Overgivers Anonymous Podcast

In this episode of the Overgivers Anonymous Podcast, I am super excited to bring you a VERY special guest! I discovered Dr. Naieema Jackson on Vurbl and I'm beyond grateful that we were able to connect and give me the opportunity to share her wisdom with you. We are going to discuss how to “get things done right” so you can run a successful business with a three to five hour workday. 

Highlights:

When working with women we look at what the “hustle culture” has made us give up. Often we are so busy being busy we lose sight of what we like to do. If you ask the question  “what do you like to do?”, often you hear the answers if they are married - they'll say stuff with their spouse and if they are mothers - they'll say stuff with their children.

The guilt kept me in a cycle of hustle. Guilt also kept me in the cycle of everybody else being a priority, but me. a  

If you think about how we do things in terms of work, it is from a patriarchal perspective. As women, we get to do “it” differently and be successful.  There are so many examples of this. 

“Your success doesn't have to be my success.”  If my success is X amount of dollars per year, yours doesn't have to look like that. If you want to make enough money to pay your bills and to take your kids on vacation once a year and ensure you have time and energy to spend with your kids, then go make that happen. That is your definition of your success at this moment in time. 

There are four things that I have to offer this audience. Four steps that really helped me get my clients to their goal of a three to five hours workday.

There are so many ways to achieve this. There isn’t one singular way so we have a structure to work from so we can figure out what works best for each person.

The right bums in the right seats. If my bum doesn't belong in that seat, I have to put somebody else in it. So in order to be successful, the most important thing is to remember what your circle of brilliance is. Where do you shine? Then help those around you find the right seats so they can help you shine brighter. 

 

Dr. Naieema is the CEO of The Determined FemPreneur. For service-based female entrepreneurs, we are the leading sales & operations strategy program that helps our clients get to 30k+ months in 90 days, while working only 3-5 hours/day. We do this by combining a unique blend of high ticket sales, messaging and operations. Dr. Naieema is also the host of The Determined FemPreneur Podcast. She is determined in every sense of the word and believes that determination was the key to her earning multi-six figures in her first year as a coach while pursuing a Ph.D., raising a family, dealing with an anxiety disorder and working as a nursing professor. Her coaching and beliefs center around helping women overcome while being determined to reach their entrepreneurial goals. When Dr. Naieema is not coaching, she is spending time with her 2 children.  

 

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Listen to my playlist “Reduce the overwhelm and create a business that allows you to have time for you!” on Vurbl!

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In this episode of The Overgivers Anonymous Podcast, I have a serious question for you. Are you the “Arnold Schwarzenegger” of goal setting? I'm not talking about the whole big muscles and powering through no matter what. I’m talking about his trademark comment  “I'll be back” from the Terminator series. Are you one of those people that write out goals, dreams, thoughts and then mutter “Yeah, I'll be back and look at it”? BUT you never come back. You ain’t no “Arnie”. I used to do this. I think we all do until we understand how valuable it is to go back.

Highlights:

The most important thing you can do is write down your goals. Making that connection between your hand and the pen and then the pen to the paper and then ultimately creating synapses in your brain will make you more likely to accomplish those goals.

However, just writing it down is not enough. It’s like creating a vision board that you toss in the closet and never look at again.  It is not going to have the same impact that it could have if you saw it every day. 

You are less likely to accomplish your goals if you don't write them down. So celebrate if you are writing them down because that's important. But now how do you want to see them?

I encourage you to look at your goals regularly. It is something that has made a huge positive impact in my business and with the business owners that I work with. 

You need to write out your yearly goals and then break them down into quarterly, monthly and weekly goals.  If you don't know what you need to do week by week in your business, you're not working towards your goals. You are just busy. 

Make sure that you are taking time each month to look at your monthly goals to make sure that you are on track to where you want to go. 

In this episode of the Overgivers Anonymous Podcast, we’re going to talk about five planning mistakes that we've all made. I have made them and I have learned from them. I'm here to talk to you about them so you don’t have to make them anymore!

Highlights:

When you over-plan your time you get frustrated because there is no way you can fulfill your expectations.

Block off sections of time to work on specific tasks. Allow yourself to work within that time block on only those specific things. This is different from micromanaging your schedule. 

The time blocking works really well when you know how long jobs take to do. If you don’t already know how long a task takes to complete, the action of creating a time block allows you to create time boundaries. This will prevent one duty to take over your entire day.  

If you have a team, are you allowing your team member to help with the planning? You are planning the BIG PICTURE that you can see from 30,000 feet above, but then you're like “hey, I need you to take this 30,000-foot view and break it down for me into the different pieces that we're going to execute throughout the year”

When you have too many people sharing opinions, ideas and thoughts - can actually derail what's happening in your business.

Not scheduling your life outside work.

You are not successful because you forgot what the plan was! Not only did you forget it, you didn't tell your team about it, or you told your team but they forgot about it, and you didn't reinforce it.

 Not using the tools you have. 

I hope that you have a fantastic week and I hope that you not only plan your week, but you make sure that you're not over planning your time. I hope you are looking at ways to delegate things to your team members. When you create an amazing team you can create time for yourself outside of work. Keep your eye on your plan! I encourage you to look at your plan monthly, quarterly, yearly, weekly, to make sure you are on track. Be sure that all of your tools are easily accessible as you strive for success.

 

 

Listen to my playlist “Reduce the overwhelm and create a business that allows you to have time for you!” on Vurbl!

https://vurbl.com/playlists/reduce-the-overwhelm-and-create-a-business-that-allows-you-more-time-by-the-geeky-girl/

In this episode of the Overgivers Anonymous Podcast, I want to talk to you about Guilt Monsters and how they creep out late at night or in the shower. Guilt Monsters will sneak up and take a hold of our brain and turn it into mush. I'm sure you know what I am talking about. I know I've been in this situation many times. I know sometimes it can feel pretty dark and feel pretty painful. Remember there is a way out and I am going to share some tools in this episode.

Highlights:

The Guilt Monsters are real, they're painful and they cause a lot of problems for a lot of people.

The Guilt Monster is feeding us a story that we're comfortable with because it's something that we have told ourselves over and over… However, we can change the story. When we change the story life starts to get super interesting.

Sometimes it's not easy to get rid of the Guilt Monsters, because they're so ingrained. However, through time, practice and persistence we can change the story. I encourage you to try and change your narrative.

Sometimes the issue is about changing a story. Sometimes it's about honouring the fact that those Guilt Monsters have something to tell us. It can also be simply looking at a situation and saying, “You know what, that's just crap. I can't do anything about the past. The past is the past and it's time to move on”.

For me, sometimes reading a fictional book before bed will help me because I can focus on characters’ stories and their interactions.

Other times I literally get out of bed and sit down and journal thoughts out of my head. Mighty is the pen!

There are many ways to push Guilt Monsters out of your way so you can move forward with your life and your business. You can be successful.  When you push the Guilt Monsters out of the way you turn off the nonsense. Your business life will become more peaceful and beautiful as you realize anything is possible.

 

Listen to my playlist “Reduce the overwhelm and create a business that allows you to have time for you!” on Vurbl!

https://vurbl.com/playlists/reduce-the-overwhelm-and-create-a-business-that-allows-you-more-time-by-the-geeky-girl/

In this episode, I'm excited to introduce you to someone that I've known for a long time. Her name is Mira Rutter and we’re gonna talk about how to use your natural energy cycle to do more of what matters with ease and flow instead of pushing, hustling and burning out.

Highlights:

There are times when I didn’t feel like I “fit in”. I had this perception that I had to be on the ball 100% of the time. There were certain moments when I did not fit into the traditional masculine understanding of being productive.

We need to understand that we are not always in a productive mode and that NOBODY ever is. If you look at nature, you have spring and summer and autumn and winter. It's not harvesting time 24/7 (unless you have GMO food, which obviously is not very healthy for us). When you look at how nature has different cycles you realize that is the healthy way of living for everyone. We need to embrace this concept more.

I've never been a fan of the “hustle” mindset. I think that there's a place for that because sometimes you just have no other choice. There are times in life when a parent dies or somebody's sick. Life can be overwhelming. It's never a “healthy” time when you literally have to push through to survive. I get that, however, once you see the light at the end of that tunnel you will have the time to heal. 

As you move through the natural energy cycle, there are certain parts of your cycle where you naturally have more energy. So you'll be more out there and spreading the word about what you do and being more vocal. And then there are other times when your energy's a little bit lower and then you turn inwards. You will be more intuitive about things.

I find it interesting that people often think that there's a “sameness” amongst us all regarding energy.  I feel the fact that there isn’t a “sameness” is actually beautiful. I don't have the same amount or need for the same amount of feminine versus masculine energy as you do. My need for the different types of energy will be different than everybody else's.

I remember sitting on the sofa taking some notes and I must have looked like I was chilling out while my husband was working upstairs. Picture the scene. There I was journaling, meditating, listening to music while he's building shelves upstairs. I had made the decision that I was going to enjoy the day while he built furniture. A few days later I had to create some content for my business. I was sitting at the computer trying to write this stuff. Some of it was flowing and some of it wasn't. Suddenly I was like, hold on a second, I was writing some of this stuff when I was chilling on the sofa. I opened up my notebook and found everything I needed there. At the time I didn’t feel like I was particularly productive on the couch, but in fact, I was much more productive at that moment than at my desk. It is all about energy.

Mira Rutter works with ambitious women who started their online service-based business because they dreamed of a better lifestyle doing work that they love. Sadly somewhere along their entrepreneurial journey, they lost track of what they wanted in the first place.

She is passionate about helping them discover who they truly are and connect with what is important to them.

Mira coaches her clients to strategically manage their time and energy, develop an empowering mindset and build high-performance habits. Through her 5-pillar female-centric VIP alignment method, she enables them to lead a life they love, create success on their terms, and take their businesses to the next level. 

As a Motivational speaker, Mira is on a mission to inspire more women to lead a life on their terms with more ease and flow. She has spoken on a variety of virtual and physical stages, including Google Campus London, Barclays Bank, WeWork, BrightTalk and has been interviewed on The Entrep...

In this episode of The Overgivers Anonymous Podcast, I want to talk about a touchy question you may have asked yourself… “why do I always fail to complete my business goals?”. Ouch. It's a tough question to ask yourself, but at the end of the day, there are some very clear reasons as to why, as business owners, we tend to fail the completion process. We create our goals, but then they tuck them away in a drawer and file them. THAT is the number one reason why your business goals are failing. As much as your brain likes the process of you writing things down and subconsciously you “sort of” work towards your goals, unless you're actually taking steps on a daily basis towards accomplishing your goals, it's going to take a lot longer than a year to accomplish them.

Highlights:

The reason why most business owners fail to accomplish goals is because of the “set it and forget it” mode. You must “check-in” often.

You need to break goals into small enough chunks so that when you're working on them on a daily basis towards your end game and not just working from a state of just being busy.

I could spend 40/80 hours a week just getting stuff done because there's always lots of stuff to get done. The tasks that I'm so diligently checking off every single day must be based on my goals so I can actually reach my final goal.

We perceive the direction of our goal and then we take action to make it happen. Our first attempt is never the last. Don't be afraid of falling on your face. Don't be afraid of taking actions that do not work. Remember taking action is how you learn what you need to do to reach your goal.

I love the differences between having a goal that feels comfortable, a goal that's a little more uncomfortable, and the one that's really uncomfortable (scary!). The more uncomfortable we become, the more we grow. 

You will never find out what works for you if you are “sitting back and waiting”. You must take action steps to reach your goal.

I could launch a new product tomorrow and there is a chance it could fall flat and nobody ever buys it. But nobody will know. Unless I tell them. Do you see where I am going with this? A lot of this fear of falling, this fear of failing, or this fear of not actually accomplishing something is unfounded. Nobody is going to know you didn’t get the results you wanted unless you tell them. So just don't tell them. 

I hope you take your BIG GOAL for 2024 and break it out into much smaller goals. Revisit your 2024 goals quarterly, monthly and weekly so you are constantly working from a state of non-negotiables. If you're always working on tasks that you know are tied to your overall goals you have a greater chance of succeeding. If you need help with your 2024 we are here to support you in the Rockstar World.

 

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In this episode of The Overgivers Anonymous Podcast, I have a question for you…

…why are you so worried?? 

I want to know why so many people get so caught up in the lies they keep telling themselves that they actually prevent themselves from being successful. I want to stop that negative chatter. I want you to be successful! A lot of the lies people tell themselves have to do with onboarding new people to help them inside their business. Lies about outsourcing duties to other people. And I get it. I've been there, I've done that, I’ve bought the t-shirt. We know it is important to learn from other people's mistakes. I'm going to share with you the mistakes I have made and the mistakes others have made.

Highlights:

The lies you tell yourself:

No one can service my clients like I can.

No one knows how to do the things I do.

I have a special way of doing things.

It's a waste of time to train someone - It would take longer to show someone how.

No one will care as much as I do and they will let me down.

I don't have time to chase people.

I have hired before and it didn't work out, so it never will.

You are right. Nobody knows how you do what you do. Perhaps you do have a special way of doing things, however, that's easily solved. Just share it.

If I don't open the dialogue to ask, “Does this make sense to you?”, then my assumption is “you know what you're doing”.  Unfortunately, their assumption might be “I'm not allowed to ask questions”. This kind of misunderstanding can cause some huge issues inside a team.

It does take longer to train somebody. However, the benefits outweigh the short-term “pain”. 

It is not a waste of time, because you are investing in somebody. When you invest in somebody in your team, and they feel valuable, then they will actually contribute MORE to your team. Investing in people is important. You will reap rewards, there will be a return on the investment of your time, and you will gain time because you're no longer doing that task inside your business. 

If you bring people into a team, be sure to be open with your plans, what is currently happening, and encourage open communication. You build a team environment where other people can lean on each other. You build a team of people who actually care.

Your business can grow, change and expand. Things can evolve as you move forward. You just have to stop lying to yourself, because that is what is holding you back. You are standing in your own damn way! So start thinking about what it is that you are worried about. What you're worried about is probably just a lie. Write out some of the things that you're great at, write out some of the things that you're not so great at and decide what tasks you need to get off your plate right now. By outsourcing, you will enjoy your business more and be able to put your energy and effort into things that will actually grow your business rather than just run it.

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In this episode of the Overcomers Anonymous Podcast, I have a mini-rant for you… 

Don’t worry...I'm not going to go all crazy, but there are a few things that I want to share and they are going to be very important takeaways for you. I have seen a lot of small business owners or entrepreneurs struggling to achieve their business goals because they have not built their teams. You cannot find your success without help. HELP translates to TEAM. Many of us started our businesses so we would have more time. More time with our families, more time with our spouses, more time to travel... so we would have more time. And yet, it's turned out that many of us have less time than we did corporately and we are making less money than before. Let's not forget about the stress that is building up. A huge part of all of this is you are simply trying to do too much. 

That was my rant. Not too cray cray was it? (My kids would be rolling their eyes right now LOL) 

I have LIVED this. I have seen so many business owners shy away from building a team and ultimately miss the level of success that was within their grasp. The level of success they deserve. I want you to be successful. I want you to have the life you had dreamed of by building your business. Building a team will enable you to reach your deserved success. 

 

Highlights:

You are over-delivering on your promises to clients and you are under-delivering promises to yourself.

We are overachievers. We tend to burn out over and over and over again until we get the “message”.

You do not need to go from zero to 60 when building a team. You don't need to go from no team to having 20 people.

What is your “circle of brilliance''? What is that one thing that you not only excel at but also love to do? Let’s be honest, sometimes we do things that we are really good at, but we really don't want to do.

When you think about the type of support you need, what are the fires you need to put out as soon as possible? That's how I typically hire. What piece of my business is causing me the most stress in my life right now.

There is no way that I could run the business that I run without my amazing team. My team supports and enables me to focus on my “circle of brilliance”. I am here to help you build the team you need to take you to the success you deserve.

 

In this episode, I want to talk to you about how the people or personalities we surround ourselves with will help shape who we become. I really believe this is true. It is something that has been part of my thought process for a long time. I am going to translate what I have heard about this idea, and maybe what you believe, into something a little different. 

Highlights:

I used to think it was only the five people I spend most of my personal time with. But when I really dug deep I discovered there's more than just five people. There are the people inside our business and there are the people in our personal lives.

We are influenced by so many people in so many areas. Think of all your personal stuff, your business teams, your clients and their teams… we are way over 15 people already! We influence each other all the time and everywhere. 

I'm willing to listen to other people's opinions. It doesn't mean to say that they're gonna change my mind. At the end of the day, I don't think it necessarily comes down to who is right or who is wrong. In the end, my opinion is based on my experiences and the stories I tell myself. These are the things that shape who we are. 

If you have ideas or opinions that are really important to you, but you are lacking confidence,  then you must find people who will support you.

The people we surround ourselves with shape us to who we are… and that number is much higher than 5.

In this episode of the Overgivers Anonymous Podcast, we have Megan Hamilton as our guest! We're gonna be talking about learning how to speak will help us all become more assertive and make setting boundaries easier. 

Highlights:

Even in theatre school my friends and I would say, “Man, this is really important. Like everybody should know how to do this”. Just simple things like a physical presence, or how to carry your body effectively, how to speak well, how to warm up your face so that you can speak with enunciation. All of these suggestions are really helpful when we want to get up in front of people and speak. 

The big thing you need to know about boundaries is that you can set them (and that's scary) and people are gonna try to break them.  You have to keep setting them.

You can say the exact same thing in the exact same words in two different ways and one way is going to be a heck of a lot more effective than the other.

You must be solid in your belief systems and know what your boundaries are and stand up for your boundaries. It's not “the easier it gets scenario” the more often you do it, but you will see the value in it. 

Yes, I think it becomes easier when we do the things that we get comfortable doing, but there's always a new “uncomfortable”. It is all about getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. 

If you're going to give a speech to 20,000 people in a stadium, or if you're going to present your quarterly numbers at the work meeting, the fear you feel is the same. In both situations, you have the same physical manifestations. You've got the sweaty palms, you've got the blushing, you've got the shaking legs, you've got the shaking hands, you've got the sweating, you've got the heart palpitations, the pounding in your chest, all of this stuff is the same.

The more women that can learn to be empowered by standing up to take control of their own boundaries and to be comfortable in being able to speak their truth...I think that would be fantastic for our world as a whole. 

Megan Hamilton is a speaking, visibility and confidence coach for women. She uses her classical theatre training and 25+ years of performance to build a step-by-step speaking system that not only allows you to deliver incredible speeches but also provides you with a framework to have difficult conversations, build your confidence and increase your visibility. She uses shadow work to help you tune in to your intuition and discover the root of what contributes to burnout. She's also the host of ubu pod and can be found online at www.ubuskills.com.

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