Sexy Marriage Radio

By Dr Corey and Pam Allan

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Number 1: I’ve Given Him Sex #795
She's been married a long time. She's done the work — therapy, 12-step, forgiveness. The guilt and shame are gone. And she's been giving her husband sex twice a week for years. He knows that's all it's ever been. Her question: how do I get past the guarded sex, the pressure, the fear of never being enough? How do I finally be free? It's a good question. But it's not the first question worth asking. Because somewhere along the way sex became something she gives on a schedule she can't trace back to a decision she ever made. Not something they share. Not something that belongs to her. A transfer. A tithe. And he's been accepting it the whole time — while telling her he wants her to be free. Corey and Pam sit with both sides of this one. What it would actually take for her to find out what sex means to her. And what it means that he's spent years gobbling up what he says he doesn't want. "We spend all our energy fighting about what's missing. The real problem is what's actually present." The post I’ve Given Him Sex #795 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
August 26, 202635min
Number 2: Can I Trust Him Again #793
A month ago she found out. He denied it, then admitted it. She still doesn't know if she has the full story. She's been talking to her pastor, her friends, anyone who will listen. Everyone keeps telling her the same thing — rebuild trust, do the work, give it time. She knows they mean well. But at two in the morning when she can't stop replaying everything, that advice doesn't tell her what to actually do. Corey and Pam sit with her story this week — not to fix it, not to hand her a reconciliation roadmap, but to name what's actually happening and what's actually hers to do something about. Including the question nobody's asking her that matters more than the one everybody is. It's not how do I trust him again. It's how do I learn to trust myself with someone who's proven they're capable of this? The post Can I Trust Him Again #793 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
August 12, 202641min
Number 3: What’s Really Driving You? #794
Last week we heard from a wife trying to figure out if she can ever trust her husband again after discovering his affair. This week we're staying on him. All we know about him comes from her email. Four sentences. He denied it at first. Then admitted everything. He says he wants to save the marriage. He's been remorseful and answering her questions. That's it. And it's actually enough to ask the most important question of his recovery. Is he doing this because he's genuinely reckoning with who he was when he made these choices — what it says about him, what was missing in him, what he was actually after? Or is he doing this because losing his marriage, his family, his life as he knows it is terrifying — and fixing things is the fastest way to stop the bleeding? Both look identical right now. The difference only shows up later. When the pressure lets up. When things start feeling normal again. Corey and Pam talk through what that difference actually looks like over time — and why the question doesn't just belong to him. The post What’s Really Driving You? #794 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
August 19, 202635min
Number 4: Best Of SMR: The Lower Desire Wife| Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #796
If you've ever wondered why desire felt so natural before marriage and so complicated after — this conversation is worth your time. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a psychologist, coach, and fellow traveler in the Schnarch world. In this conversation with Corey, she names something most couples can't quite articulate: the shift from falling in love to being married isn't a sign something went wrong. It's a sign of what was always there underneath. A few things worth listening for: The moment she says "you can either prop up your husband's ego or his penis, but not both." It's not hers originally — it's Schnarch's — but the way it lands in context is worth the whole conversation. Her reframe of the lower desire spouse. Not broken. Not defective. Operating with good judgment inside a system that doesn't work. The Gospel of Thomas quote about bringing forth what is within you. Whether or not that's your tradition, the idea lands. And the woman who came to one of Jennifer's workshops not knowing what she wanted — whose entire life had been organized around everyone else — and what happened when she made one small commitment to herself. This one originally aired a while back. It holds up. The post Best Of SMR: The Lower Desire Wife| Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #796 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
September 02, 202627min
Number 5: One Sided Sex #797
A husband wrote in after our episode with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. He appreciated it but wanted more on the man's side. His wife feels connected to him through sex. But 95% of the time she's not aroused. She has a good attitude about it. She participates. And then when he gets in the shower, she goes and uses a vibrator by herself — because she feels pressured by him to enjoy it when he's there. He named his dilemma clearly: accept the one-sided sex and eventually resent it, or say no to sex entirely and feel disconnected. He's tried both. Neither works. He called himself stuck. He's not wrong that both paths are painful. But there's something worth looking at underneath the dilemma he named — something the vibrator detail revealed that he almost buried in the middle of his own letter. His presence is the pressure. Not his intention. Not something he's doing wrong on purpose. But his needing her to enjoy it, his hoping this time will be different, his watching to see how she responds — that's what's in the room with her every time. And she can only get there when he leaves. Corey and Pam unpack both sides of this one — what he's actually after that he hasn't been willing to name, and what she's discovered about herself that she hasn't brought into the marriage yet. "How often do we think the issue is one thing when in fact it's also another thing entirely." The post One Sided Sex #797 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
September 09, 202634min