was full of wisdom in our last episode.  I couldn't let go of many of his great observations and advice from our recording session.  Here is a bonus episode of those clips I wanted to make sure to share with you. 

:59 Cisco shares how he had to "wrap his brain" around his efforts going to church, being a family man, yet having his marriage end.

1:23 Talking with his children and having conversations as Daddy vs. conversations as a man. He shares advice she gave his daughter and her husband before they moved in together.

2:45 Cisco shares what he'd tell his daughter if she were to confess being cheating on and leaving her husband.

4:28 After two divorces, our guest tells us what he'd do differently.

6:05 What he's learned about women from women starts here.  Then, we talk about what attracts women to married men and faithful fathers.

11:38 Cisco talks about the judgment he received because he was a man who had been cheated on. He also talks about how the religious condemnation about men getting divorced and the perception that they didn't lead their families.

16:40 What is it that makes him able to take a leap and get married again.  This is a GOOOOD answer!

20:30 The Long game adulterous women play explained.

After seeing a post about Richard Williams, father of Venus and Serena, I decided to explore a sensitive topic. Is it a fallacious narrative that African American fathers aren't present? How do we honor amazing black dads without dishonoring the experience of children and women who haven't been treated so well by the black fathers and husbands in their lives?

I started the conversation by chatting with Cisco Turpin.  I don't think I got my questioned answer but it's a great start! Take a listen and let me know your thoughts.

I am continuing to talk to Dr. Thandi.  She is a divorced mother of two who after being betrayed by her husband, now has to coparent with him and his side piece.  It ain't going good!

Like the word "petty" I think the word "co-parent" is used without thought. Women, lawyers, legislators, and counselors  haven't really thought about the impossibility of working jointly with someone who is unreasonably angry and, by the nature of their actions, not acting in the best interests of their children.  

Dr. Thandi and I discuss two alternative words, parallel parenting and counter parenting.  I'm interested to know what you think. 

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I know, I know... been long time.  I'm working through my stuff. And I'm committing again, to being regular with the podcast no matter how I feel.  So, thanks to Dr. Thandi for starting us back up.  

She's here to talk about the elusive unicorn of Coparenting. Our views differ just a bit.  This is part one of two, and in this episode  she talks about the background of how she came to be a single mom.  We'll get into the coparenting opinions next week with part two.  If you want to get in touch with Dr. T, here's her Facebook link here.