On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex.

We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis.

What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and one's spouse.

Takeaways

Open and honest conversations are essential for a healthy marriage and sex life.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, another listen into the last part of the Q&A session at 2024 SMR Getaway.

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This week was recorded live the 2024 SMR Getaway Q&A.

We answer a voicemail from a listener who has realized that since they began listening to SMR and talking more about their sex lives with each other, they don't fight anymore. 

We also have an email from a husband who is aroused by big, beautiful women, yet married a woman who is not. Instead she was safe and mature. What can he do?

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, a listen into the Q&A session of 2024 SMR Getaway. 

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This week is a rapid fire Q&A - recorded live from the 2024 SMR Getaway.

We discuss topics such as how to get turned on by seeing a partner's penis, how to improve desire in a low-drive spouse during a stressful time, how much time couples typically spend on sex, and how to teach kids healthy sexual boundaries without invoking shame.

We emphasize the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, and creating opportunities for connection in relationships. We also discuss the need to let go of societal scripts and expectations around sex and focus on what works for each individual couple.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we cover more question from the Getaway last week.

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Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives.

He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others.

Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actions in relationships.

Learn more about Dr John here https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony

Takeaways

Dr. John Deloney's journey into therapy and coaching was inspired by his father's work as a homicide detective and hostage negotiator.

In the XTD content, we continue the conversation with Dr John by looking further into how vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong and intimate relationships. Plus, it is important to embrace the mundane aspects of life and find joy in the everyday moments.

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In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by  Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages.

They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need for honesty, accountability, transparency, and living in alignment with personal values. Plus we also discuss the role of individual healing and growth in the context of a relationship.

There is a challenge in navigating sexuality and an importance in creating a safe space for open and honest communication. Overall, our conversation emphasizes the power of personal agency and the potential for growth and healing in our relationships.

Learn more about the Therapy Brothers here - https://therapybros.com

And https://lovestrong.com

Takeaways

Addressing the underlying issues is crucial when dealing with betrayal, addiction, and infidelity in marriages.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we get personal as we talk through our own journeys with betrayal and healing. 

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In this conversation, Dr Jessica Higgins joins me as we discuss the topic of criticism in relationships.

We explore how criticism can be damaging -- but we also offer strategies for addressing it.

It is so, so important to slow the process down, get curious, and reveal the underlying needs and requests.

Learn more from Dr Higgins - https://drjessicahiggins.com/

Empowered Relationship Podcast link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/

Get the free guide here - https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication

Takeaways

Criticism in relationships can be damaging and erode the bond between partners.

In the XTD content, we also discuss the role of defensiveness and the need for both partners to take responsibility for their own reactions. The main takeaway from our conversation -- the importance of open communication and vulnerability in creating a healthy and connected relationship.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr Corey and Pam discuss the importance of flexibility in marriage and how it relates to facing and dealing with reality.

We explore the concept of love languages and how they may not always lead to more desire or passion in a relationship. What is the difference between being a good companion and being a good lover?

And what's the role of presence and initiation in igniting sexual attraction?

Takeaways

Flexibility is crucial in marriage as it allows couples to face and adjust to the realities of life.

What make vulnerability in marriage so difficult?

Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? I think yes.

Let's explore more.

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In this conversation, GS Youngblood joins me as we discuss his blueprint for masculinity in relationships, which focuses on three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety.

He emphasizes the importance of simplicity, relationality, and applicability in his framework.

We highlight the significance of emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity in creating a safe and connected relationship.

Learn more from GS Youngblood here - https://www.gsyoungblood.com/

Takeaways

GS Youngblood's blueprint for masculinity in relationships consists of three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety.

On the Xtended Version ...

In the XTD content, we dive deeper into the 3 aspects of the blueprint. The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions. The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to both oneself and one's partner. The third element, create safety, involves emotional safety and trust-building.

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In this conversation, Emily Nagoski joins me as we discuss the creation of her new book on long-term relationships and lasting connections.

We explore the concept of normal sex and the importance of pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability in maintaining a strong sexual connection. We also dive into the impact of societal myths and expectations on sexual relationships and the need for open and honest communication about desires and boundaries.

In our conversation, we discuss the importance of emotional connection and collaboration in a marriage. Emily shares her personal experiences and how she learned to rely on her partner for support. She also explains the concept of the emotional floor plan and how different emotional states can affect sexual intimacy.

The conversation highlights the need for intentional effort and communication in building a strong sexual connection.

Learn more about Dr Emily here - https://www.emilynagoski.com/

Takeaways

Long-term sexual connections are built on pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability.

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In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex. 

There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make.

We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or crude initiations, feeling the need to be as turned on as your partner, using the same initiation method every time, and talking yourself out of initiating. 

Takeaways

Recognize the dynamics of higher desire and lower desire in your relationship

On the Xtended Version ...

What make authenticity and vulnerability in marriage so difficult?

Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? The reactions to vulnerable moments? Both?

Let's explore more.

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