I hope that you will join me today as I delve deep into the intricate world of parenting, a world where love, concern, and an impulse to help often intertwine. As the founder of my coaching platform, I've had the personal privilege of guiding professional midlife women through the labyrinth of their emotions, and it's a recurring theme that keeps surfacing – the delicate balance between offering assistance and interfering in their children's lives.

I tackle the issue of well-meaning over-involvement, or what some may call being a "fixer." As our young adults grow and evolve, so must our approach.

I offer six ideas that will help you reshape your understanding of effective support as a parent. My hope is that this episode will offer a fresh perspective on parenting in the modern age, so tune in, as we unravel the complexities of parenting in our modern emotional lives.

Show Highlights (my 6 ideas to consider)

• Reevaluating Parental Help: the difference and balance between helping and interfering

• Identifying Source of Impulse: understanding the drive to “fix” our children's problems

• Embracing Discomfort: why it's important to be present with your child during their discomfort while also allowing them to grow independently

• Discerning Help: how to tell if something is truly an emergency

• Making Peace with Reality: encouragement that not all problems are within our power to prevent

• Empowering Growth: shifting the focus from over-involvement to offering support

Resources

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I want to share with you in this episode about how to really make lasting change in your life and in your work. I know we often think we need to get that perfect plan and perfect motivation first, but the truth is that action is what makes things happen. Taking that first step, even if it's a baby step, gets the ball rolling and helps momentum and clarity build. Once we begin to act on our goals, the universe seems to cooperate and help us stay the course.

If there's something in your life that you want to work on, assess where you are now, make a list of options, and then choose the easiest first step. Don't wait for inspiration to strike. Just start taking action and watch how things begin to shift and open up for you. Let's talk about how you can get unstuck and finally start creating the life that you truly want to be living.

Show Highlights

• How action, not just motivation, creates lasting change.

• Action leads to clarity and momentum.

• Why to take the first small step towards your goal, however small.

• Don't wait for inspiration. Just start taking steps towards your goal.

Resources

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Join me in this episode as I discuss the various things that we were trained from a young age to believe that we might still believe today even though they don't serve us. Maybe you have thoughts like, "I'm not good at math" or "Knowing the answer is what makes you smart." However, these are just ideas that became 'truths' because we've thought about them so much. 

If we can try on new thoughts, we expand what we're capable of. After all, life rewards curiosity, not having all the answers, and as we question the programming of our youth, we can reshape beliefs that keep us feeling small. Let's shed thoughts holding us back and embrace an expanded view of ourselves.

Show Highlights

• Many things we were taught in school still limit us as adults.

• Our perceived abilities often come from the thoughts we believe, not objective facts.

• Trying on new, more expansive thoughts can help us develop skills we think we lack.

• How curiosity expands our knowledge more than having all the answers does.

• Why questioning old programming lets us see a broader view of ourselves.

Resources

Sheila’s Website

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I hope that you will join me for this momentous occasion - the podcast turning a year old. Listen as I reflect on a year of podcasting, reminiscing on some of the challenges that I initially faced as a new podcaster and how this podcast has grown over the last year.

The podcast initially began as a free, accessible source of advice for clients, but it has truly morphed into so much more. The feedback that I’ve gotten has shown me that this podcast has become a cherished part of listeners’ routines, and it has also taught me so much, becoming a source of growth and discovery for me.

It’s so important that we set big goals and measure progress on a daily and annual basis, and this podcast, now being a year old, has really afforded me a wonderful opportunity to do that. I welcome you to year two and hope that you will continue listening as I continue this humbling journey.

Show Highlights

• key lessons learned from creating this podcast

• how what I’ve learned can translate to any big goal

• why it’s important to measure consistency

• what it means to “learn by doing”

• how this podcast has made me more confident in sharing my perspectives

Resources

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Many clients come to me because they want to feel more in control. They don’t want to feel like a passenger in the car of life but rather the driver. However, the desire for control can also sometimes have adverse effects, such as wanting control through food, alcohol abuse, and so forth.

Control is not always needed. We sometimes tell stories about ourselves and frame them as if they are conflicts when control isn’t really what is needed because there ultimately is no battle. Fear creates conflict which is why I encourage you to be mindful of the language that you use when telling your stories.

Show Highlights

• why is control sometimes pleasant and other times not?

• why it is important to be mindful of our choice of words

• encouragement that there isn’t always actually conflict

Resources

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We have so many dilemmas that come up about wanting to improve something about our lives such as our relationships, our financial situation, the quality of our health, and so forth. I am here to tell you that the answer to all of these is in the decisions that you make.

That’s why it is so important to be making decisions regularly, especially conscious decisions. We really want to get to the point at which we recognize that we are creating our lives rather than believing that life is happening to us. 

Listen in as I walk you through an example from my own life of how I felt stuck in a situation in which I was making decisions unconsciously and what happened when I decided to start making the decision consciously. If you feel unhappy or confused in a certain situation, be sure to ask yourself what decision you are not making.

Show Highlights

• why you might not be making enough conscious decisions

• the disempowering cost of making decisions unconsciously

• we are always creating our lives and should be aware of it

• how your inner power does not come from force and pressure

Resources

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You may recall how I talked on the podcast back in January about my trip to a spa resort and what I learned on that trip. Well, on that trip, I met Dr. Melissa Sundermann, and I am so happy to have the opportunity to talk to her on this podcast.

Melissa is a double-board certified physician in internal medicine and lifestyle medicine and has been practicing for over two decades, always adding new elements to her methods over the years. I hope that you listen in as she shares her journey and discusses lifestyle medicine and the six pillars of Lifestyle Medicine (plus a bonus unofficial seventh one). She also discusses age-related cognitive decline, honing in especially on Alzheimer’s.

This is such a great, fun conversation, and I am grateful for Melissa’s time and having the chance to catch up with her.

Show Highlights

• how and why Melissa became interested in Lifestyle Medicine
• walkthrough of what Melissa teaches about brain health
• importance of sleep
• how to better manage stress
• why we should spend more time outside
• causes of and preventative measures for age-related cognitive decline
• book recommendations from Melissa

Resources

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Vivek H Murthy M.D. - Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World

Dean & Ayesha Sherzai - The Alzheimer’s Solution: A Breakthrough Program to Prevent and Reverse the Symptoms of Cognitive Decline at Every Age

Dean Ornish’s Books

Will Bulsiewicz MD - Fiber Fueled: The Plant-Based Gut Health Program for Losing Weight, Restoring Your Health, and Optimizing Your Microbiome

Melissa’s @motivatormelissa Page on Instagram

Melissa’s @thedoctoroutdoors Page on Instagram

Melissa’s LinkedIn Profile

We sometimes feel stuck, like we have goals that we feel we cannot reach, and sometimes, we really need to take a step back and ask ourselves what our beliefs are about our ability to make it happen. Everything stems from what we believe, so if we don’t believe in ourselves, we aren’t going to see the results that we want, and it’s just that - ourselves - in which we need to believe. If you are feeling overwhelmed, train your brain to create belief plans first before making action plans, and this is such a powerful move that will help you change how you view yourself.

Show Highlights

• what you need to do before creating an action plan

• belief plans and why they’re important

• how our thoughts lead to results (or lack thereof)

• start with simple short-team goals and then build on them

• how to recondition your mind and change your sense of identity

• part of my own belief plan

Resources

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During the pandemic when we were under lockdown, I took an incredibly powerful class from Anita Moorjani. Anita has an amazing story that really inspired me in several ways, so I am spending today’s episode sharing what I learned from her class, including but not limited to the idea that being spiritual is at our core, that a challenge can come with a blessing that we might not see until we are past the challenge, and the importance of loving oneself. We are here to always be learning and growing, so it is my hope that sharing a few of the key inspirational lessons that I learned from Anita’s class will be helpful to you as well.

Show Highlights

• background information about Anita Moorjani

• all about the class I took from Anita

• the most important things that I learned

• why we should learn to trust and love ourselves

• how to increase your self-love

• how what I learned from Anita ties into Thought Work

Resources

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What if money were a person with whom you were in a relationship? If you thought about that person the way that we think about money, it would probably be a very unhealthy relationship. Today we explore your relationship with money and how to improve it. What you appreciate appreciates, so aligning yourself with appreciative thoughts about this needed resource is an important first step in improving your relationship with money.

Show Highlights

• how some people think money = worth

• how to define your relationship with money

• why you should identify your own relationship with money

• a book recommendation on this topic

• what happens when we appreciate money

• how having a neutral relationship with money will serve you

Resources

Sheila’s Website

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Lynne Twist - The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life