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I had a tweet go viral about fatherhood and the responses were fascinating. Matt Walsh did a segment on it, TMZ did a segment, thousands of parents shared their own takes. In this episode, I reflect on what the discourse revealed to me.
While I love my children deeply, I often find the act of playing with them tedious. The massive backlash to this basic fact contrasted sharply with the private support I received from many fathers. I use this experience to explore a theory about modern fatherhood: that we are living through an explosion of complexity where traditional benchmarks for what constitutes "enough" (money, safety, success) have dissolved, leaving fathers in a state of constant silent anxiety. I conclude with a reflection on the indie scholar path: One does not have to be a talking head like Matt Walsh, play-acting like an uptight know-it-all, but one also does not have to be a sad, silent nobody who never formulates any interesting or meaningful observations. A lot of people think I'm an attention seeker because I go viral occasionally, but I've actually been doing only one thing for about 15 years. My usually quiet, humble thinking and writing just occasionally break into the limelight. This is fine.
✦ Order my new book, The Independent Scholar: https://otherlife.co/scholar
By Justin Murphy4.4
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I had a tweet go viral about fatherhood and the responses were fascinating. Matt Walsh did a segment on it, TMZ did a segment, thousands of parents shared their own takes. In this episode, I reflect on what the discourse revealed to me.
While I love my children deeply, I often find the act of playing with them tedious. The massive backlash to this basic fact contrasted sharply with the private support I received from many fathers. I use this experience to explore a theory about modern fatherhood: that we are living through an explosion of complexity where traditional benchmarks for what constitutes "enough" (money, safety, success) have dissolved, leaving fathers in a state of constant silent anxiety. I conclude with a reflection on the indie scholar path: One does not have to be a talking head like Matt Walsh, play-acting like an uptight know-it-all, but one also does not have to be a sad, silent nobody who never formulates any interesting or meaningful observations. A lot of people think I'm an attention seeker because I go viral occasionally, but I've actually been doing only one thing for about 15 years. My usually quiet, humble thinking and writing just occasionally break into the limelight. This is fine.
✦ Order my new book, The Independent Scholar: https://otherlife.co/scholar

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