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June 24, 2020047: Black Lives Matter
Parent Driven Development
Episode 047: Black Lives Matter, How to be Anti-Racist, How to Talk to Your Kids about BLM
00:20 Black Lives Matter Movement
02:00 How NOT to raise racist kids
Allison and Kwu both have young kids, so conversations are slightly different
Gender inequality talks
Explaining to kids how and why people are treated differently in different areas
Changing the language in the house: racism, violence, hate
07:50 Exposing pictures, graphics and videos to your children, no matter the age. What's appropriate?
Protesters getting arrested
Bail rates vary depending on race
Children are very intuitive and understand more than we think
11:30 How to talk to young kids about BLM
Bi-racial and how they are often judged by their outer appearance
Comfortability amongst couples and how to lean into these conversations with their children
17:40 Rallies, protests and how to support
Different forms of support during BLM
COVID is still relevant
Amplifying POC voices
Daily threads on educational resources, city statuses, anti-racism resources, action items
25:10 How can we make our world better together
Opening the conversation about anti-racism with friends, family, community members
Focusing on the growth of our children to be anti-racist
28:45 Genius / Fail moments
Allison’s son struggles with life after the virus as he starts to jump on their nerves from a relaxed approach at the beginning of quarantine #fail
KWu focuses on finding a chinese immersion school for her son but it he jumps into the wrong level and doesn’t understand much and is a bit of a mess from lunch right before #fail
RESOURCES: BLM and how to talk to you kids about racism
Anti-Racism Resources
Black Lives Matter for Families
Webinars for Anti-Racism
WOKE Kindergarten
How to Talk to Your Kids About Racism
Books on Social Justice for Young Readers
Raising Race Conscious Children
Talking About Race: The Smithsonian’s National Museum of African American History and Culture
BOOKS: These are books that we found to be helpful in unlearning old beliefs and learning more about modern day racism.
A Kids Book About Racism
So You Want To Talk About Race
How to Be an Antiracist
The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness
White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism
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Panel
Allison McMillan
Katherin Wu
41 min
June 10, 2020046: Paternity Leave + Dad Talk
Parent Driven Development
Episode 046: Mike McQuaid on paternity leave, Balancing Dad Podcast, and raising kids in different countries.
03:08 Welcome Mike McQuaid!
Mike McQuaid is a father of two and lives and works in Edinburgh, Scotland. He is a senior engineer at Github where he’s worked for the last six years. In his free time, Mike is the package leader for the Homebrew package manager. He also likes going to the gym, walking his dog and hosting the Balancing Dad Podcast for working fathers.
03:40 Paternity leave
Split time paternity leave (aka, you can break up your paid leave)
Utilizing quarantine time to potty train
07:52 Mike on Balancing Dad Podcast
Gender roles can creep in easily during transitioning into new parents
Women are asked more, “how do you do it all,” but men are not..
Allison shares how society pushes relationships to not be equal
15:35 Mike shares a better future is possible!
Listing both parents on kids forms, or switching who is listed as primary contact.
18:32 What has Mike learned for hosting Balancing Dad Podcast?
No matter the country, finances, age, relationship, all parents share a universal bond at the foundation
20:18 Culture difference with raising kids in different countries
Maternity and paternity leave
Healthcare
Language/slang
Diaper vs. nappies
Scotland is very friendly to kids
Different ways of being a parent and share with other parents
27:30 Worldly talks with our kids
Traveling around the world with kids
Discussing computer friends from around the world helps expanding cultural knowledge
Remote work flexibility and setting boundaries with work
31:20 How does Mike manage all he does?!
Firm boundaries
No work or open source emails on his phone
Work days are carved out and scheduled for certain things
Setting expectations for certain projects
Making things good enough, not perfect
32:20 Genius / Fail moments
Chris was in a bit of a hurry with his son in the car and he picked up Chris getting agitated with other drivers and kept repeating “move cars, stop going so slow”. #fail
Allison rocks a #genius with her son Devin and showcases his “Devin’s agreements” above the fireplace
Mike slowly becomes frustrated with his younger son, while his older one sits and waits for a fork to eat, only to have him notice way after the fact... #fail
Mike uses the phrase “just this once” and realizes that it will never be just this once ;)
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Panel
Allison McMillan
Chris Arcand
Special Guest: Mike McQuaid.
Sponsored By:
Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life.
Nurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs.
Meals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, & waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, & Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, & Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families.
Nurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies.
Get the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30.
Visit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.
Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30
The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!
The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!
Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!
These monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!
And the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!
The work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!
Let The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!
Head over right now to:
thepreschoolbox.com
and use code "PARENTDRIVEN" to get $5 off your first preschool box!
Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN
49 min
May 27, 2020045: Miriam Tocino: Zerus and Ona
Parent Driven Development
Episode 045: Miriam Tocino - Zerus and Ona
01:56 Welcome Miriam!
Zerus & Ona were born from Miriam's own circumstances as a mom. By the time she had her baby, Miriam was the coordinator and teacher of a Development Bootcamp in Amsterdam. So, when the time came to go back to work (her son was 3 months old), she jumped back. After some weeks in the job, Miriam realised she couldn't do it. She was constantly sleep deprived and with no help around from family (we're expats). Miriam quit her job and stayed at home with her baby. She then started to use his naps to draw and write Zerus & Ona.
**FREE PDF from Zerus and Ona on the ABCs of Computers
03:29 Orgins of Zerus and Ona
Miriam was leading tech bootcamps, then got pregnant
Her baby was more work than expected ;)
Miriam returns to work, but quit after a few weeks after returning
Sleep deprived evenings inspired new ideas!
08:40 Finding more intention as a new mom
Thriving through a creative outlet
Craving more information for her child in the future, specifically around TECH
Motherhood and creativity are interconnected
2 year journey to build Zerus and Ona
15:05 Switching from architecture to tech to creative children’s books
Binge learning and career switching
No regrets
19:05 Zerus and Ona “bits”
Breaking down complex topics to make them easily understandable
Miriam switches from thinking with her head, to listening with her heart.
Unlocking creativity through The Artist's Way
Intuitive writing, journaling and play!
28:15 Zerus and Ona 2.0
Evolution of creating the books
If you’re thinking of making a move, do it!
Learning to move on from perfectionism
32:20 Genius / Fail moments
Miriam allows her son a device while she finishes a project (unheard of in her house), only to discover all her original drawings of Zerus and Ona are GONE afterwards. #fail
Allison’s son acts out more than usual during a super busy week for the family and realizes that maybe their communication could have been clearer with him from the start #fail
Chris commits to structuring a new art piece with his daughter by watching YouTube videos. He ends up paying someone else, but instills a solid mindset in his daughter during the process #genius
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Panel
Allison McMillan
Chris Sexton
Special Guest: Miriam Tocino.
Sponsored By:
The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!
The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!
Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!
These monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!
And the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!
The work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!
Let The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!
Head over right now to:
thepreschoolbox.com
and use code "PARENTDRIVEN" to get $5 off your first preschool box!
Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN
44 min
May 13, 2020044: Recipe Swap
Parent Driven Development
Episode 043: Recipe Swap
01:15 Welcome!
02:04 Feeding kids is a full time job
What are your meal time rules?
Home delivery meal service
Personal chef for the kids?? No…
Meal time is meal time, and if the kids don’t eat, tough nuggets.
08:59 Dinner table time
Phone vs no phone?
Are you a fast eater or slow eater?
Time to share conversations with the family
Limiting or monitoring the amount of food for kids, do you do this? Sometimes the doctors have given us parents too much to mull over...
13:12 Food as restriction or reward?
Dessert time - it’s a thing that is to be enjoyed
Keto desserts… YUM Quest cookie obsessed
Keto cake
Chocolate chip cookies
19:25 Cook at home vs. ordering out
Meal prepping during the weekend to prepare for the week. This makes it quicker and easier. Less work too ;)
No meat preschools - managing meals around kids school food programs.
Therapeutic time in the kitchen
Leftovers are best and easiest!
Ever hear of module dinner architecture? KWu and her family utilize this magic.
Meal deliveries for the win - Home Chef, Green Chef, Nurture Life
Keto 101: Simply Keto: A Practical Approach to Health & Weight Loss, with 100+ Easy Low-Carb Recipes
Kosher household
27:05 Household hacks
Breakfast for dinner on Friday nights. What’s your favorite??
Kids Eat in Color - tips on how to present food to your kids
Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook, by Ellyn Satter
Smitten Kitchen
Maximizing on slow cookers // insta pots - our favorites :)
Cook’s Illustrated - for stews, slow cookers, and more!
Mirepoix
Parenting trade off - you can choose cooking or the kids
40:18 Making the kitchen as your sanctuary
Football season - perfectly steamed shrimp and cheese boards for the win
Dinner time is a celebration!
Bringing coding into meal prepping ;)
How to manage the recipe system. Hands-free Vertical Recipe Flipper OR Classic Juvale Wood Recipe Organization Box
45:40 Genius / Fail moments
Mandy has an awesome win when she hears her daughter is totally comfortable with her, including asking her sex-ed questions. You too for older girls #genius
Allison’s son chose to wear a bowtie for picture day and it turned out way better than expected! #genius
KWu bakes it up with her toddler that he helped make! #genius and delicious muffins for the win.
Follow & Support
Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.
*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.
Panel
Allison McMillan
Mandy Moore
KWu
Sponsored By:
Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life.
Nurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs.
Meals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, & waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, & Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, & Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families.
Nurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies.
Get the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30.
Visit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.
Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30
53 min
April 29, 2020043: Managing Parents on Your Team
Parent Driven Development
Episode 043: Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons.
Welcome, Nick Means!
Nickolas Means loves nothing more than a story of engineering triumph (except maybe a story of engineering disaster). When he's not stuck in a Wikipedia loop reading about plane crashes, he spends his days as a Senior Engineering Manager at GitHub working on Security and Compliance tooling for our users. He's also a co-host of the Managing Up podcast, a show about leading and managing in the world of technology. He works remotely from Austin, TX, and spends most of his spare time hanging out with his wife and kids, going for runs, or trying to brew the perfect cup of coffee.
01:54 How do you approach management with parents on your team?
Treating your team as you would want to be treated as a parent
Setting examples to your team as a manager
Evaluate the job performance on the work actually done, and not clock a few hours taken off for kid responsibilities
Flexibility and trust in team members and manager
07:12 Work life balance and work life integration
Work sometimes becomes an escape from parenting life
Self care for parents! No kids included, you need you
11:35 How do you encourage your team members to take time for themselves
Ask the right questions to figure out what will fill their cup?
As a manager, you’re more aware of the state of your team members and can identify things quicker
Applaud team members when you see them take the effort for PTO
17:18 When you’re the only parent on the team.. How to make others understand
Speak with kindness, set boundaries, have trust
Time zone issues
Setting boundaries with your team members
How to structure workflow with team members in different zones
26:20 Managers making it explicit that it is OK to be done when you leave your workstation
28:02 Managing for non-remote teams
Inflexibility when have to go into office
Complexity for parents when they are totally out of the convo when working in an office
31:40 Moms vs. Dads double standard
Putting family time on calendar
Single parenting, the lack of help
33:40 How can managers support parental leave
Encouraging more time for first time parents
The job to support parents starts when they decide to have kids, not just during the leave
Twins
37:50 Genius // fail
Chris Sexton, how do you spell drop? #fail
Josh had the sex talk…. but bombed on the timing with his daughter #geniusfail
Allison has a nice turkey day with kids and neighbors, building her more positive memories! #genius
Chris Arcand makes his nanny wait on her scheduled time off #fail
Mandy gets a puppy… and it's a beautiful new experiences to share with her daughter
Nick and his wife forget about homework… his son gets it done, but they all struggle the next day #fail
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Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
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Panel
Allison McMillan
Chris Arcand
Josh Puetz
Mandy Moore
Chris Sexton
Special Guest: Nick Means.
49 min
April 15, 2020042: Career Switching
Parent Driven Development
Episode 042: Career Switching and Learning to Code After Babies.
Welcome, Bekah!
A content-creator by nature. Bekah is working on websites, coding-related projects, and her blog, but she has also written three screenplays, three pilots, and is finishing up a memoir. Bekah is all about getting creative!
A mom to four young kids (3-10), Bekah has spent the last ten years of her life adjuncting in various university English departments. She is practically doing a 180 learning to code, and is sharing her failures, successes, and everything that falls in between.
Bekah graduated from Flatiron School Software Engineering program, in May 2019. She been working at Sprokets as a frontend dev since July 1, 2019.
01:15 Bekah’s journey in career switching
Trauma after 4th kid
Husband encouraged her to code, and it helped with her PTSD
She realized her passion and continued to tackled the challenges
Bekah was a teacher prior to coding
02:40 Coding became therapeutic
Learning a new skill requires intense focus, gave Bekah excitement and a break from past trauma, because coding required her FULL focus
Constant learning with code
Flow state when you sync into your work
Code provides structure to balance a chaotic life with children
Out of Africa & Into the Cloud: Girls can Code too : coding inspiration
06:28 How to get through the lows of learning to code?
Imposter syndrome
Setting goals week-by-week, month-by-month, quarter-by-quarter
Embracing the learning curve
11:23 How to manage coding and kids?
Community and mentorship
Momscan.co, online co-working, sharing experiences
Embracing natural flow, Bekah codes in the morning, because she’s a morning person
16:08 Conquering difficult births and moving past trauma
Finding a mentor with similar experiences
17:51 Bringing coding methods into the house routine
Sunday ritual for planning for the week ahead
Bekah’s partner codes as well, built in mentor, and key communication
23:10 Experience in women in tech community highlights
Being open and willing for meetups!
Alex Tate - aligned interested to support moms in tech
Moms need more support, especially with younger kids
Childcare at meetups
29:20 Any surprises of the moms in tech community?
The true vulnerability moms offer in support groups
31:47 Genius // fail
Adarsh hired a babysitter for the morning after his wife's birthday bash! #genius
Allison empowers her son's creativity and gives him all the extra boxes and he makes rocketships and more! #genius
Mandy bonds with her daughter watching a classic favorite, Full House #genius
Bekah’s daughter wants to go to Harry Potter land, and is reading all the Harry Potter books to prove it! #genius ...but maybe #fail when Bekah’s daughter decides to cash in on a promise
JC’s bird watching community is growing and growing! But his family lacks consistency to join… #fail
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Panel
Allison McMillan
Adarsh Pandit
JC Avena
Mandy Moore
Special Guest: Bekah Hawrot Weigel.
Sponsored By:
Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life.
Nurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs.
Meals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, & waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, & Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, & Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families.
Nurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies.
Get the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30.
Visit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.
Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30
43 min
March 25, 2020041: COVID-19
Parent Driven Development
Episode 041 : COVID-19
In today's episode we discuss what everyone is talking about, COVID-19. Yes, we talk about it. We're talking about the new normal, full time remote work, childcare - or the lack there of, how to communicate the situation to our children, and what this means for our world moving forward. Tune in!
00:55 COVID-19 check in
On a scale of freaking out vs totally chill… How many tweets are you reading?
Self quarantine pre plan
Chris has a dry run when his son catches the flu... *The actual flu.
05:40 The new normal
Will grocery stores shut down?
Limit social outings
Sports, events, and all gatherings are being cancelled… more of an inconvenience
09:10 Tech has shut. it. down.
Everyone is working for home, asap
What’s the deal with other industries?
If you can stay home, stay home
13:20 New policies
What about goals?
College kids subbing as the new neighborhood babysitters
Privilege in steady jobs
Preschools and schools - some open vs. some closed
24:10 What about the kids?
Toddlers situation.. They need room to move, but also need to be hand-washed supervised
Parenting milestones
27:55 Full time work from home
Hermit life has become even more hermit-y
Parenting switch offs
29:15 How to communicate covid-19 to our children
One kid was shown a picture of the virus.. So now all the kids in preschool want to see a picture of the virus
Middle school kids are informed with a bit more detail
Those are the rules!
No more toys at school
37:28 Genius // fail
Chris blames the cats… but they were framed!! By his corgi
Allison has a COVID-19 #fail
KWu’s strategy is to switch over to online purchases when possible.. Minimal contact #genius
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Panel
Allison McMillan
Chris Sexton
Katherine Wu
47 min
March 04, 2020040: Ethics and Leaving a Job
Parent Driven Development
Episode 040 Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons.
00:20 Welcome
We discuss what it's like to work for a company that you may not agree with their ethics
The difficult decisions and thoughts when you have a family and dependents counting on you
00:55 Examples of companies dealing with ethical controversy
Companies working with ICE, kickstarter
Ethical clients, customers, organizers, labor oriented - who’s responsible?
02:34 Technology, good or evil?
Surveillance
Hyper aware of indications within our jobs and technology
Being in the tech industry, able to create foundational tech communication - bonus
US culture is more politically aware within the last few years
06:40 Being more involved
Lessons of the past
Minority identity
What are we if we don’t participate
09:30 Support and encouragement to leave a job, things to consider
Financial decisions play a huge role
Putting family at financial risk
Healthcare
Retirement benefits
16:44 Inflexible costs of leaving a job
Childcare
Extra childcare - nannies livelihood
Donation makeup for moral indications
19:35 What can we do?
Don’t public shame others
Leaving a role is instant, but long term change takes time
Use your voice for what you support
Vote with your wallet
28:15 Genius / Fail moments
Allison's son gets groovy with techno in the AM
Adarsh’s son is back in the hospital from another day at the park..
The monkey bars!
Kids are being taught how to talk about their feelings #hugeWin
Follow & Support
Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].
Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.
Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.
Panel
Allison McMillan
Adarsh Pandit
43 min
February 12, 2020039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality
Parent Driven Development
Episode 039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality with Richard Schneeman
Welcome Richard Schneeman!
Schneems writes Ruby at Heroku, and maintains CodeTriage.com, a tool for helping people contribute to Open Source. He is in the top 50 Rails contributors and is an accidental maintainer of Sprockets and Puma. When he isn't obsessively compulsively refactoring code for performance, he writes such gems as Wicked, and derailed_benchmarks.
00:30 Welcome, Richard Schneeman!
01:00 All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership
The book: All the Rage: Mothers Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership
Co-parenting, gender equality
Progressive relationships default into gender roles after kids
05:18 Progressive Parenting
What’s fair?
Progressive until they have to make a change..
08:15 Moms vs. Dads
Dad’s get applauded when caring for children in public
Creating boundaries of designated mom and dad jobs with the kids
10:50 Visible Work vs. Invisble Work
How to balance and create boundaries between partners
RSVP’s - CC’d emails, response, birthday presents, who’s responsible?
Coding pairs and how they relate
17:01 How to Define Who is Responsible?
Create a system
The mentorship manner
Not only doing what is asked, but proactively taking steps
21:15 Meta Tasks
Partners double checking each others work, basically twice the work!
Micro managing
25:30 Calendar System
Shared task and to-do lists
Bringing work management systems into home management systems; Learning AGILE
Schedule a weekly meeting with your partner to go over shared cared
Check the calendar!
31:01 Genius / Fail moments
Josh’s daughter gets her hair dyed and it looks great, but her new conditioner leaks the blue color from her hair all over the bathroom! #fail
Chris coordinates Grandpa time to give his wife more free time #genius
Richard’s son glues his favorite picture on his bedroom wall, with handwritten marker too #geniusfail
Allison has a genius in Sweden with her two young children
All the Rage: Mothers, Father, and the Myth of Equal Partnership
Follow & Support
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*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.
Panel
Allison McMillan
Chris Arcand
Josh Puetz
Special Guest: Richard Schneeman .
46 min
January 22, 2020038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark
Parent Driven Development
Episode 038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark from Uplift Parents
Welcome, Kari Clark! Kari is the founder Uplift Parents, a coaching service for working moms. She previously worked at Google for 8 years, invented their live case product, and co-created many other products. Kari has two kids and believes that they both made her a better at her job! Interviewing over 100 women, all at the top of their field, Kari breaks down the common threads in successful working moms and how we all can amplify our lives. These are the best tips for working moms!
00:50 Welcome, Kari
Had two kids during her time at google
Became incredibly focused after kids
Interviewing women at the top of their fields (all moms) and created Uplift
02:50 What was the trend of working moms from home and in the office?
There is success in many ways
Common trend, perspective, empathy and efficiency
04:45 Ruthless efficiency
Make more of your time
Details are huge after having kids
OCD tendencies?!
7:35 How to balance efficiency with rest
Uplift offers group or individual coaching sessions and encourages users to get off the hamster wheel and take time to reflect and make sure they are aligned with their path.
Take time to savor your coffee, smell the flowers, and remember what’s important!
Your careers are long, your kids are only very young for a short time
12:08 Enjoying work-life balance
Feeling fulfilled from work, unapologetically, especially for women
Creating intentional boundaries to spend time with family
14:10 Pushback from women mentorship
Difference between mentorship and coaching
Everyone has a nutritionist, trainer, and other specialists, why would you not have one on motherhood??
Networking was the number 1 thing that got cut in women’s career post kids
19:50 Not parenting advice, working mom advice
New life changes encourage new life habits
Uplift promotes big changes
2nd kid offers ease for moms and promotes big changes!
24:30 Moms and dads treated differently
Dads are praised more than moms
25:40 Best “Zone Defense” tips for working moms
Be kind to yourself!
Logistical tip - be creative in how you delegate things
Be comfortable with giving your kids responsibility, most will rise to the challenge
Assign responsibilities for each partner, and trusting that they are taking care of it
34:20 How to delegate
More intentionality behind choices
Uplift encourages conversations about household tasks, etc
Do you enjoy it? If not, delegate
39:10 Mom data from Uplift Parents
41:15 Genius / Fail moments
Kwu’s son falls down the stairs :(
Chris takes his son to The Lion King and forgets all diapers…
Kari genius/fail combo on his son’s new school schedule
Josh realizes he needs help with guiding his daughter academically, but his daughter is totally on board and cooperative #genius #win
Allison’s daughter is extra exploratory and discovers essential oils!
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Panel
KWu
Allison McMillan
Chris Arcand
Josh Puetz
Special Guest: Kari Clark.
52 min

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