What if ADHD isn’t about attention at all?
In this episode, Dr. Adam Rinde sits down with Dr. Shirley Hershko, a globally recognized ADHD specialist, to dismantle the myths, reveal the hidden faces of ADHD in adults and women, and share practical tools for thriving with a differently wired brain.
Whether you’re struggling with focus, overwhelmed by daily life, or simply curious about the real story behind ADHD—this episode will change the way you see yourself or your loved ones.
00:00 – Intro & Podcast Support:You can support the podcast through affiliate sponsors like Healthgevity (use code ONETHING for 10% off).
01:04 – ADHD Isn’t About Attention:
Dr. Rinde introduces Dr. Shirley Hershko, and challenges what most people believe about ADHD.
02:16 – Episode Overview:
What you’ll learn about myths, adult ADHD, diagnosis, trauma, and more.
03:03 – Meet Dr. Shirley Hershko:
Her global mission, new book, and vision for ADHD support.
05:59 – Dr. Hershko’s Personal ADHD Journey:
How personal experience led her to this work.
08:11 – Myths That Drive Experts Crazy:
Why ADHD is not just a focus problem—and the real cost of misunderstanding.
10:02 – Time Blindness & Regulation Issues:
Why ADHD is really about time and emotional regulation, not just attention.
12:14 – Diagnosis in the Modern World:
Are we over-diagnosing, or finally getting it right?
13:29 – How ADHD Shows Up in Adults:
Chronic disorganization, emotional overwhelm, and hidden symptoms.
15:33 – Hidden Symptoms & Gender Differences:
How ADHD can look totally different in men vs. women—and why girls are so often missed.
17:26 – Why Women Get Overlooked:
Perfectionism, masking, and the struggle behind high performance.
21:43 – The ADHD-Trauma Overlap:
How trauma can mimic or worsen ADHD, and the importance of trauma-informed care.
24:38 – ADHD & Relationships:
Marriage, friendship, communication, and how to shift from blame to collaboration.
26:59 – Regulation, Sleep & Eating:
Why sleep, eating patterns, and lifestyle can be so challenging—and how to manage them.
29:54 – Couples & Executive Function:
The dynamic of ADHD in relationships, from frustration to resilience.
31:40 – Getting a Meaningful Diagnosis:
Why checklists aren’t enough—Dr. Hershko’s approach to thorough assessment.
33:21 – Medication & Misconceptions:
What meds can (and can’t) do for ADHD.
34:45 – The ‘Just the Moment’ Method:
Dr. Hershko’s practical system for time management—and why it really works.
37:06 – Hope for the Future of ADHD:
Why there’s never been a better time to seek support.
38:26 – Surprising Facts & Under-Discussed Issues:
What most people miss about ADHD—and how environment matters.
39:56 – Where to Get Help:
How to find an assessment, join the community, and learn more from Dr. Hershko.
42:53 – Wrap-Up & Final Thoughts:
How to connect with Dr. Hershko and join the global ADHD conversation.
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