Welcome back to another episode of the Owning Your Self podcast! I am so excited to have Molly Eames back on the show this week! Molly is a somatic experiencing practitioner and sex therapist whose work sits at the intersection of nervous system healing, sexuality, spirituality, and embodied self expression. She guides people back into safety, sensation, and truth within their bodies and helps them reconnect with play, pleasure, and presence. I have a feeling a lot of you are going to hear parts of yourself in this one.

In this episode:

• How the nervous system communicates through sensation
• Connecting chronic physical symptoms to nervous system patterns
• Practicing orienting to signal safety to the body
• Reframing triggers as information instead of problems
• Approaching self pleasure without goals or performance
• Expanding pleasure into everyday experiences
• Using voice and sound to support regulation

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

**This episode is sponsored by Instant Hydration. Visit InstantHydration.com and use my exclusive code RACHEL33826 for 40% off your order!**

Connect with Molly
Website: MollyEames.com
Instagram: @Molly.Eames

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Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
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Email: [email protected]

Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm genuinely so excited for you to meet today’s guest, Elana Auerbach! Elana is an author, mentor, activist, and someone who truly lives the work she shares. Her journey into pleasure didn’t come from theory or trends but from real life experience, curiosity, and a willingness to try something different in her own relationship and body. We talk about what happens when you stop waiting for the spark and start choosing it, and why taking ownership of your pleasure can shift so much more than just your sex life.

In this episode:

• The impact a weekly pleasure practice can make in your life
• Why pleasure affects creativity, confidence, and energy outside the bedroom
• What it means to take 100% responsibility for your pleasure
• Learning to ask “what do I want?” and building that muscle
• How to start small with simple daily pleasure moments
• Shame and how it disconnects us from our bodies
• Bringing curiosity and compassion to resistance and inconsistency
• How tending to different parts of yourself changes intimacy

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

**This episode is sponsored by Foria. Visit ForiaWellness.com and use my exclusive code MAINE20 for 20% off your order!**

Resources
The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark

Connect with Elana
Facebook - facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthor
Instagram - @Elana.Auerbach

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Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
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This week I’m joined by the one and only JoJo Seamons! JoJo is an intimacy and embodiment coach who truly lives at the intersection of spirituality, sexuality, and rebellion. She brings a grounded, heart led approach to kink, consent, and connection, blending practices like shibari, nervous system awareness, and conscious communication in a way that feels both expansive and deeply safe. This conversation is honest, juicy, tender, and full of permission to get curious about the full spectrum of intimacy. 

In this episode:

• Exploring intimacy through curiosity instead of performance
• Why consent is ongoing and can change moment to moment
• The role of nervous system safety in intimacy and desire
• How communication builds trust in both kinky and non kinky spaces
• What enthusiastic consent actually looks like in practice
• An introduction to shibari beyond stereotypes
• The emotional and energetic experiences that can arise in shibari
• How rope can deepen connection without being sexual
• An invitation to approach desire with curiosity and openness

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

**This episode is sponsored by Wellness Sexpertise with Rachel Maine. Visit pure.shop/shop?sh=V9S5E8R and use my exclusive code MY9PU44 for 15% off your order!**

Connect with JoJo
Instagram: @JoJo.Seamons

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Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello! Welcome back to Owning Your Sexual Self! This week I’m so excited to welcome Brianna Carey back to the show! Bri is a certified relationship and intimacy coach, a sexual health educator, and the co host of the Intimacy Evolution podcast, and she brings so much to conversations about desire and communication. She’s the person who first introduced me to speaking from desire, and every time I’m in her energy I walk away seeing relationships a little differently.

In this episode:

• What it means to speak from desire instead of blame or pressure
• Why direct requests can sometimes feel demanding
• How desire based language creates more openness
• The difference between desire and expectation
• Simple everyday examples of speaking from desire
• Why assumptions create disconnection
• Common blocks like fear of being too much or rejected
• The importance of practicing this skill over time instead of aiming for perfection 

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Connect with Bri
Instagram: @_Brianna_Carey_
Website: IntimacyEvolution.com
Podcast: IntimacyEvolution.com/Podcast

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Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Heyy! Welcome back to Owning Your Sexual Self! I am so excited to have Christina Prokos on the podcast today! Christina is an intuitive life and spiritual coach and shaman whose work blends inner child healing, shadow work, and emotional safety. When the idea of talking about how childhood wounds shape our adult relationships landed in my inbox, I immediately knew it needed to be an episode. This is something I bring into my work with clients all the time, and I’m really excited to get into this conversation with her and share it with you!

In this episode:

• How childhood experiences can shape emotional safety
• The link between childhood wounds and adult relationships
• Ways to start creating emotional safety within yourself
• Why letting go of given roles can feel so hard
• Why boundaries feel activating for so many people
• How resentment builds when boundaries are crossed
• Simple starting points for getting into inner child work
• The difference between insight and real change

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Connect with Christina
Instagram: @Christina_Life_Spiritual_
Website: ChristinaProkos.com

Resources
Embrace Your Shadows: https://www.amazon.com/dp/177962753X
Soul Thrive Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4OKT4stXPxkhlhu8nWNVIK

Support the show

Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello! Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm so excited to finally welcome Andre Lazarus to the show. Andre is a somatic intimacy guide and a widely recognized voice in conversations around relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection, and his work brings such a grounded, compassionate perspective to intimacy. You may also recognize him from the UK series Virgin Island, where he helped reframe intimacy as something rooted in consent, curiosity, and connection. I have been looking forward to this conversation for a long time, and I am genuinely thrilled to finally welcome Andre onto the show.

In this episode:

• What somatic intimacy work is and how it differs from talk based approaches
• How safety, consent, and curiosity create the foundation for meaningful intimacy
• What surrogate partner work is and how it supports therapeutic goals
• What it can look like to rebuild safety within your own body
• Simple embodied practices that help people feel more present and grounded
• How curiosity can soften shame and open new pathways to connection
• The role of intentional communication and regular relationship check ins
• Why connection compassion and presence are essential parts of intimacy

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Connect with Andre
Instagram: @ComingCloserwithAndre
Website: Coming-Closer.com

Support the show

Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello! Welcome back the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This episode kicks off the new year with a short and powerful practice you can use right in the moment. It's all about slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and gently shifting out of stress or shame when it shows up. I'll be guiding you through EFT tapping with a focus on nervous system support, sexual shame, and creating a little more safety inside yourself. I'm hoping it will be something you can come back to anytime you need a reset.

In this episode:

• What EFT tapping is and how it supports nervous system regulation
• When EFT can be especially helpful
• How thoughts, emotions, and body sensations interact and influence behavior
• Why sexual shame and trauma are stored in the body rather than the event itself
• A guided walkthrough of the EFT tapping points and reframing statements
• Ways to personalize EFT tapping and use it beyond this specific practice

Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Resources
Brad Yates Tapping YouTube- @tapwithbrad
Gala Darling - @galadarling

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Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello! Welcome back to another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week I'm joined by Dr Jaime Knopman, a board certified reproductive endocrinologist and one of the leading voices in fertility preservation today. Jaime brings clarity, honesty, and real world perspective to conversations that are often filled with fear, confusion, and pressure. We're talking all about infertility and her upcoming book Own Your Fertility: From Egg Freezing to Surrogacy, How to Take Charge of Your Body and Your Future. This conversation is empowering, grounding, and full of information every woman deserves to have.

In this episode:

• How fertility works and why egg supply changes with age
• When people should start thinking about fertility health
• Common fertility myths and misunderstandings
• What it means to be proactive rather than reactive with fertility care
• What egg freezing is and who may want to consider it
• When surrogacy becomes part of the fertility conversation
• The importance of emotional support, self compassion, and staying grounded through fertility decisions

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Resources
Own Your Fertility: From Egg Freezing to Surrogacy, How to Take Charge of Your Body and Your Future
Colorado Center for Reproductive Medicine
The Chick Mission

Connect with Jaime
Instagram - @DrJaimeKnopman
Website - DrJaimeKnopman.com

Support the show

Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hey hey! Thank you so much for coming back to another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! This week we have Danie Bergstrom on the show! Danie is a queer somatic sexologist and a trauma specialist working with the sapphic community. Her work focuses on transforming trauma and intimacy blocks into deeper connection and pleasure through experimental learning. We're talking about how purity culture can disconnect us from our bodies and the gentle practices that help you rebuild safety, trust, and a sense of ownership over your pleasure again.

In this episode:

• What purity culture and religious trauma are
• How high control religious environments shape sexuality
• Why shame can make it hard to enjoy pleasure
• How somatic practices help the body relearn safety and agency
• Why curiosity and voice matter when reclaiming desire
• A reminder that pleasure is deserved and healing has no timeline

Thank you so much for listening!  Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

Resources
Want By Gillian Anderson
The Intimacy Block Quiz

Connect with Danie
YouTube - @SapphicSexologist
Website - SapphicSexologist.com

Support the show

Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]

Hello! Welcome back for another episode of the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I am so excited for you to hear from Devin Scott today! Devin is a therapist and coach who helps people reconnect with their own inner wisdom and move through life in a way that feels real and authentic. He blends body based coaching, mindfulness, and psychological insight in a way that feels supportive without being overwhelming, and he works with so many people who are tired of playing "the game" and ready for something deeper. His perspective is thoughtful, fresh, and so needed. You're going to love him! 

In this episode:

• What Leela is and how it uses emotional states to reflect the ups and downs of life
• How cultural messages and expectations can create conflicting pressures
• Why so many people end up performing instead of living as themselves
• How shame and identity struggles show up in the nervous system
• Why everyday pleasure matters and how it helps people move through heavy emotions
• Why pleasure can feel uncomfortable or selfish during painful or uncertain times
• How to get back to your own meaning, agency, and self trust

Connect with Devin
Website: FindYourMeaning.coach

Support the show

Connect with Rachel!
Instagram: @The_Rachel_Maine
Website: https://linktr.ee/WellnessSexpertise
YouTube: YouTube.com/@OwningYourSexualSelf
Facebook: Rachel Maine
Email: [email protected]