While we have a physical heart, in my experience we also have a psychological heart. How we treat this heart impacts our ability to be resilience. Resilience is not about being tough. It is ultimately about how we get through challenges and what  our well-being is like on the other end of the challenge. How we deal with feelings, how we treat ourselves, and Emotional Intelligence are 3 components that determine healthy Resilience. Tune in to learn more.

Conflict is inevitable.  And Communication is crucial. However, we are not taught in our education system to work with either. Every relationship has conflict at some point or another and healthy communication can make or break the relationship. One of the most important tips that I see for relationships has to do with assumptions. People assume they "know" the other person and jump to conclusions so quickly that understanding what is really happening in any conflict is much more complicated.

In all the years I have been a therapist, I have never found conflict to be a black and white story. People bring their histories, past wounds, and familial patterns into conflict and the ways they communicate.

This affects our ability to create understanding between people and shuts down truly listening and seeing the person in more reality.  Healthy communication has the potential to create true connection and a deeper emotional intimacy.  Check out the podcast to learn how to work with conflict and communication in a healthy way.

Today's episode is brought to you by my e-book, Five Secrets Every Woman Over 44 Should Know.

Today we're talking about sex and libido and women. I cannot tell you how many women have come to me over 30 years and talked about libido and sex. Most of the time what I hear from women is that they are wondering if there is something wrong with them. They can go for years suffering in silence.

One of the things that is tough is that people are uncomfortable talking about sex. I've had so many couples come in who have been married 30 years and still find it very difficult to talk about sex.

 Today Perry covers one aspect to help you with this important but often secret, hidden issue. While there are a variety of issues that can be part of libido, this is one that is rarely talked about.

Perry shares a client story about a woman who was looking for answers. Her libido was pretty flat, and she kept thinking something was wrong with her. She wondered about what kind of medication she could take or what she could do to raise her libido. We're talking about that inner kind of sexual energy, that passionate energy.

 We're not taught emotional intelligence.  It is the education we need the most. We need to learn how to truly communicate. What do we do with emotions? What do we do when we have conflict? What do we do when we have stuff that we need to talk to our partner about and we are feeling really uncomfortable about it?

Emotional Intelligence is key a having a healthy libido.

Without communication, we stuff the anger and resentment and all of that affects your libido. 

Libido is energy and when we're stuffing, we're repressing.

Perry shares practical steps to help you begin having the conversation about libido and sexual desire. Even if it's just a conversation for yourself in the beginning. Don't settle. Use Perry's information to help you understand how to better discuss libido and sex with your partner.

She has 10 tips on her podcast page to help women raise their libido…not tips you have probably heard about.

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