In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lori Holden, an adoptive mom of 2 teens, author of the book The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, written with her daughter’s birth mom and featured on required reading lists with adoption agencies across the country. She’s also a blogger at LavenderLuz.com, and host of the podcast Adoption: The Long View. Lori is an influential voice in the adoption world, advocating for openness in all kinds of adoption relationships. She often keynotes at adoption conferences and speaks to new and prospective adoptive families, helping them realize the benefits to EVERYONE of maintaining transparency in the adoption process.

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RESOURCES:

Lori’s information:

• Lori’s Website: LavenderLuz.com
• Adoption: The Long View podcast: https://www.adopting.com/adoption-podcasts/adoption-the-long-view
• The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption book: https://www.amazon.com/Open-Hearted-Way-Open-Adoption-Helping-dp-1442217391/dp/1442217391/
• Three Sides to Every Adoption: https://threesidesadoption.com/
• Instagram: @LavLuz
• Twitter: @LavLuz
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LavenderLuzWriter

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

• Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency book: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Core-Issues-Adoption-Permanency-ebook/dp/B07PCWBZG1

 

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TIME STAMPS:

1:50 Parents doing their own work

3:39 How Lori learned adoption wasn’t all unicorns and butterflies

5:05 Getting curious about adoption

6:40 A new child can’t cure infertility grief

9:35 Lori’s family’s adoption story

13:45 The importance of the biological bond

16:52 “You are mom”

19:38 Both-And

20:58 Adoptive parents that are closed off completely

22:37 What should adoptive parents say when their child misses their birthparent?

27:10 Open adoption’s trajectory

30:35 What if…

34:18 Listening to birth parents more

35:55 Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency

36:26 Constellation v Triad

38:35 Adoptive parents as the “bad guys”

41:38 Is Lori anti-adoption?

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