Is orgasmic birth the key to unlocking innate wisdom, pleasure, and possibility?

My guest today is ​​Jenny Koos, aka Vulverine, and her husband Lovemark Boadu, both based in Sweden. Jenny is an author and speaker on fertility awareness and women's health, and teaches Holistic Reproductive Health Practitioners at Justisse College International. Her and Lovemark, musician, rapper, and producer met in the summer on 2021.

In this episode they share their birth story and how they became familiar with the concept of orgasmic birth. Jenny shares her experience during this her second labor, the extraordinary circumstances that didn't permit the birth age had wanted, and how they were able to overcome the difficulties by focusing on love and joy. Tune in and find out the power of the oxytocin connection!

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• The connection Vulverine felt with Lovemark during their pregnancy and birth, and how that helped them through difficult times
• Why Vulverine & Lovemark decided to keep their baby despite the risk of her having a rare condition
• Preparing for birth by drenching their baby in oxytocin and dancing to music

Key Takeaways:

• An orgasmic birth is a path to healing and connection
• Zoom in on the moment and be present to have a successful and unique childbirth
• Love is very important during childbirth and should be shown in various ways
• Childbirth is a powerful, intense experience that can be overwhelming if not properly prepared for
• Oftentimes we don't connect birth to our sexuality and understand the fullness of female sexuality and what our bodies can do
• Midwives can really help to have a positive and empowering birth experience

Tweetable Quotes:

"Be aware of what's going on. As a man, you will never know how it feels to be pregnant, so put your ego aside and just listen, for the woman's sake and your own." - Lovemark Boadu

Connect with Vulverine & Lovemark

Website: https://vulverine.se/

Jenny's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vulverinekoos/?hl=en

Lovemark's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vulverine_lovemark/

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

Pleasure can be found in movement and birth can be more enjoyable when attended to with care and respect.

In this episode, Debra navigates how comfort during labor and childbirth is crucial and breaks down different techniques that can help you have a more pleasant experience. She stresses how the environment in a birthing room can affect birth and points out the importance of using balls during labor and finding positions that help you lean forward. Tune in and learn how to find movement, comfort, and pleasure in labor!

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• Pleasure can be found in movement and birth can be more enjoyable when attended to with care and reverence
• Oxytocin is important for labor and can help with contractions, but it's also important to rest and alternate activity with rest
• Make sure to find the three Rs in labor: relaxation, rhythm, and ritual

Key Takeaways:

• Birth can be enjoyed more when attended to with touch, song, dance, ritual, and other elements of comfort
• The key to finding comfort during labor is to find positions that help you lean forward and to keep your knees lower than your hips
• When you're in labor, you'll be leaning in many different directions, and your baby will take the scenic route that's their personality. Don't feel guilty if you're sitting in good posture!
• There are many ways to get oxytocin going during labor, including using round balls or peanut balls
• If you are the partner laboring, it is important to be aware of your partner's rhythms and affirmations, as well as your own

Tweetable Quotes:

"We want to make labor a little bit more fun and bring a little bit more sexy, loving, sacred energy to birth." - Debra Pascali Bonaro

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

How can we engage with our bodies, be embodied, and experience birth in a more empowered way?

In this episode, Dr. Aviva Romm discusses embodied birth as the new epidural and how it can be a beneficial option for some women. She shares her insights about birth as a sexual experience and the importance of the feeling whole and connected in our bodies during this experience. Dr. Aviva breaks down different options for childbirth and the importance of honoring all choices when it comes to birthing. Listen and enjoy!

Dr. Aviva Romm is a midwife, herbalist, and Yale-trained MD, Board Certified in Family Medicine with Obstetrics. A practitioner, teacher, activist, and advocate of both environmental health and women's reproductive rights and health, she has been bridging the best of traditional medicine, total health ecology, and good science for over three decades. She's a long-time home birth pioneer and birth activist. Her company's philanthropic arm, DharmaMoms, provides funding for organizations working toward reproductive justice and birth equity in high-risk obstetric communities.

In this episode:

• Check out https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/pleasurable-birth-essentials/ to Positively Prepeare for Birth!
• Birth as a sexual experience and how to have a more empowered birth
• Why it is important to enjoy your pregnant self and figure out what brings you pleasure
• Dr. Aviva discloses great tips to connect with your sexuality and birth

Key Takeaways:

• When you get more embodied with the birth experience, it can provide tremendous relief from discomfort and reframe discomfort as power
• It's essential to discover what you like and what works for you sexually before you're pregnant. If you have the opportunity, figure that out with your partner
• Be aware of the words that are safe and not safe for survivors of sexual trauma during labor
• You can use physical intimacy and sexual pleasure as a way to increase oxytocin, contractions, ease, comfort, and pelvic relaxation
• Creating intimate space can help with pain relief and facilitate a smooth birth

Tweetable Quotes:

"Enjoy your body sexually to the extent that you feel physically comfortable." - Dr. Aviva Romm

"We set ourselves up for disenfranchising ourselves from our bodies when we separate pregnancy and birth from the obvious sexual experience. " - Dr. Aviva RommSpeier

Connect with Dr. Aviva Romm

Website: https://avivaromm.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.avivaromm/

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

Although the transition to parenthood will transform your life, you should be prepared for what happens after the birth in order to successfully steer through the early weeks of this postpartum period.

Today, Dr. Diane S Speier provides great insights about how to make the transition to parenthood a positive experience. She is here to discuss - Is there sex after birth?: Sex and Intimacy in the Fourth Trimester". She emphasizes the importance of talking openly about birth preferences to help create a better experience for both parents and stresses why sexuality is just one aspect of intimacy. Tune in and discover how to thrive in the Fourth Trimester!

Dr. Diane S Speier, Ph.D. practices psychotherapy and hypnotherapy, specializing in perinatal psychology, perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, and recovering from birth trauma in the UK. She is a member of the All Party Parliamentary Group for Conception to Age 2: the first 1001 critical days, advocating for improved infant and perinatal mental health in the House of Commons. She says "It's in my DNA to help families through the postpartum period. She started running groups and classes for mothers and babies in 1978, in addition to being a childbirth educator and doula!

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• Postpartum intimacy and sexuality can be a topic that is often overlooked but is important for parents to be aware of
• How Dr. Diane's journey with childbirth and parenting has led her to develop the life's work of helping families through the postpartum period
• The oxytocin refreshment for both partners, and the difference between sexuality and intimacy

Key Takeaways:

• Birth touches such deep parts of us and inspires us to birth all kinds of other things, not only babies but other aspects of our life
• Why closeness is actually not good for sexuality, and how separation creates an amazing amount of desire
• There is a radiant circuit called penetrating flow, and Ming Men is the starting point for penetrating flow. If you stimulate that, It can grow into arousal
• Lubrication is important during the fourth trimester for both partners to avoid discomfort
• Patience is key during the Fourth Trimester, as relationships can be disrupted

Tweetable Quotes:

"Birth energizes that desire to help others have positive birth experiences." - Dr. Diane S Speier

"It's very important that we take care of each other's needs in a partnership after birth" - Dr. Diane S Speier

Connect with Dr. Diane S Speier

Website: https://dianespeier.com/

Book: Life After Birth:A Parent's Holistic Guide for Thriving in the Fourth Trimester

App: https://apps.apple.com/co/app/digital-doula-2-0/id731013697

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDianeSSpeier

Instagram: @drdianespeier

LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/dianespeier

Email: [email protected]

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

There are so many things you can do to really learn to trust your body and intuition and to let go of control in your life.

In this episode, Tally Storm navigates into how to use orgasmic birth as the ultimate self-development tool and how her free birth experience with her first son shifted her entire understanding of herself and her body. She breaks down the three different phases of development and how they can help you prepare for childbirth and sexuality.

Tilly Storm is a holistic sex and intimacy coach and host of The Multiorgasmic Mama Podcast since 2017. She's been recognized as one of the top 20 sex coaches in the world by the Coach Foundation and her podcast has reached over 240,000 listeners.

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• The more you learn to surrender deeply in your sexual experiences, let go of control, and just be present, the better your birth is going to be
• The three different phases of development - Reclamation, expansion, and mastery
• No one wants to link birth and sex because there's too much shame, stigma, and taboo around it

Key Takeaways:

• Sexuality work is the best thing you could do for yourself before you have a baby
• It's okay to celebrate pleasure in whatever form it comes to you
• It's less about learning about yourself and what you're capable of, and more about actually going out and doing the thing
• The importance of listening to your own body and trusting your instincts when it comes to pleasure in birth
• Stop caring what anyone thinks, and trust yourself

Tweetable Quotes:

"Everything that makes great sex is what makes a great birth." - Tilly Storm

"A lot of people want an orgasmic birth, but few are actually going to do the work to get it." - Tilly Storm

"Listen to your own body because that's where the wisdom is for you." - Tilly Storm

Connect with Tilly

Website: https://www.tillystorm.com/

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

Pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum birth are incredible opportunities to discover your strength and emerge feeling stronger and more empowered than you could have ever imagined. However, they can also be a time in which many people experience trauma, especially when they have a history of past trauma and are not fully supported and prepared.

In this episode, we are joined by Ngozi Tibbs to talk about how past experiences impact one's thoughts and feelings during pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum birth. She shares her incredible story of self-discovery, healing and how she kept her connection with her spouse before and after childbirth, and how she overcame her trauma and was able to do and endure things she never believed she could.

Ngozi wears a lot of hats as an Infant and Early Child Mental Health Consultant, Doula, Childbirth Educator, Lactation Consultant, Certified Health and Nutrition Coach, Relationship Coach, and Master Sexpert. She is married to her college sweetheart for 31 years and they are the parents of five awesome children and one fantastic grandson. She loves teaching and learning from families as they navigate through the joys and challenges of raising children.

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• Survivors of sexual abuse who are preparing for birth should surround themselves with resources and a community that supports them at times they are most vulnerable
• Sexuality is part of who we are, we don't become less sexual because we are mothers or parents

Key Takeaways:

• The process of giving birth and breastfeeding could also be a healing experience
• When you have a gift to help others, it is fulfilling to share it with the world
• Women are naturally strong and powerful; they are able to overcome the challenge of childbirth
• It would be best if you work on your healing so you do not project it onto other people
• Discuss unspoken expectations after the baby is born to sustain your connection with your partner
• Be kind to yourself and know what you want so you can guide your partner

Tweetable Quotes:

"I don't really feel like I knew who I was, and knew who I wanted to be until I was in my late 40s." - Ngozi Tibbs

"What we are all looking for is somebody that can walk alongside us, and help make our journey a little bit lighter." - Ngozi Tibbs

"Be kind to your body. There is no such thing as a perfect body." - Ngozi Tibbs

Resources Mentioned

When Survivors Give Birth: Understanding and Healing the Effects of Early Sexual Abuse on Childbearing Women

Crossing the Boundary: Black Women Survive Incest

Survivor Moms: Women's Stories of Birthing, Mothering, and Healing after Sexual Abuse

Connect with Ngozi

Website: https://journeylightercoaching.com

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

It's time to honor that there is joy, love, pleasure, and ecstasy in birth and start asking, how are we going to support people to have that peak transformational experience?

In this episode, Debra discusses why it's essential to create an orgasmic birth environment where you feel safe and respected. She encourages you to research your provider's overall rates of interventions in childbirth. Debra delves into why there's a need for change in the birth experience and what you should take into account to create an ambiance that is conducive to relaxation and intimacy. Listen and enjoy!

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• If medicalization of birth was always good, then we'd be having better outcomes than we have
• There are disparities in maternal and infant mortality rates based on race and ethnicity
• Birth can be an enjoyable experience if people are prepared and allow themselves to feel their emotions fully
• Take back your power and explore your options for an orgasmic birth

Key Takeaways:

• The reason why the medicalization of birth is like the industrialization of birth
• Black, brown and indigenous women are three times more likely to die from complications of pregnancy and childbirth than white women
• Preparing for childbirth can involve learning about different options and resources, as well as creating a positive birth ambiance
• People feel intimidated or uncomfortable when they are in prenatal care and are not allowed to ask questions about rates or childbirth interventions
• Positive birth preparation includes being aware of what is available in homebirth, birth center, and the hospital setting, as well as preparing mentally and physically for the experience
• Instead of creating an ordinary experience, every birth has the potential to be extraordinary.

Tweetable Quotes:

"In birth, you need to be in a place where you can really let your mind go. You have to get into your body so that you can feel your way through labor and birth." -Debra Pascali Bonaro

"Orgasmic birth is not just orgasm, it's really feeling the joy, the emotions, being present, staying in your power, and being a part of decision-making." - Debra Pascali Bonaro

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

www.orgasmicbirth.com

Become a doula: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/for-doulas/

Take a childbirth class: https://orgasmicbirth.com/for-parents/

If only we had studied birthing closely by listening to women, we would have created a more positive view of childbirth.

In this episode, we are joined by Margaret Jowitt to talk about how familiarity with a woman's anatomy could greatly impact one's experience of childbirth. Clitoris' role in reproduction is often disregarded but with proper understanding and technique, it can actually ease the intensity of labor and make up for a positive birth experience.

Ever since the birth of her third child in 1991, Margaret Jowitt has been working towards making birth a safer and more rewarding experience for mothers and their babies. After a first degree in music and psychology, she gained an MPhil from Keele in 1998, researching Mothers' Experience of Birth at Home and in Hospital. Her first book, Childbirth Unmasked, looked at the anatomy and physiology of birth, showing how stress hormones conflict with birth hormones. Since 1996 she has edited Midwifery Matters, the magazine of the Association of Radical Midwives. She considers that prevention is better than cure and believes that good midwifery care based on the needs of the individual woman is the key to safer childbirth.

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• Listening to women and their experiences is the first step to familiarizing ourselves with childbirth and making it better
• The clitoris is not only for female sexuality but it plays a huge role in the reproduction

Key Takeaways:

• Birth is not being observed properly, and by avoiding conversation about it, we are missing out on its beauty
• Having the right understanding of birth and how it works could help hospitals set up the right environment and improve the birthing experience
• The clitoris and where it is located helps prepare the woman's body for labour
• Oxytocin might be released through the clitoris
• During pregnancy, the woman's anatomy changes creating a cushion for the baby
• There needs a certain pressure to trigger orgasm and giving birth with the baby's head in the right position could trigger orgasmic birth
• During pregnancy, always move

Tweetable Quotes:

"The point is we don't observe birth properly. I think if we had observed it, if the scientists observed births properly, videoed it, analyze the video, talk to women to find out how they felt, I think we'd have got a far greater understanding of births." - Margaret Jowitt

"Nature might love us, but I don't think nature loves us enough for that nerve (clitoris) only to be used for sex. I think it serves a primary reproductive function if you're talking sort of pure science and biology." - Margaret Jowitt

"Until we start talking to women about how birth works. We tend to be stuck in the middle of the last century, believing what the men tell us about our own bodies." - Margaret Jowitt

Resources Mentioned:

Electronic fetal monitoring is more important than freedom of maternal position in labour

Connect with Margaret

Website: https://birthupright.co.uk/

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

Orgasm is not a one-size-fits-all. It's a unique experience for each person. Just as how each person goes through different life stages. In this episode, we are joined by Yanique Bell, a Tantric Intimacy & Empowerment Coach, and Somatic Healer, also known as The Pussy Queen. Yanique deep dives into female sexuality and how the importance of understanding yourself and learning about your anatomy in order to experience orgasm. She's also shared the reason why some women might feel a lack of sensation or pain and the methods to achieve soul-deep love and orgasmic effervescence. Let's dive in!

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• Female sexuality is connected to your heart and spiritual experience
• Building pleasure sensitivity is much more than the technique but more about full feeling

Key Takeaways:

• Changing our belief system directly impacts the way our pleasure experience
• Women who lack sensation as a result of trauma can still find healing with the help of the right practicing person
• Orgasm is different for every woman. You need to define what it is for yourself
• Familiarizing yourself with your anatomy to start building that connection to your vagina
• The numbness we feel sometimes is caused by trapped emotions so incorporating breathing exercises, somatic healing and mediation can help stimulate sensation

Tweetable Quotes:

"Our desires for that change actually can bring us into a deeper presence with ourselves, which actually can create the pleasure that we're seeking." - Yanique Bell

Resources Mentioned:

Pussy Tour Podcast episode

My free Intimacy Accelerator Quiz

Wildly Orgasmic - 6-Week Masterclass

Connect with Yanique:

Website: https://yaniquebell.com/

Podcast: https://yaniquebell.com/category/podcast/

TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@yanique_bell

IG: instagram.com/yanique_bell

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

No one deserves to have a traumatic birth experience. Every human being on this earth deserves to have an empowering and pleasurable experience.

In this conversation, Melissa Ambrosini delves into how pleasure played a significant role in her birth and relationship and what helped her and her partner to rediscover each other and their intimacy. She highlights the importance of preparing yourself for a beautiful postpartum experience, setting up an enjoyable birth environment, and embracing change. Melissa believes that everyone has the potential to awaken and change their lives for the better. Let's dig into it!

With a deep commitment to empowering others to become their best version, Melissa believes that awakening is possible for everyone. She strives to inspire others to reclaim their power, bust through fear, step into their truth, live with intention, and move in the direction of their dreams.

In this episode:

• Check out this website https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/the-big-o/ for a free guide on how to get your "Big O Birth" and a 40% discount on the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret!
• The importance of setting yourself up for a positive postpartum experience
• How birth and Melissa's new body took her to deeper places in her sexuality and intimacy
• Even after breastfeeding is over, the journey of becoming intimate with one's partner continues to be an evolving process
• Melissa stresses how self-love massage is a practice that helps you connect to your body

Key Takeaways:

• It's essential to prepare yourself for a beautiful and blissful postpartum
• Birth means starting your whole love-making journey with your partner all over again as new parents and lovers
• Don't expect things to be the same way with your partner once you have given birth. Go into it with fresh eyes and enjoy this new beautiful journey
• Being gentle, kind, soft, and compassionate with yourself is essential especially post-birth
• It all starts with you. If you want a pleasurable life, more love, and more intimacy with your partner, it starts with you.

Tweetable Quotes:

"Being really gentle with yourself is such a key piece to the puzzle because you are a completely different person, you've got a different body. And the more that you can love and accept your body, the better." - Melissa Ambrosini

Connect with Melissa!

Website:https://melissaambrosini.com/

Podcast:https://melissaambrosini.com/podcast/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissaambrosini/?hl=en

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!