In this conversation pulled from the vault, we revisit a conversation with John Eldredge as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships.

John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise.

We also discuss the fragility of the world and how it can affect individuals and relationships. 

Takeaways

Busyness can take a toll on relationships, leading to a lack of leisure time and personal well-being.

Enjoy the show!

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This week we discuss the nuances of married life and sex, emphasizing the importance of reframing conversations around intimacy.

We explore practical tips for enhancing sexual experiences in 2025 (but perhaps not in the way you may think intitially), the significance of body confidence, and the deeper understanding of adult desire.

Our conversation challenges societal norms and encourages you to embrace your unique sexual journeys.

On the Xtended Version ...

We continue the theme of the show by looking at bad sex words. What exactly does this mean? 

Listen to the XTD to find out.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities oral sex and the impact of past trauma.

A listener emails about the challenges faced in their sexual relationship, including feelings of resentment and the influence of past experiences. Which sets the stage for a conversation about the importance of communication, the significance of the 69 position, and the potential for personal growth and healing through intimacy.

Ultimately - we all need to face our issues head-on in order to explore new avenues of connection and pleasure.

On the Xtended Version ...

As we head into 2025, we use 3 words to help frame our new year goals.

Listen as we go through ours.

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In this Christmas Day episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss a particular nuance of marriage and sex - focusing on the idea of sex as a gift.

We explore the dynamics of power in sexual relationships, the importance of self-reflection, and how personal growth can enhance marital satisfaction.

Our conversation encourages listeners to consider their motivations and the spirit they bring to their relationships, emphasizing that the best gift one can give to their marriage is to work on themselves.

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In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of pressure in marriage, focusing on the nuances of desire dynamics and the importance of collaboration.

We explore the challenges faced by higher desire spouses, the role of pressure in relationships, and the significance of maturity and growth in navigating these dynamics.

Our conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding, and a commitment to learning from each other to foster a vibrant and fulfilling marriage.

On the Xtended Version ...

As we head into 2025, there are several truisms we look at that will help us all be better in life and marriage.

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In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual desires within marriage, particularly focusing on the impact of pornography.

We explore the nuances of attraction, the importance of communication in relationships, and the need for maturity in handling desires.

Our conversation emphasizes the significance of honoring one's character and the choices made in the context of marriage, while also addressing the challenges posed by societal norms and personal desires.

On the Xtended Version ...

There is a difference between cutting someone off in family relationships vs walking away from them. 

What is this difference you say?

Listen to find out.

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In this episode, I'm joined again by Sam Jolman as we explore the complexities of male sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embodying one's sexuality without shame.

We believe there is a need for deeper conversations around sexual behavior, relational dynamics, and the impact of maturity on sexual potential. We also touch on the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the interpretations of lust within a faith context, advocating for a more nuanced approach to sexual education.

We explore some common misinterpretations of biblical passages regarding lust, the biological responses to beauty, and the importance of self-awareness in navigating desires. Our dialogue emphasizes the shift from viewing lust negatively to recognizing it as a natural human experience that can lead to deeper emotional connections, especially in marriage. We also touch on the idea of healthy lust and the ongoing journey of intimacy and growth in long-term relationships.

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This week revisit a Best Of epsiode from the vault.

A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn’t moving it. What’s going on?

A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again.

On the Xtended Version ...

A wife is bored in her sex life, even though her husband is very caring and attentive. To further complicate things, she doesn’t know what would liven up her sex life.

What can she do?

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This week Pam and I discuss the complexities of intimacy, particularly focusing on oral sex and the impact of past trauma on current relationships.

The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and presence in sexual encounters, while also addressing the challenges faced by individuals with traumatic histories.

We hope to encourage listeners to navigate their sexual relationships with empathy and openness, highlighting the journey of healing and connection between spouses.

Takeaways

Relationships are constantly evolving and require adaptation.

Pam and I cover an email from a husband who misses the sex they had before his wife went through menopause.

Enjoy the show!

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In this episode, I'm joined by Alex and Kadi Dutton, founders of EveryLove Intimates. 

We talk about their journey in creating their company aimed at enhancing intimacy in marriages. They discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, the importance of variety and exploration in relationships, and how their products provide couples with the tools and permission to try new things together.

We emphasize the significance of communication and intentionality in nurturing a healthy marriage.

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Takeaways

Communication is key to improving intimacy in relationships.

Pam and I talk through the differences between a goal of desire for sex vs desire during sex.

What does this actually mean?

Listen to find out.

Enjoy the show!

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