Owning Your Sexual Self

Hello! We're back with another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast! I've got Dr Alison Ash back this week to talk about one of the most substantial relationship ruptures; affairs. If you're looking to understand why affairs occur, how to prevent them, or how to rebuild trust after a betrayal, this is an episode you want to listen to.

In this episode:

• Reasons why affairs are often more about the individual’s needs than the relationship itself
• Why open and honest communication about fantasies and desires can prevent relationship ruptures
• Some unexpected ways an affair might impact the person who has been cheated on
• How to keep the spark alive by bringing back fun, excitement, and newness to your relationship
• How to know when it’s time to let go of a relationship after an affair and what to consider when making that decision
• The importance of seeking professional support to navigate the complexities of infidelity. You don't need to do this on your own

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Resources
Check out Dr. Aly's upcoming Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills course at www.TurnON.love/intimacy. Use the discount code "sexualself" for $100 off!

For on-demand workshops visit www.TurnON.love/workshops and for her Sustainable Intimacy course visit www.TurnON.love/sustainable-intimacy

For intimacy coaching, visit www.TurnON.love/coaching

Connect with Dr. Aly
Instagram, Tiktok, & Facebook: @TurnOn.Love
Website: www.turnon.love

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Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
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Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I've got on Dr Alison Ash who is a trauma-informed intimacy coach, Stanford University lecturer, author, and founder of TurnOn.Love. Dr. Aly brings her expertise to guide us through the topic of ruptures in relationships. I'm so excited to provide this resource for you guys; this conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone looking to strengthen their connections!

In this episode:

• A look into all the different ways a relationship can rupture
• Normalizing how common and human ruptures are
• How important it is to recognize ruptures and work on repairing them
• How to create a safe space to work on these repairs
• Strategies for having these tough conversations and actively repairing the rupture

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Resources
Check out Dr. Aly's upcoming Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills course at www.TurnON.love/intimacy. Use the discount code "sexualself" for $100 off!

For on-demand workshops visit www.TurnON.love/workshops and for her Sustainable Intimacy course visit www.TurnON.love/sustainable-intimacy

For intimacy coaching, visit www.TurnON.love/coaching

Connect with Dr. Aly
Instagram, Tiktok, & Facebook: @TurnOn.Love
Website: www.turnon.love

Support the show

Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello! I'm super excited for this episode! We're talking about something super fun and playful; sex bucket lists! I've got on fellow sex coach Jenay, who is a certified relationship & life coach, and the host of her podcast “My Naked Mindset” which is a sex/taboo/dating topics podcast. I can't wait for y'all to hear what she has to say!

In this episode:

• Jenay's personal experience and how her and her husband filled out their sex bucket lists
• Where to start when creating a sex bucket list, and how to use some resources to begin
• How a sex bucket list can bring back that spark you had in the early days if you're in a long term relationship
• Creating a safe, open space to share your desires, where both you and your partner can be honest without fear of judgment
• Examples of where to gather inspiration to keep adding exciting new ideas to your list

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Resources
Sex Bucket List Worksheet
Want, Will, Won't List
BDSM Test

Connect with Jenay!
Instagram - @MyNakedMindset
TikTok - @MyNakedMindset
X - @MyNakedMindset
My Naked Mindset Podcast

Support the show

Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello everyone! I'm back with another episode of Owning Your Sexual Self! This week I've got Elena Solovyeva on who is the co-founder and CEO of Tempt, a spicy romance audiobook app designed to enhance women’s sexual lives. She's here to tell us all about the benefits of romance novels, and how important they are in creating safe spaces for women to explore their desire and sexuality.

In this episode:

• Elena's story and how Tempt came to be
• The concept of responsive desire and how romance content helps women tap into their fantasies, even with their busy lives
• Why the genre has exploded in popularity, reducing shame and encouraging women to embrace their desires
• How romance novels can help women communicate their fantasies with partners in a fun, non-pressured way
• The emotional causes of sexual frustration, from stress to feeling disconnected from oneself and a partner
• How romance novels offer more than just sex—they provide emotional depth, complex relationships, and character development

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Resources
Download the Tempt app: wromance.com

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Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello hello! I'm back with another amazing guest on the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast! This week with me is Aubri Lancaster who is an independent AASECT and ANTE UP! Certified Sexuality Educator. As a Greyromantic Asexual person Aubri has lived experience and a connection to the Asexual and Aromantic communities that provides a unique perspective on the issues facing the changing landscape of sexuality and orientation today.

In this episode:

• Aubri's journey as an educator specializing in aromanticism and asexuality
• The difference between libido, desire, and sexual attraction
• How asexuality is an orientation, not tied to libido levels
• Why sexual attraction isn't always necessary for a fulfilling relationship
• Aubri’s unique insights into navigating asexuality and relationships

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Resources
Scarleteen Yes, No, Maybe Stocklist
Ace by Angela Chen

Connect with Aubri
Website: AceSexEducation.com
Instagram: @AceSexEducation

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Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello hello! We’re back with another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I’ve got on Yash Rivera (it/him/faers) who is a sexuality educator, sex worker, and 2SLGBTQIA+ activist, and is here to talk about it’s experiences in sex work and how it has enhanced it’s life. 

In this episode:

• A look into Yash’s pronouns and neo-pronouns in general 
• Destigmatizing sex work and correcting misconceptions  
• What doing sex work has looked like for Yash
• The importance of knowing and setting your boundaries 
• How sex work can be more than just sex 

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Connect with Yash!
Instagram: @its_majesty_the_emperor
Escort Site: Tryst.link
Sex Worker Blog: Tryst.link/blog

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Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
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We are back with another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! Today I'm with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, Sexologist, Sociologist, Relationship Coach, Author, and International Speaker. A radical force for self-expression, Dr. Jenn has spent the last 20+ years tearing down social stigmas and shame around sexual expression and empowering women to fully embody their sexuality. I can't wait for you to hear all the incredible things she's here to share!

In this episode:

• How Dr Jenn got started in this work and how it sparked a passion that's lasted 30 years.
• How mindfulness skills and compassion can improve sexual conversations and relationships.
• The importance of establishing and communicating boundaries for a safe and enjoyable sexual life.
• How the emotional “invisible” labor is often carried by women and how it can impact relationships.
• Advice on maintaining sexual intimacy and connection through effective communication and creativity.

Resources:
From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women
Fair Play Book
Fair Play Cards

Connect with Dr Jenn
Website: DrJennsDen.com

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Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
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Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello, friends! I've got another great episode this week! I'll be talking with Irene Fehr, a sex and intimacy coach. She's back to talk about what sex looks like for highly sensitive people, Irene's expertise and personal experience make her insights invaluable, and we will explore the importance of connection and unique pre-sex needs for highly sensitive women.

In this episode:

• How sensory sensitivity affects sexual desire and touch
• The role of emotional connection in intimacy for highly sensitive people
• Strategies for creating a safe space for de-armoring and relaxation
• The importance of building an emotional connection daily, not just on special occasions
• Cultivating abundance in touch and reducing pressure for sex
• Embracing sensitivity as a gift and working with it for deeper connection

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Resources
Elaine Aron - The Highly Sensitive Person

Connect with Irene!
Website - IreneFehr.com

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Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
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Hello hello! I'm back with a solo episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm going to be talking all about healthy communication, and going over how to use my communication guide that I've put together for you all to use! 

In this episode:

• Techniques for initiating conversations without triggering alarm or defensiveness
• Tips for checking in with partners and scheduling important discussions
• What the HALT method is and how to use it
• Emphasizing teamwork and shared goals in relationships
• How to use active listening and validating emotions during conversations
• The importance of continuous, compassionate communication to break negative patterns

Resources
Conscious Communication Guide & The Relationship Regroup

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Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
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Email: [email protected]

Hello! I'm back with another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self Podcast! This week I've got on amazing guest, Dr. Moali. She is a sex and relationship expert, clinical psychologist, and host of the Sexology Podcast.  With her expertise as a certified sex therapist, educator, and speaker, she has positively impacted thousands of couples worldwide. We'll be talking all about how to reignite your spark and connection in long-term relationships!

In this episode:

• Some issues long-term couples face with sexual intimacy and why these struggles are often ignored.
• Practical strategies for initiating sex in a long-term relationship.
• How to communicate with your partner about sexual needs and desires outside the bedroom to foster a healthier connection.
• The differences between spontaneous and responsive desire and how to navigate these dynamics within your relationship.
• The importance of giving positive feedback and having post-intimacy discussions to reinforce successful experiences and encourage more frequent connections.

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Connect with Dr. Moali
Sexology Podcast
Instagram: @SexologyPodcast

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Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]