notes from an eldest daughter

Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers wednesday’s’! Exploring intuition, boundaries, and love in this episode.

thought of the week: healing is always an act of strength and love, even when it's difficult <33

And as always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means a lot to me 🫶🏾

• Song of the week: AMOR - CUBE and Devin Morrison

• Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/devinmorrison-sc
• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/3l92wA0u6WYQ659zGdVZll?si=bcb9a471c3644f6d
• Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/album/amor/1877963142?i=1877963143
• Youtube: https://youtu.be/t24bpFZtBfE?si=QoZMYxx3-X11OG0R

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

5:18 - Card #1 (missing people)

7:20 - Card #2 (keeping your energy)

17:28 - Card #3 (trust the process!)

21:45 - Outro

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Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers wednesday’s’! sharing quick recipes, good (private) news and simple ways to ease your anxiety in this week’s episode! as always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means a lot to me 🫶🏾

• Song of the week:
• girl, get up - Doechii feat. SZA
• Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/iam-doechii/girl-get-up
• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/2igNvPf7RLTZG688Mx8GtU?si=204b51e05e3f485f
• Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/album/girl-get-up-single/1865239526
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBKJbedSrA0&list=RDjBKJbedSrA0&start_radio=1

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

2:50 - Card #1 (lazy meals)

8:00 - Card #2 (sunday resets)

12:11 - Card #3 (good news)

14:06 - Outro

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Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers wednesday’s’! Valentine’s Day edition - love is in the air, the birds are chirping, the sun is truly shining (even after rainy days), and life is well 😊. Thank you for spending your Valentine’s (and any other day) with me - it’s truly appreciated. Hope everyone listening and/or reading had a wonderful Valentine’s Day and as always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the a lot to me 🫶🏾

• Song of the week: Yonaguni - Bad Bunny (Benito <33):

• Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/badbunny15/bad-bunny-yonaguni
• Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/track/2JPLbjOn0wPCngEot2STUS?si=b054faeccc6f4a60
• Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/album/yonaguni-single/1570323047
• Youtube: https://youtu.be/doLMt10ytHY?si=x1IrFc_BWM95fKge

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

6:18 - Card #1 (rest)

10:44 - Card #2 (self-love)

13:40 - Card #3 (safety!)

21:45 - Outro

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Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’! Starting off the wonderful (and unfortunately, short) month of February with a wnrsw episode. Happy Black History Month, read your James Baldwin and Zelle your Black friends 5 bucks, STAT! Started off on a somber note, but ended on a high one, and overall a fun episode to record!

• Stateside -PinkPantheress and Zara Larsson
• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/1DwscornXpj8fmOmYVlqZt?si=e00231cc75d847d2
• Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/pinkpantheress/stateside-zara-larsson
• Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/album/stateside-with-zara-larsson/1843595790?i=1843595808
• Youtube: https://youtu.be/lIxQe1R5hs0?si=WpQl0Gwdi-yG0DEm

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

3:13 - Card #1 (being emotionally old)

7:32 - Card #2 (the beach)

9:34 - Card #3 (Gordon Ramsay)

16:51 - Outro

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This episode was basically a ‘books of January 2026” with a sprinkle of the other two cards lolz.

Anyways, had so much fun recording (as per usual) and am so excited for y’all to potentially check books I’m reading in January! There’s a little something for everyone (especially eldest daughters), so feel free to DM or message me on substack/instagram/tiktok to share what books you’ve been reading lately as well as any book you’ve added to your TBR list from my current reads!

As always, thank you for tuning in this week and thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means a lot to me 🫶🏾

0:00 - intro + weekly check-in

7:38 - Card #1 (TBR)

29:21 - Card #2 (actually taking naps)

32:31 - Card #3 (late night drives)

37:15 - Outro

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It’s 2026 and it’s the very first episode of we’re not really strangers wednesday! whoooo~! I had so much fun recording this episode and I hope y’all have fun listening to it as well <33

song of the week: take my mind - WizTheMC and bees & honey

• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/5Jrwoi3hNDkcSVJisOQFAP?si=Ge482qO-Rry0JYgYSHpyhw
• Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/album/take-my-mind/1822793963?i=1822794234
• Youtube: https://youtu.be/UAepuqX-StE?si=XuGLcKIuB3XnKyVH
• Soundcloud: https://on.soundcloud.com/P8VxaixKjtGzoBpDLD

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

4:52 - Card #1 (justifying naps)

8:18 - Card #2 (passions)

11:32 - Card #3 (FaceTiming friends)

16:00 - Outro

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Welcome to 2026 and the first episode of the new year! This episode is all about reflections, resolutions, and getting shit done. Whether you're sitting with your journal reflecting on 2025 or mapping out your intentions for 2026, this episode walks you through the entire process: from thoughtful journal prompts that help you process the year (the joys, the challenges, and the lovely things), to the psychology and neuroscience behind achieving your goals (we're talking about the reticular activating system, your brain's built-in goal GPS!), to practical strategies that I've personally used over the years to stick to my goals and make things happen.

For my eldest daughters specifically, we’ll touch on saying no and boundary-setting, because the truth is that all the goal-setting in the world means nothing if you haven't established and maintained boundaries to protect your time, energy, and well-being. We're talking about how saying no to requests that aren't yours to carry is actually saying YES to your own goals and how the space you create through boundaries is where your dreams actually get to grow. If you haven't listened to that boundaries episode yet, definitely go back to it after this one; both episodes work well together!

Finally, I end on some verbal and visual practices: affirmations, gratitude journaling, brain dumps, and vision boarding techniques (fun fact: 80% of what I've put on my vision boards has come true!) that you can start implementing in the new year and beyond!

“note on: saying no and boundaries 101”:

• Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0NSGllicz3y4qii4sQgFhX?si=3l72iPqTTlW3_nE2syQ26g
• Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/notes-from-an-eldest-daughter/id1827173315?i=1000730687732

Recommended Readings:

• Locke & Latham: Goal-Setting Theory: Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2013). Goal setting theory, 1990. In E. A. Locke & G. P. Latham (Eds.), New developments in goal setting and task performance (pp. 3–15). Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. ⁠https://doi.org/10.4324/9780203082744⁠
• Oscarsson et al. (2020): Approach vs. Avoidance Goals Study: Oscarsson, M., Carlbring, P., Andersson, G., & Rozental, A. (2020). A large-scale experiment on New Year's resolutions: Approach-oriented goals are more successful than avoidance-oriented goals. PloS one, 15(12), e0234097. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0234097
• Lally et al. (2010): 66-Day Habit Formation Study: Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009. ⁠https://doi.org/10.1002/ejsp.674⁠
• Stevens & Hening (2007): Neuroanatomy of RAS: Suzanne Stevens, Wayne A. Hening, Chapter 2 - Sleep and Wakefulness, Editor(s): Christopher G. Goetz, Textbook of Clinical Neurology (Third Edition), W.B. Saunders, 2007, Pages 21-33, ISBN 9781416036180, ⁠https://doi.org/10.1016/B978-141603618-0.10002-5⁠.
• NCBI StatPearls: Reticular Activating System: Arguinchona JH, Tadi P. Neuroanatomy, Reticular Activating System. [Updated 2023 Jul 24]. In: StatPearls [Internet]. Treasure Island (FL): StatPearls Publishing; 2025 Jan-. Available from: ⁠https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK549835/⁠

0:00 - note on intro

2:00 - reflections [personal and general]

7:25 - Reflections for 2025 journal prompts

12:20 - Resolutions for 2026 journal prompts

17:14 - science of goal setting (psychology + neuroscience)

28:10 - the eldest daughter relationship with goals, accomplishments, and requests

32:15 - practical tips and tricks for goal setting

41:30 - outro

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The last ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’ episode of 2025! Thank you so much for tuning in for the past few months and being part of this community; couldn’t have done this without y’all <333 As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world 🫶🏾

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

1:48 - Card #1 (reconnection)

6:12 - Card #2 (love)

09:28 - Card #3 (compliments)

11:35 - Outro

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Decided to do a thing; a 2025 year in review episode~! Talked about my favorite media from this past year as well as what I’m looking forward to in 2026. Summer fun episode (despite being sick). As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means a lot to me 🫶🏾

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

2:50 - favorite albums + future albums

27:29 - favorite movies and shows

36:48 - favorite books

42:07 - favorite content creators

47:33 - outro

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from crying at a target to snapping for the streak, we explore some more wnrs cards in this week's episode of ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’! Truly had so much fun recording this episode and I hope y'all enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed recording it. As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world 🫶🏾

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

1:59 - Card #1 (crying in public)

7:38 - Card #2 (exes)

13:02 - Card #3 (deleting social media)

16:43 - Outro

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