The holidays are fast approaching. Although this can be a wonderful time of year, for some individuals the holidays can produce a lot of anxiety. Awkward or triggering conversations that happen at family gatherings, and at the family table, can create a lot of unnecessary stress and pressure. Knowing that many people expect to have these uncomfortable or triggering conversations, in this episode we wanted to share some tips for navigating these moments. We share out 5 tips, and also provide our own personal input on how to get through the stress of gatherings in the best ways possible.

"Thanksgiving Tips- Navigating Tough Holiday Conversations" Article: https://www.courier-journal.com/story/life/wellness/health/2020/11/10/thanksgiving-2020-tips-to-navigate-tough-holiday-conversations/6144220002/

"Tricky Conversations At The Holiday Table" Article: https://www.gominno.com/parents/how-to-navigate-tricky-conversations-at-the-holiday-table/

"Navigating Difficult Conversations At Thanksgiving" Article: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-navigate-difficult-conversations-at-thanksgiving-5086516

CDC "Coping With Stress" Article: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/about/copingwith-stresstips.html

"How To Help Someone With Anxiety" Article: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/how-to-help-someone-with-anxiety

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*Disclaimer: In this episode we discuss abusive patterns which may be triggering for some listeners. Please take care during this episode.

In this episode we highlight and break down the cycle of violence. We discuss how this cycle is carried out in every abusive relationship before we share out the 4 stages and what they may look, feel or sound like. During our discussion of each stage we share how both the survivor, and the abuser may be feeling and rationalizing each stage.

Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444

Live Violence Free Website (chat line): www.liveviolencefree.org

Live Violence Free One Conversation Domestic Violence Info: https://liveviolencefree.org/oneconversation/

The Cycle Of Violence: https://domesticviolence.org/cycle-of-violence/

National Domestic Violence Website: https://ncadv.org/resources

International Domestic Violence Resources/Shelters: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations

"The Hotline" National Domestic Violence Information: https://www.thehotline.org/

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In this episode we close out our Domestic Violence Awareness Month topics by having a discussion on technology abuse with paralegal/advocate, Heather Anderson. Heather has extensive training and knowledge of how technology can be used to gain power and control over victims in domestic violence relationships. We take time to break down different forms of technology that are commonly used in our lives, and how those devices or platforms can be unsafe. We also share out information and insight on how to be aware of tech abuse, and how to keep ourselves safe while using them.

Time Article "How Domestic Abusers Exploited Technology In The Pandemic" : https://time.com/5922566/technology-domestic-abuse-coronavirus-pandemic/

NY Times Article "Thermostats, Locks, Lights- Digital Tools of Domestic Abuse": https://www.nytimes.com/2018/06/23/technology/smart-home-devices-domestic-abuse.html

SafeSteps "What is Technology Abuse": https://www.safesteps.org.au/understanding-family-violence/types-of-abuse/technology-facilitated-abuse/

Technology Safety Plan: https://www.techsafety.org/resources-survivors/technology-safety-plan

"Abuse Using Technology": https://www.womenslaw.org/about-abuse/abuse-using-technology

Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444

Live Violence Free Website (Anonymous Chat): www.liveviolencefree.org

National Domestic Violence Hotline Website: https://www.thehotline.org/

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800.799.SAFE (7233).

International Domestic Violence Resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations

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**Disclaimer: Due to the content of this episode focusing on domestic violence, this conversati0n may be triggering for some. Please take care during this episode

In this episode we continue on our Domestic Violence Awareness Month theme by exploring a common question that occurs in domestic violence relationship contexts. The question "should I stay or should I go?" is a challenging and common narrative often being brought up in the minds of victims and survivors in the midst of a violent relationship. We discuss barriers, societal ideals, and other examples of why a survivor may toil with this question and decision to leave. We bring up some current media examples of how these messages are being either depicted in an accurate and meaningful way, or normalizing unhealthy and abusive behaviors.

Envision Counseling "Deciding to Stay or Leave" article: https://www.envisioncounsellingcentre.com/innerpage/resources/partner-abuse/deciding-to-stay-or-leave/

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence "Why do Victims Stay?": https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

"Getting Out of an Abusive Relationship": https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm

One Love's "Leaving Abuse is Hard": https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/why_leaving_abuse_is_hard/

Safety Plan App Download: https://www.joinonelove.org/get-help/#myplan

Global DV Resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations

National resources: https://ncadv.org/resources

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** Disclaimer/Trigger Warning ** This episode discusses and defines different types of abuse, please take care during this episode.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this episode we start by sharing some statistics and defining domestic violence. We then discuss the 5 types of abuse that are defined under domestic violence and provide examples for what each type can look or sound like in a relationship. Throughout the episode we share resources and some personal insight on domestic violence we have gained from working in the field.

Domestic Violence Statistics: https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS

The National Domestic Violence Hotline "Types of Abuse" (Used In This Episode): https://www.thehotline.org/resources/types-of-abuse/

Global DV Statistics: https://www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/facts-and-figures#:~:text=Globally%2C%20an%20estimated%20736%20million,does%20not%20include%20sexual%20harassment.

List of global DV resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations

Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444.

Live Violence Free Website (anonymous text chat): www.liveviolencefree.org

"Why Some DV Victims Don't Leave" TED Talk, Leslie Morgan Steiner: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1yW5IsnSjo

"DV From a Son's Perspective" TED Talk, Adam Herbst: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bD52ne0rRw0

The Hotline, DV Informational Hub: https://www.thehotline.org/

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV): https://ncadv.org/learn-more

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In this episode we discuss how common anxiety is. We start by defining anxiety and discuss how anxiety is a spectrum of different individual levels. We spend time sharing out different forms of treatment, or how we can deal with anxiety when it manifests in our everyday lives, as well as sharing our own personal tips.

Facts & Stats: https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/facts-statistics

How to Cope w Anxiety TED, Olivia Remes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWloIAQpMcQ

National Institute on Mental Health Anxiety Overview: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/any-anxiety-disorder

Mayo Clinic Anxiety Overview: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anxiety/symptoms-causes/syc-20350961

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

International Suicide Resources/hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/

CBT Therapy:https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral

Choosing The Right Therapist For You: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-choose-the-right-therapist-for-you-4842306

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In this episode we discuss narcissism and what it may look like if you are in a relationship with a narcissist. We start by defining narcissism and discussing the two most common types of narcissistic personality. After diving into some of the most common personality traits of individuals with narcissistic personality, we then share 12 examples of what it may look or sound like when dating someone who is a narcissist. Please keep in mind that this episode is not intended to diagnose anyone, as only a mental health professional is capable of diagnosing someone with this personality disorder; this is purely intended to provide insight.

Live Violence Free 24/7 Crisis Line: 530-544-4444

Live Violence Free Chat Line: www.liveviolencefree.org (chat button feature)

"5 Signs Someone Has Suffered Narcissistic Abuse" Dr. Ramani: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lt56nGmGG-0&t=295s

"The Psychology of Narcissism" TedED, Keith Campbell: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arJLy3hX1E8

Mayo Clinic "Narcissistic Personality Disorder": https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662

Alliance For Hope (International Relationship/Domestic Violence Support): https://www.allianceforhope.com/

Hot Peach Pages International Violence Resources List: https://www.hotpeachpages.net/

National Domestic Violence Resources: https://www.thehotline.org/

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Currently the Tahoe California area is facing devastating wildfires, so in this quick episode Lisa discusses safety planning and considerations for those who are living in the area, or other fire prone locations, We provide 6 tips for preparing for a mandatory evacuation, and share some useful information on how to prepare yourself and your loved ones.

Thank you to all first responders who are working around the clock to contain, rescue, and try their hardest to maintain Tahoe's beautiful landscape

Tahoe "Living With Fire" Preparedness Page: https://www.tahoelivingwithfire.com/get-prepared/

Wildfire Evacuation Checklist (PDF/Printable): https://naes.agnt.unr.edu/PMS/Pubs/1510200790.pdf?utmsource=publications&utmmedium=pub-download&utmcampaign=pub-link-clicks&utmcontent=2977

Wildfire Readiness: https://www.readyforwildfire.org/

El Dorado County Animal Services (small animals), Diamond Springs. For animal evacuation questions or assistance call: (530) 621-5795

Douglas County Animal Services (livestock) Douglas County Fairgrounds, Gardnerville. (775) 782-9061

Evacuation order live site: https://www.arcgis.com/apps/webappviewer/index.html?id=c995bf3816964e948d7d831d3ba938ff&extent=-13463583.5216%2C4641865.1142%2C-13344341.7574%2C4710429.1285%2C102100

Caldor Fire Updates: https://www.fire.ca.gov/incidents/2021/8/14/caldor-fire/

For animal evacuation questions or assistance in the South Lake Tahoe area call (530)-621-5795.

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In this episode, we begin by sharing out some statistics and defining sexual harassment. We then discuss the 3 different types of sexual harassment and give out examples for each type; we even share some personal experiences and examples as well. We cover some of the mental, physical and emotional effects that harassment can cause before sharing out a list of ways we can safely intervene if we experience or witness harassment.

Laura Bates TED Talk "Everyday Sexism": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhjsRjC6B8U

Jess Leigh TED Talk "Street Harassment, It's Not OK": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGZbyUGm3vs

NSVRC (National Sexual Violence Resource Center) Harassment Study: https://www.nsvrc.org/resource/facts-behind-metoo-movement-national-study-sexual-harassment-and-assault

RAINN "Sexual Harassment" Overview: https://www.rainn.org/articles/sexual-harassment

Washington Post "Difference Between Harassment & Assault": https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/12/21/whats-the-difference-between-sexual-assault-and-harassment-lets-break-it-down/

BBC "When Does Flirting Become Sexual Harassment?": https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-41665049

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*Disclaimer- This episode may be triggering for some due to sensitive content, please be advised while listening to this episode.*

In this episode we discuss the impact that domestic violence can have on both children, and survivors. We start by defining domestic violence before we provide some statistics for both. We then provide a list of examples of how witnessing or being subject to violence can have both short-term and long-term consequences for that individual, both physically and psychologically.

Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444

Futures Without Violence Impact Study (2018): https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/2018-impact/

Child Welfare Agency DV Impact: https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/domviolence/impact/children-youth/

National Domestic Violence Hotline/Resource Hub: https://www.thehotline.org/

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

Adam Herbst TED Talk "DV From a Son's Perspective": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bD52ne0rRw0

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