Not So Secret Lives

In this episode, Karina and Chan are back with all the juicy updates! From unexpected dates to wild encounters out in the real world, we’re spilling it all. Chan went out with someone we never saw coming, and we're diving into whether relationships can really work when your beliefs totally clash. We’re talking compatibility, real-life connections, sex, and why Karina and Chan are convinced they’re destined to stay single (spoiler: we’re laughing through it). Plus—major moment—Karina finally took a nap! Tune in for laughs, real talk, and all the spicy stories you’ve missed.

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This week, we’re getting real (and a little rebellious) with our guest Jennie — who left the church and an 18-year marriage like it was a bad group chat and never looked back. She takes us through her journey of shedding shame, realizing her body wasn’t just for making casseroles and babies, and figuring out who she actually is outside of religion and marriage.

We talk about the awkward (and sometimes hilarious) parts of finding yourself sexually after years of repression, the therapy sessions that cracked her wide open, and the people who showed up when she found herself again. Jennie opens up about rebuilding from scratch — with no blueprint, but plenty of courage — and learning to be unapologetically proud of the woman she’s become.

This episode is raw, funny, honest, and perfect for anyone who's ever had a moment of “WTF am I doing with my life?” and needed to hear, “You’re not alone — and you’ve got this.”

Most importantly, Jennie shares how she learned to be proud of the woman she is today — stronger, wiser, and finally living life on her own terms. We are so proud of you girl and so happy to have a new woman to add to the friend list!

Want to talk to Jennie about making all of your hair dreams come true? You can message her on TickTok or Instagram @TheJennieAffect

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This week, we’re busting myths and dropping facts—from erectile dysfunction and STIs to the age-old claim that men want sex more than women (uhh, let’s talk about that). We’re calling out the BS and keeping it all the way real.

Fellas, want to know where the G spot really is? We got you. And yes, we’re spilling the tea on the G spot for men too—because pleasure ain’t one-sided.

And ladies, let’s talk about the 7 most erogenous zones on a woman’s body that deserve way more attention. (Hint: it’s not just about the obvious spots—think neck, ears, lower back... 👀)

We go deep into ego, shame, and why asking for help in the bedroom—or the doctor’s office—should never feel embarrassing.

This episode is sexy, informative, and real AF. So whether you're tryna improve your sex game or just love a good convo, you’ll wanna hit play on this one.

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Getting Spiritually Smacked with Tarot Readings by Haylie

In this episode, we sit down for a raw, honest, and unexpectedly emotional tarot reading with our magical, intuitive, and absolutely radiant friend Haylie. From the moment the cards hit the table, the truths came pouring out — and baby, they did NOT hold back. 💀✨

We dive into conversations about life, love, depression, growth, and everything in between. Haylie’s reading didn’t just call us out (gently… sort of 😅), it offered clarity, comfort, and a few much-needed laughs. This episode is a mix of tough truths, real talk, and those spiritual slaps we didn’t know we needed.

Haylie is an absolute gem of a human and guided us through the reading with love, intuition, and a little bit of sass. Whether you're a tarot lover, skeptic, or just here for the vibes — you’re gonna feel this one.

Grab your tea, light a candle, and come get spiritually smacked with us. 🔮💬💕

If you are looking for a reading of your own, please reach to Haylie on Instagram @haylies_comets

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This week, we sit down with an incredible guest whose journey is nothing short of inspiring. She went from being in a relationship with a Mormon man and raising five children to embracing her true self, falling in love with a woman, and launching her own dance business, Floor Play by Fay. She’s all about confidence, empowerment, and helping women feel comfortable in their own skin—one high-heeled dance step at a time. We’re talking transformation, self-love, and the power of women supporting women. You don’t want to miss this one! 💃✨

You can find Fay on her socials and check out her website for classes!

@https://www.instagram.com/fay2themax/

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Well, it happened. We don’t know how we got here but, here we are! Dating in your 40s! Buckle up, because it’s a wild ride! In this episode, we dive into the absolute chaos that is modern dating at this stage in life—the red flags, the disappointments, the rare gems, and the hilarious horror stories. But of course, things take a turn when our audio guy decides to put us in the hot seat, asking some unexpected and personal questions about what it’s like to date us. Things get messy, real, and ridiculously funny—just how we like it!

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Ever wondered what it really means to be in an open relationship? In this episode, we sit down with the author of For Better or Even Better -Lauren Hayes, who is also a swinger and ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) lifestyle and relationship coach. She takes us deep into the world of ENM, sharing the truths, myths, breaking down misconceptions, and spicy details about love without limits. We also dive into her book, exploring how couples can thrive in unconventional relationships. Trust us—this one is unfiltered, eye-opening, and seriously steamy… or at least spicy vanilla 😉

The link to Laurens book – For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist on amazon - https://a.co/d/47lEil1

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Look, we’re not experts… but we’ve got Google to help us out! We took a deep dive into the internet’s list of dating do’s and don’ts, and let’s just say… we have thoughts. In this episode, we’re breaking down all the so-called “rules” of dating—and giving our unfiltered, and slightly chaotic opinions. Some we totally agree with, and others? Yeah, not so much. Expect plenty of laughs, opinions, debates, and probably a few side-eye moments as we give our take on what’s actually good advice and what’s just straight-up ridiculous.

Tune in for the laughs, the lessons, and maybe even a little tough love. Don’t be the walking red flag—press play now! 🎧💘

Got a dating fail? Slide into our DMs—we might just share it on air! 😉

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After a 2 week break and a couple recording hiccups were back baby! We’re officially in the studio, and we’re bringing the same raw, unfiltered energy with us! In this episode, we spill the tea on our recent dates—some good, some… well, let’s just say memorable. We dive into our dating styles, how emotional attachment plays a role when sex is involved.... or does it?! Lots of laughs and some side commentary from our new partner in audio, Sean! Grab your drink, get comfy, and join us for another juicy convo about dating, lust, and everything in between!

In this episode, we're diving back into the world of dating apps and trying to navigate finding love (or at least a good laugh) while juggling our crazy schedules. Between sharing hilarious messages from the apps, and recording while under the weather, we’re embracing the messy reality of modern dating.

We had some scheduling conflicts so next week episode we will be shooting the shiz with our special guests from the podcast A Little Bit Of Me In You!

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