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Trick or treat is a big buzz around Halloween, it's on everyone's lips and it's a feast for the kids. But what about a deeper look into that question? Trick or treat; are you tricking or treating yourself and others? Who gets the best of you? Are they worth the effort? And why do scammers try to trick people? How can they sleep at night? So many questions. I end by sharing a true scammer story. #trickortreat #halloween #scammers

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It’s easy to accept the concept that a person will go through their life being right a certain amount of times, and be wrong a certain amount of times; I mean, in every argument, every conflict, in every disagreement, someone is wrong, or at least they have a different perspective. That’s just very logical. But if we then say, that - in order for that to be a fact, it also includes ourselves. WE are wrong, more often than we know, way more often than we want to know… 

Let me share a real-life example of how something I’ve been thinking lately was wrong. Not just wrong, but negative and destructive…. Ughhh….. and this is human behavior, it’s not just me… if you’re a mother, a parent, you may recognize this.

So the past month, I’ve had a VERY high workload, you know, when it almost becomes ridiculous. And you know it because the laundry piles up, the mail is in a pile, dishes take longer, it starts looking messier than usual, you feel drained… and, the daily question “what shall I cook for dinner” is no longer just a thought – it’s now a REAL and honest concern – a difficult challenge - cause you didn’t have the time to go shopping for food. I mean, what can you cook from mustard, pickled spring onion, and soy sauce? All that has been our situation at home for a while, and escalated drastically last weekend when the fridge turned into a normal cupboard, warm shelves… you know. And yes, the freezer did the same, a melted mess of I’m not sure what, but it looked gross. All thrown out and just an empty fridge and freezer standing in the kitchen, they just stand there. Like an awkward and annoying cupboard. I hope they feel very useless, cause they are.

Sometimes we have to thank our lucky star, let’s call it divine intervention, like now when I was reading a chapter of this book called YOUR BRAIN AT WORK, by Dr. David Rock, it’s about how our brain works, neurochemistry, how we react and respond to events, and chapter 9, When Expectations Get out of Control; this phrase jumped out and gave me a really nice big hug, it actually made me cry. It said, “we’ll get takeout instead so we have more time to hang out together”.

When I read that phrase, my little universe shook. I was projected into a whole new perspective. I didn’t feel like a bad mom anymore, for not cooking for my children. Instead, I saw the other perspective, that I held on to our family time, ate with my children, and got takeaway food so we could have more time together.

Sharing this now, it almost sounds a little stupid that one can get stuck in a way of thinking that is just wrong. But we do that. Cause we’re humans.

In conclusion, I think it’s fair to say that, every time you feel bad about yourself for not being or doing enough, there’s probably another perspective that will show you the extreme opposite. That you’re awesome, you’re wonderful, a great friend, a fantastic colleague, a supermom or dad, who always shows up for those who need you.

I was thinking about ending with an encouraging “try it” and then I thought – hm, maybe I should try it myself, and I said it out loud. Got quite emotional, and realized how rare it is to talk to oneself in encouraging words…

I’ll end by sharing, and I hope you try as well 😊

I started with “I’m a bad mom, cause I don’t cook for my kids”. 
 And the new perspective. “I’m a great mom. Even if I have been working myself to pieces, and the fridge broke, every single day, I made sure we had a really nice and tasty family dinner”.

Now it’s your turn. Find a better perspective!

Thank you for listening. If you want more ideas on this topic, check out episodes 107 and 83.
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Good morning, rise and shine! Do you wake up loaded with energy, bursting to kick the day off and face all angles of life? Do you wake up in pain, totally drained, feeling like you almost didn't have time to even fall asleep before the alarm went off? Or are you somewhere in between? Do you know what your very first thought in the morning is? Is it a good thought? Is it helping you? Making you want to get up and live life? This podcast has the potential to help you set up a new and VERY powerful routine that can and will impact your days and life in a wonderful way. Try it!!! #intentionalliving #thoughts #morningroutine #life

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Maybe a tough and slightly provocative title. But at least it's true. Very often, the truth hurts a little bit, or at least it stings. I had to look myself real good in the mirror and stop lying to myself, as the scale kept showing higher and higher numbers that were supposedly my weight. I ignored it. Didn't think it was possible. Thought the scale is probably exaggerating (yeah, right).  And just kept eating, and yes, kept on putting on weight. This episode is an encourager, a tough but caring push if you need help getting on track with your health again. Join me! It's much less hard when you know you're not alone. And oh, at the end of the episode I share why, in the last episode #119 I tell my son not to drink like a camel :) #weightloss #healthychoices #ownership #responsibility #health #diet

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Do you know someone who makes noises, says certain words or have habits that TOTALLY get on your nerves? Please say yes!! Or I will just seem like a not so nice person. I have developed an allergy to the sound effects that come when my son drinks water. It literally sounds like someone is stuck in his throat and screaming to get out. It's super stressful to try and eat dinner while someone is screaming like crazy from inside someone else's body, imagine!!! Also, he doesn't EAT food, he drinks it. He inhales the food, takes a giat breath inwards and sort of sucks in whatever he's eating; pasta, pizza, popcorn, fruit, cake, candy, nuts, everything goes down like if he was a human vacuum cleaner. If you have tips on how to NOT hear noises that are produced by your family members, please share with me :) #family #camels #teenagers #badhabits

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Why is it that so often when we make a commitment to invest in our health, our personal development or studying, our diet, our health remedies, our engagement in charity work, those close to us will ask questions like: Aren't you doing too much? Why are you so hard on yourself? Attention so you don't shock your system? Aren't you being mean to yourself? Don't exaggerate! I understand it's their concern and they want us to be safe and happy. But why this question when we are clearly and obviously doing something that is good for us, that will make us a better version of ourselves... why then? Why do we not hear this question when we let ourselves go and gain lots of weight, when we never ever study again after having left school, when we buy everything we see, when we smoke, drink or eat too much, when we never get outside and activate ourselves, when we never invest ourselves in others...? Is it OK to be a lesser version of ourselves? And why is it not more encouraged and exciting to become the better version of ourselves? I share a statement I read on social media, one that I find sad and unhealthy, but that will be protected by the masses. I say, stay healthy, stay committed to your personal development and your becoming your best version of yourself!!!! You'll never do too much of that. 

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Relationships are what make life worth living. It's also a source that can trigger us to feel upset, angry, disappointed, frustrated, betrayed, furious, hurt, disrespected, and so on. Other people's actions, their words, or lack of, can be very hard to handle. I find selfishness, lazy people, and injustice incredibly triggering. I'll have to mention teenagers, especially lazy teenagers. And one specific thing that triggers me to the point my head spins is COPYCATS. Do your own thing for crying out loud. You've gotta have something other to say than the exact same thing as your fellow human, no? If you can't be more independent, unique, and confident than to copy others, I sincerely feel sorry for you. Anyway, never carry the foul energies of when you've been triggered!! Let it out, let it go, release and find your peace. My favorite way to release the anger or frustration, disappointment or hurt that can come from certain relationships, is a good old hardcore workout. For some, it's calmer: breathing, yoga, mediation, hanging with friends, binge-watching TV, sauna, or playing an instrument. Whatever works for you, hopefully, something very constructive, make sure you do it so you don't carry the negative energies of having been triggered. #boundaries #copycats #triggered

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You know when something very unpleasant, or on some rare occasions it's a pleasant thing, but most often it's unpleasant, something happens that marks you for life. Those moments feel like something we just want to forget when we're right in the middle of it. But if we take some time and process what actually happened, and why it felt so unpleasant, that moment can give you very powerful information. It can help you get better, it can guide you to make better choices, do more of what's right and refrain from doing what's wrong. In this episode I share two examples of moments that have marked me; one where I was the one who was attacked, check out episode 43 for the full story, and the other where I am the one (hopefully) making an impact on another person, check out episode 110 for the full story. When was the last time something happened in your life that, looking back, you can see how it is a moment that marked you? Schedule some time to reflect to capture these moments, and make sure you capture the lesson they carry. #momentsthatmarkyou 

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All of us are tired and drained now, from this darn pandemic. We need our energy levels to be high, more now than ever before. What if you could find a way to stop unnecessary energy leaks from your system, and focus all your energy where you want it and need it most. Check out this episode for inspiration and food for thought about how to take ownership of your energy leaks, and grow confident in your daily thoughts, choices and actions. A shoutout to Kevin McCarthy, author of the book Blind Spots - why good people make bad choices, a book that is packed with deep thoughts and powerful questions. One of them I share in this episode. #energyleaks #guilt #stress #ownit