Now What? Podcast

Meghan McTavish is a writer, mum and founder of The Plotline Journal, who’s been called a “divorce influencer” for her honest, often hilarious take on life after marriage. Having rebuilt her own life after divorce, she talks openly about losing herself in a relationship, dating again, and learning to stop shaping herself around what someone else wants.

In this episode, we get into the real stuff: the difference between wanting to stay and being scared to leave, why Megan has stepped away from dating apps, and how becoming friends with men has been healing for her in rebuilding her trust in men. We also talk about her shift from shared care to full-time parenting, the pressure to be chosen, and whether you can love your life as a single mum and still want partnership. There’s room to want love, protect your peace, and still be figuring it all out.

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Zoe Marshall was barely an adult when two things happened at once. Her mum, a solo mum and her whole world, was dying of cancer, and she'd just met the man who would go on to abuse her.

This week I sat down with Zoe, author, speaker, podcast host and founder of Arise, to talk about how abusive relationships actually start, and why strong, smart women still end up in them. Zoe shares what it was like to be controlled down to what she wore and how she did her hair, the pros and cons list that finally helped her see it clearly, and what it really takes to leave when you have no money, no car and nothing that's yours.

She also has a message for anyone who has a friend or sister who keeps going back. Please don't stop answering the phone.

Then we get into the good stuff. Zoe talks about being raised by a solo mum, and her words for every single parent worried they're putting too much on their kids honestly made us both cry. We also talk about identity, people pleasing, why healing is never really "done" and how to start when you don't know where to begin.

This one is raw, honest and full of hope. I hope it lands for you the way it did for me.

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Lauren Hunter is the founder of Cinqe Matchmaking Australia, and after years of sitting across from single men and women, she's seen exactly what's going wrong in dating, and what actually makes it work. Lauren is also a mum of two who went through her own divorce and had to learn to date again after marriage and motherhood.

In this episode, we get into the real stuff: what dating looks like after divorce and as a single mum, why the apps have people so burnt out, what men and women are actually asking for (and how different that is from what we assume), chemistry versus real compatibility, and whether the checklists we build for ourselves are actually helping us or just keeping us stuck. Lauren doesn't sugarcoat any of it, and this conversation will hit differently depending on where you're at in your own story.

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In this episode, I sit down with Amy Appleton, the founder of Steps of Style, who built a fashion and styling career out of the hardest chapter of her life. What started as a blog during infertility and IVF became a full creative business, and eventually her exit plan from a nineteen year marriage.

We talk about what it really looks like to leave a long marriage without framing it as a failure, why financial independence matters even when things feel stable, and how ageing became a source of power for her rather than something to fight. Amy is refreshingly unfiltered about anger, dating after divorce, raising kids solo, and why she stopped chasing relationships altogether. If you've ever felt like you lost yourself somewhere inside a marriage or a family role, this conversation is a reminder that rebuilding is possible, and that finding yourself is the whole point, not a consolation prize.

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This episode dives into one of the messiest and most misunderstood dynamics in modern parenting, the relationship between a mum and the woman who steps into her kids' life. Step parent coach Kris joins the conversation to unpack the assumptions that get made on both sides before anyone's even met, the moments that quietly break trust, and the role dads and partners actually play in how these relationships unfold, which turns out to be a lot more than they usually get credit for. Real experience gets shared throughout, including what it's like to step into a partner's kids' world without any of the rulebook, and neither guest holds back on the harder, messier parts of it. For anyone who's ever felt threatened by, competitive with, or unsure how to navigate the other woman in their children's life, this conversation offers a rare, honest look at both sides.

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Today's guest is Megan Dalla-Camina, author, women's leadership expert and PhD researcher, whose work explores what happens when women start questioning the lives they've built and begin reconnecting with themselves. Her latest book, She Who Remembers, makes the case that so many women aren't actually lost, they've just become disconnected from who they are beneath years of expectations, achievements and caregiving.

Megan and I get into what it really means to stop "fixing" ourselves and start remembering ourselves instead, especially in the wake of divorce or separation, when identity can feel completely fractured. We talk about honouring where you're at before you try to figure out who you're meant to be next, why motherhood (and single motherhood especially) can intensify all of this, and how the collapse of a relationship can actually become a doorway back to yourself rather than just a failure. Megan also shares the daily rituals that have made the biggest difference in her own life, sleep, meditation, nature and nourishment, and why protecting your energy from mindless distraction matters just as much as any of it.

If you've ever felt like you don't know who you are anymore, this conversation is a really gentle, honest place to start.

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Child support. Say those two words and most people think it's simple, one parent transfers money to the other, end of story. But if you've been through it, you know that's not even close to the truth.

In this episode I sit down with Terese Edwards, CEO of Single Mother Families Australia, who has spent over 15 years fighting for single parents at the highest levels of government. We talk about how child support can be weaponised, why so many women end up trapped in a system that was supposed to protect them, and what's actually changing after the biggest reforms since 1988.

Terese pulls back the curtain on the reports, the research, and the real stories behind the numbers, including why 25% of child support payments are $10 a week or less, and how private collect arrangements quietly leave women with no record and no recourse. We also get into the emotional side of all this, the guilt, the pressure to just be the bigger person, and why so many women stay silent.

This one is heavy in places but it's also full of hope. Terese has been in the room when the changes were announced, and she shares what's coming, what to hold on for, and why she genuinely believes we're in a turning point.

If you've ever felt like the system was working against you instead of for you, this conversation will make you feel seen.

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This week I'm joined by Leah Aguirre, licensed therapist, relationship expert and author of Is This Really Love. Leah has built a huge following talking honestly about emotional abuse and boundaries, and what makes her work land is that she's not just speaking from the clinical side, she's lived it too.

We get into so much in this one. The way our bodies often know something is wrong long before our minds catch up. The difference between someone who is genuinely abusive and someone who just doesn't have the emotional capacity to show up for you, and why that distinction matters so much when you're trying to make sense of what happened. Trauma bonds and why it can feel almost impossible to walk away from someone who hurts you and then loves you so tenderly straight after.

We also talk about the questions we're too afraid to ask when we're dating, the small moments that actually tell you everything about someone's character, and how to start rebuilding trust in yourself again after you've been made to question your own reality.

If you've ever looked back at a relationship and asked yourself how did I not see this, this episode is for you.

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What do you do when life doesn't turn out the way you imagined?

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Sarah Jane, creator of Spinal Energetics and author of the new book Your Spine Holds the Answer.

This conversation is about so much more than healing. It's about navigating the gap between the life you thought you'd have and the life you're actually living.

We talk about divorce, recurrent pregnancy loss, single motherhood, getting older, and the quiet grief that can come from watching other people live the life you once imagined for yourself.

We also explore why so many of us understand our attachment style, our triggers and our patterns, yet still find ourselves stuck in the same emotional loops. Why isn't awareness always enough? And what role does the body play in helping us move through experiences that our minds alone can't seem to resolve?

For the single mums listening, we also dive into chronic stress, living in survival mode, the fear of letting your guard down, and whether it's actually possible to feel safe again after life has knocked you around.

This conversation is an invitation to make space for grief without letting it define you, to loosen your grip on how life "should" look, and to remember that a meaningful life isn't reserved for those whose plans worked out.

In this episode we discuss:
• The grief of letting go of the life you imagined
• Divorce, infertility and rebuilding after loss
• The pressure women feel around age and timelines
• Why knowing your patterns isn't always enough to change them
• Chronic stress, survival mode and the nervous system
• Learning to feel safe in your body again
• Opening yourself up to love after heartbreak
• Finding hope when life hasn't gone to plan

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When she became a single mum, Jen made a promise to herself: she was not going to live a smaller, harder life just because a relationship had ended. Years later, that promise turned into a "mommune" — a shared home in New York City with her best friend Annabelle, also a single mum, where they split rent, share dinners, divide the mental load of parenting, and raise their kids as one family unit. No romantic partners live in the house. No calendars or chore charts either. Just two women who decided that trust, presence and showing up for each other beats waiting around for a man to do it.

In this conversation, Jen unpacks how the mommune actually started (hint: it wasn't a business decision, it was years of shared play dates and swapped babysitting), how she and Annabelle split money and domestic labour without ever discussing finances directly, how dating still fits into her life without ever entering the home, and why she believes isolation, not money, is often the real crisis facing single mums.

This episode is for anyone who has ever sat alone on a Friday night after the kids are asleep and wondered if there's another way to build a home, a family and a life that doesn't hinge on finding "the one."

In this episode:

• How a years-long friendship turned into a shared household
• Splitting rent, groceries and bills without pooling finances
• Why trust replaced micromanaging once a man was out of the equation
• The "no men in the home" rule, and how dating still works around it
• The moment Jen realised the mommune had given her her mental space back
• Advice for anyone wanting to build this kind of support system, with or without moving in together

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