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Michal Daveed is the Media Representative for The Eulenspiegel Society (TES), the oldest BDSM community in the United States. She also teaches classes at TES and elsewhere on kink, particularly about erotic hypnosis.  Personally, she is a New York-based submissive who has been in the BDSM Scene for about four years. In her vanilla life, she is a writer.

In this very informative episode, we talk about:

* the history of TES and how membership works,

* the myths about BDSM

* the community and who is typically attracted to it

* the types of classes they offer (caning, anyone?),

* social events such as munches,

* how to find a play partner you trust,

* negotiating play

* play/scene etiquette,

* safe words,

* erotic hypnotism

* the emotional value of being part of the community

* how kink can be a creative expression

Michal Daveed is the Media Representative for The Eulenspiegel Society (TES), the oldest BDSM community in the United States. She also teaches classes at TES and elsewhere on kink, particularly about erotic hypnosis.  Personally, she is a New York-based submissive who has been in the BDSM Scene for about four years. In her vanilla life, she is a writer.

In this very informative episode, we talk about:

* the history of TES and how membership works,

* the myths about BDSM

* the community and who is typically attracted to it

* the types of classes they offer (caning, anyone?),

* social events such as munches,

* how to find a play partner you trust,

* negotiating play

* play/scene etiquette,

* safe words,

* erotic hypnotism

* the emotional value of being part of the community

* how kink can be a creative expression

Midori is a renowned educator and writer on sexuality. Dubbed “the super nova of kink” by Dan Savage, she emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfillment and kinky adventures. Her reputation as authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills, but in her ability to deconstruct and distill complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self actualization, shame reduction, acceptance and justice.

Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. She is the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, Wild Side Sex, and Master Han's Daughter.

She leads transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen

When she's not traveling and teaching, she's creating provocative and haunting art and performances.

In this show, Midori redefines the acronym BDSM to make it more accessible and useful for the listeners. We also discuss things like topping and bottoming, so be sure to tune in.

Check out all the ways to connect with Midori...

www.FHP-inc.com 

www.RopeDojo.com  

www.ForteFemme.com   

www.MakeHotPlayHappen.com

Facebook / Twitter / Instagram / Vimeo: @PlanetMidori

FetLife: Midori

And please support her fight against HIV! She volunteers for AIDS LifeCycle.     www.tofighthiv.org/goto/midori

If you'd like Midori to come back on the show again to go into depth about Japanese bondage, please send a message to [email protected]

Midori is a renowned educator and writer on sexuality. Dubbed “the super nova of kink” by Dan Savage, she emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfillment and kinky adventures. Her reputation as authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills, but in her ability to deconstruct and distill complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self actualization, shame reduction, acceptance and justice.

Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. She is the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, Wild Side Sex, and Master Han's Daughter.

She leads transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen

When she's not traveling and teaching, she's creating provocative and haunting art and performances.

In this show, Midori redefines the acronym BDSM to make it more accessible and useful for the listeners. We also discuss things like topping and bottoming, so be sure to tune in.

Check out all the ways to connect with Midori...

www.FHP-inc.com 

www.RopeDojo.com  

www.ForteFemme.com   

www.MakeHotPlayHappen.com

Facebook / Twitter / Instagram / Vimeo: @PlanetMidori

FetLife: Midori

And please support her fight against HIV! She volunteers for AIDS LifeCycle.     www.tofighthiv.org/goto/midori

If you'd like Midori to come back on the show again to go into depth about Japanese bondage, please send a message to [email protected]

Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST, is a nationally certified sex therapist and clinical sexologist, specializing in working with sexual minorities, alternative/kink/polyamory lifestyles, sex workers, discordant desire and infidelity in couples, sexual dysfunction and anxiety, gender orientation confusion, and sexual compulsivity.  He is certified as a sex therapist by AASECT and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology.  He has been interviewed in numerous media outlets, podcasts and magazines, including the NYT, WSJ, Cosmo, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Prevention, and Vice.com.  He is a member of the Advisory Board of Men’s Fitness magazine and is the author of the book "Modern Sexuality, The Truth About Sex and Relationships", where he presents an overwhelmingly strong case for sexual diversity and the exploration of a variety of sexual expressions from a normative standpoint, helping readers understand that their own desires and those of others can happily exist on the same continuum.

In this episode, we talk about the societal myths of sexuality, including:

*  the false belief that sexuality is learned and can be changed,

*  that non-normative sexual behavior is pathological,

* that healthy sexuality involves intimacy,

* that intimacy is easily defined and mean the same to everyone, and

* that sexual behavior must have a clearly defined purpose.

We also discuss:

* harm reduction

* epigenetics

* BDSM

* fetishes

* partialisms

* polyamory

* the darker aspects of psychotherapy when it comes to homosexuality

* Dr. Aaron's opinion on the book and movie '50 Shades of Grey'

* mismatched desire in couples...and a lot more.

Dr. Aaron is so awesome...I seriously dig this man's passion for his work, and he's hot to boot!  There aren't many progressive sexologists like him out in the world, so if you have questions or would like to work with him, please connect with him today.

Buy his book now by visiting Amazon.com or his website at www.drmichaelaaronnyc.com

 

Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST, is a nationally certified sex therapist and clinical sexologist, specializing in working with sexual minorities, alternative/kink/polyamory lifestyles, sex workers, discordant desire and infidelity in couples, sexual dysfunction and anxiety, gender orientation confusion, and sexual compulsivity.  He is certified as a sex therapist by AASECT and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology.  He has been interviewed in numerous media outlets, podcasts and magazines, including the NYT, WSJ, Cosmo, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Prevention, and Vice.com.  He is a member of the Advisory Board of Men’s Fitness magazine and is the author of the book "Modern Sexuality, The Truth About Sex and Relationships", where he presents an overwhelmingly strong case for sexual diversity and the exploration of a variety of sexual expressions from a normative standpoint, helping readers understand that their own desires and those of others can happily exist on the same continuum.

In this episode, we talk about the societal myths of sexuality, including:

*  the false belief that sexuality is learned and can be changed,

*  that non-normative sexual behavior is pathological,

* that healthy sexuality involves intimacy,

* that intimacy is easily defined and mean the same to everyone, and

* that sexual behavior must have a clearly defined purpose.

We also discuss:

* harm reduction

* epigenetics

* BDSM

* fetishes

* partialisms

* polyamory

* the darker aspects of psychotherapy when it comes to homosexuality

* Dr. Aaron's opinion on the book and movie '50 Shades of Grey'

* mismatched desire in couples...and a lot more.

Dr. Aaron is so awesome...I seriously dig this man's passion for his work, and he's hot to boot!  There aren't many progressive sexologists like him out in the world, so if you have questions or would like to work with him, please connect with him today.

Buy his book now by visiting Amazon.com or his website at www.drmichaelaaronnyc.com

 

Internationally-recognized clinical psychologist, author and addiction recovery expert Dr. Allen Berger joins NOL for a second time to talk addictions. His colleague, author & friend Dan Griffin, also a recovery expert and Senior Fellow at The Meadows (with a focus on working with men), joins him. In this super informative episode, the men explain the brain science behind addictions, how to know if you have an addiction, and the stages in the process of recovery.

Show Notes

Points covered in the episode:

- Addiction as an illness, a brain disease

- Causes of addictions

- Addictive personality traits

- How to know if you have an addiction

- Process-focused recovery counseling and what it is

- Addiction shame vs. “man rules”

- How relationships with others change when in recovery

- Sobriety self-righteousness

Allen’s website: www.abphd.com

Email: [email protected]

Dan’s website: www.dangriffin.com

Email: [email protected]

Additional resources mentioned:

For books by Dr. Allen Berger, including 12 MORE Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery, visit his website: http://abphd.com/dr-berger-s-book-store.html

For books by Dan Griffin including “A Man’s Way Through the 12 Steps”, visit: http://www.dangriffin.com/dans-books/

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

I’ll Quit Tomorrow – Vernon E. Johnson

Narcotics Anonymous

SLA Anonymous

“Open meetings” at AA gatherings – can attend and you don’t have to participate

Pleasure Unwoven – DVD by Dr. Kevin McCauley– brain science behind addiction

TheMeadows.com – addiction, trauma, codependency…this is a resource for any type of suffering and is not just about alcohol or drugs

Email Dr. Berger or Dan personally. Emails above.

Internationally-recognized clinical psychologist, author and addiction recovery expert Dr. Allen Berger joins NOL for a second time to talk addictions. His colleague, author & friend Dan Griffin, also a recovery expert and Senior Fellow at The Meadows (with a focus on working with men), joins him. In this super informative episode, the men explain the brain science behind addictions, how to know if you have an addiction, and the stages in the process of recovery.

Show Notes

Points covered in the episode:

- Addiction as an illness, a brain disease

- Causes of addictions

- Addictive personality traits

- How to know if you have an addiction

- Process-focused recovery counseling and what it is

- Addiction shame vs. “man rules”

- How relationships with others change when in recovery

- Sobriety self-righteousness

Allen’s website: www.abphd.com

Email: [email protected]

Dan’s website: www.dangriffin.com

Email: [email protected]

Additional resources mentioned:

For books by Dr. Allen Berger, including 12 MORE Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery, visit his website: http://abphd.com/dr-berger-s-book-store.html

For books by Dan Griffin including “A Man’s Way Through the 12 Steps”, visit: http://www.dangriffin.com/dans-books/

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

I’ll Quit Tomorrow – Vernon E. Johnson

Narcotics Anonymous

SLA Anonymous

“Open meetings” at AA gatherings – can attend and you don’t have to participate

Pleasure Unwoven – DVD by Dr. Kevin McCauley– brain science behind addiction

TheMeadows.com – addiction, trauma, codependency…this is a resource for any type of suffering and is not just about alcohol or drugs

Email Dr. Berger or Dan personally. Emails above.

To round out Millennial Month on NOL, Cameron R. Brown joins the show all the way from Australia. Cameron has turned his dream and passion for helping others into a socially conscious company that has impacted millions of lives around the world.

As founder of The Thriving Collective, Cameron helps people dream big, live fully, and use their unique talents and strengths to make a positive impact.

Through the talks he gives, people he coaches and music & videos he creates that have an audience in 195 countries, Cameron discusses topics including the pursuit of happiness, creative thinking, social isolation and living an extraordinary life.

He also facilitates quality introductions and creates events & experiences around the world that allow remarkable people to connect with one another, experience new adventures and develop personal, business and philanthropic opportunities.

Cameron loves helping good people thrive, because when good people thrive, they do more good, and that’s what can truly change the world.

Please visit thrivingcollective.com for more information on how to become a "Thriver"!  Everything launches November 9, 2016.  Be one of the first peeps to join!

In-episode ad mention

Audibletrial.com/NOL - Halfway through the episode, I personally recommend a new audiobook I've recently downloaded, called Joy On Demand - The Art of Discovering the Happiness Within, by Chade-Meng Tan.  If you're not an Audible member and would like to try out the service (highly recommended...I've been an Audible member for YEARS), get this (or any) audiobook for FREE by using my NOL link audibletrial.com/NOL

To round out Millennial Month on NOL, Cameron R. Brown joins the show all the way from Australia. Cameron has turned his dream and passion for helping others into a socially conscious company that has impacted millions of lives around the world.

As founder of The Thriving Collective, Cameron helps people dream big, live fully, and use their unique talents and strengths to make a positive impact.

Through the talks he gives, people he coaches and music & videos he creates that have an audience in 195 countries, Cameron discusses topics including the pursuit of happiness, creative thinking, social isolation and living an extraordinary life.

He also facilitates quality introductions and creates events & experiences around the world that allow remarkable people to connect with one another, experience new adventures and develop personal, business and philanthropic opportunities.

Cameron loves helping good people thrive, because when good people thrive, they do more good, and that’s what can truly change the world.

Please visit thrivingcollective.com for more information on how to become a "Thriver"!  Everything launches November 9, 2016.  Be one of the first peeps to join!

In-episode ad mention

Audibletrial.com/NOL - Halfway through the episode, I personally recommend a new audiobook I've recently downloaded, called Joy On Demand - The Art of Discovering the Happiness Within, by Chade-Meng Tan.  If you're not an Audible member and would like to try out the service (highly recommended...I've been an Audible member for YEARS), get this (or any) audiobook for FREE by using my NOL link audibletrial.com/NOL