In this episode of On the Couch with Clare, I’m joined by Jack Ayoub — union organiser, former federal political candidate, opera singer, and unapologetic truth-teller. You may have seen Jack recently stirring up conversation with his bold piece in The Australian titled LGBTQIA+ Doesn’t Speak for Me: It’s Time to Dismantle the Rainbow Alliance.
But beyond the headlines, Jack's story is one of resilience, community, and asking the tough questions — from growing up in rural NSW and overcoming hardship, to navigating identity, belonging, and the risk of being reduced to a label.
In a world that loves neat categories, Jack's perspective challenges us to think more deeply about individuality, equality, and what genuine community really looks like.
In this episode, we chat about:
- Who gets to speak for a community and why Jack believes no one can represent such diverse experiences
- The complexity of identity and why sexuality, gender or background shouldn't define the whole person
- Growing up in rural NSW, hardship, loss and how real community changed Jack's life
- The origins and evolution of the LGBTQIA+ movement — and whether it's time for honest reflection
- Why labels can feel both empowering and deeply limiting
- How we have open, respectful conversations even when the topic is controversial.
Links and Resources:
- Read Jack's article: LGBTQIA+ Doesn’t Speak for Me: It’s Time to Dismantle the Rainbow Alliance — Read it here (subscriber-only)
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Come take a seat On the Couch with Clare, your weekly dose of common sense and raw conversations, where psychology meets everyday life. It’s a show aimed to bring scientific insights, engaging conversations and never shies away from the tough topics across health, relationships, politics, parenting and everyday life.
You’ll hear from guests from diverse backgrounds, including media personalities, authors, and health professionals. Expect a blend of professional wisdom, personal anecdotes and political correctness - free zone.
Clare’s straightforward and honest approach delivers shame-free practical solutions, new perspectives, and actionable advice. Keeping it real, she addresses everything from fitness struggles, ADHD and digital addictions to mental health challenges and the dating scene. So, whether you’re sipping coffee or enjoying your favourite wine, prepare for your weekly meet-up with a friend who’s here to show you that the only battle you’re truly facing is with yourself—and it’s a battle you can win.
Clare Rowe is a dynamic Sydney-based psychologist with a Masters in Educational & Developmental Psychology. Heading up a leading Child & Adolescent Psychology clinic, Clare’s career spans from the therapy room to the courtroom and the media spotlight, offering practical solutions for parents regaining confidence, individuals navigating life post-divorce, and anyone trying to balance the demands of a fast-paced world.
Dropping every Thursday, "On the Couch with Clare" will unfold with season 1 launching in July 2024.
Mentioned in this episode:
Rafton Family Law
Rafton Family Lawyers are a specialist Family and Divorce Law Practice located in Richmond, Penrith, Parramatta and throughout Western Sydney that also offers services in Estate Planning, Wills and Estate Disputes. They offer a full range of services in property settlement, court representation and other divorce law matters.
