Orgasmic Living

Generosity of spirit is the energy that you are when you are functioning as all of you, and as an infinite being; it is the gift and the contribution that you can be to yourself, to your body, to the world and to the people around you! Generosity of spirit has an energy of gifting and receiving where you gift an energy or presence, and then you also receive from that gift that you are being.

Generosity of spirit is limitless; there's an abundance of energy to be, and to gift and to receive.

Be present with THAT energy for a minute. REALLY PRESENT. Limitless, abundance, gifting and receiving simultaneously.

What would THAT be like to experience every day?

Do you think having more generosity of spirit will contribute to you, your body and living orgasmically?!

The answer is YES!! 100x over. So let’s dive a little deeper.

What Does Generosity of Spirit have to do with Orgasmic Living?

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Orgasmic living is an internal personal journey; orgasmic living is the energy of the creation of your life, and the creation of your body which includes generosity of spirit!

For me, I had to play first with these:

What is orgasmic living for me and for my body?

What does that look like?

What would it BE like to always choose orgasmic energies?

I have strengthened this magnificent muscle of living orgasmically; I have fine-tuned my awareness, my attention to the world around me, always seeking those things that bring me joy, pleasure and orgasmic living, and what I found is that I am most orgasmic, and the most joyful and the most ALIVE, when there is this energy of generosity of spirit.

When there is an energy of generosity of spirit it permeates every cell in your body!

As I’ve cultivated my generosity of spirit and orgasmic living, and allowed my attention to be drawn to this specific energy and way of BEING, generosity of spirit and orgasmic living now permeates my whole entire life.

How yummy is that?!

Patty, I don’t know what you’re talking about. Have you always been this way?

The answer is no, this hasn't always been the case for me. As a matter of fact, I used to be very naive around this particular topic. As a naturally gifting person, I would find myself being very generous with people who actually were more penurious of spirit. There wasn’t a gifting and receiving, it was a give and take. I would give, and they would take, and take, and take.

What is Penurious of Spirit? Penurious of spirit is the opposite of generosity of spirit; the definition of the word penurious is extremely poor, or poverty-stricken.

When you are with someone who is penurious of spirit they are functioning from the energy of lack, from the energy of poverty, from the energy of not enough.

It can be a challenge and uncomfortable if either you or the other person is choosing these energies, as opposed to the generative energy of generosity of spirit.

Because of their lack mentality, their penurious of spirit, they never felt like what I gave was enough.

These types of exchanges began to create this place where I would go into the wrongness of me, where I didn’t think I was enough and nothing I ever gave was enough. In response to so many of these experiences I did the 180 flip and stopped being the generosity of spirit I naturally am.

I didn’t notice until a couple of years after that I had stopped the energy of gifting and receiving that I always had been.

I was energetically contracting and holding back, not allowing myself to be the energy of generosity of spirit.

This choice actually started to physically HURT me. It hurt my heart, it hurt my body and that in itself became a constant contraction and discomfort in my life.

On my journey with orgasmic living I begin picking away at ...

How Can I Live Orgasmically If I am Single?

A misconception that many people have is that if you are single you can’t live orgasmically. I can unequivocally say that this is NOT true! Let’s discuss this and put that pesky misconception to bed so you can have more clarity in knowing REGARDLESS of what is going on in your life YOU CAN choose Orgasmic Living. 

The word orgasm naturally has a lot of people go straight to thinking of partners in bed, and then if they don’t have a partner thinking this idea of Orgasmic Living isn’t for them. This is NOT true. Being single is a GREAT place to start exploring what lights you up, turns you on and what Orgasmic Living is for YOU.

Being single can be the easiest time to dig-in and really explore what is orgasmic for YOU and your body. When you don't have a partner you can bypass the natural tendency to place attention on the other person and what works for them, and instead spend some good ole quality time with YOU, truly truly exploring what is fun for you.

In this week’s video I discuss more about the tendency we have when we get into partnership to lose ourselves a little bit and then lose that connection to what brings US joy, pleasure, nurturance and fun.

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So now that we know regardless of being single or partnered, Orgasmic Living is possible for everyone, let’s get to those tools to get you there!

TOOL #1- Get Into Question and Find Out What is Orgasmic for YOU and YOUR BODY

Ask your body any of these questions!

Hey body! What would be orgasmic for YOU? 

Body, what would be fun for you today?

Body, what can we create today together?

Play with these questions, and let your body show you what would be fun for you both. 

ALLOW your BODY to ~ S H O W ~ you what is fun, joyful and orgasmic.

Try NEW things! ~ P L A Y ~. Get more in tune with your beautiful body and its desires. 

Creating communion between you and your body is a one on one practice that does not have to do with another person. Even if you are in a partnership this is an individual process on exploring you and your body; you have to discover this within yourself! How fun is that?!

Getting to know YOU, getting to know YOUR BODY, honoring you and your body and what you both enjoy is the start to living tuned-in and turned-on in every moment, single or partnered.

TOOL #2: CREATE a Body Fun List

PLEASE make a list of the things that are really enjoyable for YOU! As you engage with asking your body questions and allowing your body to show you what it enjoys the next step is EXPLORE. Explore these new places and spaces of what you and your body enjoy and then make a LIST. Choose to do them everyday or at least once or twice a week so you can create that energy of living orgasmically WITH YOU and FOR YOU. 

This is a tool to show you that YOU create your own Orgasmic Living and orgasmic energies. When you have that with you, and FOR you, it is so much easier to create that energy with someone else.  This assists in preventing your Orgasmic LIFE from being dependent on someone else, or relying on someone else to light you up or turn you on- giving you so much more FREEDOM in choosing for you, your body and your life.

Once you’ve started this list have it somewhere you can see it daily, and as you play new items will emerge to be added to the list!

TOOL #3: Get Out of Your Head!

Get out of your head and get into your body; get really, really present with your body.

You might be thinking to yourself, that sounds really great Patty, but HOW IN THE WORLD do I do that?!!?

I heard you! Here’s an Exercise to assist you in getting out of your head!

FILL your ENTIRE body with YOU, and YOUR energy.

Take a moment right now and allow your body to breathe.

Playing with some VIP clients over the past couple of weeks this topic has been bubbling to the surface A LOT. If orgasmic energy is innately available to our body and it's an energy that we all have when we are born, AND it is an energy that is generative and expansive and lovely to experience, then why do we so easily shut it down?

The two things that came up RIGHT AWAY when looking at why it is we so easily shut down orgasmic energy is these two: shame and judgement. Most of us have been incredibly shamed and judged for our bodies and sexual orgasmic energies for lifetimes, even when they have nothing to do with the act of sex.

It goes deeper than the ubiquitous shaming of women’s bodies and sizes, and women aren’t the only ones who have been shamed and judged, men too experience these two emotions that stop orgasmic living in its tracks.

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Men experience body shame in a myriad of ways, they often feel they are not muscular enough or tall enough. They worry they need a six-pack of abs to attract a woman, and that if they can’t attain the abs, or a woman’s attention, there is something wrong with them.

Shaming occurs energetically, as well as verbally, and whether it's your physical body that's been shamed, or it is you the infinite being that's been shamed for being too much, this is what begins the process of toning yourself down and cutting off your lifeline to orgasmic energies.

Too loud, too friendly, too quiet, too pretty, not pretty enough, too big, too small.

We are ALL continuously shamed and judged in all the different roles we play in our lives. If we have too much sexual energy, if we don't have enough of it, if we are being inappropriate with it. This is the current state of affairs rather than what is possible beyond the judgement and shame; beyond the judgement and shame is the option to ACKNOWLEDGE and CELEBRATE Orgasmic Energy as the generative creative tool it is, instead of discounting it.

These energies of shame and judgment are wrapped around and intertwined with orgasmic energy and orgasmic living for all of us, which makes this question about why we discount these energies so easily a PERSONAL ONE.

There are generalized experiences across the board, but I would love for you to know what it is for YOU?

Tool: Ask yourself, “What is it that creates me shutting down this energy?”

How Often Do You Actually Use the Creative and Generative Energies That Are Available with Your Body? (And why we tend to discount them)

We are not taught how to be present with, and use, our body's generative creative energies.

We are actually taught to be distracted by our bodies! Distraction allows for it to be so much easier to discount orgasmic energies.

Think of a time when you had something going on with your body, maybe a pain or a discomfort. Maybe you sprained your ankle, or maybe your body was not the size that you want it to be. This reality has created our bodies as a problem, which then DISTRACTS us from being present with our bodies in a generative creative way.

So, something is going on with your body and you want to fix it. You’ve already gotten distracted. You're putting ALL of your focus and awareness and attention on these “problems,” when they are actually just DISTRACTIONS. Distractions from the whole world of generative creative energies that you’d love to have, and all the generative creative energies that our BODIES can be for us.

Instead of creating life WITH our body, and including our body, we get distracted trying to FIX our body. We get caught up trying to live up to someone else's standard.

Even the energies that I was talking about before, shame and judgement, those are ALSO distractions.

This topic of being Orgasmic in the face of judgment really FIRES me UP! This area is something that really touches a deep deep place within me and I’ll do my best to share with you tools and techniques to live orgasmically regardless of other people’s judgments.

Let’s again focus upon the wondrous energy of orgasm, that energy of the joyful expression of who you are, the joyful expression of YOU, the joyful expression of your BODY; it is the joyful expression of you AND your body having a really good time, no matter what it is that you’re doing.

 How can you have all of that amazing energy and all of you in the face of judgment?

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Key #1-TURN. IT. UP! And know other people’s judgments have nothing to do with you.

Tool: Remind yourself it is not about you. It. Is. NOT. About. You. (It is about THEM).

Other people’s judgments are probably in the top 3 list of things that stop us from doing and being ANYTHING in life, and it is no different for living orgasmically. One of the best ways to have all of you and your orgasmic energy is to recognize their judgment has nothing to do with you, AND TURN IT UP. Be more joyful, be happier, be more of anything that is fun for you, and that you know will give you the space for you to have more of you and all you’re asking for. BE YOU!

Now I know for many of us this is counterintuitive to what we’ve been taught to do or automatically do. I don't know about you, but I’ve spent a lot of my life turning myself down to make everyone else around me more comfortable. I turned myself down because I didn't want people to feel bad around me, I didn't want to hurt people, and I didn't want them to be uncomfortable.

What does turning yourself down look like?! Think of stuffing you into a box, and then another smaller box, and another until you can barely recognize yourself. I thought that if I made myself smaller and smaller that all of those people would be okay, would like me, and I’d be happier, but it turned out that in that place of diminishing my light I started energetically killing myself. My body and my being started to wither away- the opposite of happy..

It took me a very long time to learn that I couldn’t make everyone happy. I couldn’t stop their judgments from coming my way, even with doing my very best to extinguish my innate Orgasmic energies.

When you shut yourself down, diminish your light and subdue the expression of orgasmic energies you are cutting off those energies from your BODY. When you do this, you are not only hurting yourself and your body, but you're also not allowing yourself to BE the GIFT and INVITATION to a different possibility that I KNOW YOU ARE.

Dimming your light for anyone or anything is absolutely no way to live.

Do any of you turn yourself DOWN instead of UP in the face of judgment?

Do any of you make yourself smaller in attempt to be invisible or make others happy?

 In the video from this week I share a story about my father and an example of how I chose being my wacky weird orgasmic self and shine instead of shrink as I may have previously. I wonder if this story might resonate with you or spark a light that’s been desperately waiting to be lit- check it out!

 Key #2- Recognize that you are DIFFERENT

 If you're anything like me you have a level of joy that you’d like to share with everyone, and you do your best to contribute to people having your level of joy; sadly not everybody actually wants that level of joy. And perhaps the only time you recall your level of joy was when you were a child, and that exuberance has since faded with adulthood. Don’t worry, it’s still there!

 One of the ways in which we trap ourselves is by thinking that everybody else ...

As an infinite being, you have the amazing capacity to perceive, know, be and receive ALL energies. To tap into orgasmic energy, which is the ability to be present with all sensations and energies, let’s first start with looking at what energies you are not allowing yourself to be and have now. Being inquisitive in this arena is how I ended up deep diving into this topic for the past ten years of my career, and what a journey it has been!  It all started when I became aware that there were energies I wasn’t allowing myself to have or be.

Here are some questions for you about this...

      What do you know about this?

      What do you know about stopping yourself?

      What do you know about preventing yourself from experiencing and having orgasmic energies?

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As you start to take a look at this area and get familiar, I’d also like to bring to light one area that we do this, which may not be as obvious. One of the sneaky ways we stop ourselves is by defining energies in general, but specifically as masculine or feminine. We do this ALL the time, and little do we know that it’s been sneaking into our unconsciousness for quite some time, maybe our whole life. Little girls like pink, boys blue. Girls like to play with dolls, boys with trucks and Legos.

How does this play into our adult lives and what the heck does this have to do with refusing energies?

Before running down this road with you all I’d first like to start with making a clear statement: ENERGY does not have a gender; ENERGY is just ENERGY, it is only our definitions that limit energies to specific genders. When we define energy, or really ANYTHING, we are cutting off the possibilities of those energies and all of what is available to us as radiant all-encompassing infinite beings.

Let’s look at some examples of how we might be doing this in our own lives or with the ones we love:

I’m going to list off some energies and as you read, let me know whether you classify energies as predominantly masculine or feminine:

Joy

Playful

Aggressive

Dominant

Assertive

Gentle

Kind

Sincere

Understanding

Quiet

Now there are some that maybe you consider could go both ways, but there are definitely some that we correlate more to each sex. Does this diminish our ability to be and have and choose our energetic playground toys? The simple answer is yes.

“I’m a female so I can’t be those specific energies because they’re masculine”

“I’m a man and I can’t be feminine energies as that will make me less of a man”

There is also the case of men and women who do have many “characteristics” of the opposite sex that feel like there is something wrong with them and they don’t fit in.

None of this is expansive or empowering, and truth be told they are just blanket ideas from times past that has solidified over us over time. Judgments that haven’t been fully expelled. 

Would you like to have more freedom?

More Choice?

More opportunity to be all of you AND have your ORGASMIC energies? 

Let’s PLAY

ALL energies are available to all of us regardless of the gender of our bodies. One of the most important keys to living an orgasmic life is to allow yourself to be any and all energies in any given moment; to allow yourself to be present with those energies no matter what they are and to let go of the definitions and judgments that halt this process.

For the next week, I invite you to start looking at where you stop yourself from being a particular energy.

Do you allow yourself to be courageous in every moment?

Orgasmic energy, and orgasmic living, as discussed last week, is a key to loving your life and building a life filled with presence, joy and awareness. Orgasmic energy is innate in your very being, and abundantly available to you and your body. Once you start to taste orgasmic energies you’ll be hooked and you’ll want to be able to tap into this natural energy as much as possible.

You’ll be asking questions like:

How can I create more of it?

How can I access it at a moment’s notice?

There are two different energy states that I believe are at the core to unlocking this whole universe to you and your body.

Would you like to know about them? If yes, keep reading!

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Curiosity and Childlike Wonder

The first tool to get started creating an abundance of orgasmic energy in your life is practicing harnessing your natural curiosity and childlike wonder with EVERYTHING, especially with you and your body. Be willing to explore new options, choices, and wonders. Play and see what these previously unexplored engagements create for you. Learning what works for you is the fastest way to strengthen this muscle of knowing what is orgasmic for YOU. Please note, this is a personal process, and what might work for you, might not work for someone else and vice versa.

 Getting comfortable exploring what’s available to you, and what is true for you and your body is paramount. Being complacent and unwilling to honor yourself with this exploration can halt your journey before it’s even begun; let the childlike wonder and curiosity with YOU and your body begin and you’ll see your natural orgasmic energy begin to shine more and more.

 Gratitude for Your Body

The second tool to get you moving along this exciting path is having gratitude for your body.

When you enter into a grateful position with your body, judgment simply cannot exist. You can no longer stand in the mirror and judge your appearance when in gratitude. If you are grateful for who you are, what you look like, and that you have a body, you will start to see yourself in a new light, one that is confident and joyful.

Additionally, when you exist in a judgmental state, you are not only being unkind to yourself, you are cutting off the infinite flow of the other energies available to you, this includes the yummy orgasmic energies. So, try this out, when you start exploring this curious energy, don’t judge yourself; honor yourself, your creativity, and your wants/needs. Let it be ok that you’re here and your body is here, as is, right now, and trust that it’s just a jumping off point.

When you allow yourself to BE your personal energies, then you will be inviting in the very essence of YOU: orgasmic energy. 

Where Do I Go From Here?

As you head forth into the week, I am inviting you to question everything that you have “decided” about your body, including food, movement, clothes etc. Muster up the greatest amount of courage as you can, and let yourself choose something different this week. See how your body experiences that new choice. Stop judging yourself immediately! You’re new to this and LEARNING! Instead, choose gratitude that you actually get to CHOOSE and PLAY and EXPLORE!

The more you explore this natural curiosity, the more you will learn about what your body likes and wants. Joy is just around the corner – it starts with a bodily love and acceptance.

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What if I told you orgasmic living could be available to you and your body in every moment?

Our society has defined and confined the energy of the orgasm to the bedroom. I’m here to invite you to know that we can rescue the orgasm from being trapped only in the bedroom and coax and nurture it into every aspect of our daily living.

I know for some of you this may seem impossible to even imagine.  I know what that feels like because I was someone who lived completely disconnected from my body for the first THIRTY years of my life.  I had no idea what orgasmic living was, or that is was available to me. I thought it was something that resulted from two bodies in a bed, after reaching that sweet spot, and that was that.  At this time in my life I never included my body in anything and I wasn’t comfortable exploring what my body wanted or needed, or even enjoyed.

Everything changed when I finally allowed my consciousness to explore this part of my existence, and started to commune with my body. It was this shift and the tools I used that I would like to share with you. Orgasms are more than that elated feeling that erupts from our bodies at the end of sexual engagement.

The essence of the orgasm, and the beginning of orgasmic living, is an energy that we can all harness in our everyday lives.

My weekly show, Orgasmic Living, encourages women to activate the orgasmic energy within, break out of their shells and really change their lives, starting with the magic that is available with your body.

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How Do You Activate Orgasmic Energy in the Body?

It is important to first know that the consciousness of the orgasm is the very energy of your life, and the essence of who you truly are. It is the energy related to total presence and complete awareness; the consciousness of your body and your unique attributes.

Orgasmic energy is about welcoming in all of those sensations that your body has to offer you. They are gifts that are biologically available and attainable when you are ready to receive them.

Activating orgasmic energy in your body means connecting with yourself, right here, and right now.

Are you ready?

What About Orgasms? Can I still have them AND live orgasmically? What if orgasms aren’t possible for me right now?

Orgasms are amazing, and we all deserve to experience them, however they are not necessarily required for Orgasmic LIVING.

What I’d more like to draw your attention to is what occurs physically, mentally and emotionally at that moment you experience an orgasm. It is a moment in which everything fades from your mind, the worries of tomorrow, and the depression of the past.

You are very much in the present, feeling the euphoric sensation take over your body. In this moment, you are more in touch with your body than at any other time. What’s to say you can’t have that kind of connection with yourself, 24-7?

Would this be of interest to you?

What Makes YOU Orgasmic?

With the focus taken off the singular event and placed more on the energy of the orgasm, you can use it as a sort of compass and start to identify what brings you happiness, joy, and pleasure, outside of a sexual orgasm.

How do you feel in those moments?

Are you choosing these kinds of joy in your everyday life, or are you pushing them to the side as a result of your crazy schedule?

Become present with where you are right now with your body, with choosing orgasmic energies daily and just notice where you’re at now, and where you’d like to go now that you know something else is possible.

Your whole life can be one, massive orgasmic experience.

What is embodied joy?

Embodied joy is the kind of joy that permeates and infuses every cell and molecule of your body AND your being.

Embodied joy is vibrant with delightful.

Embodied joy is expansive, generative and contagious.

Embodied joy radiates from every pore of your body and being.

Embodied joy reverberates exuberantly throughout your entire life and living.

You know someone has embodied joy when you look into their eyes and your whole world expands.

It really wasn’t until I brought this energy into movement with my body,  that I got the sense of what it is to truly embody joy.

How does joy show up in bodies?  This is what it looked like for me….

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I just wrapped up my latest Body: Friend or Foe? webinar and my body and I were so joyful and happy! The energy was so expansive I brought it to the Pole and WOW!

The way embodied joy showed up for me was bouncy and playful.

My body wanted to prance around.

She tousled her hair and made funny faces.

She wanted to fly (I love flying on the pole)

She giggled, flirted, smiled and teased.

We were vibrant, vivacious and shiny and we wanted the whole world to play with us!

What does joy and pleasure look like for your body?

What’s beyond pretense?

I haven’t always been joyful.  

I put on a fake smile for a long time.  It’s what I was supposed to do...

Pretend to be happy.

Pretend to be perfect.

Pretend everything was ok when it wasn’t…

Sound familiar?

It seems to be something we are entrained to do.  To pretend and prove that we’re happy and we’ve got it all together.

Have you ever been around people who are pretending or proving they’re happy?   I know this discrepancy well as I lived it for so long...

On the surface, it seems they are happy and yet, you KNOW something is askew.

You’re uncomfortable, you can’t quite put your finger on it.  

You doubt yourself because they “seem so happy”.  

Might you be aware of the façade?  

The energy that is beyond the front they are creating?

Here are 3 easy tips to invite true joy into your life:

1. Go out and do something FUN for you!  

Do something that makes you laugh so uncontrollably you think want to pee your pants.  Then, allow that joy to infuse every area of your body and molecules. Expand your energy out beyond your body, beyond the city you live in, beyond the Earth out towards the Sun and Pluto and beyond.   And ask the energy to exponentialize even more.

2. Celebrate yourself!

Every chance you get, acknowledge the greatness of you.  Invite gratitude for you into your life. Allow yourself to be happy for you AND everyone around you.  We’re not taught to be happy for ourselves. go ahead, I give you permission to celebrate and acknowledge yourself every day!

3. Dance!

Find a song that creates joy for you and your body and dance like no one is watching!  Allow yourself to be silly, bouncy and fun.  Laugh at yourself and with yourself and enJOY yourself.

How does your body want to be touched when she (or he) is in a true space of joy?

What if you found a song or a movement that invited true joy into your body, life, and living?

How much fun can you have?

If you’d like more embodied joy, come play with me in the Body Love Club.

What does YOUR body love?

Join me for a 90-day adventure to discover all of the delicious possibilities with your body.

Find out more here: www.pattyalfonso.sexy/bodyloveclub

Change isn’t always comfortable.  As a matter of fact, it can be quite uncomfortable!

I guess that’s why most people choose to stay in their comfort zone.  That place where your regular routine creates a sense of safety that keeps you from perceived harm or danger.

But, we all know the old adage:  “The magic happens outside of your comfort zone”

If you are someone who is seeking more magic and consciousness, then you know all of this very well.  You are someone who is constantly choosing beyond your comfort zone.  Beyond the patterns that have constricted your life, beyond the safety of routine, beyond the known and into the unknown.

You know that moving through those uncomfortable moments will always open up the space for you to have and be more of you.  And hey, if you’re an X-Men you get the honor of being aware of everyone else’s uncomfortable moments too!

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Have you ever had a sense that something was heavy in your world only to get a call from a friend who is going through a tough time?

This level of awareness is part of our capacities and it isn’t something we’re taught to be with in this reality.  This is why I’m so grateful for the tools of Access Consciousness.  Practical tools to be present with all energies - no matter how uncomfortable they may be.

The question then becomes, what tools can I use to be comfortable with the uncomfortable? To be comfortable with the intensity of awareness?  To continue choosing more consciousness no matter what is going on?

Here are some of my favorite tools to be comfortable with the uncomfortable:

Expand Your Energy Out:

I have found this simple tool to be one of the most dynamic tools when it comes to being aware of all energies.

When you expand the energy of your Being farther out than your body, your home, your city and your country, beyond The Earth all the way out to the Universe you become bigger than any energy you are aware of in that moment.

One of the best ways to not be at the effect of other energies is to be bigger than those energies! Occupying the space of an Infinite Being is a quick and easy way to create more comfort around the uncomfortable. The more expanded you choose to be, the less you will be at the effect of other energies.

Ask a question. Or two. Or a thousand!

My favorite question to begin with is: “Is this mine?”

For any thought, feeling or emotion this is my top question to ask! I usually find that most of what I’m aware of belongs to someone else.

Sometimes, when we choose a big change in our lives, some of the old, uncomfortable energies we are changing surface to be released. Energies we’ve refused or locked into our bodies start to move and this space can we quite uncomfortable. If you make it solid or significant you can get stuck again. Continuing to be in the question is so important! In this case, my favorite questions are:

“Is this the change I’ve been asking for?”

“What else is possible I’ve never even imagined?”

“How does it get any better than this?!”

“Body, what’s beyond this?”

And this leads me to my final tip!

Include Your Body

Including your body in your journey with consciousness can contribute to navigating uncomfortable times of change. Our bodies are so aware of energies and if we allow then to contribute what they are aware of, moving through uncomfortable times can be much quicker and easier!

Bodies can contribute to moving energy in a myriad of ways:

1. Movement: running, walking, swimming, cycling or dancing

2. Rest: a nap, massage, dip in a hot tub, reading, watching a movie

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How to get what you want when you don’t know how to get it!

Do you know you desire something different in your life? Are you aware that there are other possibilities and you’re not quite sure how to create them?

I’ve been seeing this a lot with some of my clients recently. The awareness, longing and desire for something different in their lives coupled with the puzzling feeling of not knowing how to create it.

As Albert Einstein so brilliantly said: “We cannot solve problems with the same thinking used when we created them.”

Doing the same thing over and over again is the very definition of insanity. I believe my friend Albert also coined this phrase! And so, if you’re looking at creating something different in your life, you’ve got to start by making different choices!

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Here are a few easy tips on how to get what you want:

1. Get clear on what you’d like to have in your life!

Look at every area of your life as it is right now. Your relationships, your home life, money flows, your body, your business. Are you truly happy in these areas? Joyful? Excited about getting up in the morning? Does your life make your heart sing?Not so much? Not to worry. We’ve all been there. Moments when life seems to lack luster and joy. If you’re not clear on what you would like to have and create in your life, then life creates itself around you and that is NO fun!

I’d like to quote another amazing person, Nikola Tesla: “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.”

Let’s play with the energy, shall we?

What are the energies that would light you and your body up? Joy, laughter, fun, vibrancy, luxury, opulence, hedonism, creativity, kindness, orgasmic living? Maybe you’d like more magic and ease? More possibilities and less problems? This one sounds good to me!

What else would you like? Would you like to travel more? Would you like to be surrounded by beautiful things that nurture your body? Would you like generative relationships with people who contribute to your life?

2. Invite these energies into your life every day!

Once you’re clear on the energies you’d like in every area of your life, then you have to invite them to show up!

First, demand. A demand from you to create and have these energies in your life: “I’ll have that now please!”

Then, opening the energies for something new to show up. One of the best ways to invite new energies into your life is to ask questions. When you ask a question without looking for an answer, you open up to more possibilities. Our mind can only create based on what it already knows. When you ask a question, you bypass the mind and step into energetic creation.

My two favorite questions are:

How does it get any better than this?

What else is possible I’ve never even considered?

If you ask these questions without looking for a specific result, you open the doors for new possibilities to show up. Get really curious about what else is possible that you haven’t considered!

And this brings us to the next step...

Make Different Choices!

So, now you’re more clear on what you’d like energetically. You’re making the demand to have it and you’re asking questions. Energies are already shifting and changing even if you can’t “see” it right now.

The invitation for you today is to make that shift in your choices every single day. Even if you only shift by 1% or 10% every day, it is these new choices that will change the trajectory of your life.

If you chose something different every day by at least 10%,