Following on from a listener’s email, we have an impromptu but revelatory conversation on the lived experience of resentment within our family systems. We explore deeply how mothers are ‘not allowed’ to have the complexities of humanity, according to the ‘perfect mother’ myth reinforced in patriarchal motherhood.

In this episode we discuss:

⁃ Understanding that we only know something, by knowing it’s opposite

⁃ The Madonna myth

⁃ Continuously measuring your mother against a self-created fantasy ideal

⁃ The process that happens inside our brain of remylineating existing beliefs, which reinforces our emotional charges

⁃ Understanding that we will resent them to the degree that we’re holding the fantasy ideal up on a pedestal

⁃ Our neurochemical addictions to repeated family dynamics

⁃ Our addiction to our current neurochemistry reinforced by our polarisations

⁃ Rewiring our brain for change is hard

⁃ Recognising that if you got what you wanted, there will be an equilibrating loss somewhere else

⁃ Finding appreciation for your own complex family dynamics and loving the people who play the roles for you

With modern-day motherhood’s ‘hangover’ (tiredness!), Julie and Bridget debrief Jules’ completely non-PC Hysterectomy Party with a whole lot of laughter, soul and consciousness. Our key reflections were on:

⁃ Finding more availability within yourself through lightness ,laughter and self-celebration

⁃ Meeting women in the place of no pretence, where shame evaporates, and healing happens through laughter

⁃ When we name, and dance with, the fears wrapped up in our next evolution, we take away their power over us

We would love your reflections on this conversation, so please reach out!

When disconnection and discontent are your primary emotional experiences, it might be time to look at where you’re being asked to crumble your current identity…and let go of self-righteousness?

In this episode we discuss:

- Recognising where self-righteousness is masquerading as ‘choosing myself’ and ‘being in integrity’ 

- How to get back into connection with self, partner and parenting 

- Recognising when you’re running ‘moral high ground’ stories

- Seeing the protection strategy in looking for evidence for all the ways you’re ‘right’

- The inherent vulnerability in realising there’s so many ways to be right 

- Realising that surrounding yourself with total support creates further disconnection 

- Dropping into your heart and out of your head 

- Noticing a manic energy that ‘needs to prove something’ 

- Stopping the spiral of ‘You’re so…’ & ‘They’re so…’ 

- Recognising when your coping strategy is bringing you benefits 

- Noticing your physiology when you’re ‘on the hunt’ for support

In this episode we look at the shame stumble of identity crisis and finding the spaciousness to love both a past and future self. 

In this episode we explore:

- Balancing out shame about a past version of self 

- Opening up possibility for a future version of self

- Listening to the stories of others that both support and challenge you, with an open heart 

- Learning how to be in opposition with an open heart

- Recognising the role of the challenger 

- Using the heart-stings and pain points as fuel for your self-inquiry 

- Seeking comfort and getting pushback 

- Recognising the echoes of your inner child 

- Appreciating the push into individuation 

- Learning to love yourself and other wider

Following a listener’s email we talk to you about how to dance the line between anger and activism in a powerful and sustainable way. We give you points to discern when your anger has flipped from being constructive to destructive, and what to do to pull yourself back into heart connection, where true change is possible.

Do you sometimes find yourself in a spiral of comparison when you see families living the ‘perfect instagramable holiday’? This conversation will bust your polarised FOMO and have you appreciating yourself and your own life, bringing you back into heartfelt connection with yourself and your own life.

When disconnection and discontent are your primary emotional experiences, it might be time to look at where you’re being asked to crumble your current identity…and let go of self-righteousness?

In this episode we discuss:

- Recognising where self-righteousness is masquerading as ‘choosing myself’ and ‘being in integrity’ 

- How to get back into connection with self, partner and parenting 

- Recognising when you’re running ‘moral high ground’ stories

- Seeing the protection strategy in looking for evidence for all the ways you’re ‘right’

- The inherent vulnerability in realising there’s so many ways to be right 

- Realising that surrounding yourself with total support creates further disconnection 

- Dropping into your heart and out of your head 

- Noticing a manic energy that ‘needs to prove something’ 

- Stopping the spiral of ‘You’re so…’ & ‘They’re so…’ 

- Recognising when your coping strategy is bringing you benefits 

- Noticing your physiology when you’re ‘on the hunt’ for support

What do you do when you find yourself in full-bodied longing for the thing you don’t have (like pregnancy, money, a great relationship…). We want you to let your desires fuel you, but beware when they engulf you, or send you into victimhood.   

This episode has four clear and easy steps to get yourself back to being a powerful manifestor.   

In this episode we discuss: 

- Resenting the world, and how to come back into appreciation  

- Victimhood as a normal, human, transient state, versus when it becomes your chronic story 

- Moving from lack and scarcity vibes and into abundant manifesto vibes 

- Lifting ourselves out of the pit of heaviness  

- When support is beautiful, and when it keeps you stuck in a lack story  

- Breaking the grasping ‘need’ to bring abundant states back  

- Seeing wider than the narrow lens of resentment  

- Comparison to everyone else  

- Subconscious motives that keep you stuck  

- Healthful soul-searching, but noticing when it turns to navel-gazing 

- Super-charging your worth, power and vitality

Mothers often find themselves in the sandwich between beauty and pain, grief and gratitude; it’s hard sometimes to be moving forwards, but not quite ready to let go. Often what’s needed is attending to the grief that we’re experiencing in this transition phase. 

In this episode we discuss:

 ⁃ How to integrate grief into your own life

 ⁃ Grief around fertility and miscarriage 

 ⁃ Grief around endings like leaving babyhood, toddlerhood and fertility years

 ⁃ Grief when life changes, like aging parents. 

 ⁃ Allowing your experience

 ⁃ Ritualising your experience 

 ⁃ Supporting your body to be with the intensity 

 ⁃ Finding community where your grief can be held 

 ⁃ Complex feelings of love and resentment 

 ⁃ Not getting so nostalgic that you forget the shitshow 

 ⁃ We’re not just grieving who/what we perceive we’ve lost, but grieving who we are in relationship to the world.

In an update following our podcasts on Julie’s prolapse journey, she shares her surgical choices and how she’s navigating and advocating for herself through that. We explore the humility and the heart in embracing what we once judged.