In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss a listener's email regarding premature ejaculation and the psychological factors that may contribute to it.

We explore the dynamics of sexual desire, the importance of communication between partners, and strategies for retraining the nervous system to enhance intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the need for collaboration and understanding in sexual relationships, offering practical advice for couples to navigate challenges together.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore a complex email from a listener struggling with intimacy and respect in her relationship.

We explore themes of sexual connection, the importance of boundaries, and the distinction between compatibility and respect. Our conversation emphasizes the need for personal empowerment, the significance of reclaiming one's voice and desires, and the necessity of facing fears in order to foster healthier relationship dynamics.

Ultimately, we want listeners to prioritize self-respect and well-being in your relationships.

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In the XTD content, questions to ask yourself to address your voice in your sex life and marriage.

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In this conversation, Gary Thomas joins me as we explore the intricacies of married intimacy, focusing on the importance of emotional connection and the five senses in enhancing sexual experiences.

We discuss how cultural perspectives shape our understanding of intimacy, the significance of touch, sound, taste, sight, and smell, and how these elements can be integrated to create a richer, more fulfilling experience.

Gary emphasizes the need for couples to adapt to changes in their sexual dynamics over time and to embrace new possibilities for connection. Learn more about Gary here - https://garythomas.com/

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complexities of love in action within marriage, addressing the common phrase 'I know he loves me, but...' and its implications. We discuss the difference between love as an emotion and love as demonstrated through actions, emphasizing the importance of tangible expressions of love.

The conversation dives into the dynamics of self-deception, the fantasy versus reality in relationships, and the necessity of confronting unhappiness and uncertainty. We hope to encourage you to reflect on your own behaviors and the impact of self-respect in your relationships, ultimately guiding you towards a deeper understanding of love and action.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complexities of marital intimacy and emotional disconnect, sparked by a listener's email.

We explore themes of self-love, communication barriers, and the impact of conditional love on relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth and taking responsibility for one's own emotional well-being, while also addressing the challenges of maintaining connection in a marriage.

The goal? Learning to focus on being the spouse you want to be, regardless of your spouse's actions, and to navigate the dark sides of marriage with clarity and kindness.

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In the XTD content, more specific questions to learn how to be honest with yourself in your marital situations.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the complexities of marriage, focusing on health, sexuality, and the impact of personal choices on relationships.

A wife emails us asking how she can help her husband care about their sex life.

Our conversation explores how anxiety can manifest in physical ways, the importance of integrity in communication, and the need for collaboration in addressing marital challenges. We also emphasize the significance of facing personal issues and the impact they have on the relationship, encouraging listeners to engage in honest dialogue and seek solutions together.

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In this conversation, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins me as we explore the intricate relationship between sexuality and spirituality, emphasizing the importance of intimacy and personal growth within marriages.

We discuss the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the dynamics of relationships, while also highlighting the need for authenticity and self-discovery.

Dr Jennifer also shares insights from her upcoming book and courses, aiming to help individuals and couples create deeper connections and joy in their relationships. Check them out here - https://finlayson-fife.com/

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the concept of outsourcing sexual desire within marriage. We explore how individuals often hand over the responsibility of sexual energy to their partners, leading to a disconnect in intimacy.

Our conversation emphasizes the importance of owning one's desire, understanding the biological and environmental influences on sexual interest, and recognizing the dynamics of engagement and presence in sexual relationships. We encourage listeners to ask better questions about their desires and to collaborate with their partners in navigating intimacy.

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In the XTD content, practical steps and questions to ask yourself to understand where you may be outsourcing things in your life.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of sexual initiation within marriage, focusing on the dynamics between higher and lower desire partners.

What are the challenges of initiating intimacy, the pressures involved, and the importance of communication and understanding each partner's needs?

Our conversation emphasizes the need for both partners to take responsibility for their roles in the relationship and to work together to create a healthy sexual climate.

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In the XTD content, practical strategies for enhancing connection and navigating the intricacies of desire are discussed - things that both members of the relationship can be more aware of and then do differently.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore into the complexities of vaginismus and its impact on sexual relationships. We explore the emotional and psychological aspects of sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding desire, inhibition, and shared responsibility in intimate encounters.

Our conversation highlights the need to reframe sexual expectations and focus on connection rather than solely on orgasm. Through a listener question we encourage all couples to reflect on their sexual experiences and foster growth in their relationships.

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In the XTD content, we go through specific questions and ideas for couples to ask of themselves and each other.

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