Have you ever felt like pretending to be positive was more exhausting than just being honest? In this episode of Own Your Shift with Kim, Kim Mayberry dives into the misunderstood world of toxic positivity—what it is, how it shows up, and why it can quietly erode your self-trust.

Kim gets real about her own transformation from a pessimistic realist to someone who got caught in the trap of “good vibes only.” Through her personal stories and the S.H.I.F.T. framework, she shares how to break the cycle of emotional performance and reconnect with your actual feelings—without shame.

Whether you’re tired of holding up the mask or questioning why gratitude isn’t cutting it anymore, this episode is your reminder that honesty is more powerful than forced optimism.

What toxic positivity really means (and why it’s not just being cheerful)

How to tell when your inside world doesn’t match your outside image

Why labeling emotions as “good” or “bad” creates emotional disconnection

How to reframe emotional triggers as release attempts from your body

The exact S.H.I.F.T. framework to help you feel, process, and move forward authentically

S – See what you're actually feeling

H – Hold space without fixing it

I – Identify the pressure underneath

F – Forgive yourself for how you’ve coped

T – Take one honest step back to yourself

Connect with us on Instagram @ownyourshift_kim

Resilience isn’t always a comeback story with a bow on top. In this raw and real episode of Own Your Shift with Kim, Kim breaks down the unfiltered truth about what resilience actually looks like—gritty, unglamorous, and full of emotional potholes. If you're tired of the “bounce back” narrative and craving honesty about what it means to keep going when no one’s clapping, this one’s for you. You’ll also walk away with three practical tools to rebuild self-trust and rise up in your own timing—even if it’s messy.

In this episode, Kim shares:

Why resilience is more than a highlight reel

Her personal experience with the "ugly middle" of transformation

Why the phrase “bounce back” is misleading and damaging

The mental and emotional cost of always being the strong one

What real success looks like when you're not in performance mode

Resilience isn’t fast, glamorous, or linear. It’s often slow, gritty, and awkward—and that’s okay.

You don’t need to turn your pain into poetry. Sometimes it’s just pain. And that alone is valid.

Comparison will kill your confidence. Everyone’s bounce-back timeline is different, and social media doesn’t show the whole story.

Showing up while messy is a power move. It creates real connection—not just content.

Real resilience builds in the quiet, behind the scenes, when no one’s cheering but you.

Disappoint People On Purpose
Let go of needing to be understood by everyone. Sometimes resilience means doing what’s best for you—even when others don’t approve.

Let Yourself Be Seen in the In-Between
Stop waiting for the polished “after.” There’s power in showing up mid-process, even if it’s awkward and incomplete.

Practice Micro Trust
Rebuild confidence by keeping one small promise to yourself each day—whether it’s brushing your teeth when you say you will or skipping sugar just for today. These tiny acts compound into self-respect.

“If your life doesn’t look polished right now, I’m so f*cking glad—because that means you’re in the middle of choosing resilience.”

What does your version of resilience look like right now? Are you rolling forward, crawling, or standing still while you regroup? DM Kim on Instagram at @ownyourshift_kim—she wants to hear your real story, not just your highlight reel.

Have you ever brushed off a compliment, felt triggered by something random, or found yourself repeating the same emotional patterns? In this episode of Own Your Shift with Kim, Kim unpacks the concept of reflections—those emotional echoes, compliments, and moments of discomfort that mirror back the truth we’re not always ready to see. You’ll learn how to recognize, interpret, and use reflections as powerful tools for healing and self-awareness. This episode also includes a short guided reflection to help you pause, breathe, and process what life is showing you—right now.

In this episode, Kim shares:

What “reflections” or “mirroring” really means in personal growth

A vulnerable story about rejecting a compliment—and what it revealed

How reflections aren’t here to shame you, but to teach you

Why patterns, triggers, and emotional shutdowns are often spiritual feedback

Her ongoing struggle with being seen and hiding behind the scenes in her business

Reflections are messengers—they help us see where we still need healing or where we’re hiding from our truth

You can separate the reflection from the truth—what’s real now vs. what you used to believe

Being triggered doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re being invited to look deeper

Receiving a compliment is a skill—and it’s okay if you’re still learning

Pause Instead of Reacting
When something triggers you, ask: Where else have I felt this? What’s familiar about this feeling?

Separate the Mirror from the Truth
Is this reflection showing you what’s real—or just what you still believe?

Let the Emotion Rise
Don’t shame it. Let it surface so it can be released from your body.

Practice Receiving
When someone says something kind, pause. Say “thank you.” Nothing more, nothing less.

Kim walks you through a 5-minute grounding exercise with reflection questions like:

When’s the last time someone saw something beautiful in you that you couldn’t receive?

What old story about yourself are you still carrying?

What would it feel like to update your self-image to match who you’re becoming?

Share your reflection experience or what this episode brought up for you! DM Kim at @ownyourshift_kim on Instagram and join the conversation.

Insecurity isn’t a flaw—it’s information. In this episode of Own Your Shift with Kim, Kim gets personal about how she transformed years of hidden insecurity into authentic confidence. She shares five real-life tools to help you reframe the parts of you you’ve been taught to hide—and instead lead with them. If you’ve ever performed your confidence, chased approval, or shrunk yourself to fit in… this is the conversation you’ve been waiting for.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

Kim’s personal story of performing confidence while silently battling insecurity

How seeking approval kept her stuck—even when things looked good on the outside

The “aha” moment that helped her stop fixing herself for others

Why your quirks may actually be your superpowers

What happens when you stop dimming yourself to be accepted

Name It
Say your insecurity out loud. Naming breaks the shame.

Trace the Root
Identify where the belief came from. What planted it?

Reframe the Narrative
Fill in the blank: My [quirk] makes me [strength].

Use It to Connect
Your authenticity makes other people feel safe in theirs.

Act Anyway
Don’t wait to be fearless—take the fear with you and move.

“When you’re constantly performing, you never fully belong. Not even to yourself.”

“What if the thing you always thought was wrong with you is actually the thing that makes you magnetic?”

“Insecurities don’t disqualify you—they prepare you to walk with compassion and courage.”

DM Kim on Instagram @ownyourshift_kim and let her know what part of this episode hit home for you.

Episode Highlights:

What to do when you're ready to create... and your brain goes completely quiet

Why silence doesn’t mean something’s wrong—it means your mind might need space

How to tell the difference between a pause and a problem

Why creativity comes in seasons—and how to stop panicking in the low ones

The trap of thinking everything you create has to be deeply profound

Why consistency matters more than constant inspiration

Kim's 3 Quick Tips to Reignite Creativity:

The Obvious Dump:
Write down everything around you, no matter how random or “dumb” it seems—spark creativity by naming the obvious.

Ask a Lazy Question:
What’s something you could talk about for 5 minutes without prep? Use that to get your brain moving in anydirection.

Five-Minute Messy Creation Time:
Set a timer and give yourself permission to make something bad on purpose. Let it be cringe. Let it be chaotic. Let it be honest.

Let’s Connect:
If this episode landed with you, DM Kim on Instagram @ownership_kim or tag your takeaways in your Stories!

In this raw, unfiltered episode of Own Your Shift with Kim, I’m sharing my personal, gritty journey through 75 Hard—not for hype, not for hero status—but for honesty. This wasn’t about having motivation. In fact, I had none. It was about showing up when everything in me wanted to quit.

I dive into:

If you’ve ever felt burned out, inconsistent, or like you’re too tired to start—this one’s for you. Because sometimes, the win isn’t about feeling proud… it’s about finally keeping a promise to yourself.

📝 Show Notes 

Episode Highlights:

– Welcome + What is 75 Hard

– My first two failed attempts—and what they taught me

– Why this round was the hardest one yet

– How I navigated zero motivation, sugar cravings, and life chaos

– What a real day in the program looked like for me

– Discipline over motivation: the shift that changed everything

– The biggest lesson I almost missed on the last day

– Why finishing didn’t feel “proud,” but something even more important

– The truth about consistency and soft moments

42:00 – Final thoughts and challenge to you

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Have you ever left a toxic job, ended a relationship, or moved to a new place—only to find yourself facing the same frustrations all over again? In today’s episode of Own Your Shift with Kim, we dive into the hidden patterns that follow us from situation to situation … and why.

Kim shares a powerful personal realization about how unhealed energy, limiting beliefs, and unconscious expectations can silently shape what we attract—even when we think we’ve moved on. 

You’ll learn:

This episode is part wake-up call, part energetic reset. If you’re ready to leave the baggage behind and finally create new experiences that feel as good as they look—this one’s for you.

📩 DM Kim on Instagram @ownyourshift_kim to share your thoughts or how the exercise lands for you!

Have you ever asked someone for help—only to turn it into an unexpected competition? In today’s unfiltered and laugh-out-loud episode of Own Your Shift with Kim, Kim Mayberry shares a real-time story and the surprising epiphany that followed: competing against her husband while mowing the lawn… after asking him to help. This spontaneous episode dives into how our subconscious patterns of needing to prove ourselves can sneak in when we least expect it—even in moments where support is being offered. Kim explores where these patterns may originate, why we sometimes reject help while asking for it, and how we can shift from competition to collaboration. In this episode, Kim explores: • Why we often feel the need to “do the most” when help arrives • How subconscious competitiveness masks deeper fears of looking weak • The moment she caught herself turning teamwork into a solo sport • A journal prompt to uncover when asking for help first felt “less than” • How to shift your mindset to receive support with grace—not guilt Power Quote from the Episode: “True strength isn’t how fast you finish—it’s in allowing yourself to be supported without making it a race.” Whether you’ve done this or not, this episode will have you laughing and reflecting on your own self-sabotage habits—and how to stop making everything a competition you never signed up for. Listen now and then DM Kim your funniest or most eye-opening ‘I can do it better’ moments on Instagram @ownyourshift_kim.

In this powerful episode of Own Your Shift with Kim, Kim Mayberry dives deep into two transformative concepts: becoming "unhurtable" and using contrast as a tool for personal growth. Kim breaks down what it means to be unhurtable—no, it's not about being emotionless, but rather about mastering your inner response, no matter what life throws at you. She explores how we often look for validation outside of ourselves and how true strength comes from going inward, getting curious, and responding with intention. But that’s not all—Kim also explains the concept of contrast in manifestation. Why do you sometimes attract the opposite of what you want? How can the things you don’t want actually guide you toward clarity and alignment? Discover how to use contrast to your advantage and shift your mindset from feeling stuck to feeling empowered. In This Episode, Kim Explores: ✨ What it really means to be unhurtable—and why it’s not about being tough or emotionless. ✨ How to recognize and reframe triggers instead of reacting. ✨ Why validation from others keeps you stuck—and how to shift to self-validation. ✨ Understanding contrast: Why the opposite of what you want often shows up first. ✨ How to use contrast as a mirror for your own growth and healing. ✨ Practical tools for releasing stuck energy—emotionally, mentally, and even physically. Powerful Quotes: 🌟 "Being unhurtable isn't about never feeling hurt—it's about knowing that your feelings are yours to navigate." 🌟 "Contrast isn’t a block—it’s a mirror. It shows you what you’re ready to shift." 🌟 "You don't become unhurtable by forcing it—you become unhurtable by choosing again and again to come back to yourself." Reflection Questions: When was the last time you felt emotionally triggered? How did you react? Can you identify an area in your life where contrast is showing up? How can you choose a better feeling thought today? Your Action Step: Next time something triggers you, pause. Instead of reacting, ask yourself: "Is this about them, or is this about me?" Breathe, reflect, and choose a better feeling thought. Connect with Us: ✨ Follow Kim on Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim ✨ Share this episode and tag us in your stories. ✨ Subscribe for more powerful episodes that help you own your shift. If you loved this episode, please rate and review us on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen. Your support helps us reach more people who are ready to transform.

Show Notes:

Have you ever been on fire with inspiration—only to suddenly hit a wall and completely shut down? In this deeply raw and revealing episode, Kim Mayberry takes you behind the scenes of her personal growth journey, sharing the emotional rollercoaster of starting something that truly matters... and then sabotaging it.

From a life-changing trip to Costa Rica and an unexpected download of her signature course, to the paralyzing fear that followed—it’s all here. Kim speaks vulnerably about her patterns of resistance, the weight of old programming, and the surprising peace that came from finally slowing down.

If you've ever:

Started something big and then froze

Questioned your purpose even when the vision felt clear

Avoided your own power because it felt “too much”

...this episode will hit home.

🎧 In this episode, Kim shares:

How a spiritual awakening led to powerful downloads—and even deeper resistance

Why self-sabotage shows up after inspiration strikes

What she learned from cycles of hiding, showing up, and hiding again

The surprising signs that you’re aligned… and what happens when you’re not

Why your growth doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to move

This isn’t a motivational highlight reel—it’s real life, raw healing, and the truth behind momentum, purpose, and doing the damn thing even when you’re scared.

💬 DM Kim at @ownyourshift_kim and tell her what resonated with you most.