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Tune in as the guys kick around Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.  Watch Josh treat Jimmy with Contempt, Criticism, Stonewalling, and Defensiveness!   

 

Links to information discussed in the show:

 

Pairadocs on YouTube!

John Gottman

 

The Four Horsemen:

Criticism - Complain about a person's behavior while attacking the person

Contempt - Overall vindictive and hateful attitude toward the person

Defensiveness - Self protection through righteous indignation or playing the victim

Stonewalling - Stop fighting and not seeking resolution

 

Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Take a Seat on the Couch:

 

If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:

 

1. Shoulder some of the blame in every argument; find where you have fault.

2. Realize your spouse is not the enemy; he/she is on your same team.

 

3. Don't react, respond to your spouse's mistakes/sin. 

 

4. If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com. 

This week the guys talk to the gals behind the podcast Risen Motherhood.  If you're a parent, especially a mom, their story is going to move and motivate you.

 

Links to information discussed in the show:

 

Risen Motherhood

Risen Motherhood Equipping 

Loving the Difficult Mom

 

Website: www.risenmotherhood.com

Facebook: @risenmotherhood

Twitter: @risenmotherhood

Instagram: @risenmotherhood

 

Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

This week, the boys wrap up their discussion on Contentment…I know this sounds boring, but this lies at the very heart of so many problems that beset our families today.  Listen in.

 

Links to information discussed in the show:

 

"Contentment is not a behavioral issue, it is a spiritual and emotional issue."

Allen Iverson - Georgetown University

Gottman's Perpetual Marital Problems

Acceptance is the answer to all my problems - AA Big Book p. 417

 

"The answer for unresolved issues - contentment"

 

Antioch Community Church- Waco

Daniel Grant - Google

 

"Teaching your kids contentment occurs through modeling."

 

Ways to fight discontentment:

 

1. Don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff.

2. Humility.

3. Embrace enough. 

4. Discernment. Practice wisdom. 

5. Have faith and trust in God. Be assured of the things you cannot see. 

 

 

Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Take a Seat on the Couch:

 

If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:

 

1. Accept that some things will happen no matter what you do. 

 

2. Accept that some things will not change quickly. 

 

3. Give yourself license to be human and struggle. 

 

4. If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com. 

While Josh is absent…something to do with a new baby that just arrived or some other lame excuse…Jimmy is speaking with Melanie Shankle, New York Times Bestselling author of The Church of Small Things.  She is hilarious and you're going to love her interview!

 

Links to information discussed in the show:

 

Aggie Football

Pioneer Woman

Big Boo Podcast

Sophie Hudson (Boo Mama)

 

Book by Melanie:

Nobody's Cuter Than You

The Antelope in the Living Room

Church of the Small Things

 

Website: www.thebigmamablog.com

Facebook: @melaniemshankle

Twitter: @BigMama

Instagram: @melanieshankle

 

Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

We are so passionate about our nation's, church's, and family's lack of contentment, that we filled two shows.  This week is part one.  We were going to leave it just one show, but then there was all this other info that we felt had to be added.  I mean we couldn't just leave it like that unfinished, could we?  It had to be better, in fact this show on contentment could never be good enough, right?  We have to keep working to get it just right.  I'm not sure we can get it done in just two shows…maybe we need three shows to get the topic on contentment JUST right…

 

Links to information discussed in the show:

 

Pairadocs on YouTube

Keith Green

Ray Price

 

Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Take a Seat on the Couch:

 

If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:

 

1. Make time for down time every day.

 

2. Make a list of things you're grateful for.

 

3. Celebrate small successes. 

 

4. If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com. 

Both of these guys are married.  Both love their wives.  But this week, they kick around the difficult issue of, not just loving their wives, but making sure their wives feel as though they are their number one priority.  Everybody knows we should make our spouses number one, but it's easier said than done.  It looks good on paper, but as my old football coach used to say, "We don't play on paper!" 

 

Links to information discussed in the show:

 

Talladega Nights

#1 Wife Mug

AL Franken sexual issues 

Steve Martin Christmas Skit

 

"My job isn't to love my spouse, my job is to make sure my spouse feels loved by me"

 

Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Take a Seat on the Couch:

 

If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:

 

1. Connect with your spouse emotionally throughout the day.

 

2. Check in before making decisions.

 

3. Give your spouse every day.

 

4. If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com. 

You know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And Guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always.

 

Links to information discussed in the show:

 

Bob's Latest Book:

Everybody Always

 

Also:

Love Does

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Website: www.bobgoff.com

Facebook: @bobgoffis

Instagram: @bobgoff

Twitter: @bobgoff

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

This week Josh and Jimmy plow into their second week of exposing Marital Myths. This week they confront Myth #3, Common Interests Keep Us Together and Myth #4, Never Go to Bed Angry.  Dumber words have never been spoken…other than, "Love is never having to say you're sorry."  Now, THAT was really dumb, but these two are really dumb as well.

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Links to information discussed in the show:   Marriage Myth #3: Common Interests Keep Us Together You grow and change, so grow and change together Commitment should be what keeps you together Interest in our spouse, not in our spouse's interest   Marriage Myth #4 Never Go to Bed Angry Not about the time it happens, just that you don't let it fester Allow anger, but figure out what is behind the anger Don't let anger turn to bitterness

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

The docs are so excited to sit down this week with none other than Annie Downs.  Annie is host of the very popular That Sound Fun Podcast, and author of the new book, Remember God.  You know her, you love her, and your going to love her even more after hearing her what she has to say about this book that she never wanted to write. 

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Links to information discussed in the show:   That Sounds Fun Podcast   When God Doesn't Make Sense By James Dobson   Annie's latest book: Remember God   Other books by Annie   ---- Website: www.anniefdowns.com Twitter: @anniefdowns Facebook: @anniefdowns Instagram: @anniefdowns

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

For the past few weeks the boys have discussed several parenting myths, now it's time to take a swing at the spouses. This is the first installment of marriage myths. Listen in as Jimmy and Josh dispel the myths that happy couples don't argue and marital sex is boring sex.   Links to information discussed in the show:   Marriage Myth #1: Happy Couples Don't Argue Happy couples... argue within limits and just about the issue at hand. can agree to disagree solve problems pursue mutual understanding and mutual empathy   Marriage Myth #2 Monogamous Marital Sex is Boring Sex Happiest, most satisfied sexual relationships are long term relationships   David Schnarch If you believe marital sex is boring and bad, you will look elsewhere   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com