The Skill That Interrupts Autopilot | The School of Ownership Ep. 01

Discernment isn’t just a word. It’s a skill and it might be the missing piece between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.

In Episode 1 of Season 3 of The School of Ownership, I break down what discernment actually is, why it’s essential for self-trust and self-leadership, and how it helps us interrupt the patterns that keep us living on autopilot.

Because you don’t create a new life by doing more.

You create it by choosing differently.

And that requires the ability to pause long enough to ask:

Is this aligned with the version of me I say I want to be?

In this episode, we talk about:

• What discernment actually means (and why most people skip it)

• The difference between reacting and consciously responding

• How to interrupt old patterns in real time

• Why growth requires you to think, choose, and show up differently

• The role discernment plays in self-trust and self-leadership

If you’ve been feeling stuck in the same cycle or wondering why you keep making choices you know aren't aligned with who you want to become, this episode is for you.

This is where you stop outsourcing your power and start owning your choices.

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In today’s episode, my mission is to end the shame cycle of being the one who gets more hurt at the end of a relationship.

What if we allowed ourselves to wear our pain and hurt as proud representations of our ability to feel deeply and share love?

This episode is for you if you want to learn or be reminded of how to…

• Navigate your humanness through pain
• Overcome the story of being the “weak” “hurt” one when a relationship ends
• Release the fear of judgment from yourself and others
• Allow yourself to be vulnerable through your heartbreak
• Meet yourself in unconditional love through your pain
• Turn your pain into purpose and your hurt into healing

This episode is a tribute to all those who have been broken up with, cheated on, or have been the one to initiate the breaking up but feel regret or grief after.

This episode is a celebration of those who are brave enough to be vulnerable and to share their heart to the world, even when it feels like it’s broken.

Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share it with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives lives with radical confidence.

Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

Growing up, I didn’t have a lot of *real* female friendships. For me, women were nice to have around but at a safe distance because I was raised to believe there could only be one alpha female and it damn sure was going to be me.

And then I moved to Austin and found myself thrown into more feminine energy, female friendships and sisterhood circles than ever before.

It has been beautiful, overwhelming, powerful and expansive on so many levels and I feel so grateful to have the opportunity to open myself to a side of life that I always pushed away from.

In this very special episode, I brought together 3 of my favorite girlfriends in Austin to talk about all things embodied femininity, true sisterhood, sex, building deep friendships and owning our power as women - both individually and collectively.

We talk about the real, the raw and the necessary.

Huge shout out to my incredible guests - Process and Mindset Architect Ellen B. Tsai, former pro volleyball player Becky Perry and Pleasure Coach Lauren Schaeffer for sharing their hearts (and their sass) with me and this community.

In this episode we chat about…

✨ How we can connect more deeply with other women

✨ Being in integrity with your womanhood

✨ Taking personal responsibility for your pleasure

✨ How you can support the women in your life more fully

✨ How we move from competing to celebrating each other

✨ How female friendships can amplify your feminine power

This episode is heartfelt, funny and a must-listen so get your headphones in, go on a walk and enjoy the beautiful sisterhood that unfolds.

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Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share it with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives lives with radical confidence.

Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

Right before every trip I have taken to Costa Rica in the last year, a book has found me before I left. It is never a book I go looking for but one that seems to find its way to me and without question, I read it.

First it was The Monk who Sold His Ferrari, then it was the Celestine Prophecy and this trip it has been The Way of the Peaceful Warrior.

As it usually goes in life, if we open our eyes to the synchronicities that exist all around us, every book has aligned perfectly with what was happening around me and has acted as a guide and a teacher to navigate my humanness.

The Way of the Peaceful Warrior could not have come to me at a more perfect time. The book’s general theme: Responding vs Reacting to life (one of many, many powerful lessons awaiting you in the pages) was the inspiration for today’s episode.

My most recent Own Your Shit retreat in Costa Rica was far from what I imagined it would be.

As hard as it was, it gave me one of the greatest gifts I could ever ask for (as it also usually goes in life, if we choose to see it that way): Choose to react and lose myself or choose to respond and find myself.

And so I chose to respond and the results of that choice will have ripple effects for the rest of my life.

Listen to today’s episode if…

🤷🏻‍♀️ You have historically let your emotions control you and your decisions and you are ready to change it

🤷🏻‍♀️ You want to learn how to stay grounded when shit seems like it’s hitting the fan around you

🤷🏻‍♀️ You want to experience the unparalleled freedom that comes from not letting your automatic behaviors and responses rule your life

There is so much power in choosing to take the space to consciously respond to life.

I hope this episode inspires you to own that power of choice and choose your highest self

Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

In this episode Danielle sits down with Life Experimenter, Podcast host and Sober Curious coach, Alex Zauner to chat about so much more than just exploring a sober lifestyle.

Beneath the concept of being sober curious is the idea of being life curious, rewriting your story and taking your power back.

This episode is for anyone who is…

Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share it with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives lives with radical confidence.

Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

In this car episode, Danielle talks about the human experience and all of the levels we go through. Danielle talks about early morning conversations while running with friends, and the beautiful themes that can arise there — like the levels of the game of life.

Danielle notes that while we didn’t create this game, we are players and we get to choose how we show up every day.

Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share it with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives lives with radical confidence.

Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com or shoot her an email at [email protected].

In this deeply personal and “blunt-worthy” episode, Danielle shares her abortion experiences and where she thinks we got it wrong in terms of educating women about their bodies and their rights.

Danielle shares where she wishes she had more love and support, as she hopes to normalize the conversation around abortions and women’s rights to their bodies.

This episode is for you if…

Danielle hopes that by hearing her story, you are inspired to share yours, educate yourself further and fight for women’s rights everywhere.

If you are interested in helping women access abortions safely, and you are able to, consider donating to one of these organizations: The National Abortion Federation, Access Reproductive Care-Southeast, Indigenous Women Rising, The Yellowhammer Fund.  

Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share this with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives with radical confidence. Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com, or shoot her an email at [email protected]. Follow the Own Your Shit podcast on Instagram @OwnYourShitPodcast.

In this episode, Danielle sits down with her bestie Sarah Joy Gaines to talk about how to own your friendships and have difficult (but necessary!) conversations. Danielle and Sarah talk about meeting on Instagram, traveling the country on their Kinection Tour, Sarah's work as Danielle's Head of Community, and how to stay open and honest with each other throughout it all. 

This episode is for you if you:

Sarah Joy Gaines is a self love and body image who teaches meditation and movement across the globe. Sarah is the creator of joyflow, her own unique yoga class, joydust, a biodegradable glitter company, and joyspace, an online movement and meditation community. Sarah is also the Head of Community for the Own Your Shit Self Mastery program! 

Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share this with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives with radical confidence.

Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com, or shoot her an email at [email protected]. Follow the Own Your Shit podcast on Instagram @OwnYourShitPodcast. 

This week Danielle talks about how to heal from heartbreak — whether it's the loss of a relationship, job, or phase of your life. Danielle talks about really sitting with your feelings, and expressing all parts of yourself, so you can really move forward. 

This episode is for you if you want to learn…

Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share this with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives with radical confidence.

Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com, or shoot her an email at [email protected].

In this special live version of the Own Your Shit podcast recorded in the Costa Rican jungle, Danielle dives deep into jealousy with her most recent retreat cohort. Listen to six women get vulnerable, and open up about the jealousies that present themselves within their lives and with each other. 

This episode is for you...

Thank you for listening to the Own Your Shit podcast! If you found this episode valuable, please leave a review + share this with your friends, family, and community! Together, we can build a world where everyone owns their shit and lives with radical confidence.

Down to be best friends? Connect with Danielle on Instagram (@daniellegertner), subscribe to her newsletter at daniellegertner.com, or shoot her an email at [email protected].