Not So Different After All

Milestones…Oh my word, ya’ll! The struggles are real! Notice that I pluralized the saying? Well, I did because when it comes to our children and the grody “milestone” comparison verbiage the list can seem endless and exhausting. And, ya’ll, it begins with conception! Yes, I said in the womb! The doctors are already measuring the baby bump and they continue to measure the baby, then toddler, then child for many moons to come. It’s literally a comparison list of expectations taken from a generalization of your child’s (baby’s, infant’s, fetus’) peers (all born in the same year). How are they measuring? What do they weigh? How is their progression? Are they sitting, crawling, walking, talking, etc? It’s the Keeping Up With The Jones’ and most of the time we don’t even recognize it as such. Our suggestions? Listen to your mommy instinct (or daddy instinct), but don’t allow unhealthy thoughts in with it. No second guessing and wondering if you should have said or done more…sooner…blah blah blah. Realize that there are times that as the parent you can only do so much, then it’s in the Creator’s hands, or even the doctor’s hands. Have your tribe and be transparent with them. When it gets hard, find your balance–bring yourself back to your good space, safe place–however and in whatever way–make it happen. And if you have schedules that work, by all means share them with us… or just give us grace… because none of us have seemed to keep a schedule alive and thriving in our households! Let’s stop the madness, change our perspective, and love these kiddos right where they are.

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We all would like to think we will win every goal we set. We will aim high and soar even higher. We will hit it out the ball park! We will dominate! But how many of us can actually say this is the case most of the time? Or even some of the time? I know, I know… You’re probably thinking we’re being party poopers right now. We’re souring the milk. We’re sucking all the life out of your New Year’s resolutions! Well, it doesn’t have to be that way! We’re just trying to set you up for success…ha! Just hear us out.

This is a quick episode on setting goals and meeting those goals. Winning with goals. We give some tips and advice that has helped us out personally as well as others that we know.

Quick tid bits like: it’s not enough to just set your goals. You need a plan for your goals. If you want your goals to succeed you need to set realistic goals for your life at this point and time. Set fewer goals so you can be more focused on succeeding in them as well as doing so with excellence–with a bang!

Some really important tips. Ya’ll know these are dear to our hearts. We mention these all the time. You may have already guessed… Our mantras may be playing like a broken record in your brain. Good! If not, just keep listening to our episodes over and over again. I promise you. It’ll happen eventually. So let’s go to those points…here they are. Don’t compare yourself, your reality, your achievements, your abilities, or your goals to others! And by all means, give yourself grace. Grace after grace after grace.

And thank you. Thank you for joining us. Thank you for choosing to be a part of our tribe. We are excited to have you with us!

So there it is. There you have it. Have yourself a good listen or two. Take some notes. Feel free to share some thoughts with us. Questions. Your own tips.

Oh the holidays!  Ya’ll!  The traditions, the giving, the receiving, the time with family, the cooking and eating, the stress of it all.  Tis the season!  How are you handling it?  The holidays look different for everyone.  They start at different times.  Celebrated in different ways.  But they can drive us all down crazy lane quickly if we don’t keep our expectations and our hearts in check.  Are we making sure we stay healthy this holiday season (and I don’t just mean not eating all the food ha!).  What is your heart telling you?  How does logic tell you this time shared with others should be like?  And if your heart or your brain (or let’s be honest, other people’s social media or personal input into your life or family) is telling you something erred, dishonest, a lie; go find yourself the truth and follow it!  The truth is, you should be doing more of what makes you and your family stay in a healthy mindset and emotional state.  The truth is you should be concerned with giving more love to others and not more money to the cashier to buy that present.  The truth is that it’s not about how much time you spend with those who want to see you but the quality of the time you spend.  The truth is that the special day you spend with your loved ones isn’t in the date, but it’s in the memories shared.  This and more you can hear about when you tune into this episode!  Thanks for sharing this holiday time with us. -S.C.C.

Ok, ya’ll. So we say we strive to be raw and real. We pride ourselves on it. Dare I say we are better people for it. And this! This is SOOOOOOOOO RAW and REAL! Bear with us as we talk labor and delivery. You’ll get a good feel of what heaven and hell was like all wrapped up in one tiny little present for each of us. We talk birth plans, how we dealt…dealt with pain, husbands, people in general, life after giving birth. We have some expectations we discuss as well and what was met or wasn’t. Are you a drug or no drug momma, how long do you plan or want to stay in the hospital? Do you want your husband to touch you or not? Will you have the whole neighborhood in your room or just the doctor and the whole hospital staff? Will you be ok with how your labor and delivery went and how you and your baby meld into life? Have a plan A but be prepared and be OK if you have to travel down to Plan B, C, or even Z.

Ya’ll! Self care though! We all want it (and just know that we all need it), but it seems like we all struggle with it. Self Care. It’s strength and beauty and perseverance all wrapped up in a pretty little elusive bundle tied up with a bow of wonder. So what’s the struggle? Is our definition or expectation of our self care not attainable at this point in life? Or do we feel our self care must be wrong because it’s not like our friends’ or the self care that is currently in the lime light? Yes, your self care CAN BE knitting, or baking, or reading, alongside lifting, jogging, pedicures…you name it! We all struggle to stay afloat on the same boat. And you can hear all about our thoughts right here. Feel free to share your own. We are a tribe trying to help each other out!

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Hey, ya’ll! So we did another thing! We have our first episode! Oh my word! So many emotions! It was fun, and scary, and relieving, and exciting, and nerve-wrecking, and well…it was done! We recorded our first episode. It’s our Ground Zero! Can ya’ll believe it?! We have a ground zero! This is where we introduce ourselves to you! Not So Different. Three women who became wives then mommas. A tribe. A life sustaining tribe that shares our real and raw with lots of love and grace. We strive to be ok with just being ourselves no matter what that looks like in that momentary reality of life. We bring a lot to the table being three different women from three different walks of life that just so happened to find ourselves on the same path. If you’re a younger mom, older mom, single mom, overwhelmed mom, confused mom, I’m about to lose my mind mom; or yes to all things mom, I can’t not say no to that mom, soaring high mom, or blessed mom–come join us. Be a part of our tribe. Come be present with us and do life with us. Welcome to our tribe–S.C.C.

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