Own It with Samantha Warren

One thing that I see time and time again in my work (and within myself!) is our tendency to ignore our intuition and internal signals. It’s a story that’s familiar to so many of us. Pushing ourselves, over-training, over-exercising, all the while ignoring what our bodies are trying to tell us. And it all stems from this belief that if we get the “perfect body” then we’ll be happy and all our problems will be solved. It’s what diet culture has taught us.

My guest today, Emma Rawlinson, a Transformational Health and Life Coach based in London, has been down that path. Her journey to self-love began when she lost her dad suddenly in Summer 2019. In her grief, she tried to numb herself by throwing herself into exercise, training every single day (HIIT workouts, CrossFit, Spin classes, Bodybuilding competitions). Her body was screaming for rest but she ignored the signals and continued to punish herself. Then one day she woke up and realized that something was not right and embarked on her journey to real self-love. Her biggest shift? Trusting her intuition, not her ego.

As Emma tells us, by listening to your intuition (that “gut-feeling”) and tuning in to your body’s signals, we can harness incredible power to really embrace ourselves and our bodies. We can begin to recognize how intuition feels in our body and honor what it’s telling us. And the more we pay attention, the louder it will get. For me, I will stop and listen to my body before I do anything. Eat, workout, movement. Whatever it is, I take a minute and really tune in so that I am honoring my needs and showing as my best self possible.

You already have all of the power and magic inside of you to honor yourself. Start by practicing embodiment, breathwork, and meditation. Hold onto that vision of your future self until your body catches up!

To learn more about Emma, head over to https://www.instagram.com/iamemmarawlinson/

As women, we are rewarded when we put other people first. We have this complex that we’ve learned from society that we should take pride in doing as much as possible for everyone else and we over-give to the point that it becomes almost a sacrificial martyr complex of “How much can I do?”. It’s exhausting. So at the end of the day, we feel passive-aggressive and upset. Maybe it's at our partners. Maybe it's at our colleagues. Maybe it's with friends. Because we give and give and give and then we lose ourselves.

Maybe you feel guilty when you put yourself first. Maybe you feel if you slow down and chill for a second then everything is going to fall apart. That’s the shadow we can fall into. When we can't show up for ourselves, when we struggle to ask for help, when we feel like we have to do it all on our own. That is a wounded place to be.

In today’s episode, I’m talking about the importance of prioritizing ourselves and playing the creator in your life.

Our life is our responsibility. When we take ownership, we get to create our dream life. Whether it be the decision to invest in ourselves, change our relationship with food, transform our business, our magic is our own. And we own it.

One thing I’ve been hearing in my messages from you guys and my clients is about the struggle to stay consistent. You try something for a few days, then “fall off the wagon” so to speak and it all just falls apart. I get it! If there’s one thing I’ve learned from my health journey, it’s that consistency is not easy! It takes a whole lot of inner work and a deep dive into our mindset to really dig into the “why” and take back our power!

Today I’m discussing how I navigated my own health and fitness journey to find a place of balance and consistency. My story is one that so many have been through. I was unhappy with my body. I was disconnected and ashamed of it. And I started my healthy journey because of a comment someone made. I used that as fuel “get better and lose weight”. The deeper truth wasn’t about the weight though. It was about my belief that I had to be perfect, look a certain way or be thin and that if I wasn’t, then I wasn’t worthy.

My own self-sabotage is what held me back from showing up consistently for myself. I didn’t think I was worthy of what I wanted so it just didn’t happen. I was scared of failing so I didn’t try. I went from bingeing to extreme restriction, over exercising and calorie counting, thinking it was the “right” way to do it, but found myself no happier than when I’d had the extra weight.

At some point, I decided that I couldn’t live like that anymore. I wanted to be happy. I wanted to be healthy. Weight wasn’t even a factor anymore. I had to find balance. And once I started to address what was actually going on beneath the surface and realized I was a victim to food, I was able to take my power back and step into my Queen!

If this ep resonates with you and you’re in a place where you know what you need to do but just can’t seem to do it, I would love to invite you to my new free masterclass next Wednesday April 21at at 3pm ET on how to stop sabotaging, stay consistent AF and show up for your most confident self!

https://www.balancewithsam.com/sabotage-masterclass

Today, we are talking all about the EGO.. you know… that sabotaging voice in your head that tells you that you aren't good enough or you shouldn’t invest in yourself even though you’ve been stuck in the same place forever.

Doing ego work transformed my life, body, relationships and business. It helped me stop sabotaging my health and my body and gave me the confidence to start a side hustle and then eventually leave my 9-5 and build my business!

Ego work is for you if you...

After doing ego work you’ll notice:

It’s where I began my personal development work and it’s changed every part of my life. The Holistic Psychologist was the catalyst for me doing ego work back in 2018 and it’s been such a journey 🙂

I’m so excited to hear what you think!

Be sure to screenshot the podcast and tag me on IG (@samaltieri) 💞💞 and tell me your top takeaway!!

Catch ya next week :)

You know that expression “The path is created by walking, not waiting”? It’s one of my favorites because, well, it’s true!

Life is there for the taking. Everything we want, we can have. But we have to be the ones to take the steps and do the thing. We have to set boundaries to protect our energy. We have to surround ourselves with people who can see what’s possible for us. We have to believe that we are worthy and use our power to create the life we want.

I used to be fearful of saying what I wanted to say. I was worried people wouldn’t like it or wouldn’t like me, and they would leave. But then I realized they’re not the people I’m meant to have in my life. I started following my heart. Every time I felt something, I just did it. I did the next thing and the next thing and before I knew it, the world had opened for me.

Today I’m talking about how we can learn to let go of what doesn’t serve us and use the power of visualization to get clear on our path and how we want to feel in our lives.

We may not be able to see the whole path all the way to the ending, but that’s the beauty of it: we’re not meant to. We can use the power of visualization in our mind’s eye in real life and dreams, set the boundaries we need, and follow our desires. They are the secret roadmap to exactly where we are meant to go. We can’t conceive the magic of it all, but by following our highest excitement and taking back our power, we can’t go wrong.

This week’s episode is SO exciting. Not only is it the first episode back after a 3-month hiatus, but I am reintroducing the podcast’s new name: “Be More Real with Sam Altieri.” This is a mini episode where I share why I needed to take a 3 month break, what happened with my eating disorder in 2020 once COVID hit and I moved in with my now fiancé, and what caused me to gain 15lbs. I also give you a sneak peek into how I stopped bingeing, judging myself and started eating intuitively and being happy in my skin. The podcast is dedicated to my Dad, my biggest mirror and fellow healer. ( love you Dad!) He inspired the new name because when I was younger and brought over some friends who were down to earth, he’d call out how real they were. I didn’t fully understand what that meant until I rediscovered who I was. Now, as my most confident myself, I decided that this is the perfect name for the podcast. PLUS! I now have a YouTube Channel! My channel will be THE go-to place where I will be sharing my own healing journey, more spirituality, and manifestation, as well as my business growth and how to be a successful entrepreneur while maintaining alignment, freedom, and happiness! Be sure to subscribe to my channel and let me know what you think in the comments! This will be the first episode of a kickass 2021. So make sure you subscribe so you don’t miss an episode or chances to be featured on my podcast!

In our final episode of Balance with Sam for 2020, I talk to my amazing coaching clients about manifesting money, how visualizing our desires can help find clarity on our path and the internal shift we can make to embody a queen mindset.

Often we can go through life and we're on autopilot. We're doing our thing and we can feel undisciplined and inconsistent. We don't show up for ourselves and we’re all over the place. Moving the queen mindset allows us to be present and in our power. We show up every moment with self-awareness and consistency that creates our wave and embodies our essence.

Top Takeaways

You are worthy right now. I used to have so many beliefs about who I could be or how far I could go or what I could do. I felt that I wasn’t worthy of success. It’s just not true. You are worthy, deserving, and enough. Right now. Let that sink in. You can also have goals but those goals do not make you any less worthy or enough. Use the mantra “I'm satisfied with where I'm at and eager for more.” You can feel that you are enough right now and also want more. They may happen in different stages, at different paces and in different ways that you could've never ever imagined for yourself. But stop limiting yourself.

Think about what you really want and be what you want to attract. You need to be a vibrational and energetic match for the things you desire. If you're always frustrated, complaining, feeling victim, you're going to attract more circumstances like that. If you are feeling grateful, even for the smallest things, you're going to attract more of that. When your energy is high, you attract that. Think about money. Money is always working for you. Progress is always working for you. Clients are always coming to you. Business is always happening for you. Opportunities are always coming for you. Be open to them.

Practice visualizing the future. Close your eyes and feel it. When you close your eyes and imagine that thing that you desire and you feel into it, you actually feel it in your body (I get tingles!) That's gratitude. That is the feeling of abundance. Your brain doesn't know the difference between a real thing and an imagined thing. The more you can imagine the thing, the faster you manifest it, the faster it shows up. Trust that money is on its way to you. Trust that your business is growing. Trust that clients are coming. Trust that whatever is happening in your life that you want to happen is coming for you as long as you declare it and know it to be true.