Old Souls and Seekers

Why does one kid push your buttons more than the others? In this episode of the Old Souls & Seekers podcast, Guy and Ilan Ferdman say the child who activates you most is often highlighting something in you that you have not fully worked through yet. They start with a pattern Ilan keeps hearing from parents, where one child feels easy and another makes you reactive, then talk about why yelling, getting bigger and trying to control the situation never work, and what changes when a parent softens, slows down and leads with love. The conversation then widens to teenagers and social media, showing up when it is hard, and AI, Stonehenge and rethinking how we think.

In today's episode:

• The Child Who Activates You: Ilan opens with a pattern he keeps hearing: parents-to-be are warned that one child will push all their buttons, and parents already on the path describe one easy relationship and one hard one.
• Two Camps: One camp tries to shape kids into a version that makes the parent comfortable. The other lets kids show the parent what they have not worked through.
• Why Fighting Fire With Fire Fails: Guy says matching intensity with intensity never worked, because someone is always willing to go bigger, until it turns into the nuclear option.
• Soften First: Guy explains that when he remembers how much he loves his child, he softens, slows down and leads with "I love you so much," and then there is an opening to talk.
• Not Bracing When Others Are Angry: Ilan says raising kids taught his system to soften instead of brace, clench or tighten when someone near him is angry, and that it carries beyond parenting.
• Showing Up When It Is Hard: Guy asks whether you will show up for yourself even when you want to burn the world down.
• AI, Stonehenge and Rethinking Thinking: From teenagers and social media, the hosts widen out to what AI found at Stonehenge and why we keep rethinking how we think.

Timestamps

00:00 | Intro 01:19 | The pattern Ilan keeps hearing from parents 04:47 | The deodorant, the trash bag and the lightbulb 08:03 | Your kids show you what you haven't worked through 10:03 | Two camps: control them or let them be your teacher 17:33 | Why fighting fire with fire goes nuclear 21:43 | Soften first: "I love you so much" 25:28 | Instant energetic feedback from kids 29:13 | Energy begets energy 31:10 | Why peace can't wait for everyone else to calm down 33:33 | Children as mirrors of ourselves 34:31 | Evolution, AI and the slow iteration of humans 39:28 | Columbus, ripples and what we can't see yet 40:39 | "Love your family" 44:34 | Teenagers and social media 45:46 | The tortoise, the hare and the long game 47:41 | Will you show up even when it's hard? 50:40 | Psychedelics and shortcuts 52:42 | What AI found at Stonehenge 55:23 | Rethinking thinking in the age of AI 59:07 | Wrap up

Questions answered in this episode

Why does one of my kids push my buttons more than the others? The child who pushes your buttons most is often highlighting something inside you that you have not fully worked through or embraced. Guy and Ilan describe kids as a real-life mirror of your inner world, so the reactions you have with one child can point to patterns you are still carrying.

Should you fight fire with fire when a child escalates? No. Guy says yelling, getting bigger and trying to control the situation do not work and only make matters worse. Matching intensity with intensity invites someone to go bigger, until it turns into the nuclear option.

What changes when a parent softens first? The child tends to soften too. Guy says that when he remembers how much he loves his child, he softens, slows down, leads with I love you so much, and pauses so it lands. Then there is an opening to talk.

How do you stay calm when someone near you is angry? Practice softening instead of bracing. Ilan says raising kids taught his system not to brace, clench or tighten when met with an intense, heightened state, which helps with anger around him in general, not only with his children.

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Why do men go silent and isolate the moment life gets hard?

Ilan and Guy just got back from a men's healing mastermind outside Phoenix, where they were invited to facilitate medicine journeys, and they unpack what they saw. Twenty-some men, a man who tried to walk across Antarctica solo, and one repeating pattern: almost everyone was struggling, and almost nobody wanted to ask for help.

They talk about why saying "I really need help" can feel like chewing on glass, why vulnerability is the real strength, and what it was like to receive praise without deflecting it. Guy shares how he now feels safe in a room of strange men, and the download he got about using AI for spiritual reflection instead of just productivity.

Ilan reveals the name for his new fathers' group, Dad Code, and why it will be capped and wait-list only.

Along the way: the dirty carpet metaphor for personal development, surrendering to spontaneous body expression in front of strangers, unlearning the identity you copied to succeed, stargazing under Orion's Belt, and what it means to just be with someone instead of fixing them.

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Personal experiences and opinions shared in conversation. Not medical or mental health advice. If you are struggling, reach out to a trusted person or a qualified professional.

What if the story we were taught about human history is missing most of its chapters? Ilan and Guy start with a strange shared problem, waking at 4 AM for two weeks straight, then follow the thread into sleep debt, Mandy's new naturopathy certification, and the theories about Giza, Solomon's Temple, Noah's Ark and stones too big to move.

They ask how ancient builders cut and fit giant blocks, whether AI pattern-finding is surfacing sites we missed, and what quantum computing, nanites and plasma cutting could mean for the next generation. Then it lands somewhere human: a shorter work week, ageism, staying curious under uncertainty, and loving the season of life you're in.

Note: the ancient-history claims are speculation and personal theories shared in conversation, not established fact.

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Most dads work 40 to 80 hours a week and come home to a version of Groundhog Day: present in the room, absent in the moment. Andrew O'Brien, founder of Dad Tribes, a free, app-powered community for fathers now in 20 countries, joins Guy and Ilan Ferdman to talk about what it takes to lead yourself before you lead a family.

We get into why kids absorb the nervous system of the home instead of the words you say, the grief hiding inside the "both parents working" model, how Andrew thinks about 30-day challenges and lasting change, and how his own upbringing shaped the man and the mission. Plus: how meditation lands for high-energy "tough guy" men who think stillness isn't for them.

"You can't lead men if you're not leading yourself." Andrew O'Brien

Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:31 Meeting Andrew and the Dad Tribes story 36:16 Rich & Regulated Workshop 37:31 Back to the conversation 74:10 Outro and how to support the show

Questions answered in this episode How can a father be more present when he works 40 to 80 hours a week? What is Dad Tribes? How do you make lasting change as a busy dad? Does meditation work for high-energy men?

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Eight years ago a coach told Ilan to write the book. He still hasn't. This episode is about what finally cracks that open, and why it's happening now, in the middle of the strangest technological moment any of us have lived through.

Guy and Ilan talk about the feeling that things are suddenly lining up, AI-generated content going viral while few people notice it isn't human, and how Dan Brown's 2017 novel Origin already reads like a documentary. They get practical too: using AI as a daily self-reflection partner, building things just by talking, and the question every parent is asking right now, whether college still makes sense.

Underneath it all: a forest has to collapse before it regrows, AI may give local communities real self-sufficiency, and the one constant through every version of the future is spirituality.

"The only certainty is uncertainty."

Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:31 When everything starts lining up 28:51 Nervous System Reset Protocol 30:06 Back to the conversation 56:32 Outro and how to support the show

Questions answered in this episode Should my kid still go to college in the age of AI? How can you use AI for self-reflection? Why do people put off creative work like writing a book for years? What stays constant as technology accelerates?

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In Episode 373 of the Old Souls & Seekers Podcast, Guy and Ilan Ferdman explore the tension between modern technology and the simple human experiences that can easily get lost in today's world. They reflect on the Jewish High Holy Days, forgiveness, gratitude, and being present, before discussing loneliness, aloneness, silence, and how technology can distract us from ourselves and the people around us. They also share their concerns about children's increasing screen time and the importance of creating space for connection, creativity, and real-world experiences.

The conversation expands into parenting, education, food, the future of work, and artificial intelligence. Guy and Ilan discuss alternative approaches to raising and educating children, the importance of teaching life skills and critical thinking, and how technological change may affect employment and our sense of purpose. They also explore AI, consciousness, and Guy's personal experiences using AI as a tool for reflection, ultimately raising deeper questions about how we can use technology while remaining connected to ourselves, our relationships, and what it means to be human.

In Episode 372 of the Old Souls & Seekers Podcast, Guy and Ilan Ferdman explore the pressures, challenges, and emotional patterns that can shape our lives and relationships. Ilan shares a recent breakthrough in clarity after feeling lost for an extended period, while Guy opens up about recurring dreams involving abandonment, communication, and emotional processing. Together, they explore how difficult experiences can create protective patterns and how greater awareness can help us understand ourselves and the way we relate to others.

The conversation also highlights the importance of combining mindset work with somatic practices, recognising that lasting transformation often involves both the mind and the body. Guy and Ilan discuss emotional healing, family stability, and the importance of becoming a grounded and attuned presence for the people we love. Ilan also shares his vision for a pilot program supporting fathers and husbands who want to develop greater stability, connection, and emotional awareness within their families.

In Episode 371 of the Old Souls & Seekers Podcast, Guy and Ilan Ferdman reflect on getting older, navigating life's challenges, and learning how to manage stress without giving unnecessary energy to problems. Guy shares his reflections on turning 43, watching his children grow up, and noticing how different generations approach health, family, and life. They also discuss the importance of having healthy tools to release stress and manage emotional and energetic responses.

The conversation also revisits the powerful influence of mentors, particularly Paul, and the personal development experiences that shaped Guy and Ilan's journey into spirituality and self-awareness. Ilan shares the story of trusting his intuition when he knew Fanny was the person he wanted to marry, including the memorable experience of finding an engagement ring in Capri. Through these stories, Guy and Ilan explore intuition, personal growth, meaningful relationships, and the lasting lessons we carry from the people who influence our lives.

In Episode 370 of the Old Souls & Seekers Podcast, Guy and Ilan Ferdman explore the deeper meaning of healing and personal growth, challenging the idea that healing means always feeling good, calm, or peaceful. They discuss how trying to escape discomfort or reach an ideal emotional state can actually create more suffering, while true healing comes from building the capacity to stay present with whatever life brings.

The conversation also explores the transient nature of emotions and energy, the ego's tendency to use effort to control difficult experiences, and the paradox of turning meditation into another way to "fix" ourselves. Guy and Ilan invite listeners to drop the effort, stop resisting what is happening in the present moment, and trust the natural process of transformation.