We go back into the vault and hear a regular guest again today, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, as we dive into the relational dynamic of attraction and desire.

They happen to us, and we choose them.

They naturally ebb and flow.

And how do we get them back if they are lost?

Learn more about Jennifer here - https://finlayson-fife.com/

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the concept of covert contracts in marriage, exploring how unspoken agreements can lead to frustration and resentment.

We discuss a listener's email about feeling unappreciated despite being a good spouse and the challenges of initiating intimacy without pressure. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, breaking the cycle of scorekeeping, and fostering genuine desire in relationships.

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On the Xtended version …

We talk more in-depth about the pressures inherent in marriage and how to handle the initiations and rejections with more integrity and solidness.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities of conflict in marriage, particularly in the context of parenting and managing family dynamics. We explore how conflict can arise from external pressures and how couples can navigate these challenges together.

Our conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding each other's responses to conflict, utilizing resources for better communication, and creating a safe space for discussions. We also provide practical advice on managing conflict in parenting and maintaining a healthy relationship amidst challenges.

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We walk through how the four points of balance can help you face conflict and be more whole as you grow.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I answer an email from a listener about how she can seek her own pleasure after orgasm troubles have appeared. The wife shares that she has been diagnosed with lichen planus, which has impacted her ability to orgasm during intercourse. Despite this, she can still achieve orgasm through masturbation and is contemplating whether it is selfish to ask her husband to allow her to masturbate alongside him after they have sex.

Our conversation explores into the complexities of sexual intimacy, particularly how changes in the body and sexual function can affect relationships. We want to encourage listeners to consider the importance of collaboration in sexual experiences, suggesting that masturbation can be a shared activity rather than a solitary one.

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We explore the guilt and shame often associated with masturbation, particularly in the context of religious backgrounds, and advocate for a more open and accepting approach to discussing sexual health and pleasure within marriage.

We give you some questions to ask yourself regarding your beliefs and possible scripts surrounding your sex life.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss how vacations can serve as a vital reset for relationships, allowing couples to reconnect and rejuvenate their bond.

We explore the dynamics of vacationing, the importance of creating bandwidth for each other, and how to implement the relaxed mindset of vacations into everyday life. This is more about the need for intentionality in maintaining connection and intimacy beyond the vacation setting.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities of how our fantasy life, desires and sexual practices are not just ours. We emphasize the importance of owning one's desires while recognizing the impact those desires have on spouses.

Our conversation explores themes of gridlock in relationships, the pursuit of 'enough' in intimacy, and the necessity of self-development and integrity within the context of marriage. Listeners are encouraged to confront their own roles in relationship dynamics and to communicate effectively with their partners to foster growth and understanding.

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We talk through our 3 words for 2026. Words that will help shape our year. What are yours?

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In this Best of SMR conversation, Francie Winslow shares her transformative journey from the constraints of purity culture to embracing a vibrant and fulfilling sexual life within marriage. She discusses the importance of understanding sexuality as a divine gift, the need for education and growth in sexual intimacy, and the detrimental effects of silence and shame surrounding women's sexuality.

We also talk about the historical context that has shaped women's views on their bodies and sexuality, advocating for a shift towards embracing the beauty and joy of sexual expression as part of God's design. The conversation highlights the significance of vulnerability and open communication in fostering healthy sexual relationships.

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In this XTD conversation, Francie and I explore the sacredness of sexuality, the importance of community and education in sexual wholeness, and the need for healing in sexual relationships.

We discuss personal experiences that shaped their understanding of sexuality, the role of husbands in nurturing intimacy, and the necessity of bringing light to often taboo conversations about sex. .

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the importance of recognizing and addressing communication shutdowns in relationships. They explore various strategies that individuals use to avoid uncomfortable conversations, such as minimizing issues, fix-it modes, stonewalling, and scorekeeping. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness and the courage to confront personal communication patterns to foster healthier relationships.

As the New Year approaches, they also introduce the concept of setting resolutions through three meaningful words, encouraging listeners to reflect on their growth and interactions in the coming year.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the holiday season and the tradition of setting three words to guide the upcoming year.

We also dive into a listener's email regarding her husband's erectile dysfunction, exploring the complexities of control in relationships, the impact of stress, and the importance of reframing sexual intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-improvement and honest communication in navigating relationship dynamics, particularly in the context of sexual health and emotional connection.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual relationships within marriage, particularly focusing on the idea of sex as a reward system.

We explore the potential pitfalls of this approach, including the impact on desire, compliance, and the overall connection between spouses. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of maintaining a playful and honest dynamic in sexual relationships, rather than reducing intimacy to a transactional exchange.

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