One Voice Evolving | Kim Brassor

She has degrees in aerospace engineering, physics, and math. She tutored her husband through his science degree. He sent out three applications and got all three jobs — including his dream job, which they moved across the country for. She applied for years. Her resume got routed to accounting. She was told to come back when she was done having babies. That's not a metaphor. That's Jayne Reid's actual career in aerospace engineering.

This is episode 98 of One Voice Evolving, and the question I'm carrying into the next hundred is the one I asked Jane the week before we recorded: what has patriarchy cost you? Jane didn't hesitate. Neither did this conversation.

We talk about the unwritten rules of male-dominated fields — the ones nobody teaches professional women to navigate, on purpose. The insider knowledge that creates academic dynasties. The classrooms designed for neuroatypicals that accidentally become the best classrooms for everyone. And the two-minute study technique that took a straight-F student to a full ride at med school.

The system is not broken. It is working exactly as designed. For someone else.

Brooke Haynes is back, and this time the conversation isn't about what happened — it's about what comes next.

As an adoptee, advocate, and someone deep inside adoption communities, Brooke has watched adult adoptees stay stuck in grief because they've never had a place to put it down. She calls it the adoption fog. And with reproductive rights shifting and domestic adoptions rising, the system is about to get a lot more crowded with people who weren't prepared for what they signed up for.

This episode is a new-world conversation. What does a healthy adoption look like when the education starts before the decision? What roles exist beyond "birth mom" and "adoptive parent"? And what has to heal in the community before it can build something better for the children coming?

Kim shares something she says she's never said publicly — about the one person who finally made her believe it wasn't her fault. It changes the shape of the episode entirely.

If you're an adoptee, a birth parent, an adoptive parent, or someone who's ever had to figure out what you're actually unpacking — this one's for you.

Kim ran a Holocaust episode through ChatGPT for a description. What came back didn't mention the Holocaust. It invented a different episode entirely — about avoidance and self-trust. Christian Ortiz wasn't surprised.

Christian is an Afroindigenous decolonial social scientist and the developer of Justice AI GPT — the world's first decolonial AI framework. His work: helping people see how colonialism lives inside the systems we've inherited, including the AI tools we trust daily to tell us what's true.

This conversation is a live case study in what happens when an AI built on Eurocentric data hits a topic it's been guard-railed to soften — and what it looks like when a tool is built to do the opposite.

Some people say the church is the only organization that shoots its wounded. If you've been in deconstruction, left a church in pain, or watched a faith community implode — you already know exactly what that means.

In this episode, Kim Brassor replays a webinar she created during a real church crisis — one that exploded across her community and left people bleeding with nowhere to go. What she laid out then still maps directly onto what's happening now. History rhymes.

This isn't theory. It's a practical, unflinching look at how spiritual abuse actually works — inside church systems, inside family systems, and inside the people who got caught in both.

Some conversations don’t need to be polished.

They need to be honest.

In this episode, Dr. Harriette Richard speaks from lived experience — not theory — about what it means to move through the world with an awareness of race that isn’t always shared by others.

She names the tension that comes with that. The moments where speaking up feels necessary… and the moments where staying quiet feels safer. The weight of navigating both.

Because silence isn’t neutral. It can feel protective in the moment — but it often protects something else entirely.

What emerges is a deeper look at voice, identity, and the cost of not saying what’s true.

Not to resolve the tension —

but to acknowledge it.

In this episode, Kim sits down with Meg O’Brien for a conversation that doesn’t stay in the abstract — it goes straight into the real tensions many of us are living in right now. What if the thing that finally got you to pay attention to history… was a middle school teacher? That’s what happened to Kim. She heard Meg O’Brien speak at a church, and something shifted. Not because the history was dumbed down. Because it was placed — in real ground, with real people, and real consequences that rhyme with right now.

That’s not a concept for Kat — it’s a daily practice.

In this informal “Coffee with Kim” conversation, Amy “Kat” Lamb shares what it actually looks like to stay aligned in real life. Not in theory, but in the middle of work, leadership, relationships, and everything else pulling for your attention.

She talks about the small, intentional practices that keep her grounded — from early morning routines to checking in with herself throughout the day — constantly asking, what do I need right now? Because for her, peace isn’t passive. It’s something she actively protects.

DEI isn't dead — it's just been forced underground. That's the honest assessment from Soon Mee Kim, a long-time leader at the intersection of technology, communications, and inclusion, and the voice behind the Substack Unmuted.

In this episode, Kim and Soon Mee get into the uncomfortable reality of where DEI actually stands right now — not in theory, but on the ground. The companies hiding it in "witness protection." The figureheads with titles but no resources. The compliance managers just trying to stay in the lines. And the brain drain happening in real time as the people who built this work for decades are pushed out or walking away.

“I was living outside of myself for a long time.”

That’s not just a reflection — it’s the thread that runs through Brooke Haynes’ story. In this episode, she opens up about her experience with adoption and how it shaped her sense of identity, belonging, and self-trust in ways she didn’t fully recognize until later in life.

Kim sits down with Lee Woodman for a deeply reflective conversation on observation, awareness, and how we experience the world beyond what we’ve been taught to see.

Lee shares how poetry, art, and lived experience open access to deeper ways of knowing — beyond the traditional five senses. Through stories, imagery, and metaphor, this conversation explores how perception shapes identity, clarity, and the way we move through the world.

Together, Kim and Lee explore:

• the difference between looking and truly seeing

This episode offers a powerful invitation to slow down, notice more, and experience life with greater depth and intentional awareness.

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