notes from an eldest daughter

Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’! Truly enjoyed recording this episode; thank y’all for your support with the podcast! Couldn’t do Spotify Wrapped for Creators without y’all <3 As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world 🫶🏾

“Dear Future Wifey” podcast:

• Olay and Friends episode: https://youtu.be/PF_3WFqg0pM?si=ZZpkZnMhJcs1z0eP
• KennieJD: https://youtu.be/Esy6eUsviJI?si=4SCFlr_mE_MZOKmx

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week + spotify wrapped!

7:10 - Card #1 (cheating)

14:24 - Card #2 (singledom)

20:22 - Card #3 (dinner with exes)

23:48 - Outro

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Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers wednesday’s’! Truly enjoyed recording this episode; starting off the very cold month of December well with this episode! The weather is getting colder and the sun is setting sooner than desired, but wnrsw continues on! As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world to me 🫶🏾

• Song of the week: Shallow - Magnolia Park:
• https://on.soundcloud.com/Ny4oJQNCtVHwQ3ninL
• https://music.apple.com/us/album/shallow-single/1750265079
• https://open.spotify.com/album/6Cor4gZH5ANpH8OSuyH3a3?si=Le2-TFCzRSGtkmAks-Hr9Q
• https://youtu.be/XpHwOf3IkGU?si=ueFmd6wGRwQjclla

0:00 - song of the week + briefly weekly

3:10 - Card #1 (nudes)

5:43 - Card #2 (first dates)

7:48 - Card #3 (being ghosted)

12:25 - Outro

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Recommended Readings: Gilligan, C. (1982). In a different voice: Psychological theory and women's development. Harvard University Press. 2. Clance, P. R., & Imes, S. A. (1978). The imposter phenomenon in high achieving women: Dynamics and therapeutic intervention. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research & Practice, 15(3), 241-247. 3. Sue, D. W., Capodilupo, C. M., Torino, G. C., Bucceri, J. M., Holder, A., Nadal, K. L., & Esquilin, M. (2007). Racial microaggressions in everyday life. American Psychologist, 62(4), 271-286. Chapters:

1:32 - Personal journey with self-advocacy

5:30 - Psychology of self-advocacy

8:19 - The Eldest Daughter + Immigrant/Collectivist Culture Layer

11:13 - Journal prompts for self-advocacy

12:10 - Tips and tricks for developing your self-advocacy muscle

16:00 - challenge of the week + affirmations

22:13 - Outro

Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’! Twas the night before Thanksgiving; truly a hectic time at American groceries stores and airports, but banal in comparison to the rush of the weeks prior to Christmas 🎄 . Either way, this week was quite hectic and on 2x speed for me, but commitment to the podcast is a resolution (hint for the last episode of this year!). As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world to me 🫶🏾

• man I need - Olivia Dean
• https://youtu.be/JGKgbmz_gcU?si=vGa8l9sxvLUbd-zZ
• Amatonormativity - Tara Mooknee video essay: https://youtu.be/gsW3VsraJqo?si=sMhVZYUQN8C8crQl

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

2:05 - Card #1 (choosing guys over friends)

6:15 - Card #2 (death)

8:55 - Card #3 (”strong friend”)

13:46 - Outro

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Another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers Wednesday’s’! As always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world to me 🫶🏾

• Blessings - Naika
• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/2w8h4UxNixZ48O5eYqXJ7w?si=6yF1mxoSS3mXZ83HqFyjPw
• Soundcloud: https://on.soundcloud.com/0rZhOqzei06v5BNy56
• Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/album/blessings-single/1835924118
• Youtube: https://youtu.be/KSOxniD7Wmc?si=POPeg2DVtZ-zHrXg

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

6:25 - Card #1 (travel)

10:32 - Card #2 (black womanhood)

14:31 - Card #3 (fall leaves)

16:50 - Outro

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All the cards from this week’s episode are from wnrs’ newest deck! I’ve been so excited for this deck to drop and the cards were so fun to select and answer. Definitely looking forward to going through the deck these upcoming weeks! Thank you all for tuning in to this week’s episode <33

Song of the week: Now or Never - TKANDZ

Youtube: https://youtu.be/FS2gNuxpkvM?si=jGl6RVIQIct4YmPh

Soundcloud: https://on.soundcloud.com/C1ZHoCadZlOgUBPyyl

Deezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/album/828064911

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/2iJkrwXpyChhfeClyX7oov?si=h5MFnyqIRDCFGgBcB0U2Qw

Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/album/now-or-never/1840511385?i=1840511387

Chapters:

0:00 - intro (briefly weekly + song of the week)

2:41 - Card #1 (fear)

7:00 - Card #2 (dating history)

10:05 - Card #3 (being “anti-movies”)

19:31 - Outro

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The ills of iOS 26 will not stop me from giving y'all the weekly episode! Recorded the episode on the voice memos app, so audio might sound different. Not better, not worse, just different. Either way, had fun recording this episode and I'm really excited to share November's 'note-on' episode in the next few days! And as always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means the world to me 🫶🏾

• Tit for Tat - Tate McRae
• Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/tate-mcrae/tit-for-tat
• Youtube: https://youtu.be/u-HEopHeHb8?si=z42gIwwOQZt4qaZ5
• Somebody - Latto
• Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/latto777/somebody?in=latto777/sets/gyatt-4
• Youtube: https://youtu.be/sB5n6wnT61w

0:00 - weekly check-in + song of the week

2:15 - Card #1 (a nice Indian boy)

4:25 - Card #2 (Smosh)

7:01 - Card #3 (tea)

11:03 - Outro

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Fact-check: Brazil does indeed have the largest population of Africans outside of Africa! Will definitely fit right in.

Thank for tuning in to another episode of ‘we’re not really strangers wednesday’s’! I really enjoyed recording this week's episode, especially with how hectic this past week has been (get in to it this episode 👀). Overall, great episode. I enjoyed recording and editing it and I hope you enjoy listening to it! And as always, thank you to all those who’ve been supporting the podcast; it truly means a lot to me 🫶🏾

0:00 - intro + weekly check-in

4:42 - Card #1 (curiosity)

6:40 - Card #2 (brazil)

8:27 - Card #3 (cats vs. dogs)

11:03 - Outro

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Chapters:

0:00 - intro + weekly check-in

2:40 - Card #1 (fighting DMCA)

10:02 - Card #2 (painful listen)

11:48 - Card #3 (falling in love)

15:55 - Outro

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Hello, hello! This is the pilot episode of the new series, "note on"! This series focuses more on topics that concern the average eldest daughter: setting boundaries, cultural expectations, mental health, friendships and dating, and finding your voice beyond family duty, among many other topics! The series is more in-depth, exploring my own personal journeys with these topics, some journal prompts I utilized to work through the tough moments, as well as practical tips and reminders to help fellow eldest daughters (and anyone else tuning in). "note on" is a project that I hold close to my heart and I hope you're able to take something away from it, even if it's just one piece of the puzzle we call life!

Chapters:

2:02 - Personal journey with ‘saying no’

5:13 - Psychology of ‘saying no’ + quiz

7:53 - Journal prompts to saying no

8:54 - Tips and reminders for “saying no”

11:27 - Personal journey with boundaries + quiz

19:38 - Psychology of ‘boundaries’

20:44: the eldest daughter relationship with and to boundaries

26:22 - Journal prompts for determining, establishing, and maintaining boundaries

29:58 - Tips and reminders for setting, establishing, and maintaining boundaries

33:44 - challenge of the week

34:21 - Outro

Papers cited:

• Overall, N. C., & McNulty, J. K. (2017). What type of communication during conflict is beneficial for intimate relationships? Current Opinion in Psychology, 13, 1–5. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.copsyc.2016.03.002

• Donald, J. N., Ciarrochi, J., Parker, P. D., Sahdra, B. K., Marshall, S. L., & Guo, J. (2018). A worthy self is a caring self: Examining the developmental relations between self-esteem and self-compassion in adolescents. Journal of Personality, 86, 619–630. https://psycnet.apa.org/doi/10.1111/jopy.12340

  
  

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