OffAir Podcast

What happens when three people decide to build one relationship together?

On this episode of OffAir with Gbemi and Toolz, we meet Precious, Jeffrey and Chidinma, known as the Feral Throuple, who say their relationship is built on love, honesty and communication.

They share how their unusual relationship started, how they deal with jealousy, family reactions, and the biggest misconceptions people have about polyamorous relationships. From meeting at the Ice cream store to navigating love with two partners, this conversation is honest, surprising and sometimes hilarious.

Is this the future of relationships or just something that works for them?

Watch as the hosts ask the questions everyone is thinking.

Episode Chapters:
 0:00 Introduction
 1:12 What is a polycule?
 3:05 How Jeffrey met Chidinma
 5:20 How Precious entered the relationship
 8:45 When the relationship became a throuple
 12:10 Are they all in love?
 15:00 Do their families know?
 18:20 “Did you use jazz?”
 21:10 What is intimacy like in a throuple?
 26:40 Jealousy and communication
 30:30 Planning children and marriage
 36:15 Public reactions and criticism
 41:40 Rapid fire questions
 45:20 MonieZone with Moniepoint
 52:10 Spin the Weekend with Gordon’s

In this episode, Gbemi and Toolz break down the Tyra Banks and America’s Next Top Model documentary, old reality TV culture, Cardi B performing three months postpartum, why Nigerian concerts need to do better, the drama around Nigerian streamers, social media pile-ons, false accusations, and the backlash around Simi’s “stop raping women’’ tweet.
 They also get into celebrity deaths that hit hard, the dangers around travel destinations like Mexico, Tonto Dikeh’s latest rebrand, relationship drama making the rounds online, and much more.
 Plus, there’s Money Zone with Moneypoint and a fun Spin the Weekend moment with Gordon’s Gin.

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00:00 — Season 9 kickoff
 02:05 — Promo shoot 
 04:10 — Plato food shout out
 06:00 — Tyra Banks documentary
 11:20 — Reality TV then vs now
 15:40 — Extreme makeovers debate
 18:30 — Big Brother fame pressure
 21:00 — Cardi B postpartum tour
 23:20 — Beyoncé concert standard
 26:00 — Nigerian concerts discussion
 29:10 — Celebrity deaths & healthcare costs
 33:40 — Mexico cartel crisis
 38:10 — World Cup travel concerns
 41:20 — Nigerian streamers drama
 45:50 — IShowSpeed’s Africa tour
 49:20 — Looking like you don’t need money
 52:10 — Mirabel assault story
 56:40 — Simi tweets controversy
 1:02:10 — Feminism & Twitter dragging
 1:06:00 — Engagement bait & fake stories
 1:09:20 — Cubana Chief Priest DNA saga
 1:12:50 — Tonto Dikeh rebrand
 1:15:30 — Money Zone By Moneypoint
 1:20:40 — Nigeria, money & savings
 1:25:10 — Business tools & POS tracking
 1:28:30 — Street fight story
 1:31:10 — OffAir Reacts:  Throuple discussion
 1:33:30 — Celebrity crushes
 1:35:40 — Gordon's Cocktail time
 1:38:00 — Gordon's Spin the Weekend (Brunch & Gist)
 1:40:20 — Episode wrap-up

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Welcome back to a special edition of The Off Air Show: Say It With Your Chest, in partnership with Durex. This episode gets real.
We’re talking about self-pleasure vs partner pleasure, generational differences in sexuality, performance pressure, ego, communication in relationships, and whether monogamy is even natural.

From Gen X to Millennials to Gen Z, our guests hold nothing back. We discuss:
Discovering self-pleasure growing up
Porn, performance myths & unrealistic expectations
Is it insecurity if your partner self-pleasures?
When does it become a problem in relationships?
Feedback in the bedroom: How do you say what you want?
Are younger generations more expressive or just more “loose”?
The monogamy debate 

We also spotlight Durex Performer, designed to help delay climax and support longer-lasting intimacy. This episode is funny, chaotic, uncomfortable and honest, just how we like it.

00:00 – Introduction: Say It With Your Chest
02:10 – Discovering Self Pleasure Growing Up
08:45 – Porn, Performance Pressure & Unrealistic Expectations
15:20 – Gen X vs Gen Z: Who Talks About Sex More?
22:30 – Walking in on Your Partner Self-Pleasuring
29:40 – Does Self Pleasure Mean You’re Unsatisfied?
36:15 – Communication, Ego & Giving Feedback
44:50 – Is Monogamy Natural? The Debate
53:10 – Sexual Exploration & Personal Boundaries
01:02:00 – When Does Self Pleasure Become a Problem?
01:10:15 – Final Thoughts & Audience Reactions

In this episode of Say it with Your Chest, Gbemi and Toolz tackle the age old question: Is intimacy about pleasure or performance? They explore the pressure to perform in bed, how society influences our expectations, and why mutual pleasure should be the main focus. With a candid discussion about communication, intimacy, and even a few fun "This or That" questions from Instagram followers, this episode is an honest conversation about how to truly enjoy intimacy with your partner.

Join Gbemi and Toolz as they break down the myths around performance anxiety and reveal how communication and connection are the real keys to a fulfilling intimate life. Plus, learn about Durex products designed to boost pleasure and confidence in the bedroom. 

Tune in, #Sayitwithyourchest and let’s talk intimacy the right way!

00:00 - Intro
02:45 - Is Intimacy About Pleasure or Performance?
07:30 - Performance Pressure: The Societal Expectations
13:00 - Men vs. Women: Who Faces More Pressure?
17:45 - Fake It 'Til You Make It?
22:30 - Pressure vs. Pleasure
27:00 - This or That? Fun Listener Questions
32:15 - Durex Product Spotlight
36:00 - Closing Thoughts

In this special episode of Offair Air with Durex, Gbemi and Toolz are joined by the incredible Chidera aka Slumflower, a Sunday Times best-selling author, as they dive into the art of speaking your mind and owning your desires in relationships. With unfiltered honesty, they discuss how to confidently express your needs, especially when it comes to intimacy, and why it’s so important for both men and women to #SayItWithYourChest

Slumflower takes us through her journey as a dominatrix, sharing valuable insights on power dynamics, and how she navigates dominance and submission in a healthy and consensual way. Plus, get the inside scoop on her experiences in relationships and how to communicate what turns you on without fear, shame, or hesitation.

In partnership with Durex, this episode explores mutual pleasure, sexual confidence, and how both partners can truly understand each other’s needs in and out of the bedroom.

00:00 - Introduction: What Does It Mean to 'Say It With Your Chest'?
03:30 - Meet Slumflower: From Best-Selling Author to Dominatrix
07:00 - The Importance of Confidence in Communication
12:20 - Navigating Power Dynamics in Relationships
16:50 - Saying What You Want in Bed: How to Communicate Your Needs
22:00 - The Psychology of Men’s Submissive Tendencies
28:15 - Confidence, Consent, and Comfort: The Key to Great Sex
33:00 - Breaking Down Cultural Barriers: Owning Your Pleasure in Nigerian Society
39:30 - Sexual Exploration: How to 'Train' Your Partner (In a Fun Way)
44:00 - The Role of Praise: Why Men Love to Be Called 'Good Boy'
49:20 - Slumflower’s Take on Dominance, Submissiveness, and Consent
54:00 - A Conversation on Mutual Pleasure: Durex’s Role in Sexual Confidence
58:30 - Closing Thoughts: Speak Up, Own Your Desires, and Say It With Your Chest

In this episode of Say It With Your Chest, an OffAir mini-series brought to you by Durex, we talk intimacy, communication, confidence, protection, and the unspoken rules shaped by culture and judgement.

From women carrying condoms to awkward pharmacy moments, playlists, compliments, and why silence kills the vibe. Nothing is off-limits.

Join the conversation in the comments 👇
 #SayItWithYourChest

Proudly powered by Durex.

00:00 – If I were president… more money, less traffic, better sex
 02:08 – Who really sets the rules in the bedroom?
 07:06 – Why society assumes men should lead sexually
 11:46 – Silence, fear & the pressure on women
 18:36 – Women carrying condoms: smart or scandalous?
 24:19 – Pharmacy judgement, church leaflets & shame culture
 32:14 – Should intimacy rules be discussed earlier?
 40:18 – Compliments, playlists & setting the mood
 53:44 – Final takeaways: comfort, confidence & consent

In this special episode of 'OffAir,' hosts Gbemi and Toolz, along with guest Yeside Olayinka Agboola, founder, Oloricoitus, delve into the intriguing world of kinks, fantasies, and sexuality in Nigeria. They define kinks and fantasies and discuss the contrasts between public conservatism and private liberalism in Nigerian attitudes towards sex. The episode highlights the booming industry of aphrodisiacs and sex enhancers, and the importance of communication, emotional security, and kindness in exploring sexual preferences with partners. Practical steps for safe exploration, such as testing and using condoms, are covered. The episode concludes with myth-busting statements about kinks and sexual communication and a detailed overview of Durex products designed to enhance sexual experiences. The hosts encourage viewers to explore their kinks and fantasies safely and communicate openly with their partners.
 #SayItWithYourChest #OffAirXDurex

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
 00:35 Defining Kinks and Fantasies
 03:26 Exploring Nigerian Attitudes Towards Sex
 05:38 Communicating Desires and Overcoming Insecurities
 11:13 Safe Sex Practices and Misconceptions
 13:20 Encouraging Exploration and Emotional Security
 19:09 Myth Busters and Product Recommendations
 22:23 Final Thoughts and Closing Remarks

In this episode of FX Files an OffAir Specials brought to you by Paga, we address a significant concern for Nigerians and Africans when traveling abroad, the frustration of having cards from Nigerian banks declined due to network issues or suspected fraud.

 Our hosts, Gbemi And Toolz discuss the challenges of making payments overseas and introduce Paga's innovative solution. Paga US now allows anyone with a US residential address to open a fully regulated US bank account, offering physical and virtual Visa cards, and seamlessly integrate with services like Apple Pay and Google Pay. 

The highlight of this special episode is an insightful conversation with the CEO of Paga, Tayo Oviosu who explains how the new service removes the hassle of traditional banking processes, enabling users to manage multiple currencies, send and receive money effortlessly, and maintain a strong financial link back home. 

Tune in to learn how Paga is transforming banking for the African diaspora, making global financial transactions smoother and more accessible.

In this final episode of the season, Gbemi and Toolz discuss various hot topics including dating dynamics in today’s Nigeria with Nimi and Skuki Peeshaun, the challenges young professionals face, and insights on remote work. Highlights include a fan mail segment where a young listener seeks advice on handling financial pressures from her parents, debates on dating standards, emotional intelligence in relationships, and the impact of social media on dating. The episode also features a guest segment with Nadine, the market manager of GrabrFi, discussing the benefits of remote work and challenges like payment barriers for Nigerian freelancers. In addition, there's a special segment on the importance of sunscreen, particularly in Nigeria's intense sun, in collaboration with Beauty by Daz.

In this episode, the hosts cover a wide range of topics, from tech controversies and social media feuds to mental health, career advice, and personal growth. 

Featuring special guests like Chude Jideonwo and Mommy Chop Life, the episode explores experiences with depression, relocating abroad, financial solutions, skincare tips, and navigating life’s challenges. Packed with candid stories, laughter, and practical advice, this episode is full of insights you won’t want to miss.

#OffAirWithGbemiAndToolz