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January Reflections: The MOMologues in the Making

January has been an emotional whirlwind—a month filled with immense highs, lows, and deep reflection. As I continue to navigate the balancing act of motherhood while single, working two jobs, and my mental health, I’m reminded of the importance of grounding myself. This month’s montage captures it all: moments of vulnerability, resilience, as well as the big meaningful ways I honor myself.

Let’s be honest

This January, I’ve also felt the weight of so much more than just the usual pressures. As an African American woman, a descendant of a Tobagonian real-estate mogul, two generations removed, and a college-educated individual, I cannot ignore the heavy realities of the current political climate. The administration’s minute-by-minute dismantling of laws that have allowed my family, and so many others, to succeed feels crushing. That weight has lingered over everything this month, pushing me to think critically about the spaces I occupy and the ways I can create change.

Even amidst that heaviness, this month has brought moments of grounding and clarity. In my visual diary, you’ll find:

* Grounding Through Fitness: The gym remains my sanctuary. Whether it’s just me or with Biggie by my side, fitness has been my go-to for emotional stability and mental clarity. Movement helps me release what no longer serves me and stay connected to myself. Its where I can be a kid again!

* Work Realities and Reciprocity: As always, work demanded so much of me this month, and once again, I felt the sting of a lack of reciprocity. It’s a frustrating yet familiar theme that forces me to reevaluate where I place my energy. I show up fully, going above and beyond, but the support isn’t always mutual. When I say support I mean…

* Dating Dilemmas and the Male Diva: It’s not just work where I feel the imbalance—it’s also dating. I was recently dealing with a male diva that left me deeply contemplating the dynamics single mothers face in the dating world. We’re often preyed on, seen as easy targets, or expected to settle for less. I touched on this with a coworker recently, and let me just say, that candid conversation had me thinking: maybe single mothers should just link up and leave men to their dusty lives 🤷🏾‍♀️. Stay tuned on the 31st official Not Just a Motha podcast episode for January, where that very car conversation will take center stage. Here are some tips from Ms. Sprinkle Sprinkle that I have been taking on this journey.

* Motherhood Raw and Real: This montage also highlights the raw, unfiltered moments of motherhood. You’ll see clips of me crying—not because I’m giving up, but because I’m human. I’ve been navigating tough parenting moments, managing the hormonal shifts of my luteal phase, and feeling the emotional weight of the Cancer full moon that lingered this month. Yet even in those moments, I ground myself with gratitude, affirmations, and reflections, often giving thanks to my mother, who remains a constant pillar of support.

* Honoring Joy and Mental Health: Amid the heaviness, I make space for joy. Nights out, dancing, and enjoying myself aren’t escapes—they’re essential acts of self-care. These moments remind me that I am more than the roles I fill as a mother, worker, or partner to my BESTIE. I am a person with passions, dreams, and a right to joy.

* Political Pressure Meets Personal Resilience: The crushing weight of the administration’s actions has been a constant presence this month. But it’s also reminded me of the resilience and creativity that Black women bring to the world. This January, I joined the Black Project 2025 to engage in collective action for our community, and I stepped into a new space as a teacher on TikTok through Hillman University (Thank you Dr. Barlow!) What started as an accidental creation born out of Black brilliance has become a platform for me to share knowledge, inspire others, and connect with the #Hillmantok movement.

* The Weight of January: With depression, seasonal affective disorder, and the constant pressures of balancing it all, January felt heavy. But grounding practices like fitness, gratitude, and honoring what I love helped me stay rooted.

Journal Prompt: Reflecting on Balance and Grounding

This month’s reflections were all about grounding, resilience, and reclaiming joy despite life’s pressures. Take a moment to reflect on your own journey with this journal prompt:

Prompt:

* What are the moments or spaces in your life that feel grounding for you?

* Where do you feel a lack of reciprocity, and how can you set boundaries or shift your energy to honor yourself?

* What is one thing that brings you joy, outside of work or family, that you can commit to doing this week?

* How do you navigate heavy emotions like overwhelm, and what small practices can you lean on to stay rooted in gratitude or hope?

Whether you’re journaling privately or sharing in the comments, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Let’s start a conversation about how we find balance and honor ourselves in the chaos. 💜

Looking to February

This montage is more than just a recap—it’s a reflection of the raw, unfiltered truths that so often get overlooked, especially for mothers. It’s also a prelude to February’s Empress MOMologues podcast episode, where I’ll dive into the unseen labor, emotional weight, and candid conversations that come with motherhood.

If January taught me anything, it’s that grounding isn’t just about staying afloat—it’s about reclaiming stability, joy, and self-worth in a world that often demands too much and gives too little. Stay tuned for February as we continue to explore these truths together.

This is a huge moment of vulnerability so let me know what resonated with you most. Your feedback fuels me, and I love hearing from you! 💜

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Episode Overview

First things first. Let me remind you that this is a no-judgment zone.

Now, would you like to join me on an impromptu adventure through Brooklyn as I take a detour from errands and dive into some much-needed me-time. From juggling mom life to stepping into the Romantic Depot for a quick visit (yes, you read that right), this vlog is all about keeping it real, having fun, and finding balance in the chaos. Plus, I share a peek at my basket of goodies, and the reminder that it’s okay to embrace joy and spontaneity—no judgment here.

What’s Inside:

• 🚗 Impromptu pit stop: Why not pop into a sex shop during a free hour?

• 💄 Always date-ready vibes: Lip gloss is a must, even for solo adventures!

• 🛍️ What’s in my basket? A playful (and judgment-free!) peek at my goodies from Romantic Depot

Takeaways for the Tribe:

• A little spontaneity can recharge your energy in unexpected ways.

• Joyful, self-indulgent moments are just as important as the grind.

• Never forget: Self-care is as multifaceted as you are.

My Queens!

My goal in these vlogs is to personal and intimate parts of of my day to show my create a safe space for you. As moms, we’re juggling everything for everyone else, but sometimes, we need to lean into moments of fun, curiosity, and self-discovery. This episode is your reminder to do something random, unexpected, and just for YOU.

Life is all about balance—mom life, errands, and a dash of shenanigans. Stay crowned, stay grounded, and never be afraid to embrace the random moments.

💜 Like, comment, and subscribe for more real talk, adventures, and empowerment vibes.

💜 Stay crowned, stay grounded, and I’ll see you next time!

Empress Iman

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Episode Overview

First things first. Let me remind you that this is a no-judgment zone.

Now, would you like to join me on an impromptu adventure through Brooklyn as I take a detour from errands and dive into some much-needed me-time. From juggling mom life to stepping into the Romantic Depot for a quick visit (yes, you read that right), this vlog is all about keeping it real, having fun, and finding balance in the chaos. Plus, I share a peek at my basket of goodies, and the reminder that it’s okay to embrace joy and spontaneity—no judgment here.

What’s Inside:

• 🚗 Impromptu pit stop: Why not pop into a sex shop during a free hour?

• 💄 Always date-ready vibes: Lip gloss is a must, even for solo adventures!

• 🛍️ What’s in my basket? A playful (and judgment-free!) peek at my goodies from Romantic Depot

Takeaways for the Tribe:

• A little spontaneity can recharge your energy in unexpected ways.

• Joyful, self-indulgent moments are just as important as the grind.

• Never forget: Self-care is as multifaceted as you are.

My Queens!

My goal in these vlogs is to personal and intimate parts of of my day to show my create a safe space for you. As moms, we’re juggling everything for everyone else, but sometimes, we need to lean into moments of fun, curiosity, and self-discovery. This episode is your reminder to do something random, unexpected, and just for YOU.

Life is all about balance—mom life, errands, and a dash of shenanigans. Stay crowned, stay grounded, and never be afraid to embrace the random moments.

💜 Like, comment, and subscribe for more real talk, adventures, and empowerment vibes.

💜 Stay crowned, stay grounded, and I’ll see you next time!

Empress Iman

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🎥 Welcome to My NYE Vlog: Brooklyn Edition!

Follow me as I wrap up 2024 with a full day in Brooklyn—a mix of hustle, self-care, and celebration. This is my first ever vlog and I’m super excited about it! LMK your thoughts in the comments if you want more of these? From running errands and hitting the gym to prepping a cozy dinner, I’m balancing mom life, fitness, and my New Year’s Eve vibes.

What you gonna see is…

• 🏋🏾‍♀️ My NYE gym routine to close out the year strong. Tried out a new machine and let’s say… I gotta work on my angles but the shelf is comin!!

• 🛒 Running errands around Brooklyn like the multitasking queen I am.

• 🍳 Delegating task so I can cook a delicious NYE dinner to share with my family.

• 🥂 Reflections on the year and setting intentions for 2025.

💡 Highlights:

• Sharing some gym workout for busy moms from my fav IG girlies like

• How I keep things simple yet meaningful for New Year’s Eve.

• Real-life mom moments, because we all know it’s never perfect—but it’s always worth it.

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📩 Join the conversation:

What are your NYE traditions or last-minute rituals to close out the year? Share them in the comments below—I’d love to hear from you!

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell for more glimpses into mom life, self-care tips, and everything in between.

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🎥 Welcome to My NYE Vlog: Brooklyn Edition!

Follow me as I wrap up 2024 with a full day in Brooklyn—a mix of hustle, self-care, and celebration. This is my first ever vlog and I’m super excited about it! LMK your thoughts in the comments if you want more of these? From running errands and hitting the gym to prepping a cozy dinner, I’m balancing mom life, fitness, and my New Year’s Eve vibes.

What you gonna see is…

• 🏋🏾‍♀️ My NYE gym routine to close out the year strong. Tried out a new machine and let’s say… I gotta work on my angles but the shelf is comin!!

• 🛒 Running errands around Brooklyn like the multitasking queen I am.

• 🍳 Delegating task so I can cook a delicious NYE dinner to share with my family.

• 🥂 Reflections on the year and setting intentions for 2025.

💡 Highlights:

• Sharing some gym workout for busy moms from my fav IG girlies like

• How I keep things simple yet meaningful for New Year’s Eve.

• Real-life mom moments, because we all know it’s never perfect—but it’s always worth it.

Thanks for reading Empress, Your Not Just A Motha - Substack! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.

📩 Join the conversation:

What are your NYE traditions or last-minute rituals to close out the year? Share them in the comments below—I’d love to hear from you!

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell for more glimpses into mom life, self-care tips, and everything in between.

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#NotJustAMotha #DayInTheLife #BrooklynMom #NYE2024 #MomLifeJourney

Today, we’re talking about a song that shifted my perspective and became a lifeline: Beyoncé’s “Bigger.” Let’s unpack what it means to live for more than just survival.

Thrivin -over- Survivin

This fall, I found myself back in a moment I’ve been trying to leave behind—the grind of doing it all while forgetting who I truly am. But then, a line from Beyoncé’s “Bigger” hit me like a wave: “Life is your birthright. They hid that in the fine print.”

It reminded me that my life isn’t just about surviving—it’s about thriving. For years, I let the weight of motherhood and societal expectations cloud my vision. But now? I’m PROUDLY reclaiming my joy, my identity, and my purpose. Some days its glamorous but most are no different than you. Self, kids, work, home & gym then repeat. Although my pallet has definitely changed since divorce music continues to be my saving grace.

Nurturing Self: Beyond Motherhood

Music has always been therapy for me, a way to reconnect with my soul. In full transparency after my first move to NJ and the pandemic music was less of a focus. Yet during the darkest times I was able to call in what I needed to fight the strengthening tide. Bigger by Beyoncé became my anthem, blasting through the car speakers while I sobbed on drives, reminding me that I am part of something so much greater.

I am forced to remember this life isn’t just about me; it’s about my kids, my ancestors, and the legacy I want to leave behind. Listening to this song on repeat wasn’t just an act of survival—it was an act of resistance, a way to honor the woman I was and the Empress in bloom.

Moment of Joy: A Shift in the Mirror

When my oldest daughter recently told me, “Mom, you look happy now,” it shook me. For years, she saw the hard-working, often sad, survival-mode version of me. Now, she’s starting to see a mom who smiles more, laughs louder, and walks taller.

That moment reaffirmed why I’m doing this work—not just for myself but to show my kids what joy and resilience look like. It’s never too late to rewrite your story.

Stay Tuned for my first vlog post tomorrow! I want you to get to know more so we can truly create the community we need for 2025 and beyond!

Crowned and Grounded: Reflection Prompts

Life is a constant evolution, and motherhood adds its own layers of growth and transformation. Take a moment to pause and ask yourself:

• What’s one area of your life where you can embrace being more than enough?

• How can you rewrite your story to reflect the love, joy, and abundance you truly deserve?

• What small but meaningful act can you take today to reclaim your energy and refocus on your dreams?

• Which of your past experiences has shaped the resilient, thriving woman you are today?

• What does living a life bigger than survival mean to you?

I love this last one. For me living bigger than survival is now transitioning from outward care to more inner work. Therapy, self study of the feminine flow as mentioned in the Empress Monologues #3, shadow work.

Heres another one from the community!

Remember, these reflections aren’t just questions—they’re invitations to honor your power, your progress, and the limitless possibilities ahead. Let them guide you toward showing up as the bold, radiant Empress you are. 🌟

Why This Episode Matters

“Bigger” isn’t just a song—it’s a reminder that our lives are deeply connected to something greater. This episode dives into how music can anchor us, remind us of our strength, and help us reclaim the joy that motherhood often obscures.

Whether you’re drowning in survival mode or finally catching your breath, this episode is for you.

Resources from this Episode:

• Beyoncé – Bigger

• Goapele - Closer

• Coax Marie – I Am Enough

• The Four Agreements

• Peacekeeping Playlist

Let me know how this feels! 😊

Whats next? Christmas Music!!!!

So I have shared my Peacekeeping Playlist in the past on Threads. I would love for you to drop your favorite anthems in the comments, and let’s build a playlist that lifts us all. As a present to you all I am releasing an exclusive the NJAM Anthem song so you can get your spirit right for this new year!

Stream “Empress Manifesto” on Soundcloud

This is not just song is an affirmation declaration to sing loud and proud. To course correct your inner compass before you have to check a ni**a!

IYKYK

Also, a quick reminder: You are not just surviving—you are thriving. You are not just a mother. You are a whole mood.

With love and music,

✨ Empress Iman

Thanks for reading Empress, Your Not Just A Motha - Substack! This post is public so feel free to share it.

Today, we’re talking about a song that shifted my perspective and became a lifeline: Beyoncé’s “Bigger.” Let’s unpack what it means to live for more than just survival.

Thrivin -over- Survivin

This fall, I found myself back in a moment I’ve been trying to leave behind—the grind of doing it all while forgetting who I truly am. But then, a line from Beyoncé’s “Bigger” hit me like a wave: “Life is your birthright. They hid that in the fine print.”

It reminded me that my life isn’t just about surviving—it’s about thriving. For years, I let the weight of motherhood and societal expectations cloud my vision. But now? I’m PROUDLY reclaiming my joy, my identity, and my purpose. Some days its glamorous but most are no different than you. Self, kids, work, home & gym then repeat. Although my pallet has definitely changed since divorce music continues to be my saving grace.

Nurturing Self: Beyond Motherhood

Music has always been therapy for me, a way to reconnect with my soul. In full transparency after my first move to NJ and the pandemic music was less of a focus. Yet during the darkest times I was able to call in what I needed to fight the strengthening tide. Bigger by Beyoncé became my anthem, blasting through the car speakers while I sobbed on drives, reminding me that I am part of something so much greater.

I am forced to remember this life isn’t just about me; it’s about my kids, my ancestors, and the legacy I want to leave behind. Listening to this song on repeat wasn’t just an act of survival—it was an act of resistance, a way to honor the woman I was and the Empress in bloom.

Moment of Joy: A Shift in the Mirror

When my oldest daughter recently told me, “Mom, you look happy now,” it shook me. For years, she saw the hard-working, often sad, survival-mode version of me. Now, she’s starting to see a mom who smiles more, laughs louder, and walks taller.

That moment reaffirmed why I’m doing this work—not just for myself but to show my kids what joy and resilience look like. It’s never too late to rewrite your story.

Stay Tuned for my first vlog post tomorrow! I want you to get to know more so we can truly create the community we need for 2025 and beyond!

Crowned and Grounded: Reflection Prompts

Life is a constant evolution, and motherhood adds its own layers of growth and transformation. Take a moment to pause and ask yourself:

• What’s one area of your life where you can embrace being more than enough?

• How can you rewrite your story to reflect the love, joy, and abundance you truly deserve?

• What small but meaningful act can you take today to reclaim your energy and refocus on your dreams?

• Which of your past experiences has shaped the resilient, thriving woman you are today?

• What does living a life bigger than survival mean to you?

I love this last one. For me living bigger than survival is now transitioning from outward care to more inner work. Therapy, self study of the feminine flow as mentioned in the Empress Monologues #3, shadow work.

Heres another one from the community!

Remember, these reflections aren’t just questions—they’re invitations to honor your power, your progress, and the limitless possibilities ahead. Let them guide you toward showing up as the bold, radiant Empress you are. 🌟

Why This Episode Matters

“Bigger” isn’t just a song—it’s a reminder that our lives are deeply connected to something greater. This episode dives into how music can anchor us, remind us of our strength, and help us reclaim the joy that motherhood often obscures.

Whether you’re drowning in survival mode or finally catching your breath, this episode is for you.

Resources from this Episode:

• Beyoncé – Bigger

• Goapele - Closer

• Coax Marie – I Am Enough

• The Four Agreements

• Peacekeeping Playlist

Let me know how this feels! 😊

Whats next? Christmas Music!!!!

So I have shared my Peacekeeping Playlist in the past on Threads. I would love for you to drop your favorite anthems in the comments, and let’s build a playlist that lifts us all. As a present to you all I am releasing an exclusive the NJAM Anthem song so you can get your spirit right for this new year!

Stream “Empress Manifesto” on Soundcloud

This is not just song is an affirmation declaration to sing loud and proud. To course correct your inner compass before you have to check a ni**a!

IYKYK

Also, a quick reminder: You are not just surviving—you are thriving. You are not just a mother. You are a whole mood.

With love and music,

✨ Empress Iman

Thanks for reading Empress, Your Not Just A Motha - Substack! This post is public so feel free to share it.

Introducing Empress Mantras: Your Daily Dose of Peace, Power, and Presence

Hey Empress,

Motherhood is a journey, and let’s be honest—it’s not always an easy one. Some days feel like they come with more triggers than triumphs, but those moments are where we reclaim our power. That’s where the Empress Mantras come in.

These mantras are here to guide you—whether you’re navigating chaos, feeling overwhelmed, or simply taking a moment for yourself. They’re not just words; they’re spells of intention designed to shift your energy and bring you back to your center.

Here’s how you can use them this week:

• When you’re triggered: Take a deep breath, pause, and repeat your mantra. Let it settle in your mind and body, softening the tension.

• In your morning routine: Start your day with intention by writing down a mantra that resonates with you. Place it somewhere you’ll see often.

• During moments of joy: Even on your good days, let these mantras be a celebration of the peace you’ve cultivated and the growth you’re embracing.

This week’s theme is Embracing Rest, Rediscovery, and Joy. As you move through the week, these mantras are here to remind you that you are worthy of rest, transformation, and every ounce of joy coming your way:

7 Empress Mantras for the Week

1. “I am allowed to rest without guilt; my well-being is just as important as my responsibilities.”

2. “I celebrate my growth and the strength I’ve gained from the challenges I’ve faced.”

3. “Each day, I get stronger—in body, mind, and spirit. I am proud of the work I am doing for myself.”

4. “I am not just surviving; I am thriving in my journey of self-discovery.”

5. “I create small moments of joy that pour into me and uplift my spirit.”

6. “I deserve to invest in myself, and my self-care routines are acts of love.”

7. “I am more than enough just as I am, and my journey is uniquely beautiful.”

Write or download the mantras, save them, and let them become part of your daily routine. Add them to your personal spell book or screenshot the cards to keep them close. As Erykah Badu said, “Spelling is a spell.” Write it down, speak it, and watch it transform your reality.

How will you use your Empress Mantras this week? Share your thoughts in the comments, or let me know if one of them is already helping you reclaim your peace and power.

Thanks for Reading, Empresses!

Remember, you’re not just a mother—you’re a whole mood, a movement, and a masterpiece.

Let me know what resonated with you most this week—I love hearing from you. And don’t forget to follow me for daily vibes:

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With love,

Empress Iman👑✨

👑✨ “Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s how you polish your crown. Stay radiant, Empress.”💜

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