This week on Our Better Half, hosts Rosara and Jane sit down with Djanikah Elysse, Stacey Rose, and Virginia Nguyen to discuss their groundbreaking project on sex-positive senior living facilities. Join us as we dive into a crucial conversation about sexuality and aging. Our guests share insights on:

• The inspiration behind their sex-positive senior living project and a brief overview of its goals.

• Dimensions of intimacy beyond physical sex that are vital for older adults in residential care.

• How the SWELLAA (Sexual Wellness for Aging Adults) initiative proposes to create a more supportive and inclusive environment for residents' sexual expression and identity.

• Their hopes for the future of SWELLAA and how they envision it transforming the landscape of senior living facilities.

To learn more about their group, SWELLAA, (Sexual Wellness for Aging Adults), check out their website, or send them an email at [email protected]!

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Please join us for an enlivening conversation with Dr. Cynthia Graham, an esteemed editor, researcher, and educator. She has done so much research on older adults and amid a negative focus on aging, she has found in her research that sex can actually get better with age. Her research focuses on sexual health among older adults, male condom use, hormonal contraceptives, women's sexuality, women's sexual pleasure, and sexual problems. We discussed her current research along with Dr. Justin Lehmiller on older women and masturbation and whether it might improve some symptoms of menopause.

She is the editor of the Journal of Sex Research and Distinguished Professor in the Department of Gender studies at Indiana University and a senior scientist at the Kinsey Institute. In the wake of NIH and other funding cutbacks in scientific research, she talks about the need to continue to do sexuality research and continuing to find alternative avenues to fund and publish this critical work.

Listeners, if you're interested in Dr. Cynthia Graham's research, click here. If you're interested in Dr. Patricia Barthalow Koch's article we discussed on body image and aging, click here. And if you'd like to read the statement Dr. Graham and her colleagues wrote about the attacks on scientific research, click here.

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In this deeply moving episode of Our Better Half, hosts Rosara and Jane sit down with a special guest to discuss an intimate and often unspoken aspect of grief: the loss of a sexual self. Our guest, who prefers to remain anonymous, courageously shares a powerful reflection on her experience since the death of her beloved husband.

She introduces us to "Lefty," a flirtatious and sensual persona she developed and nurtured within the safety of her marriage. Lefty was more than just a part of her; she was her husband's "girlfriend," a vital and cherished part of their bond. Our guest shares the painful process of having to "close down" this part of herself after his passing, and the profound sense of loss that came with it.

Throughout the conversation, we explore what it means to lose a partner who was not only a best friend and confidant but also a playmate and lover. Our guest opens up about the powerful phrase she and her husband used to describe their connection: "A Quantum of Solace," a state of being where they found shelter and security in each other's arms.

She also offers a vulnerable and honest look at how she has navigated the loss of physical intimacy. This episode is a testament to the enduring power of love and a compassionate guide for anyone experiencing similar grief.

Listeners, if you'd like to learn more about keeping the sex in a long-term relationship, we recommend Hani Miletski and her late husband's book, Keep It Fresh: Tips For Couples Who Are In It For The Long Haul and Sara Nasserzadeh's book, Love By Design.

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We are so happy to invite you to a wonderful conversation with Dr. Elliott Kronenfeld who is interested in building relationships on curiosity and intention across the lifespan. Dr. Kronenfeld's books, Couples by Intention: Crafting and Cultivating Relationships that Matter! and Unspoken Loss: Men, Infidelity, and Disenfranchised Grief are widely available.

We spoke with him about so much. If your curiosity is piqued, here are a few links: Disenfranchised Grief by Doka and Women, breast cancer survivorship, sexual losses, and disenfranchised grief – a treatment model for clinicians by Pillai-Friedman and Ashline.

Listeners, if you'd like to get in touch with Dr. Eliot Kronenfeld, you can find more about him here. You can also follow him on Instagram, TikTok, LinkedIn, and Bluesky!

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Please join us for a fantastic conversation with Natalie Malone, a counseling psychologist and doctoral candidate at the University of Kentucky. Her research focuses on Black women's sexual/reproductive health and holistic wellness. Natalie is a 200-hour registered yoga and pilates teacher who integrates complementary health approaches and embodiment practices into her research and clinical services. She is a published author with 48 publications in scientific journals and textbooks. Additionally, she is a celebrated speaker with over 20 presentations domestically and internationally.

Natalie shared some great resources with us, including her mentor, Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons', new book: Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation, the podcast, IMO with Michelle Obama and her big brother Craig Robinson, and her own work.

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Great news - we got picked up for another season of Our Better Half! Stay tuned for another year of insightful conversations featuring top experts in the field of sexuality and aging.

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Join our co-hosts this week, Jane Fleishman, Jayleen Galarza-Patterson, and Rosara Torrisi, for a rich and interesting conversation unpacking the term 'sexual ageism', talking about it from their professional lives as educators and therapists. Reviewing two articles about why older adults do have sex and why they don't. Fascinating results! Listeners might also enjoy Jane's article on the impacts of social and political upheaval on older adults' sexuality.

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Our guest this time is Dr. Margaret Nichols. Dr. Nichols, Ph.D., is a psychologist, AASECT certified sex therapy supervisor, founder, and first Executive Director of the Institute for Personal Growth, a psychotherapy organization in New Jersey specializing in clinical work with the sex, relationship, and gender diverse community. She is the author of The Modern Clinician's Guide to Working with LGBTQ+ Clients: The Inclusive Psychotherapist. Dr. Nichols is an international speaker and author of many articles on LGBTQ sexuality, transgender youth, kink, and consensual nonmonogamy, as well as the co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes' Transgender Mental Health certification program.

Dr. Nichols has been licensed since 1981 and trained as a sex therapist since 1983. In 1983, she founded the Institute for Personal Growth, and in 1985, she helped found and served as the first Executive Director of the Hyacinth AIDS Foundation, New Jersey's largest HIV social service agency. Since she sold IPG in 2018, Dr. Nichols has maintained a small private psychotherapy practice and a roster of sex therapy supervisees across the country.

Resources on ways to support trans and non-binary people:

• Supporting transgender people in your life - Advocates for trans equality

• How to be an ally to trans and non-binary people - Trevor Project

• How to be an ally to trans and non-binary people - George Mason LGBTQ+ center

• Dr. Margie Nichols' TED talk

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Join us for an exciting conversation with inventors Michael Weiss-Malik and Elizabeth Dell, co-founders of Groove Thing, a way to bring music vibrations inside your body, an astounding invention. They say it's a way to "transform your body into a concert hall." Not a sex toy, not a musical instrument, it's more of a tactile music experience and a synthesis of music and sensation. For older adults, it's an experience of pleasure for many types of bodies -- it's low impact, and it's about letting the music radiate inside the body. If you're interested in learning more, please go to their website.

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Join a few of our co-hosts for a light, lovely, humorous, and educational romp through some challenges of ageism and how they combat ageism through sexual pleasure.

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