Officially Unofficial

Officially Unofficial

By Officially UnofficialSociety & CultureRelationships
Download on the App Store

Officially Unofficial episodes

  • GREEN FLAGS: an urban myth?
    IT IS OUR TENTH EPISODE! And we’re back in the flesh! We’ve come to the conclusion we occasionally have an attitude problem on this podcast so today we are changing the pace and being positive AND we’re talking about green flags: the emerald gems that are the positive things you look for in a partner. What do you actually like about people? What do you actually like about yourself? Questions to ask tbh, because it’s time to feel good if not GREAT.
    38 min
  • Casual sex: a COVID crime?
    Vibrator sales are skyrocketing across the globe and zoom sex parties are officially (unofficially?) a thing, so we decided to pull a Salt n Pepa and talk about sex. For more information on virtual sex parties head to: https://www.killingkittens.com/ and for more of us follow us on officiallyunofficial.pod
    45 min
  • CUPID-19: A double blind date using Zoom
    We went on a double date with two strangers à la Zoom, and there really isn't any concise way to sum up what happened. So here's a forty minute attempt. Shout out to our producer Dale who pretended to be two women on Hinge to find these men for us, and to Shay and Kayne for their enthusiastic participation.
    PS Sorry for going radio silent for the past few weeks, but we're back and hope everyone is staying healthy, safe, positive and INSIDE.
    41 min
  • COVID-19: Love In A Time Of Social Isolation

     ***DISCLAIMER*** Essentially most things that are said in this episode.

    A reminder:

    • We are not scientists, get the facts from the Department of Health or your local GP
    • Practice self-isolation, social distancing & celibacy (unless you and your partner are COVID-19 free)
    • Protect your vulnerable loved ones
    • Read here for the latest news updates (not sponsored, but we'll plug anyway)
      • 31 min
    • ATTRACTION: Are they HOT or are you just DESPERATE?

      Do you have a type? Are types even worth having? Turns out, you probably won't marry the same cookie-cutter you've been dating time and time again anyway, so might be time to shake things up. We explore the laws of attraction (turns out, not what we originally thought it was, thank God for search engines) and what it ACTUALLY means to be attracted to someone. Or everyone.

      MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

      • D.B. Dillard-Wright Ph.D. defines the "Laws of Attraction" in Psychology Today.
      • Guy Redden extends on this theory, the pseudo-science behind it and "New Thought Philosophy" in the Journal of Australia.
      • INSIDER explains the scientific and visual cues that explain why you're attracted to someone.
      • The Nine Signs You're HANGRY For Love (or just desperate) by Your Tango.
      • The University of Western Ontario conducted a study into why you won't end up marrying your type.


        • 47 min
      • HOW TO BE A GOOD EX: Can you *genuinely* be friends?
        On this week's episode we're discussing exes and whether it's worth (or even if it's possible) being friends with them. From dividing and conquering your mutual friends to tactfully pulling off a PDA (public display of disaffection), broken relationships present new challenges. Are you ready to be friends?  What do you consider a friend to even be? How many friends do you actually need?  These are the questions that sent us spiralling and we hardly answer.
        Rule of thumb though: how you treat someone who’s wronged you says more about you than it does about them!!! Be self-aware!!
        Articles mentioned in this episode:
        "What are ways you can be a good ex?" by Farah Khedre in Identity
        "How To Be A Good Ex To Someone" by Delia Cai in GQ
        "5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Back Together With an Ex" by Meghan Nesmith in Man Repeller
        37 min
      • Is Closure A Myth? (yes)

        In our second episode, we discuss the myth* that is CLOSURE. Does it exist? Can you really ever have all the questions you may come up with answered by a former flame? Does it even help you in the grand scheme of things? Do you actually want to know the real answer anyway? Tune in to hear ways to give someone closure, times (only one of us) has found it, and all the arguments (mainly against) surrounding the post-break up phenomenon that is closure.

        LINKS TO CONTENT DISCUSSED:

        Psychology Today: “no one can give you closure but yourself"

        Definition: Urban Dictionary

        Social psychologist Arie Kruglanski in The Conversation on: coining the phrase “closure” in the 1990s

        Lauren Jarvis-Gibson in Tought Catalog on Closure: "Love mattered and closure doesn’t make it not matter.” 

        Anonymous in Chicago NOW on Closure: “A conversation that was meant to close the door sometimes seems to open ten more windows.”

        *open to interpretation, we unsurprisingly assume no responsibility for what is discussed. 

        35 min
      • BEST & WORST Dates (valentine's day special)
        HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY! It's our first (UNOFFICIAL) Episode! In celebration of all those who love, despise and don't particularly care for the Hallmark holiday, we go through the harrowing tales of our worst dates before lightening the mood with a few ideas on how to treat your partner (and yourself, of course).
        MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST:
        B's worst date ever, in 9Honey.
        Cat Person, by Kate Roupenian in The New Yorker.
        40 min

      About Officially Unofficial

      From the publisher's feed

      "Officially Unofficial" is two friend's journey through the (post) modern dating sphere who found a regular time to argue and analyse their respective love lives with Googled articles and simplified…