Not So Chic with Elli Freeman

Not So Chic with Elli Freeman

By Elli Freeman

Hosted by Elli Freeman, Not So Chic feels like a late-night FaceTime call about the parts of life that don’t always make it onto Instagram. From heartbreak, friendships, and identity to confidence, lo... more

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  1. Number 1: Your Inner Critic Needs to Shut Up

    Shame is the voice that turns “I embarrassed myself” into “I’m embarrassing,” “they didn’t text me back” into “I’m unlovable,” and one slightly questionable social interaction into a seven-year recurring thought before bed. This week, we’re talking about shame: where it comes from, why it thrives in secrecy, the difference between shame and guilt, perfectionism as shame management, vulnerability hangovers, people-pleasing, body image, and the exhausting experience of constantly imagining yourself through everyone else’s eyes. I’m also sharing some of my own greatest hits in shame—including accidentally lying to my dentist about my entire life, my complicated relationship with calling myself an influencer, and the occasional decision to say fuck it and choose fun over being perceived perfectly. Because the goal isn’t to become completely shameless. It’s to stop letting shame decide who you’re allowed to be. And maybe the things you’ve spent your entire life trying to hide aren’t the things making you unlovable. Maybe they’re just the things making you human. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    39min
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  2. Number 2: He Was Better in My Imagination

    I’ve spent most of my life romanticizing everything—relationships, friendships, college, moving to a new city, rainy days, heartbreak… you name it. And while I don’t ever want to stop finding magic in ordinary life, I’m starting to realize there’s a difference between romanticizing your life and becoming attached to a version of it that only exists in your head. This week, we’re talking about the stories we write for ourselves, why situationships can sometimes hurt more than actual relationships, grieving potential instead of people, and what happens when reality doesn’t follow the script we imagined. Maybe growing up isn’t about becoming less romantic. Maybe it’s about realizing the best parts of your life might be the ones you never saw coming. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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  3. Number 3: The Mindset Shift That Actually Worked

    For years I thought confidence came from fitting in. Dressing like everyone else. Dating the "right" people. Chasing validation from strangers, boys, and anyone willing to tell me I was enough. Turns out I couldn't have been more wrong. In this episode, I'm talking about the biggest shift I've made over the last few years: learning how to live a life that's actually aligned with my values instead of everyone else's expectations. From outpatient therapy and value sorting to dressing for myself, dating authentically, and finally letting my inner child have a seat at the table, this is a conversation about what happens when you stop shrinking yourself just to belong. If you've ever felt like you're constantly performing a version of yourself that everyone else seems to like more than the real you, I hope this episode reminds you that the people who are meant for you will never require you to abandon yourself. Because the goal was never to fit in. It was to finally feel like yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    34min
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  4. Number 4: He Can Join When He Gets Here

    Being single is not a problem I’m currently trying to solve. This week, we’re talking about how to actually enjoy being single without swearing off love, pretending you never get lonely, or treating every man you meet like a potential husband. From awful Hinge dates and imaginary perfect boyfriends to protecting your friendships, romanticizing your own life, and realizing that being chosen was never really the goal. Maybe I’ll fall madly in love one day. I hope I do. But I’m not spending the years before that happens waiting for my life to start. He can join when he gets here. We’ll get him a wine glass too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    32min
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  5. Number 5: To My Little Sister(s)

    Apparently being a big sister became my entire personality. This week we're talking about siblings, the people who become siblings, why I spent 23 years trying to save my little sister, and what happens when the caretaker finally learns to let go. Plus, Guest Therapy for anyone convinced they're behind in life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    35min
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