Our Better Half

Join us for our first ever live recording at the Annual AASECT Conference in a fascinating discussion with our esteemed guest, De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar. She’s the first Black AASECT Certified Sex Therapist in St. Louis. We’re talking about sex, religion, exegesis, prostate cancer, embodied sexuality, widowhood, and a thing she calls Christian plus.

Resources we talked about on this episode include the Instagram account Unfit Christians and The Day God Saw Me As Black from D. Danyelle Thomas, Red Lip Theology: For Church Girls Who’ve Considered Tithing to the Beauty Supply Store When Sunday Morning Is Not Enough by Candice Marie Benbow, Sensual Faith: The Art of Coming Home to Your Body by Lyvonne Briggs, the Theater of War productions, and the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN).

You can reach De-Andrea directly at Sankofa Sex Therapy.

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Hey Listeners!

You may have guessed we are on our summer break. While we’re all trying to rest and recuperate and regenerate, we’re reverberating with great news!

What a season we had last year! So many great guests. So many things we learned. So many laughs. And a few tears, mostly of joy, because we won a coveted award. We won the AASECT award for best podcast of the year. What an honor and what a hoot to not only receive the award from our peers and our own organization, but we got to record an episode in front of a live audience (our first) at the AASECT conference in June. I won’t give away too much. You’ll hear more soon. It was fabulous!

The other great news is we got picked up for Season 10! Yes that’s right we will be back with a whole new season in September with Jane, Sabitha, Rosara, and Jayleen. And our wonderful sponsors. And a whole slew of new and captivating discussions and guests.

Talk to you soon!

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Join us for a fast-moving and fun conversation with Sabitha, Rosara, and Jane as we talk about sexual fantasies as we age. What are sexual fantasies? How are they useful? What’s the difference between masturbatory and relational fantasies? Sabitha offered some great resources for our listeners: any of Nancy Friday’s books (though they are a bit heteronormative), Jack Morin’s book, The Erotic Mind, and Justin Lehmiller’s book, Tell Me What You Want.

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In honor of Mother’s Day, Jane, Rosara, and Sabitha are talking about mothering, the havoc it wreaks with our lives, the discoveries, and impacts on our sexuality. They also wonder aloud about daughtering, especially as their parents age. Join us for a look into the lives of our co-hosts. And let us know your thoughts.

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Our guest this time is Mx. Sizzle, a trailblazing Persian and Kurdish hard femme who serves as a sexual health, BDSM, and kink educator. They hold a bachelor’s degree from New College of Florida and a master's degree in public health from the University of Florida, with a focus on queer and transgender health. As the founder of "A Different Kind of Different, LLC," they create safe spaces for sexuality exploration and empowerment that prioritize equity and justice. Mx. Sizzle’s nationally acclaimed workshops and unwavering dedication to amplifying marginalized voices have a profound and positive impact on society. Their pursuit of a PhD in Clinical Sexology is a testament to their commitment to education and inclusivity, while inspiring others to join the movement of decolonizing sex education.

Learn more about Mx. Sizzle on their website: mxsizzle.com, and check out these great articles on kink and sexual health!

In other news… Our Better Half won the 2024 AASECT Podcast Award! We are thrilled to have received this award from AASECT and we are so grateful for you all listening and supporting our podcast.

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Our guest this time is Kathy Labriola, a nurse, counselor, and hypnotherapist in Berkeley, California. She has provided affordable mental health services to alternative communities for the past 30 years. Kathy is the author of four books on consensual non-monogamy including her latest, Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships.

She is extra crunchy, rides a bike, lives in a housing cooperative, grows organic vegetables, raises chickens, and has been a card-carrying bisexual and polyamorist for 50 years.

If you want to learn more about Kathy Labriola and her writing, check out her website at www.kathylabriola.com!

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Our guest this time is the wonderful Dr. Israel Martinez, a certified sex therapist and coach with a group practice that specializes in therapy with the LGBTQ+, ethically non-monogamous, and kink/BDSM communities. He is the author of the book Helping Gay Men Find Love: Tips for Guys on Dating and Beginning a Healthy Relationship, has been published in the book Social Workers: Finding Real Solutions to Real Problems, and created and curates www.queermentalhealthhelp.com. He also supervises and trains other therapists to more ethically and effectively treat clients within gender, sexual, and relationship diversity. Dr. Martinez is clinically licensed in NY and NJ. He lives in NJ with his husband, Matt, and their cat, Mijo. You can reach him at www.LGBTtherapyNJ.com.

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Tushabe Wa Tushabe, an Assistant Professor at Widener University in The Center for Human Sexuality Studies, graduated from St. Mary's College, Notre Dame, in Indiana, earned a Master's in women's studies from Texas Women's University, and received a Ph.D. in Decolonial African Epistemologie from Binghamton University.

Tushabe's research interests focus on decolonial and indigenous knowledges and practices, and sexualities through languages. When not in the classroom, writing, or mentoring students, Tushabe can be found enjoying the outdoors, especially waterfalls, mountains, and hiking. When Tushabe is with family, they enjoy listening to the young and the elders in the community tell stories they grew up hearing from their elders.

If you would like to learn more about Tushabe’s work, you can check it out HERE!

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Cindy Gallop is a woman taking the world by storm, disrupting venture capital and erotic imagery available online. Cindy is an advertising consultant, the founder and former chair of the US branch of the advertising firm Bartle Bogle Hegarty, and, most important for our conversation today, she is the founder of If We Ran The World and MakeLoveNotPorn. Cindy's TED Talk is one of the most talked about presentations from the 2009 TED conference, and she was recently quoted in the New York Times.

Go check out Cindy’s amazing work at MakeLoveNotPorn, and If We Ran The World!

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Dr. Igor Grabovac graduated in Medicine from the School of Medicine, University of Zagreb in Croatia. During his student days, he developed an interest in improving health in vulnerable communities and conducted research on discrimination of LGBT patients and doctors in the Croatian health care system. He has worked for the International Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex and Queer Youth and Student Organization (IGLYO) as a member of the Health Working Group, where he was involved with policy and research on access to healthcare for young LGBTIQA+ people in Europe.

After a medical internship and obtaining his medical license as a general practitioner, he started working at the Institute of Occupational Medicine, University Clinic for Internal Medicine at the Vienna General Hospital. He has also earned his doctorate in Public Health at the Medical University of Vienna in Austria, where he was the first resident physician in public health in Austria at the Department of Social and Preventive Medicine. Igor also coordinates the Public Health curriculum for undergraduate students in human medicine at the Medical University of Vienna. He is also a co-editor of the recent book, Sexual Behaviour and Health in Older Adults.

If you would like to learn more about Dr. Igor Grabovac and his work, go check out his lab, and his research.

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